Re: New to Group and really needing help

[Guest guest]

Hi

I am 31 years old, soon to be 32 next month. I have a 15 month old little

boy. I have been overweight all my life, and by the time I was 18 I was 200 lbs.

I was 311 lbs when I got pregnant with my son. I lost weight during the

pregnancy, and got down to 289 lbs. While I was pregnant I started thinking

about surgery because I had a friend online who had it in Dec 2003. I was

jealous

of how great she looked in her pictures. Then last September of 2005, my

half sister died of primary metastatic liver cancer after being diagnosed at the

beginning of that summer. She was just 14 years old. Losing her made me

realize how important it is that I take care of myself and be there for my son.

After I had my son I shot up to 326 lbs fairly quickly, and that was my weight

when I got into a bariatric surgery program at Kaiser Permanente. This is the

BEST thing I could have done for myself and for my family. I just had my

surgery 2 weeks ago today. It's not easy, but it is SO worth it. It is hard to

give up the junk foods I loved, but are they really worth dying for? I don't

think so!

Good luck, and I am here if you need to talk! This is the right group to be

in!

Dana

326 start /259 this morning /150 goal

lap RNY 7-10-06 Dr. Li, Kaiser South San Francisco, CA

In a message dated 7/24/2006 10:23:20 AM Pacific Standard Time,

jtrimbel@... writes:

Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to do

me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get my

weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on this

and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor to

do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying to

help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing from

anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

[Guest guest]

,

I was right where you are just one year ago.....I weighed in at Kaiser

at 401 lbs. I had my surgery just over three months ago. I had to lose 40ish

pounds in order to have a safer surgery, and I have lost over 60 since the

surgery. This morning I was at 297.......I'm not saying this to toot my own

horn, I just want you to know it can and will happen, the weight will come

off if you follow the program. When I was 400 pounds the thought of losing

over a hundred pounds seemed like some sci-fi movie idea, it could never

work on me, cuz nothing else ever did!

This was the best thing I have ever done in my life. It sounds like you

have a life, with a little girl and all that. Don't let food take that

little girl from you early.........I'm sure you would get people from both

sides telling you what they think you should do. Just do what will make you

and your little girl happy. I'm sure you being around for her wedding is

what's going to make her happy.

Mike T

New to Group and really needing help

> Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

[Guest guest]

I had the RNY surgery, laporoscopic. My husband didn't want me to get the

surgery when I first told him I was thinking about it, but when I explained to

him that I felt it was the only way I could get the weight off and keep it

off, he came around. Is your best friend overweight, too? Often people who are

overweight are the most negative about surgery, because they aren't ready to

lose weight themselves or don't want to commit to giving up a lot of foods,

and are jealous or envious. You have to do what is right for you, not for your

friend. I have an Aunt who didn't think I should get the surgery. She asked

me why I couldn't " just stop eating. " I had to explain to her that it is an

addiction, and she should know very well how hard it is to fight an addiction,

as she is off and on methamphetamines for years and years. That made her

shut up!

Good for you about the pool. I go to my local YMCA and do water aerobics and

lap swimming. Today my mother-in-law and I took my son swimming there, and

it was great!

Dana

In a message dated 7/24/2006 4:33:23 PM Pacific Standard Time,

jtrimbel@... writes:

Dana, Hello! thank you so very much and congrads on your surgery. I

hope all is going well with you and I will keep you in my prayers. I

have really started to eat right hopeing that it will make it better on

me after I am able to have the surgery. What type did you have? I am

tore on what one will be best. I am scared it is not easy at all hearing

your doctor tell you that you are not going to live to see your baby

grow up. I have to do this for her and myself I know. I have talked to

ppl about this and I know it is not going to be easy and it is not the

easy way out. My best friend is upset with me about this, she dont think

I should do it. but I have fought my weight all my life loose gain,loose

gain . You name it I have probly done it to try to get my weight off. I

have prayed alot sence my doc said those words to me. I faith that this

is the right thing I am just a little overwelmed. Thank you and God

Bless

--- In _GastricBypass-GastricBypass-<WGastri_

(mailto:GastricBypass-LOSERS ) , DanaColan@.., Da

>

>

> Hi

>

> I am 31 years old, soon to be 32 next month. I have a 15 month old

little

> boy. I have been overweight all my life, and by the time I was 18 I

was 200 lbs.

> I was 311 lbs when I got pregnant with my son. I lost weight during

the

> pregnancy, and got down to 289 lbs. While I was pregnant I started

thinking

> about surgery because I had a friend online who had it in Dec 2003. I

was jealous

> of how great she looked in her pictures. Then last September of 2005,

my

> half sister died of primary metastatic liver cancer after being

diagnosed at the

> beginning of that summer. She was just 14 years old. Losing her made

me

> realize how important it is that I take care of myself and be there

for my son.

> After I had my son I shot up to 326 lbs fairly quickly, and that was

my weight

> when I got into a bariatric surgery program at Kaiser Permanente. This

is the

> BEST thing I could have done for myself and for my family. I just had

my

> surgery 2 weeks ago today. It's not easy, but it is SO worth it. It is

hard to

> give up the junk foods I loved, but are they really worth dying for? I

don't

> think so!

>

> Good luck, and I am here if you need to talk! This is the right group

to be

> in!

>

> Dana

>

> 326 start /259 this morning /150 goal

> lap RNY 7-10-06 Dr. Li, Kaiser South San Francisco, CA

>

> In a message dated 7/24/2006 10:23:20 AM Pacific Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

> Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

> little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to do

> me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get my

> weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on this

> and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor to

> do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying to

> help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing from

> anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mike, I am so happy that you are doing so well, that is wonderfull news

and keep up the good work. Yes I have ppl telling me that I should not

have this done, but my doctor says it is up to me but that this is the

only way. Yes I want to be here for my daughter , she is a true gift

from God and I can't let her down. I have made a life choice to change

and to live and NOT for food, but for me and my daughter. I have faith

that I can find a way to get this paid for and get it done. I have also

really started watching what I eating and eating healthy, but due to my

back I can only do pool exsersize. I have found a inside pool that I can

become a memeber of and go everyday like my doctor wants me too....

Thank you and God bless

>

> ,

> I was right where you are just one year ago.....I weighed in at Kaiser

> at 401 lbs. I had my surgery just over three months ago. I had to lose

40ish

> pounds in order to have a safer surgery, and I have lost over 60 since

the

> surgery. This morning I was at 297.......I'm not saying this to toot

my own

> horn, I just want you to know it can and will happen, the weight will

come

> off if you follow the program. When I was 400 pounds the thought of

losing

> over a hundred pounds seemed like some sci-fi movie idea, it could

never

> work on me, cuz nothing else ever did!

> This was the best thing I have ever done in my life. It sounds like

you

> have a life, with a little girl and all that. Don't let food take that

> little girl from you early.........I'm sure you would get people from

both

> sides telling you what they think you should do. Just do what will

make you

> and your little girl happy. I'm sure you being around for her wedding

is

> what's going to make her happy.

>

> Mike T

>

> New to Group and really needing help

>

>

> > Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

>

[Guest guest]

Dana, Hello! thank you so very much and congrads on your surgery. I

hope all is going well with you and I will keep you in my prayers. I

have really started to eat right hopeing that it will make it better on

me after I am able to have the surgery. What type did you have? I am

tore on what one will be best. I am scared it is not easy at all hearing

your doctor tell you that you are not going to live to see your baby

grow up. I have to do this for her and myself I know. I have talked to

ppl about this and I know it is not going to be easy and it is not the

easy way out. My best friend is upset with me about this, she dont think

I should do it. but I have fought my weight all my life loose gain,loose

gain . You name it I have probly done it to try to get my weight off. I

have prayed alot sence my doc said those words to me. I faith that this

is the right thing I am just a little overwelmed. Thank you and God

Bless

>

>

> Hi

>

> I am 31 years old, soon to be 32 next month. I have a 15 month old

little

> boy. I have been overweight all my life, and by the time I was 18 I

was 200 lbs.

> I was 311 lbs when I got pregnant with my son. I lost weight during

the

> pregnancy, and got down to 289 lbs. While I was pregnant I started

thinking

> about surgery because I had a friend online who had it in Dec 2003. I

was jealous

> of how great she looked in her pictures. Then last September of 2005,

my

> half sister died of primary metastatic liver cancer after being

diagnosed at the

> beginning of that summer. She was just 14 years old. Losing her made

me

> realize how important it is that I take care of myself and be there

for my son.

> After I had my son I shot up to 326 lbs fairly quickly, and that was

my weight

> when I got into a bariatric surgery program at Kaiser Permanente. This

is the

> BEST thing I could have done for myself and for my family. I just had

my

> surgery 2 weeks ago today. It's not easy, but it is SO worth it. It is

hard to

> give up the junk foods I loved, but are they really worth dying for? I

don't

> think so!

>

> Good luck, and I am here if you need to talk! This is the right group

to be

> in!

>

> Dana

>

> 326 start /259 this morning /150 goal

> lap RNY 7-10-06 Dr. Li, Kaiser South San Francisco, CA

>

> In a message dated 7/24/2006 10:23:20 AM Pacific Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

> Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

> little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to do

> me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get my

> weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on this

> and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor to

> do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying to

> help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing from

> anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

It depends on the individual. My husband took a week off work to care for

our son when I got home from the hospital. All I wanted to do was sleep the

first 4 days. By day 6 I was able to care for him. I am not weak, but I do get

tired sometimes, as my body is still healing. No matter what surgery, you will

need someone to help you with your child during your recovery. Some surgeons

give you lift restrictions. Mine did not. Some people are prone to hernias,

depending on body shape and type, so there may be a lift restriction from 2 to

6 weeks. You have to decide that you will work it out, no matter what.

Let me put it this way... Would you rather die young and not be there for

your daughter because you didn't want to get someone else to care for her for a

week or so? What's a week or so, compared to her having a lifetime with no

mommy? My son was just fine with me being out of it for a few days. He didn't

care a bit.

Dana

In a message dated 7/24/2006 8:06:09 PM Pacific Standard Time,

jtrimbel@... writes:

Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not think it is a good

idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me I know. With RNY are

you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you need alot of help? I am

sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be able to be there for my

daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take care of her and have to

have other care for her all the time if ya know what I mean. I have read

where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while after surgery. I am just

trying to figure out what WLS I think will be best for me. I hope you

don't mind. Thank you and God bless

[Guest guest]

Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not think it is a good

idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me I know. With RNY are

you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you need alot of help? I am

sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be able to be there for my

daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take care of her and have to

have other care for her all the time if ya know what I mean. I have read

where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while after surgery. I am just

trying to figure out what WLS I think will be best for me. I hope you

don't mind. Thank you and God bless

>

>

> I had the RNY surgery, laporoscopic. My husband didn't want me to get

the

> surgery when I first told him I was thinking about it, but when I

explained to

> him that I felt it was the only way I could get the weight off and

keep it

> off, he came around. Is your best friend overweight, too? Often people

who are

> overweight are the most negative about surgery, because they aren't

ready to

> lose weight themselves or don't want to commit to giving up a lot of

foods,

> and are jealous or envious. You have to do what is right for you, not

for your

> friend. I have an Aunt who didn't think I should get the surgery. She

asked

> me why I couldn't " just stop eating. " I had to explain to her that it

is an

> addiction, and she should know very well how hard it is to fight an

addiction,

> as she is off and on methamphetamines for years and years. That made

her

> shut up!

>

> Good for you about the pool. I go to my local YMCA and do water

aerobics and

> lap swimming. Today my mother-in-law and I took my son swimming there,

and

> it was great!

>

> Dana

>

> In a message dated 7/24/2006 4:33:23 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

>

>

> Dana, Hello! thank you so very much and congrads on your surgery. I

> hope all is going well with you and I will keep you in my prayers. I

> have really started to eat right hopeing that it will make it better

on

> me after I am able to have the surgery. What type did you have? I am

> tore on what one will be best. I am scared it is not easy at all

hearing

> your doctor tell you that you are not going to live to see your baby

> grow up. I have to do this for her and myself I know. I have talked to

> ppl about this and I know it is not going to be easy and it is not the

> easy way out. My best friend is upset with me about this, she dont

think

> I should do it. but I have fought my weight all my life loose

gain,loose

> gain . You name it I have probly done it to try to get my weight off.

I

> have prayed alot sence my doc said those words to me. I faith that

this

> is the right thing I am just a little overwelmed. Thank you and God

> Bless

> --- In _GastricBypass-GastricBypass-<WGastri_

> (mailto:GastricBypass-LOSERS ) , DanaColan@, Da

> >

> >

> > Hi

> >

> > I am 31 years old, soon to be 32 next month. I have a 15 month old

> little

> > boy. I have been overweight all my life, and by the time I was 18 I

> was 200 lbs.

> > I was 311 lbs when I got pregnant with my son. I lost weight during

> the

> > pregnancy, and got down to 289 lbs. While I was pregnant I started

> thinking

> > about surgery because I had a friend online who had it in Dec 2003.

I

> was jealous

> > of how great she looked in her pictures. Then last September of

2005,

> my

> > half sister died of primary metastatic liver cancer after being

> diagnosed at the

> > beginning of that summer. She was just 14 years old. Losing her made

> me

> > realize how important it is that I take care of myself and be there

> for my son.

> > After I had my son I shot up to 326 lbs fairly quickly, and that was

> my weight

> > when I got into a bariatric surgery program at Kaiser Permanente.

This

> is the

> > BEST thing I could have done for myself and for my family. I just

had

> my

> > surgery 2 weeks ago today. It's not easy, but it is SO worth it. It

is

> hard to

> > give up the junk foods I loved, but are they really worth dying for?

I

> don't

> > think so!

> >

> > Good luck, and I am here if you need to talk! This is the right

group

> to be

> > in!

> >

> > Dana

> >

> > 326 start /259 this morning /150 goal

> > lap RNY 7-10-06 Dr. Li, Kaiser South San Francisco, CA

> >

> > In a message dated 7/24/2006 10:23:20 AM Pacific Standard Time,

> > jtrimbel@ writes:

> >

> >

> >

> > Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

> > little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> > weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> > daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> > get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to do

> > me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> > weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get my

> > weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> > into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> > die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on this

> > and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> > this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor to

> > do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> > looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> > surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> > any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> > to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying to

> > help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> > going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing from

> > anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> > that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi & Welcome to the group. I too have battled weight all my

adult life.I had the surgery 4 wks ago & have lost 30 lbs since

surgery day.I already feel better.Alot of my problems have

disappeared,like water on the knee is gone,excessive sweating is

gone,lower back pain-GONE,shortness of breath- GONE.I feel like a

new person already after only 30 lbs!!!

We here all understand what you are going thru.Ask away with any

questions you have.Someone always has an answer for you!

Best of luck to you!

Kim

RNY 6/23/06

298/260/135

>

> Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told

a

> little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to

do

> me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get

my

> weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on

this

> and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor

to

> do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying

to

> help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing

from

> anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Kim, Thank you so much. I am so happy that your doing so well, and I

want to give my congrads. I am so happy that alot of your problems are

gone that gives me hope that when I am able to get this done that my

pain might let up and not control my life anymore. Thank You and God

Bless

> >

> > Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told

> a

> > little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> > weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> > daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> > get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to

> do

> > me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> > weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get

> my

> > weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> > into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> > die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on

> this

> > and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> > this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor

> to

> > do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> > looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> > surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> > any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> > to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying

> to

> > help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> > going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing

> from

> > anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> > that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dana, I didnt think of it that way, and now that I do WOW!!! I want to

thank you so very much . What you said hit hard and I needed that. I am

so very glad you are doing so well . I am also glad you have help

around you. You haved helped more that you know. Talk to you soon and

God Bless

>

>

> It depends on the individual. My husband took a week off work to care

for

> our son when I got home from the hospital. All I wanted to do was

sleep the

> first 4 days. By day 6 I was able to care for him. I am not weak, but

I do get

> tired sometimes, as my body is still healing. No matter what surgery,

you will

> need someone to help you with your child during your recovery. Some

surgeons

> give you lift restrictions. Mine did not. Some people are prone to

hernias,

> depending on body shape and type, so there may be a lift restriction

from 2 to

> 6 weeks. You have to decide that you will work it out, no matter what.

>

> Let me put it this way... Would you rather die young and not be there

for

> your daughter because you didn't want to get someone else to care for

her for a

> week or so? What's a week or so, compared to her having a lifetime

with no

> mommy? My son was just fine with me being out of it for a few days. He

didn't

> care a bit.

>

> Dana

>

> In a message dated 7/24/2006 8:06:09 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

> Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not think it is a good

> idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me I know. With RNY are

> you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you need alot of help? I

am

> sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be able to be there for my

> daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take care of her and have

to

> have other care for her all the time if ya know what I mean. I have

read

> where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while after surgery. I am just

> trying to figure out what WLS I think will be best for me. I hope you

> don't mind. Thank you and God bless

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You are also lucky because your daughter is still so young that she won't

remember you being a " fat mom. " She also won't remember that you needed someone

to help you take care of her for a week or so after surgery.

I am really glad that my son won't remember that I was ever fat. He won't

have to be embarrassed of me when he starts school in a few years, and he won't

have to deal with other kids making jokes about his mom because she is fat.

Another great thing is that by the time she is old enough to want to go

camping and to amusement parks, you will be able to take her and fit on rides,

and be able to walk and be active. Think of all the fun things you can do with

her that you wouldn't be able to do at the weight you are at now.

When I started this process I couldn't clean the apartment we were living

in. I couldn't stand for very long because my back hurt, so doing dishes was

difficult. I couldn't carry my son for long or hold him on my lap, since I

didn't have a lap. Stairs made me huff and puff and turn red. Walking anywhere

was horrible, so I didn't even want to go grocery shopping or go anywhere.

Dana

326/258/150

In a message dated 7/25/2006 6:15:14 AM Pacific Standard Time,

jtrimbel@... writes:

Dana, I didnt think of it that way, and now that I do WOW!!! I want to

thank you so very much . What you said hit hard and I needed that. I am

so very glad you are doing so well . I am also glad you have help

around you. You haved helped more that you know. Talk to you soon and

God Bless

--- In _GastricBypass-GastricBypass-<WGastri_

(mailto:GastricBypass-LOSERS ) , DanaColan@.., Da

>

>

> It depends on the individual. My husband took a week off work to care

for

> our son when I got home from the hospital. All I wanted to do was

sleep the

> first 4 days. By day 6 I was able to care for him. I am not weak, but

I do get

> tired sometimes, as my body is still healing. No matter what surgery,

you will

> need someone to help you with your child during your recovery. Some

surgeons

> give you lift restrictions. Mine did not. Some people are prone to

hernias,

> depending on body shape and type, so there may be a lift restriction

from 2 to

> 6 weeks. You have to decide that you will work it out, no matter what.

>

> Let me put it this way... Would you rather die young and not be there

for

> your daughter because you didn't want to get someone else to care for

her for a

> week or so? What's a week or so, compared to her having a lifetime

with no

> mommy? My son was just fine with me being out of it for a few days. He

didn't

> care a bit.

>

> Dana

>

> In a message dated 7/24/2006 8:06:09 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

> Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not think it is a good

> idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me I know. With RNY are

> you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you need alot of help? I

am

> sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be able to be there for my

> daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take care of her and have

to

> have other care for her all the time if ya know what I mean. I have

read

> where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while after surgery. I am just

> trying to figure out what WLS I think will be best for me. I hope you

> don't mind. Thank you and God bless

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You bring up the most painful part of being

overweight. We live in a very wealthy community, full

of barbie doll mom's who train their children to be

just as heartless as they are. I can't tell you how

many times my youngest would come home heartbroken

because kids would say to her, " erin, your mom is

soooooooooooooo fat! " and they would;n't play with her

or let her join in their play groups. Then I met one

of the Mom's because our daughters were ont he same

soccer team, and she verified that alot of the Mom's

didn't like me because I was fat and wouldn't let

their girls be friends with because of my

weight,,,,how freakkin mean is that?

WELL, here's the good news, eri has bloomed into a

beautiful girl, and I won't be fat forever! Ha!

Debi

243/206/115

8/02/06

--- DanaColan@... wrote:

>

> You are also lucky because your daughter is still so

> young that she won't

> remember you being a " fat mom. " She also won't

> remember that you needed someone

> to help you take care of her for a week or so after

> surgery.

>

> I am really glad that my son won't remember that I

> was ever fat. He won't

> have to be embarrassed of me when he starts school

> in a few years, and he won't

> have to deal with other kids making jokes about his

> mom because she is fat.

>

> Another great thing is that by the time she is old

> enough to want to go

> camping and to amusement parks, you will be able to

> take her and fit on rides,

> and be able to walk and be active. Think of all the

> fun things you can do with

> her that you wouldn't be able to do at the weight

> you are at now.

>

> When I started this process I couldn't clean the

> apartment we were living

> in. I couldn't stand for very long because my back

> hurt, so doing dishes was

> difficult. I couldn't carry my son for long or hold

> him on my lap, since I

> didn't have a lap. Stairs made me huff and puff and

> turn red. Walking anywhere

> was horrible, so I didn't even want to go grocery

> shopping or go anywhere.

>

> Dana

>

> 326/258/150

>

> In a message dated 7/25/2006 6:15:14 AM Pacific

> Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Dana, I didnt think of it that way, and now that I

> do WOW!!! I want to

> thank you so very much . What you said hit hard and

> I needed that. I am

> so very glad you are doing so well . I am also glad

> you have help

> around you. You haved helped more that you know.

> Talk to you soon and

> God Bless

> --- In _GastricBypass-GastricBypass-<WGastri_

> (mailto:GastricBypass-LOSERS ) ,

> DanaColan@.., Da

> >

> >

> > It depends on the individual. My husband took a

> week off work to care

> for

> > our son when I got home from the hospital. All I

> wanted to do was

> sleep the

> > first 4 days. By day 6 I was able to care for

> him. I am not weak, but

> I do get

> > tired sometimes, as my body is still healing. No

> matter what surgery,

> you will

> > need someone to help you with your child during

> your recovery. Some

> surgeons

> > give you lift restrictions. Mine did not. Some

> people are prone to

> hernias,

> > depending on body shape and type, so there may be

> a lift restriction

> from 2 to

> > 6 weeks. You have to decide that you will work it

> out, no matter what.

> >

> > Let me put it this way... Would you rather die

> young and not be there

> for

> > your daughter because you didn't want to get

> someone else to care for

> her for a

> > week or so? What's a week or so, compared to her

> having a lifetime

> with no

> > mommy? My son was just fine with me being out of

> it for a few days. He

> didn't

> > care a bit.

> >

> > Dana

> >

> > In a message dated 7/24/2006 8:06:09 PM Pacific

> Standard Time,

> > jtrimbel@... writes:

> >

> >

> >

> > Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not

> think it is a good

> > idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me

> I know. With RNY are

> > you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you

> need alot of help? I

> am

> > sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be

> able to be there for my

> > daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take

> care of her and have

> to

> > have other care for her all the time if ya know

> what I mean. I have

> read

> > where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while

> after surgery. I am just

> > trying to figure out what WLS I think will be

> best for me. I hope you

> > don't mind. Thank you and God bless

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> >

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Debi,

They say money cant buy happiness.........It sure cant make you a good

person either!

Mike T

Re: Re: New to Group and really needing help

> You bring up the most painful part of being

> overweight. We live in a very wealthy community, full

> of barbie doll mom's who train their children to be

> just as heartless as they are. I can't tell you how

> many times my youngest would come home heartbroken

> because kids would say to her, " erin, your mom is

> soooooooooooooo fat! " and they would;n't play with her

> or let her join in their play groups. Then I met one

> of the Mom's because our daughters were ont he same

> soccer team, and she verified that alot of the Mom's

> didn't like me because I was fat and wouldn't let

> their girls be friends with because of my

> weight,,,,how freakkin mean is that?

> WELL, here's the good news, eri has bloomed into a

> beautiful girl, and I won't be fat forever! Ha!

> Debi

> 243/206/115

> 8/02/06

>

> --- DanaColan@... wrote:

>

>>

>> You are also lucky because your daughter is still so

>> young that she won't

>> remember you being a " fat mom. " She also won't

>> remember that you needed someone

>> to help you take care of her for a week or so after

>> surgery.

>>

>> I am really glad that my son won't remember that I

>> was ever fat. He won't

>> have to be embarrassed of me when he starts school

>> in a few years, and he won't

>> have to deal with other kids making jokes about his

>> mom because she is fat.

>>

>> Another great thing is that by the time she is old

>> enough to want to go

>> camping and to amusement parks, you will be able to

>> take her and fit on rides,

>> and be able to walk and be active. Think of all the

>> fun things you can do with

>> her that you wouldn't be able to do at the weight

>> you are at now.

>>

>> When I started this process I couldn't clean the

>> apartment we were living

>> in. I couldn't stand for very long because my back

>> hurt, so doing dishes was

>> difficult. I couldn't carry my son for long or hold

>> him on my lap, since I

>> didn't have a lap. Stairs made me huff and puff and

>> turn red. Walking anywhere

>> was horrible, so I didn't even want to go grocery

>> shopping or go anywhere.

>>

>> Dana

>>

>> 326/258/150

>>

>> In a message dated 7/25/2006 6:15:14 AM Pacific

>> Standard Time,

>> jtrimbel@... writes:

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> Dana, I didnt think of it that way, and now that I

>> do WOW!!! I want to

>> thank you so very much . What you said hit hard and

>> I needed that. I am

>> so very glad you are doing so well . I am also glad

>> you have help

>> around you. You haved helped more that you know.

>> Talk to you soon and

>> God Bless

>> --- In _GastricBypass-GastricBypass-<WGastri_

>> (mailto:GastricBypass-LOSERS ) ,

>> DanaColan@.., Da

>> >

>> >

>> > It depends on the individual. My husband took a

>> week off work to care

>> for

>> > our son when I got home from the hospital. All I

>> wanted to do was

>> sleep the

>> > first 4 days. By day 6 I was able to care for

>> him. I am not weak, but

>> I do get

>> > tired sometimes, as my body is still healing. No

>> matter what surgery,

>> you will

>> > need someone to help you with your child during

>> your recovery. Some

>> surgeons

>> > give you lift restrictions. Mine did not. Some

>> people are prone to

>> hernias,

>> > depending on body shape and type, so there may be

>> a lift restriction

>> from 2 to

>> > 6 weeks. You have to decide that you will work it

>> out, no matter what.

>> >

>> > Let me put it this way... Would you rather die

>> young and not be there

>> for

>> > your daughter because you didn't want to get

>> someone else to care for

>> her for a

>> > week or so? What's a week or so, compared to her

>> having a lifetime

>> with no

>> > mommy? My son was just fine with me being out of

>> it for a few days. He

>> didn't

>> > care a bit.

>> >

>> > Dana

>> >

>> > In a message dated 7/24/2006 8:06:09 PM Pacific

>> Standard Time,

>> > jtrimbel@... writes:

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> > Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not

>> think it is a good

>> > idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me

>> I know. With RNY are

>> > you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you

>> need alot of help? I

>> am

>> > sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be

>> able to be there for my

>> > daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take

>> care of her and have

>> to

>> > have other care for her all the time if ya know

>> what I mean. I have

>> read

>> > where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while

>> after surgery. I am just

>> > trying to figure out what WLS I think will be

>> best for me. I hope you

>> > don't mind. Thank you and God bless

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

>> removed]

>> >

>>

>> [Non-text portions of this message have been

>> removed]

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> [Non-text portions of this message have been

>> removed]

>>

>>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

,

So many of us know what you are going through. I remember going to Dr

appointments and when the dr came in I told him I know that I am fat, so please

do not tell me that I am overweight I know it.

When I started this journey I weighed 366.6 pounds. I am 36, for years I

tried to lose weight and did not want to have the surgery, I thought that I

could do it on my own. I did not want to take the easy way out, and that is

what I really thought of the surgery. I have now done a lot of research as well

and realize that this is not the easy way. I felt like I am a failure because I

cannot do this on my own. At a seminar that I went to the DR said that I have

less that 1% chance of taking the weight off and keeping it off on my own. I

need to have the surgery if I am going to be sucessfull. I had already come to

the conclusion on my own that this was the best thing for me.

Let me tell you that this is not easy. I was told to lose 30 pounds before

the surgery. Everytime I talked to the program they asked if I had lost weight,

when I told them how much I lost they told me I had to get the weight off or the

surgeon would not do the surgery. I am happy to report that I have lost the 30

pounds and them some. It has not been easy. I have been starving myself for 2

weeks.

I get to have my surgey on July 31, six days from now.

I asked my surgeon last week when I saw him and asked why he did the surgery

and he said that he wants people to have a better life. That is why I want the

surgery I want to live to be old. Maybe one day get married and have kids. I

am happy that I made to the choice to do this. Next week I am going to be a

loser and I cant wait.

Barb

sassy_juju wrote:

Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I was told a

little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to do

me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get my

weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on this

and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor to

do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying to

help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing from

anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

One of the doctors in my surgeon's group was conducting a seminar on

the surgery pre-op and told everyone that he likes going to medical

seminars because he is able to tell other doctors that his specialty

is curing diabetes and high blood pressure. Even sometimes high

cholesterol.

Pretty funny but also true.

Good luck with your surgery Barb and . I was 491 or more this

time last year, had my surgery on Jan 20, and am around 332 today.

I'm not even sure how far I can walk anymore because everyone I walk

with gives up or gets tired and wants to rest before I do now.

Mike

> Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs. I

was told a

> little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to do

> me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get my

> weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on this

> and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor

to

> do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying to

> help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing

from

> anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

>

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Debi

I wouldn't want my child around such horrible shallow people anyway. It's

their loss to not have you or your daughter as friends. You aren't even as heavy

as some of us, I wonder what they would have thought if you were 326 lbs

like I started out as. I hope when you get thin, if they try to be friends

then,

I would snub them so hard their ears smoke!

Dana

In a message dated 7/25/2006 7:21:35 PM Pacific Standard Time,

loulabelle14086@... writes:

Debi,

It amazes me how ignorant people can be especially with children.

Sometimes I can't believe what comes out of peopls mouths. I know that

it's hard right now that those children don't want to be your

daughters friend but in the end it's a great thing. She won't be

exposed to that type of ignorance. She's unfortunately learned a hard

life lesson but in the end it will make her a more sympathetic and

caring person. She'll be a winner for it and those children will grow

up to be miserable person. She'll be holding her head up high with her

mom and her side with pride!!! Unfortunately those children will grow

up to be ignorant too.......

Laurel

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Oh man, that reminds me of a time I was in 2nd grade, and it was recess, and

I overheard a 1st grader talking about me. She said to another kid, " That

girl looks pregnant! " I was so hurt and upset. In 4th grade I had a crush on a

boy in another class, and some girl told him. He then made sure to say I was a

" barrel of lard " within my hearing range. I was devastated. People are very

cruel, indeed.

Dana

In a message dated 7/25/2006 9:02:00 PM Pacific Standard Time,

dlernser@... writes:

Dana,

You are so nice, though I don't weigh 300 lbs, I still

have people constantly asking me if I am pregnant.

But beyond my appearance, I do have health issues just

as serious as someone twice my size. Anyway, I won't

give anyone the time of day after my weight is gone

that found it necessary to traumatize my daughters. I

know as a christian woman I should forgive and forget,

but I won't. Anyway, once again, thanks for the

support.

XOXO

Debi

243/206/115

WLS

8/02/06

--- _DanaColan@..._ (mailto:DanaColan@...) wrote:

>

> Debi

>

> I wouldn't want my child around such horrible

> shallow people anyway. It's

> their loss to not have you or your daughter as

> friends. You aren't even as heavy

> as some of us, I wonder what they would have

> thought if you were 326 lbs

> like I started out as. I hope when you get thin, if

> they try to be friends then,

> I would snub them so hard their ears smoke!

>

> Dana

>

>

> In a message dated 7/25/2006 7:21:35 PM Pacific

> Standard Time,

> _loulabelle14086@loulabell_ (mailto:loulabelle14086@...) writes:

>

>

>

>

> Debi,

>

> It amazes me how ignorant people can be especially

> with children.

> Sometimes I can't believe what comes out of peopls

> mouths. I know that

> it's hard right now that those children don't want

> to be your

> daughters friend but in the end it's a great thing.

> She won't be

> exposed to that type of ignorance. She's

> unfortunately learned a hard

> life lesson but in the end it will make her a more

> sympathetic and

> caring person. She'll be a winner for it and those

> children will grow

> up to be miserable person. She'll be holding her

> head up high with her

> mom and her side with pride!!! Unfortunately those

> children will grow

> up to be ignorant too.......

>

> Laurel

>

>

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Dana, I have thought about her growing up with me fat and that

scares me more than anything. I don't want her to go threw hell

because of me.I am so very looking forward to being able to do more

with her. Right now I can't even get on the floor with her I spend

time playing with her on the sofa or I take some of her toys to the

bed I lay right there with her and play with her as she sit's and

plays and climbs. I do as much with her as I can and pay for it alot

of times. See I have 2 hernerated disc's in my mid back, and I have

DDD in my low back pretty bad. But I know once I have the surgery

and start looseing my weight that thing's will be better for me. I

can't work. I am the same way you was and it is hard. I hate haveing

others do things for me so I push myself and end up in ALOT more

pain cause of it. if you would not mind if you have an IM not matter

what one it is I will down load it. it just seems we have a very lot

in commen. I would like to be there for you if you would let me.

Talk to you soon. I hope! Keep upi the Great work and God Bless.

>

>

> You are also lucky because your daughter is still so young that

she won't

> remember you being a " fat mom. " She also won't remember that you

needed someone

> to help you take care of her for a week or so after surgery.

>

> I am really glad that my son won't remember that I was ever fat.

He won't

> have to be embarrassed of me when he starts school in a few years,

and he won't

> have to deal with other kids making jokes about his mom because

she is fat.

>

> Another great thing is that by the time she is old enough to want

to go

> camping and to amusement parks, you will be able to take her and

fit on rides,

> and be able to walk and be active. Think of all the fun things you

can do with

> her that you wouldn't be able to do at the weight you are at now.

>

> When I started this process I couldn't clean the apartment we were

living

> in. I couldn't stand for very long because my back hurt, so doing

dishes was

> difficult. I couldn't carry my son for long or hold him on my lap,

since I

> didn't have a lap. Stairs made me huff and puff and turn red.

Walking anywhere

> was horrible, so I didn't even want to go grocery shopping or go

anywhere.

>

> Dana

>

> 326/258/150

>

> In a message dated 7/25/2006 6:15:14 AM Pacific Standard Time,

> jtrimbel@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Dana, I didnt think of it that way, and now that I do WOW!!! I

want to

> thank you so very much . What you said hit hard and I needed that.

I am

> so very glad you are doing so well . I am also glad you have help

> around you. You haved helped more that you know. Talk to you soon

and

> God Bless

> --- In _GastricBypass-GastricBypass-<WGastri_

> (mailto:GastricBypass-LOSERS ) , DanaColan@, Da

> >

> >

> > It depends on the individual. My husband took a week off work

to care

> for

> > our son when I got home from the hospital. All I wanted to do

was

> sleep the

> > first 4 days. By day 6 I was able to care for him. I am not

weak, but

> I do get

> > tired sometimes, as my body is still healing. No matter what

surgery,

> you will

> > need someone to help you with your child during your recovery.

Some

> surgeons

> > give you lift restrictions. Mine did not. Some people are prone

to

> hernias,

> > depending on body shape and type, so there may be a lift

restriction

> from 2 to

> > 6 weeks. You have to decide that you will work it out, no

matter what.

> >

> > Let me put it this way... Would you rather die young and not

be there

> for

> > your daughter because you didn't want to get someone else to

care for

> her for a

> > week or so? What's a week or so, compared to her having a

lifetime

> with no

> > mommy? My son was just fine with me being out of it for a few

days. He

> didn't

> > care a bit.

> >

> > Dana

> >

> > In a message dated 7/24/2006 8:06:09 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> > jtrimbel@ writes:

> >

> >

> >

> > Dana, My friend is over weight she just does not think it is a

good

> > idea at all, but I have to do what is best for me I know. With

RNY are

> > you weak? Can you take care of your son ? Do you need alot of

help? I

> am

> > sorry if I am asking to much I just need to be able to be there

for my

> > daughter.... I don't want to not be able to take care of her

and have

> to

> > have other care for her all the time if ya know what I mean. I

have

> read

> > where ppl are very weak and tierd for a while after surgery. I

am just

> > trying to figure out what WLS I think will be best for me. I

hope you

> > don't mind. Thank you and God bless

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Barb, I am so very happy for you that you are getting your surgery

next week. I will keep you in my prayers. WAY TO GO on loseing the

30 lbs + I have thought about this for about 3 yrs myself even went

to a group meeting and met a Dr. when I lived in Ga. I did not

weight what I do now then. I fell when I was carring my daughter,

down about 20 steps. Was very lucky I didn't lose her. God Blessed

me and she was ok. But I on the other hand.... I have done nothing

but gain weight sence getting hurt with me not able to do alot. I

know my weight is the reason I my back hurts as bad as it does. I

know once I have this done that my life will be so much more

because I will be able to live life and not have my weight hold me

back. I know this is not an easy way out by no means. I am ready I

have to live for my daughter and myself. Please let me know if you

need anything. If I can I will help in what ever way I can. God

Bless

> Hello, My name is and I am 34 yrs and am 400 lbs.

I was told a

> little over 2 weeks ago that if I do not do something about my

> weight and fast that I am not going to live to see my 9 month old

> daughter grow up. I talked to my doctor about many ways to try to

> get my weight off and he told me that the only way to get off to

do

> me any good was to have the weight loss surgry. I have been over

> weight all my life and have tryed everything known to man to get

my

> weight off and keep it off, but nothing has worked. I have looked

> into this before and never went threw with it, but now it is do or

> die. I need input badly, I have been researching again ALOT on

this

> and have has another appt. with my doctor. We are going forth with

> this but I am just in the first stages of trying to find a Doctor

to

> do the surgry and trying to find a way to pay for it. I have tryed

> looking up thing every way I know how have mixed feeling's on what

> surgry to have and way's to get it paid for. PLEASE if anyone has

> any input to help me please let me know. I am also looking for ppl

> to talk to about how I am feeling cause my loved ones are trying

to

> help but they just dont understand how I am feeling and what is

> going on inside me. Thank you so much I look forward to hearing

from

> anyone that might be able to help me. I do have yahoo IM if anyone

> that would.... it is sassy_juju . Thank you again and God Bless.

>

>

>

>

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

Debi,

It amazes me how ignorant people can be especially with children.

Sometimes I can't believe what comes out of peopls mouths. I know that

it's hard right now that those children don't want to be your

daughters friend but in the end it's a great thing. She won't be

exposed to that type of ignorance. She's unfortunately learned a hard

life lesson but in the end it will make her a more sympathetic and

caring person. She'll be a winner for it and those children will grow

up to be miserable person. She'll be holding her head up high with her

mom and her side with pride!!! Unfortunately those children will grow

up to be ignorant too.......

Laurel

[Guest guest]

Dana,

You are so nice, though I don't weigh 300 lbs, I still

have people constantly asking me if I am pregnant.

But beyond my appearance, I do have health issues just

as serious as someone twice my size. Anyway, I won't

give anyone the time of day after my weight is gone

that found it necessary to traumatize my daughters. I

know as a christian woman I should forgive and forget,

but I won't. Anyway, once again, thanks for the

support.

XOXO

Debi

243/206/115

WLS

8/02/06

--- DanaColan@... wrote:

>

> Debi

>

> I wouldn't want my child around such horrible

> shallow people anyway. It's

> their loss to not have you or your daughter as

> friends. You aren't even as heavy

> as some of us, I wonder what they would have

> thought if you were 326 lbs

> like I started out as. I hope when you get thin, if

> they try to be friends then,

> I would snub them so hard their ears smoke!

>

> Dana

>

>

> In a message dated 7/25/2006 7:21:35 PM Pacific

> Standard Time,

> loulabelle14086@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Debi,

>

> It amazes me how ignorant people can be especially

> with children.

> Sometimes I can't believe what comes out of peopls

> mouths. I know that

> it's hard right now that those children don't want

> to be your

> daughters friend but in the end it's a great thing.

> She won't be

> exposed to that type of ignorance. She's

> unfortunately learned a hard

> life lesson but in the end it will make her a more

> sympathetic and

> caring person. She'll be a winner for it and those

> children will grow

> up to be miserable person. She'll be holding her

> head up high with her

> mom and her side with pride!!! Unfortunately those

> children will grow

> up to be ignorant too.......

>

> Laurel

>

>

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