Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 Bridge/, I chose not to tell very many people about my surgery because of the various reactions I received and I didn't want it to play a factor in people's judgments about me at work. As people are watching me drop weight, they want to know what I am doing. I just tell them that I have changed my eating habits, which is true, but not the whole story. When they ask specifically what I have changed, I tell them that I have cut out sugars and watch my fat content and eat smaller portions, which again is all true. So, I guess what I am saying is don't feel pressured to tell the whole story and don't feel like you have to lie either. Just tell as much as you want to tell. in Virginia 299/250/150 surgery date: 5/3/06 Re: Two week post op Congrats on the 15.2 lbs Bridge! Have you figured out what is causing the nausea? Sometimes it can be dumping. Are you noticing it comes after you eat certain things? As for the people who look down on you...just ignore them! You'll be the one w/ the last laugh when they see you in a year or so & see how great you look & feel! :-) I've been lucky enough so far that I haven't encountered that. I'm sure I will when I go back to work. But, so far everyone has been very happy for me. They see it as a positive change in my life. 380/342/160 kikib1075 wrote: > Hi all, > I am now two weeks post op and Ive lost 15.2 lbs and 13 inches. > Iam feeling realy good. Tommorrow is my First check up. Its > unbelivable all of my incisions are almost healed up and you can > barely tell they were there to begin with. I get nauseas alot lately, > but I havent thrown up ( Thank GOD). > > I just want to thank every for your support. Just having this site has > made things alot nicer. I don't feel so alone. I've noticed at work > and in the community I get two responses, those who are totally > excited and want to no everything and are like cheerleaders and those > who treat me like I have the plague and look down on me. It kinda > hard to gauge why everyone emotions are so strong. > > I am looking forward to more progress. Thanks again for your support > > Bridge > 246/231/145 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 , I could not agree more, I dont plan on telling anybody that does not already know. I am very comfortable with just saying the things you say about eating smaller portions and all that. How do you explain it if somebody sees your scars? Mike T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 I don't worry too much about people's reaction at work that I had the surgery. There's another lady that had the RNY and the " boss " had the lapband last year. I think where I'll get the reaction is that I went to Mexico to have it done. I will probably just tell them that part for shock value! HAHA! :-) 380/343/160 R.D. Abernathy wrote: > Bridge/, > > I chose not to tell very many people about my surgery because of the various reactions I received and I didn't want it to play a factor in people's judgments about me at work. As people are watching me drop weight, they want to know what I am doing. I just tell them that I have changed my eating habits, which is true, but not the whole story. When they ask specifically what I have changed, I tell them that I have cut out sugars and watch my fat content and eat smaller portions, which again is all true. > > So, I guess what I am saying is don't feel pressured to tell the whole story and don't feel like you have to lie either. Just tell as much as you want to tell. > > in Virginia > 299/250/150 > surgery date: 5/3/06 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 , I work for the Marine Corps, so many of them think you just need to have the discipline to exercise and eat right. Their perceptions about the surgery and my having it could have stood in the way of my getting the promotion I just recently received because they might have perceived it as the easy way out or I was just too lazy to work hard enough to be thin. You know all those negative perceptions people have about those who struggle with obesity. I only told a select few because I am close to them. Now that I have the promotion I'm a little less worried about it, but still would rather keep it discrete. I'm glad you have the type of work environment in which you can be open about it and not have to worry about repercussions. in Virginia 299/250/150 surgery date: 5/3/06 Re: People's reactions I don't worry too much about people's reaction at work that I had the surgery. There's another lady that had the RNY and the " boss " had the lapband last year. I think where I'll get the reaction is that I went to Mexico to have it done. I will probably just tell them that part for shock value! HAHA! :-) 380/343/160 R.D. Abernathy wrote: > Bridge/, > > I chose not to tell very many people about my surgery because of the various reactions I received and I didn't want it to play a factor in people's judgments about me at work. As people are watching me drop weight, they want to know what I am doing. I just tell them that I have changed my eating habits, which is true, but not the whole story. When they ask specifically what I have changed, I tell them that I have cut out sugars and watch my fat content and eat smaller portions, which again is all true. > > So, I guess what I am saying is don't feel pressured to tell the whole story and don't feel like you have to lie either. Just tell as much as you want to tell. > > in Virginia > 299/250/150 > surgery date: 5/3/06 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 Hi Mike, Nobody has seen my scars except my husband and close family members who know about the surgery. I can't think of a scenario in which anyone would be seeing my scars unless I show them. Besides my scars are nearly gone. I only have one that is still dark and I think that is because it was in one of my fat creases. Hopefully it will go away too. in Virginia 299/250/150 surgery date: 5/3/06 Re: People's reactions , I could not agree more, I dont plan on telling anybody that does not already know. I am very comfortable with just saying the things you say about eating smaller portions and all that. How do you explain it if somebody sees your scars? Mike T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 I know how you feel about that! My mom went around telling EVERYONE I was having it done & I wanted it kept quiet.BUT that is my mom! Kim RNY 6/23/06 298/260/135 > The thing that bothers > me is that when people I have told go ahead and tell other people. I > feel like if I wanted to tell them, I would have myself. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 I know how you feel about that! My mom went around telling EVERYONE I was having it done & I wanted it kept quiet.BUT that is my mom! Kim RNY 6/23/06 298/260/135 > The thing that bothers > me is that when people I have told go ahead and tell other people. I > feel like if I wanted to tell them, I would have myself. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 I am ROFL!!!! That is too funny mystic! I used to just punch them when I snapped,haha Kim RNY 6/23/06 298/260/135 > I swear if anyone gives me > a hard time about loosing weight, I am going to give them the middle > finger! > > Hugs, > mysticpwr > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 I am ROFL!!!! That is too funny mystic! I used to just punch them when I snapped,haha Kim RNY 6/23/06 298/260/135 > I swear if anyone gives me > a hard time about loosing weight, I am going to give them the middle > finger! > > Hugs, > mysticpwr > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 Hi, Personally I'm proud to tell them I had the surgery. I think it is the most amazing gift and love to share. Yes, now and then I get some not so good reactions (I HATE when people say I took the easy way out) but all in all most are very intriuged and want to know more. As for those who don't believe in it etc., I remind myself they are entitled to their opinion and WE know it was anything but easy!!! Open RNY 1/10/05 310/250/150 > > Hi all, > > I am now two weeks post op and Ive lost 15.2 lbs and 13 inches. > > Iam feeling realy good. Tommorrow is my First check up. Its > > unbelivable all of my incisions are almost healed up and you can > > barely tell they were there to begin with. I get nauseas alot lately, > > but I havent thrown up ( Thank GOD). > > > > I just want to thank every for your support. Just having this site has > > made things alot nicer. I don't feel so alone. I've noticed at work > > and in the community I get two responses, those who are totally > > excited and want to no everything and are like cheerleaders and those > > who treat me like I have the plague and look down on me. It kinda > > hard to gauge why everyone emotions are so strong. > > > > I am looking forward to more progress. Thanks again for your support > > > > Bridge > > 246/231/145 > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 I am still waiting on approval and am trying to decide what to do about telling people when the time comes. I have told 4 friends at work and have to decide what to tell a few other people that will miss me for the 2 weeks I would be away from work. I am so bad at flat out lies that I don't want to say I'm going on vacation. It's not really that I want to keep it a secret and I don't really car what anyone thinks. The problem is that I have the insecurity that it won't work and then I feel like everyone would look at me like I'm a loser (and not the good kind). It's one thing to fail at something and another to have it be so public. I don't think there is any chance that I would truly fail to lose weight, but after carrying it for so long, my self-confidence is a bit lacking. Assuming it worked, though, I agree with the finger idea for critics! > > > The thing that bothers > > me is that when people I have told go ahead and tell other > people. I > > feel like if I wanted to tell them, I would have myself. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 Mike I agree!!! As a matter of fact I work at a daycare and my boss told one of the parents I was having this done. She had some very negative comments about the surgery. She's one of those people who knows everything and anything.....I had a few words to say about her opinions and ended my tyrade with the finger(discretly of course...lol) Laurel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2006 Report Share Posted July 15, 2006 I feel the same way. Don't know how to explain missing 2 weeks or more of work without flat out lying and that bothers me. I figure that I would rather people think that I took the easy way out (but see me eating healthy, exercising, and looking good) and not think " look at that fat, lazy butt who can't seem to be able to stop eating long enough to lose weight. " I don't know in fact that this is what most people think, but I can imagine that it does cross some people's minds on occasion. > > I've actually told quite a few people. At first I wasn't going to, but I > figure they'll all figure it out anyway. Why even start the charade if I can > t finish it, ya know? All of my family knows. They want to take family pics > while we're back home. I actually asked them to wait until next year, so I > won't be fat in them! Lol They just said they'll take new pics. I've had > nothing but good reactions-with the 2 exceptions. One woman's had the > surgery-just last year-and it seems like she doesn't WANT me to succeed. She > s negative whenever I talk to her. I just quit even trying. The other was my > best friend, who was genuinely concerned about my health afterwards. She's > still concerned, but has taken the time to read all of the info I've sent to > her. > Most people are small minded. I keep that thought foremost in my head > whenever I mention the surgery. I chalk nastiness up to ignorance. > > > " If you don't stand behind our troops, > Feel free to stand in front of them " > Proud military wife to > Proud momma to , , , Jayden, > and Marielle > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2006 Report Share Posted July 15, 2006 , I was a little upset with her for telling this particular person...She's a very negative person. I understand somewhat why she told her. We work in a small daycare and because of quotas she's going to need an extra sub when her mom can't fill in. This person sometimes fills in for me when I'm out. I just wish she had let me make the decision on whether or not to tell this person. Some people I've only told I'm having gal bladder surgery( my grandfather...he's 85 a bit hard to explain this too) others I have no intention of telling. My boss usually means well but sometimes she doesn't think before she talks. oh well....it's done and over with now. Laurel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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