Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Mike, What does your doctor say? Do you want to post some pics so that we can get an idea of what you're talking about? How is your bite now? Did you get a genio too? Sorry, I can't remember the details of your operation. If I'm calculating correctly you still have a long way to go before the swelling is all gone. Try not to panic, don't look at yourself too closely in the mirror. Give it some time and by all means discuss your feelings with your doctor. Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Mike, This is not a flame, but you need to give yourself time before you can judge the final results. As I recall you are only around 3 weeks post op. Plus, you had some infection which may have affected your swelling. Right now, your face is a work in progress. Generally, it takes about 4 weeks for 80% of the swelling to go down and it can take a few months for all the swelling to go down. I am 30 days post op and I still see my swelling going down. More subtle but definite. So just give yourself a break. If you let yourself get upset and angry then you are only going to make the healing process harder for yourself mentally and physically. Hope this helps. Steve > eh well i had surgery on the 19th and i have been waiting for > swelling to go down in hopes something would change but it has only > made it more clear that my result sucks. i knew my surgeon fromthe > first time i looked should have moved my jaw back a bit further and > now im really pissed as im not happy at all with the result and i > know im never going to go through this again.. i give up ill just > have to live with this, but taht sucks to go through allll this, soo > much money, no eating for a month or more,, it really sucks, i HATE > this ahhhhhh oh well fuk it i give up moviin on.. i STRONGLY suggest > anyone considering to think twice before undregoing all this crap man > oh man ok im done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Hey Mike hang in there! Your TWO WHOLE WEEKS ahead of me as far a recovery...I can't even eat right at this point! Stay positive because you have awile to go before you can see the results. Gray > eh well i had surgery on the 19th and i have been waiting for > swelling to go down in hopes something would change but it has only > made it more clear that my result sucks. i knew my surgeon fromthe > first time i looked should have moved my jaw back a bit further and > now im really pissed as im not happy at all with the result and i > know im never going to go through this again.. i give up ill just > have to live with this, but taht sucks to go through allll this, soo > much money, no eating for a month or more,, it really sucks, i HATE > this ahhhhhh oh well fuk it i give up moviin on.. i STRONGLY suggest > anyone considering to think twice before undregoing all this crap man > oh man ok im done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Hi Mike! I was wondering how you were doing, cause Ben was supposed to have his surgery about the same time you had yours. (He didn't, that's another story.) I'm SO sorry to hear that you feel this way about the results. Maybe what the other two people have said is really important for you to remember: it takes a while for the results to really be finished, due to swelling and healing, etc. I feel for you !! Sometimes we look forward to things for so long, we get an almost magical idea of the outcome. In our minds' eye, there will be this miraculous change, and that keeps us going, working so hard and waiting so long. Then, no matter how good the result is, or how wonderful the experience might be, it could never hope to measure up. I think of this as the " Prom Syndrome " (since teenage girls often do that when they plan too far ahead for their dresses and their makeup and all). It's also kind of like a child at Christmas time. Their expectations can be so much higher than what Santa Claus is really able to deliver to them. Your experience is much more important than Prom or Christmas, though. You have suffered and waited so long, and you were looking for a transformation of your face into something so much better, you probably could not have even described it in words. Now, the reality is sinking in. The surgeons moved two body parts from here to there, so that they would fit together properly. That's all there is to it, and that's all there ever was. Now.... your disappointment can gradually change to satisfaction, because for the next few weeks, your face will get more natural and more comfortable every day. I think you will be fine, you are just suffering that shock of realizing this isn't a miracle, it's just science. I'd like to see pictures, too. I imagine the result is a LOT better than you think it is, really. I'm so glad I came back on the boards right now, and hope you are reading !! ~mia > eh well i had surgery on the 19th and i have been waiting for > swelling to go down in hopes something would change but it has only > made it more clear that my result sucks. i knew my surgeon fromthe > first time i looked should have moved my jaw back a bit further and > now im really pissed as im not happy at all with the result and i > know im never going to go through this again.. i give up ill just > have to live with this, but taht sucks to go through allll this, soo > much money, no eating for a month or more,, it really sucks, i HATE > this ahhhhhh oh well fuk it i give up moviin on.. i STRONGLY suggest > anyone considering to think twice before undregoing all this crap man > oh man ok im done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Mike, Mike, Mike... It is waaayyy too soon for you to be deciding that you hate your face. I know, you are young and impatient. And I'm not faulting you. But pleeze!!! Talk with your surgeon... Tell him how you feel. It seems to me you have had really big up and down mood swings post op, which I don't quite understand, since you said you had no steroids. Sometimes you've been thrilled, and almost high with the results, and other times, down in the pits. Maybe it's the anaesthetics. Maybe it's the altered diet. But believe me, you are still recovering.... Not even a month out of surgery yet!!! Baby, it's too soon. I agree that anybody going into surgery should weigh the options carefully. I agree that anybody going into surgery should think, and think, and think again, and ask all the questions. Honey, you're not even back to your ordinary diet yet -- aren't you still wired? That's bound to be frustrating as can be. But try to hang on and hang in there. (And if you did not, indeed, have any steroids, you may be more swollen still than you perceive.) I had the steroids, and never realized that I was swollen, but my ortho's assistants saw it, and told me when it left. I'm hoping it's gonna all get way better for you. And that you'll talk with your doc about your unhappiness... Call and make a special appointment, if you feel comfy talking yet, which you probly don't! I'm, as you once put it, " one of my oldest buds, " remember? I care about you, and hope that you're in a momentary slew of despair. Most of us have been there, too, but there's probably a way out of it, and into a better place. Cammie > eh well i had surgery on the 19th and i have been waiting for > swelling to go down in hopes something would change but it has only > made it more clear that my result sucks. i knew my surgeon fromthe > first time i looked should have moved my jaw back a bit further and > now im really pissed as im not happy at all with the result and i > know im never going to go through this again.. i give up ill just > have to live with this, but taht sucks to go through allll this, soo > much money, no eating for a month or more,, it really sucks, i HATE > this ahhhhhh oh well fuk it i give up moviin on.. i STRONGLY suggest > anyone considering to think twice before undregoing all this crap man > oh man ok im done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 That's good, solid advice, Steve, and I agree completely. Cammie > > eh well i had surgery on the 19th and i have been waiting for > > swelling to go down in hopes something would change but it has only > > made it more clear that my result sucks. i knew my surgeon fromthe > > first time i looked should have moved my jaw back a bit further and > > now im really pissed as im not happy at all with the result and i > > know im never going to go through this again.. i give up ill just > > have to live with this, but taht sucks to go through allll this, > soo > > much money, no eating for a month or more,, it really sucks, i HATE > > this ahhhhhh oh well fuk it i give up moviin on.. i STRONGLY > suggest > > anyone considering to think twice before undregoing all this crap > man > > oh man ok im done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2003 Report Share Posted January 6, 2003 Mike, I have been concerned about you since reading this post. I must agree with Steve, you have to be patient and give it time. One thing for sure, with my being pre-op, you are showing me how we have our good and bad days post-op. One day all is fine and dandy the next day the world is going to end and it wasn't worth it even though others of us know it is worth it. (I lost sleep over you and this post last night) Mike, you're a good person who will go far in this world. Just remember now that even if things stink one day you're on the recovery road... And it is getting better..... Once again to echo Steve's sentiments.... if you keep on getting stressed out over daily changes you will remain tense and take a tad bit longer to heal. Just relax, hang out with us..... and rest too! Thanking of you..... sending you healing energy..... Carin _________________________________________________________________ The new MSN 8 is here: Try it free* for 2 months http://join.msn.com/?page=dept/dialup Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2003 Report Share Posted January 6, 2003 Hi Mike, It is too sooon to pass judgement on your new face for sure. This is such a highly emotional surgery and because the recovery is long and tiring it is easy to get frustrated when things aren't moving quickly or we think that in my case for instance.... that huge red stretch mark will never go away... (it did like a month after surgery). I tried not to have too many expectations about how I would look after surgery but, every now and then I still get a little loopy about hwo things came out. I still have a slight overbite for one, which my surgeon told me I would because they couldn't put my teeth right on top of each other because of my braces. He said the ortho would fix it. Well, I am almost six months post op and I just had my first ortho adjustment on Friday. Then, I think sometime, well in my case, my family had big expectations about how I would turn out. My mom continues to tell me that my face still looks long even though I told her it upset me... She tells all my relatives this as well. So, I am driving myself crazy thinking " why didn't my surgeon shave a few more MM off the top of my maxilla? " Its hard to adjust to your new face even at six months. Its still not my face. I have good days and bad days about the subject but, I guess 90% of the time I am happy and like the results. You just have to hang in there and give it some more time. Do you have any pictures you are willing to share? > > eh well i had surgery on the 19th and i have been waiting for > > swelling to go down in hopes something would change but it has only > > made it more clear that my result sucks. i knew my surgeon fromthe > > first time i looked should have moved my jaw back a bit further and > > now im really pissed as im not happy at all with the result and i > > know im never going to go through this again.. i give up ill just > > have to live with this, but taht sucks to go through allll this, > soo > > much money, no eating for a month or more,, it really sucks, i HATE > > this ahhhhhh oh well fuk it i give up moviin on.. i STRONGLY > suggest > > anyone considering to think twice before undregoing all this crap > man > > oh man ok im done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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