Re: Please Welcome Lela !!

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group Lela! This is a wonderful bunch of people. Lots

of support! I was scared about my surgery too. But, all went well. No

complications! It was definitely worth it! And the way I look at

it...the risks of me not having the surgery outweighed the risks of me

having the surgery! :-)

380/344/160

labelleboz wrote:

> 1. Name: Lela

>

> 2. City and state: Killeen, texas

>

> 3. Are you a Southern California resident? no

>

> 4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list?

> too far

>

> 3. Email address: labelleboz@...

>

> 4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL:

>

> 5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op post-op I am in

> the process of getting the surgery ,,

> 6. Date of WLS: hopefully sometime in august

>

> 7. Surgeon's Name: DR Symmond

>

> 8. Type of Surgery: -RNY

>

> 9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 240

>

> 10. Insurance or self pay: insurance

>

> 11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your

> WLS: Humana tricare

>

> 12.Birthdate: 01/11

>

> 13.Occupation: Technician

>

> 14.Hobbies: computers, my kids and my kids ,, i dont have to many

> hobbies at this time

> 15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you?

> I am so scared of this surgery , but i want it more than anything

> else in the world

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Lela,

Welcome to the group, nice to meet you. Look forward to sharing this journey

with you. It is a scary decision, hopefully we will help ease that for you. Good

to have you.

Best Wishes,

Shauna

labelleboz wrote:

1. Name: Lela

2. City and state: Killeen, texas

3. Are you a Southern California resident? no

4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list?

too far

3. Email address: labelleboz@...

4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL:

5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op post-op I am in

the process of getting the surgery ,,

6. Date of WLS: hopefully sometime in august

7. Surgeon's Name: DR Symmond

8. Type of Surgery: -RNY

9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 240

10. Insurance or self pay: insurance

11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your

WLS: Humana tricare

12.Birthdate: 01/11

13.Occupation: Technician

14.Hobbies: computers, my kids and my kids ,, i dont have to many

hobbies at this time

15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you?

I am so scared of this surgery , but i want it more than anything

else in the world

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi Lela, welcome to the group. This is a great bunch of people! I

had my surgery on 11 May. I was so scared too. I thought I might

back off at the last minute, but I knew it was the right thing to do.

I trusted in God to see me through, it was all in His hands. I am

now two months out and doing great. I have lost 46 pounds. You will

do fine, I will be praying for you.

Stacey in Germany

>

> 1. Name: Lela

>

> 2. City and state: Killeen, texas

>

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group Lela.

Giina in Australia

Please Welcome Lela !!

1. Name: Lela

2. City and state: Killeen, texas

3. Are you a Southern California resident? no

4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list?

too far

3. Email address: labelleboz@...

4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL:

5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op post-op I am in

the process of getting the surgery ,,

6. Date of WLS: hopefully sometime in august

7. Surgeon's Name: DR Symmond

8. Type of Surgery: -RNY

9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 240

10. Insurance or self pay: insurance

11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your

WLS: Humana tricare

12.Birthdate: 01/11

13.Occupation: Technician

14.Hobbies: computers, my kids and my kids ,, i dont have to many

hobbies at this time

15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you?

I am so scared of this surgery , but i want it more than anything

else in the world

[Guest guest]

Thanks for to encouragement ,, but i cant help it to think the worst ,, i have

been educating myself over this surgery for the last 2 years,, i think i am

reading to much into it ,, but after joining this group for the last 3 days i

have been reading all the post ,,, i see the positive outweight the negative by

far ,,,,,,, am going to join a live support group next week so i am very excited

about it ,,, at work 2 ladies have done the surgery ,, i am not sure about the

detail as i dont want to get to personal with those ladies ,,, just moved here

to texas so i dont really know them ,,,, but one of thos ladies does not seem to

do well ,, she snaks all day long she has a 24 pack of soda under her desk and

eat sweets and i mean constantly i have been there 2 months and it does not seem

that she has lost any weight since than ,, the other lady is doing well she

looks good everyday she comes and you can see the where the 2 differs , the one

showing that she is doing well is a

very happy person always smiling and the other one seems overwhelmed and not so

happy ,, i know there is issue with her husband ,,

The elegance of honesty needs no adornment

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi!

I believe that this surgery is what you make of it. You have to be dedicated,

love yourself enough, and look beyond the now and see where you could be if you

work hard at it. That is the difference between the two ladies. This surgery is

more than dealing with just the physical but also the mental needs. After all,

we did not gain weight just because, there were emotional issues attached and in

order for us to make this work long term, we have to deal with those issues

along with the physical. I highly suggest therapy, journaling, and/or digging

deep to help make this work.

On a personal note, I have done quite well through out the months. I have my

moments but NONE like I had this week. I ate stuff I wasn't supposed to and made

myself sick. All because I couldn't handle my emotions... come to find out that

it was the loss of my mother that had me in an up roar and now I am dealing with

that, have gotten back on track and back to eating right, drinking my water, and

exercising. I have lost 2 lbs in the last 2 days of the 3 - 4 lbs I gained. I

had to realize that stuffing my face was not going to change the situation. It

making me sick helped me control it better, which I love about WLS. Now I was to

be albe to stop that before I make it to that point again.

This group is great, they helped me by letting me vent and supporting me back

on my feet. Giving me great ideas on doing other things besides sitting in the

environment of food. You will find great support here.

Glad to have you with us!

Shauna

la belle boz wrote:

Thanks for to encouragement ,, but i cant help it to think the worst

,, i have been educating myself over this surgery for the last 2 years,, i think

i am reading to much into it ,, but after joining this group for the last 3 days

i have been reading all the post ,,, i see the positive outweight the negative

by far ,,,,,,, am going to join a live support group next week so i am very

excited about it ,,, at work 2 ladies have done the surgery ,, i am not sure

about the detail as i dont want to get to personal with those ladies ,,, just

moved here to texas so i dont really know them ,,,, but one of thos ladies does

not seem to do well ,, she snaks all day long she has a 24 pack of soda under

her desk and eat sweets and i mean constantly i have been there 2 months and it

does not seem that she has lost any weight since than ,, the other lady is doing

well she looks good everyday she comes and you can see the where the 2 differs ,

the one showing that she is doing

well is a

very happy person always smiling and the other one seems overwhelmed and not so

happy ,, i know there is issue with her husband ,,

The elegance of honesty needs no adornment

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Lela,

I'd like to encourage you too. I think all the encouragement I've

received from the group here prior too and after surgery is all

realistic too. By that I mean no one said surgery was a easy, a real

joy, a picnic, etc. That's good because it isn't. It's really hard to

say it's anything other than a major deal and inconvenient at best.

At least for me, I had to think about what I had to look forward to;

I'm only 38 and was on the fast track to diabetes, most likely

knee/joint problems, I was sleeping poorly even with a CPAP, I wasn't

walking with my kids anymore because it was too hard/tiring, I was

spending quite a lot on food, I was barely fitting in my mini-van let

alone using a seat belt, I couldn't travel in other vehicles, even my

parent's Blazer/SUV because they were too small, the clothing I was

buying was getting harder to find and more and more expensive (I was

close to the largest sizes at kingsizedirect.com), king size,

diabetic socks were hard to fit into and hard to get on, clipping my

toe nails was difficult as were other basic hygienic activities. Then

there's all the normal stuff people take for granted, movies,

airplanes, concerts, meetings at work, visiting friends/family, even

going to my PCP doctor etc. that were nearly impossible because there

were almost no chairs I could fit in or worse I would come close to

or actually crush/ruin furniture. I was on medication for bi-polarism

and high blood pressure with my doctor still telling me I was in for

big problems in 5-10 years.

That all sounds pretty bad. That was me last year at this time when I

decided to get WLS. Sure the surgery sucked; it was scary, it was

painful, it was expensive even with insurance (I'm cheap) and it's

not something I want to repeat ever really. Read that paragraph above

again though, that was getting to be my life on an almost DAILY

basis. It didn't make waking up in the morning much fun.

Now I'm pretty much down to a 2X. I've lost over 150lbs even though

I've probably got that much more to go. I don't weigh myself each

day. I go off my clothing sizes and energy levels. I no longer have

to take meds (other than vitamins) and my blood work is much better

(almost great), I don't use the CPAP anymore (still snore a bit

though), I walk many miles a day, I've got my steering will adjusted

down a bit now, wear a seat belt and have traveled on a long trip

this summer. I'm pretty sure I can fit in a plane seat now, I've gone

to movies, concerts, stage shows, and even almost crammed into a seat

in the US Capitol's House of Reps Gallery (they seemed so small even

for normal people). I'm buying shirts for $10 a piece and slacks for

twice that. Instead of inhaling food at meals with friends/family and

then talking their ears off I eat, talk, eat, talk, eat, talk just

like they do.

I guess what I'd like to impart is don't think of this as just the

surgery. Don't focus on just that. Think of this as a whole lifestyle

change. Hmm, maybe that's pretty scary too eh? Well that's sort of

understandable. The change is major. It's important. For me it's been

great. When people here say they would have the surgery again in a

second it's because of this whole/big picture mindset.

Good Luck!

Mike in GR

>

> 1. Name: Lela

>

> 2. City and state: Killeen, texas

>

> 3. Are you a Southern California resident? no

>

> 4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list?

> too far

>

> 3. Email address: labelleboz@...

>

> 4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL:

>

> 5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op post-op I am in

> the process of getting the surgery ,,

> 6. Date of WLS: hopefully sometime in august

>

> 7. Surgeon's Name: DR Symmond

>

> 8. Type of Surgery: -RNY

>

> 9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 240

>

> 10. Insurance or self pay: insurance

>

> 11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your

> WLS: Humana tricare

>

> 12.Birthdate: 01/11

>

> 13.Occupation: Technician

>

> 14.Hobbies: computers, my kids and my kids ,, i dont have to many

> hobbies at this time

> 15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you?

> I am so scared of this surgery , but i want it more than anything

> else in the world

>

[Guest guest]

thanks shauna ,,,

you see this is what i am concern about ,, the emotial part of all the surgery

i am so depressed and have been for years ,,,, never been treated for it ,, i

have been hurt metally terribly ,,, i dont have any self esteem ,, even though

when people meet me they think i have all this confidence but i dont its all a

cover ,, i would say anything to impress people ,, i would even lie about the

smalles thing to make myself seem important ,,, and the weight has everything to

do with it ,,, i know the sources of my depression i just dont know for sure how

i am going to feel after the wls ,, is it going to make it worst ,, am i going

to synch into depression even more ? how am i am going to handle al of this

pressure i am barely able to handle the pressure of taking the trash out,,,, i

used to be so full of life and so interested inlife period ,,, my kids are my

life but they even notice how ugly of a person i have become ,,, I hate myself

at this point ,, but i am concern that it may be worst after the wls ,,,, My 14

year old daughter is wonderfull to me

she is so supportive i make her part of everything as far as the wls,,, even

though i just told her a couple year ago she was adopted ,,,and she has a hard

time dealing with this ,,,,she has been going trough so much ,,but she puts my

need ahead of hers she is so wonderfull to me and put up with my moods and my

deppressive moments ,, but that one thing i did notice and this is what mad eme

decide to have the surgery ,, even though she is 14 she has senn me binge annd

eat tones of food ,, she does not even know what i eat when i am away from the

house ,,, but she is starting to eat like i do ,, i notice that one meal is not

enough enymore ,, she is starting overeating ,, when i aproach her about it she

say ,, mom dont worry i am skinny , everyone says so , so i am thinking what

have i put into her head to be concern about what others think at the first

place,, but also i am so concern about her nonchalent attitude towrward food ,,,

amd i producing my daughter's addiction to

food my showing her that it conforts me ?,,,,, but anyway i am not sure if what

i am saying now is relevant to the group its not a depression group,, but i had

to get out somehow ,, thanks for listening

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[Guest guest]

This is exactly what this group is for. You are where I was when I too decided

to do this surgery. I can relate so deeply that it took me back. Reminds me why

I am so grateful to God that I have given myself a second chance. All of what

you are saying is my sistuation, I have 3 kids, my 2 brothers and my sister.

They are mine now and my depression was TERRIBLE for them. Knowing that, I sunk

even lower. I had to realize how important their lives where and how detrimental

my life was to them. They depended on me to be there for them, to stick around

and love them since our mother passed. Something had to change. Enough was

ENOUGH!!!! I started therapy for the kids and I. I signed paperwork to start

WLS. From that moment on, I knew my life was going to improve if I wanted it bad

enough. I had to get rid of the old baggage and make room for the newer and

exciting things life has to offer. I knew bad times would still happen, but I

wanted the good to out weigh the bad. Like

playing with my kids and seeing them happy and not stressing everyday over what

my mood was going to be like and when I was going to take them out of the house

again. I explain to my kids now why I was so heavy and why I have to eat right

and exercise. How important it is for them to do so as well. They are now apart

of my changes and my little cheerleaders. They make sure that I take my pills

(we take our vitamins together), exercise (we exercise together), and drink my

water. They ask me constantly if I am aloud to eat what I am eating. It is a way

for them to heal with me and learn how to suppost one another. Just as I do when

my oldest is playing baseball and we are on the sidelines cheering him on.

You CAN!! do this. We here are ALL living proof that it can happen. You are

NOT alone!!! Vent all you need. Please share, we too need to know that we are

not alone in this battle of the bulge. Cry and scream if need be. Whatever it

takes and then put one foot in front of the other and the next thing you know

you will turn back and relize you have made it a block, then a mile in your life

of change!!!

Best Wishes,

Shauna

la belle boz wrote:

thanks shauna ,,,

you see this is what i am concern about ,, the emotial part of all the surgery

i am so depressed and have been for years ,,,, never been treated for it ,, i

have been hurt metally terribly ,,, i dont have any self esteem ,, even though

when people meet me they think i have all this confidence but i dont its all a

cover ,, i would say anything to impress people ,, i would even lie about the

smalles thing to make myself seem important ,,, and the weight has everything to

do with it ,,, i know the sources of my depression i just dont know for sure how

i am going to feel after the wls ,, is it going to make it worst ,, am i going

to synch into depression even more ? how am i am going to handle al of this

pressure i am barely able to handle the pressure of taking the trash out,,,, i

used to be so full of life and so interested inlife period ,,, my kids are my

life but they even notice how ugly of a person i have become ,,, I hate myself

at this point ,, but i am concern that it may be worst after the wls ,,,, My 14

year old daughter is wonderfull to me

she is so supportive i make her part of everything as far as the wls,,, even

though i just told her a couple year ago she was adopted ,,,and she has a hard

time dealing with this ,,,,she has been going trough so much ,,but she puts my

need ahead of hers she is so wonderfull to me and put up with my moods and my

deppressive moments ,, but that one thing i did notice and this is what mad eme

decide to have the surgery ,, even though she is 14 she has senn me binge annd

eat tones of food ,, she does not even know what i eat when i am away from the

house ,,, but she is starting to eat like i do ,, i notice that one meal is not

enough enymore ,, she is starting overeating ,, when i aproach her about it she

say ,, mom dont worry i am skinny , everyone says so , so i am thinking what

have i put into her head to be concern about what others think at the first

place,, but also i am so concern about her nonchalent attitude towrward food ,,,

amd i producing my daughter's addiction to

food my showing her that it conforts me ?,,,,, but anyway i am not sure if what

i am saying now is relevant to the group its not a depression group,, but i had

to get out somehow ,, thanks for listening

The elegance of honesty needs no adornment

---------------------------------

See the all-new, redesigned Yahoo.com. Check it out.

[Guest guest]

Mike, I just want to say that I really love when you share. You have

accomplished so much with determination and have really reaped the benefits!!

That is Awesome!! You are an inspiration and I look forward to hearing more. How

exciting all the changes you have endured!!! I bet your family is really

enjoying their life that much more knowing you are enjoying yours!

Congratulations to all of you!!

Best Wishes,

Shauna

Mike wrote:

Lela,

I'd like to encourage you too. I think all the encouragement I've

received from the group here prior too and after surgery is all

realistic too. By that I mean no one said surgery was a easy, a real

joy, a picnic, etc. That's good because it isn't. It's really hard to

say it's anything other than a major deal and inconvenient at best.

At least for me, I had to think about what I had to look forward to;

I'm only 38 and was on the fast track to diabetes, most likely

knee/joint problems, I was sleeping poorly even with a CPAP, I wasn't

walking with my kids anymore because it was too hard/tiring, I was

spending quite a lot on food, I was barely fitting in my mini-van let

alone using a seat belt, I couldn't travel in other vehicles, even my

parent's Blazer/SUV because they were too small, the clothing I was

buying was getting harder to find and more and more expensive (I was

close to the largest sizes at kingsizedirect.com), king size,

diabetic socks were hard to fit into and hard to get on, clipping my

toe nails was difficult as were other basic hygienic activities. Then

there's all the normal stuff people take for granted, movies,

airplanes, concerts, meetings at work, visiting friends/family, even

going to my PCP doctor etc. that were nearly impossible because there

were almost no chairs I could fit in or worse I would come close to

or actually crush/ruin furniture. I was on medication for bi-polarism

and high blood pressure with my doctor still telling me I was in for

big problems in 5-10 years.

That all sounds pretty bad. That was me last year at this time when I

decided to get WLS. Sure the surgery sucked; it was scary, it was

painful, it was expensive even with insurance (I'm cheap) and it's

not something I want to repeat ever really. Read that paragraph above

again though, that was getting to be my life on an almost DAILY

basis. It didn't make waking up in the morning much fun.

Now I'm pretty much down to a 2X. I've lost over 150lbs even though

I've probably got that much more to go. I don't weigh myself each

day. I go off my clothing sizes and energy levels. I no longer have

to take meds (other than vitamins) and my blood work is much better

(almost great), I don't use the CPAP anymore (still snore a bit

though), I walk many miles a day, I've got my steering will adjusted

down a bit now, wear a seat belt and have traveled on a long trip

this summer. I'm pretty sure I can fit in a plane seat now, I've gone

to movies, concerts, stage shows, and even almost crammed into a seat

in the US Capitol's House of Reps Gallery (they seemed so small even

for normal people). I'm buying shirts for $10 a piece and slacks for

twice that. Instead of inhaling food at meals with friends/family and

then talking their ears off I eat, talk, eat, talk, eat, talk just

like they do.

I guess what I'd like to impart is don't think of this as just the

surgery. Don't focus on just that. Think of this as a whole lifestyle

change. Hmm, maybe that's pretty scary too eh? Well that's sort of

understandable. The change is major. It's important. For me it's been

great. When people here say they would have the surgery again in a

second it's because of this whole/big picture mindset.

Good Luck!

Mike in GR

>

> 1. Name: Lela

>

> 2. City and state: Killeen, texas

>

> 3. Are you a Southern California resident? no

>

> 4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list?

> too far

>

> 3. Email address: labelleboz@...

>

> 4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL:

>

> 5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op post-op I am in

> the process of getting the surgery ,,

> 6. Date of WLS: hopefully sometime in august

>

> 7. Surgeon's Name: DR Symmond

>

> 8. Type of Surgery: -RNY

>

> 9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 240

>

> 10. Insurance or self pay: insurance

>

> 11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your

> WLS: Humana tricare

>

> 12.Birthdate: 01/11

>

> 13.Occupation: Technician

>

> 14.Hobbies: computers, my kids and my kids ,, i dont have to many

> hobbies at this time

> 15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you?

> I am so scared of this surgery , but i want it more than anything

> else in the world

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

You can't have this surgery & keep your same eating habits & expect to

lose weight. There are a lot of sacrifices that have to be made!

That's why you see such a difference in the two women at your work.

For example.... I recently went to a concert w/ my daughter. Now, the

old me would have ate a brat, waffle fries, nachos & had lord knows how

many sodas. Probably some ice cream too. All the smells smelled so

wonderful! But ya know what I had? Water & lots of it! I did dip my

finger into my daughter's nacho cheese just to have a taste. I was

satisfied w/ that.

Food controlled so much of my life before surgery. But, I've let that

go! Now instead of thinking what can I eat next...I think about how

much water I need to be getting in! I don't worry about eating. I'm

never hungry!

You have to make lifestyle changes for this surgery to work. If you're

not committed to that you shouldn't waste your time or your money.

380/340/160

la belle boz wrote:

> Thanks for to encouragement ,, but i cant help it to think the worst ,, i

have been educating myself over this surgery for the last 2 years,, i think i am

reading to much into it ,, but after joining this group for the last 3 days i

have been reading all the post ,,, i see the positive outweight the negative by

far ,,,,,,, am going to join a live support group next week so i am very excited

about it ,,, at work 2 ladies have done the surgery ,, i am not sure about the

detail as i dont want to get to personal with those ladies ,,, just moved here

to texas so i dont really know them ,,,, but one of thos ladies does not seem to

do well ,, she snaks all day long she has a 24 pack of soda under her desk and

eat sweets and i mean constantly i have been there 2 months and it does not seem

that she has lost any weight since than ,, the other lady is doing well she

looks good everyday she comes and you can see the where the 2 differs , the one

showing that she is doing well is a

> very happy person always smiling and the other one seems overwhelmed and not

so happy ,, i know there is issue with her husband ,,

>

> The elegance of honesty needs no adornment

> __________________________________________________

>

>

[Guest guest]

You're making steps in the right direction Lela. This is hard for all

of us; but if you use the support you get here & from others it makes it

a lot easier! :-)

Watch your soy milk. Sometimes they have lots of carbs. See if you can

find sugar free soy milk or use skim milk. Kudos to you for letting go

of soda. That's a big thing for some people. It wasn't much of an

issue for me. Some decaf tea & I'm happy :-) Crystal light is also a

wonderful option! They have tons of flavors!

Bread is a biggie for me; but it's not been that bad. Eventually I can

have some. I'm in no hurry.

380/340/160

la belle boz wrote:

> ,,

>

> commited i am ,, much more than anything else i want to do in my life ,,, i

have started eating the right thing already ,, I did switch to more proteins and

soy milk , more cheese ,, i dropped the sodas ,,,and guess what else

> i am french ,, my love is for bread lord know i am suffering ,,, but i did

diminish my intact of the bread which is always been my main meal ,,,, i am

starting those changes ,, i did take out the treadmill , dusted it off and set

it up in the garage ,, i am able to get on it and being motivated ,,,,I also did

let go of the alcohol totally ,,, so i am comminted ,, again i understand that

the wls is just a toold not the resolution,, however i am totally comitted to

making those changes ,,,,, i have even earned a gym subscription from my ex

husband wish is very supportive on what i want but still does not understand

what i want ,,,,,,,,so yes i want this ,, just the mental process is painfull,,

>

> lela on my way to a new me

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mike,

I'm so proud and happy for you that you are doing so well!!! I bet

most of us reading that post can relate to just about everything you

said. I know I can. I know the feeling about not fitting into spaces

and clothes and sleeping poorly. But because of my kids I still do all

those things that make me uncomfortable but they scare the hell out of

me....more than the surgery.

My kids have a concert that they want to go to next week. Can you

imagine sitting with 20,000 teenagers and being 380 pounds? I can't

but I'm going to have to do it....because it's important to my kids.

But next year....I'll be so much smaller and I won't be worried about

what others think(as much).

I'm just glad you are doing so much better now. Keep up the great

work!!!

Laurel