Re: I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

,

Congrats on the wonderful news. Its great that your going to have it. My

husband was like yours, what ever you want honey its fine but I just want

you to be alive with me. He went with the flow it wasn't that he wasn't

interested in it he was scared. This is just my suggestion but don't overly

force him to accept it. Men like women have security issues and are afraid

oh she'll get skinny and leave me " I know not me not you but i have heard

it so many times these past few months and I'll be darn if 3 out of the 10

have left their spouses. Ease him into it...I was looked up people from

like Obesityhelp.com saw their before and after pictures and found the most

WOW " ones and showed him every now and again he became more open to the fact

As for the food that is no longer allowed........ Well only cause I had no

control over my eating habits is not fair that someone else has to pay the

penalty, so i still keep stuff in house for him, I cook cakes, cookies, and

buy sweets for him. Cause its my choice to better myself, Its my choice to

live and It's My CHOICE TO FIGHT THE FOOD DEMON! Thats just how I feel.

But I do feel your excitement and I can hardly wait to welcoming you to the

Loser " Club!

Hugs and Loves,

Theresa

Happy Holidays!

Theresa

*Nothing Tastes As Good As Thinness Feels*

-- I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see if they

had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked it up

and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and she said

in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I had to

ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm approved? " I

couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9! Now I

have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op workup.

I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk about

this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should do

whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he hasn't

seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved or that I

would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would feel better

if he really understood what it is all about.

Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins, and new

foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not be

allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have already

begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all the sugar

and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

T. in OR

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[Guest guest]

,

Congrats on the wonderful news. Its great that your going to have it. My

husband was like yours, what ever you want honey its fine but I just want

you to be alive with me. He went with the flow it wasn't that he wasn't

interested in it he was scared. This is just my suggestion but don't overly

force him to accept it. Men like women have security issues and are afraid

oh she'll get skinny and leave me " I know not me not you but i have heard

it so many times these past few months and I'll be darn if 3 out of the 10

have left their spouses. Ease him into it...I was looked up people from

like Obesityhelp.com saw their before and after pictures and found the most

WOW " ones and showed him every now and again he became more open to the fact

As for the food that is no longer allowed........ Well only cause I had no

control over my eating habits is not fair that someone else has to pay the

penalty, so i still keep stuff in house for him, I cook cakes, cookies, and

buy sweets for him. Cause its my choice to better myself, Its my choice to

live and It's My CHOICE TO FIGHT THE FOOD DEMON! Thats just how I feel.

But I do feel your excitement and I can hardly wait to welcoming you to the

Loser " Club!

Hugs and Loves,

Theresa

Happy Holidays!

Theresa

*Nothing Tastes As Good As Thinness Feels*

-- I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see if they

had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked it up

and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and she said

in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I had to

ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm approved? " I

couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9! Now I

have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op workup.

I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk about

this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should do

whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he hasn't

seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved or that I

would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would feel better

if he really understood what it is all about.

Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins, and new

foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not be

allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have already

begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all the sugar

and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

T. in OR

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[Guest guest]

,

Congrats on the wonderful news. Its great that your going to have it. My

husband was like yours, what ever you want honey its fine but I just want

you to be alive with me. He went with the flow it wasn't that he wasn't

interested in it he was scared. This is just my suggestion but don't overly

force him to accept it. Men like women have security issues and are afraid

oh she'll get skinny and leave me " I know not me not you but i have heard

it so many times these past few months and I'll be darn if 3 out of the 10

have left their spouses. Ease him into it...I was looked up people from

like Obesityhelp.com saw their before and after pictures and found the most

WOW " ones and showed him every now and again he became more open to the fact

As for the food that is no longer allowed........ Well only cause I had no

control over my eating habits is not fair that someone else has to pay the

penalty, so i still keep stuff in house for him, I cook cakes, cookies, and

buy sweets for him. Cause its my choice to better myself, Its my choice to

live and It's My CHOICE TO FIGHT THE FOOD DEMON! Thats just how I feel.

But I do feel your excitement and I can hardly wait to welcoming you to the

Loser " Club!

Hugs and Loves,

Theresa

Happy Holidays!

Theresa

*Nothing Tastes As Good As Thinness Feels*

-- I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see if they

had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked it up

and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and she said

in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I had to

ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm approved? " I

couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9! Now I

have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op workup.

I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk about

this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should do

whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he hasn't

seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved or that I

would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would feel better

if he really understood what it is all about.

Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins, and new

foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not be

allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have already

begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all the sugar

and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

T. in OR

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[Guest guest]

,

Congrats on your approval!

My husband was the same way. He's very unexpressionable (is that a word?)

He also told me " you'll do what you want anyway " . (um....yaaaa!) It is my

body and no one can tell me I can or can't have the surgery (except my

insurance company, which, thank God they approved and I have my surgery next

Friday the 10th!) Anyway, he looks at pictures of women now who have had the

surgery and can't believe they are the same women. He will tell me now

" you'll probably be this thin " and it's a picture of a really beautiful,

thin woman. It makes me feel good that he's kind of getting used to the

fact that I will be thin, but I don't want him to be totally focused on my

body either after I lose the weight (if you know what I mean). Right now I

feel so fat and unattractive, and never want " it " , but I hope that changes

after surgery. He says he's just afraid I may not live through it, and I

tell him that MOST women can cook, so I'm replaceable. At least I have a

sense of humor about it. I don't make desserts now for the family, as my

kids all have a weight problem (my husband doesn't, nor does my 17 year old

daughter), but my other two, 14 year old girl and 10 year old son have

weight problems, and it will get worse. I can see my 14 year old having

this done in a few years because she is so heavy now. After my surgery I

will force her to eat healthy since I won't be able to eat like this

anymore. I'll be making only enough food for the 4 people, and then if she

is hungry she can eat fruit or veggies. I refuse to have junk food or

sweets in the house after this. I don't know how it will all go over, but I

guess if I get rid of it all there isn't much anyone can say about it.

Sorry if I went off on a tangent.

Barb

Barb Beilfuss

Educational Interpreter

love2stamp@...

[Guest guest]

Who's your doc? If your husband needs to talk, I'll volunteer mine & there are

prolly other husbands who would talk.

Thanks,

Vitalady T

www.vitalady.com

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I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see if they

had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked it up

and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and she said

in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I had to

ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm approved? " I

couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9! Now I

have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op workup.

I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk about

this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should do

whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he hasn't

seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved or that I

would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would feel better

if he really understood what it is all about.

Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins, and new

foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not be

allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have already

begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all the sugar

and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

T. in OR

[Guest guest]

T. in OR, where in Oregon are you? My Mom had the surgery in Eugene a

year ago yesterday and my dad has been extremely supportive. Good luck and

congratulations on getting approved.

in Sacramento

Lap RNY 9-16-02

Starting weight, 2/12/02... 380

Pre op weight, 9-16/02... 316

Current weight, 12/30/02...256

Total weight loss... 124

> Who's your doc? If your husband needs to talk, I'll volunteer mine & there

> are prolly other husbands who would talk.

>

>

> Thanks,

>

>

> Vitalady T

> www.vitalady.com

>

> If you are interested in PayPal, please click here:

> https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com

>

> I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

>

>

> I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see if they

> had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked it up

> and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and she said

> in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I had to

> ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm approved? "

> I

> couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9! Now I

> have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op workup.

> I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

>

> Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk about

> this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should do

> whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he

> hasn't

> seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved or that

> I

> would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would feel

> better

> if he really understood what it is all about.

>

> Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins, and new

> foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not be

> allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have already

> begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all the sugar

> and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

>

> T. in OR

[Guest guest]

, that is wonderful! I know, those insurance people are

unbelievable. I had to call mine twice a week just to get them to

review my request. I got the supervisors direct phone# and stayed on

her about it. They don't care. They're at work thinking about what

they have to do when they get out of work, kids, money, coffee break,

whatever! LOL Just a little advice, I wouldn't stock up on protein

shakes just yet tho. I myself (and I've heard from others) have had

a taste change since the surgery. Funny some of the things I thought

tasted good before don't taste so good now. Just my two cents.

Luvs, Selena

Lap RNY 12/23/02

Dr.

University Surgical Associates

Louisville, KY

5'4 "

260 pre-op weight /232 weight today /150-155ish goal weight

> I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see

if they

> had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone

looked it up

> and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and

she said

> in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I

had to

> ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm

approved? " I

> couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud

9! Now I

> have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op

workup.

> I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

>

> Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk

about

> this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I

should do

> whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but

he hasn't

> seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved

or that I

> would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would

feel better

> if he really understood what it is all about.

>

> Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins,

and new

> foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not

be

> allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have

already

> begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all

the sugar

> and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

>

> T. in OR

[Guest guest]

Dear T.

Congratulations on your approval. I'm very happy for you!

I know you have a lot on your mind right now but make a visit to Mom's

website and order several of her protein samples. My favorites are Champion

Nutrition's Pure Whey Stack and ProScore 100, in chocolate of course.

<A HREF= " http://www.vitalady.com/ " >Vitalady.com - Protein Supplements,

Vitamins & Minerals, and Safe

Snacks!</A>

Do this early and you can find a protein powder you like before buying

a large canister that might not be taste-bud friendly. Load, load, load on

your protein (pre-op) and I can almost guarantee that you'll feel better

(post-op).

Take good care and God bless your weight loss journey!

Love,

Trace in Va. Beach, VA

Dr. Schechner, Va. Beach, VA

Open RNY -- 9/5/02

Height -- 5' 9 1/2 "

Starting weight -- 351.2

Current weight -- 275

Minus -- 76 pounds gone!

Gal. 2:20

[Guest guest]

Theresa, I like the way that you put this post. Tony didn't seemed

too interested in the beginning either. But I think now that it's

done, he has become more involved in it. The facts are the facts...

it is my fight, so why should he be penalized? He can eat whatever

he wants to since he's not the one with the major weight problem...

Ok, he could stand to lose about 30lbs... but he's a big boy, he can

do it when he's ready to. I love him and want him to be happy too.

But the kicker of your post that got me was the part where you said

men are insecure. (we all are at some point! LOL) I reassured him

that I will always love him because he has given me love and respect

and has been there for me as an obese person. And if someone can

make you feel the love you need based on the inside, why would you

want to risk losing that and finding a shallow partner that may dump

you if you gain 10 lbs or change the color of your hair? LOL Our

fellas need reassurance and love just like we do. So grab your

partner and hug them and love them and tell them that you will

remember their support and love once you reach goal. I think they

need to hear that. Men get scared too. Sometimes they are just too

macho to say anything about it. Just another 2 cents.... Luvs, Selena

Lap RNY 12/23/02

Dr.

University Surgical Associates

Louisville, KY

5'4 "

260 pre-op weight /232 weight today /150-155ish goal weight

> ,

>

> Congrats on the wonderful news. Its great that your going to have

it. My

> husband was like yours, what ever you want honey its fine but I

just want

> you to be alive with me. He went with the flow it wasn't that he

wasn't

> interested in it he was scared. This is just my suggestion but

don't overly

> force him to accept it. Men like women have security issues and

are afraid

> oh she'll get skinny and leave me " I know not me not you but i

have heard

> it so many times these past few months and I'll be darn if 3 out of

the 10

> have left their spouses. Ease him into it...I was looked up people

from

> like Obesityhelp.com saw their before and after pictures and found

the most

> WOW " ones and showed him every now and again he became more open to

the fact

>

>

> As for the food that is no longer allowed........ Well only cause

I had no

> control over my eating habits is not fair that someone else has to

pay the

> penalty, so i still keep stuff in house for him, I cook cakes,

cookies, and

> buy sweets for him. Cause its my choice to better myself, Its my

choice to

> live and It's My CHOICE TO FIGHT THE FOOD DEMON! Thats just how I

feel.

>

> But I do feel your excitement and I can hardly wait to welcoming

you to the

> Loser " Club!

>

> Hugs and Loves,

> Theresa

>

> Happy Holidays!

>

>

> Theresa

>

> *Nothing Tastes As Good As Thinness Feels*

> -- I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

>

> I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see

if they

> had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked

it up

> and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and

she said

> in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I

had to

> ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm

approved? " I

> couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9!

Now I

> have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op

workup.

> I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

>

> Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk

about

> this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should

do

> whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he

hasn't

> seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved

or that I

> would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would

feel better

> if he really understood what it is all about.

>

> Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins,

and new

> foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not

be

> allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have

already

> begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all

the sugar

> and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

>

> T. in OR

>

>

>

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There is a girl in one of my support groups and she has a daughter, who is a

fairly big little girl. We had a pot luck one time and I watched this

little girl put more food away then I did when I was still of larger size. I

couldn't believe that... SO I do agree with not having it in the house if

one has children that have weight problems, but I don't believe in depriving

them for I remember when my mom tried that, as soon as I got my allowance

guess what I bought, I bought cookies, donuts, candy bars and anything else

I could put my hands on for I wasn't allowed to have it and I felt deprived.

Has anyone seen that show coming on Lifetime, I wish i could remember the

name I'll look for it in a min and report back, its about a mother w/2

daughters and one is larger than the other and she bribes them the first one

who loses 10 lbs gets a bathing suit and well what happens if i watched the

previews right the larger one becomes anorexic (sp?) .

*Nothing Tastes As Good As Thinness Feels*

-- Re: I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

,

Congrats on your approval!

My husband was the same way. He's very unexpressionable (is that a word?)

He also told me " you'll do what you want anyway " . (um....yaaaa!) It is my

body and no one can tell me I can or can't have the surgery (except my

insurance company, which, thank God they approved and I have my surgery next

Friday the 10th!) Anyway, he looks at pictures of women now who have had the

surgery and can't believe they are the same women. He will tell me now

" you'll probably be this thin " and it's a picture of a really beautiful,

thin woman. It makes me feel good that he's kind of getting used to the

fact that I will be thin, but I don't want him to be totally focused on my

body either after I lose the weight (if you know what I mean). Right now I

feel so fat and unattractive, and never want " it " , but I hope that changes

after surgery. He says he's just afraid I may not live through it, and I

tell him that MOST women can cook, so I'm replaceable. At least I have a

sense of humor about it. I don't make desserts now for the family, as my

kids all have a weight problem (my husband doesn't, nor does my 17 year old

daughter), but my other two, 14 year old girl and 10 year old son have

weight problems, and it will get worse. I can see my 14 year old having

this done in a few years because she is so heavy now. After my surgery I

will force her to eat healthy since I won't be able to eat like this

anymore. I'll be making only enough food for the 4 people, and then if she

is hungry she can eat fruit or veggies. I refuse to have junk food or

sweets in the house after this. I don't know how it will all go over, but I

guess if I get rid of it all there isn't much anyone can say about it.

Sorry if I went off on a tangent.

Barb

Barb Beilfuss

Educational Interpreter

love2stamp@...

[Guest guest]

Hey ,

I had my surgery last April 9th. I was so scared I couldnt talk to my

husband about it. I have other heath concerns and the surgery was a step to

hekp save my life. All I told my husband was ....I was dying and he and the

doctors know it...so if I died on the table I at least died trying to change

my life. Well of course I made it. And both hubby and I have changed our

lifestyle and he has lost 80lbs. He has made a conscious decision to change

his eating habits in order to support me and in the meantime has benefited

healthwise and of course looks better. Our children are grown and gone so

its just the two of us here. So its easy to keep all the sugary and white

stuff out of the house. Anyway....things will come around with your hubby.

THere are a lot of hubbies out there that had a cavalier attitude in the

beginning but it changed to admiration. My hubby is great. Ask . He

makes sure I get all my protein and vitamins. He is my hero for hanging in

there with me through all my health problems and surgeries. He is a great

man. Good luck to you on your surgery. I know you will do great. Your hubby

will too.

Vicki S.

-- Re: I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

Who's your doc? If your husband needs to talk, I'll volunteer mine & there

are prolly other husbands who would talk.

Thanks,

Vitalady T

www.vitalady.com

If you are interested in PayPal, please click here:

https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com

I'VE BEEN APPROVED!!!!!!!!

I couldn't wait any longer so I called my insurance company to see if they

had made a decision about my surgery. The woman on the phone looked it up

and asked " is this for gastric bypass surgery? " I said, yes, and she said

in a very bored voice, " it has been approved for a 3 day stay. " I had to

ask her to repeat herself, and then asked " does that mean I'm approved? "

I

couldn't believe that she was so casual about it! I am on cloud 9! Now I

have to wait for a call from my physician to start with the pre-op workup.

I won't know a date for another few weeks or so.

Now that I have been approved, it is time to make my husband talk about

this. He has been pretty non-chalant about it, saying that I should do

whatever I want to do. I want him to be informed about this, but he hasn

t

seemed that interested. I think he assumed I wouldn't be approved or that

I

would change my mind. I know he will be supportive, but I would feel

better

if he really understood what it is all about.

Now is the time to start stocking up on protein powders, vitamins, and new

foods for after surgery! Most of the garbage in our house will not be

allowed afterwards so I will need to start from scratch. I have already

begun reading food labels more carefully and I can't believe all the sugar

and carbs I have been eating--no wonder I could never lose weight!

T. in OR