Re: Re: People's reactions

[Guest guest]

I'm with you ...I don't care who knows about the surgery and if they

have any questions I will anwser them and tell them all about it. As for

this being the easy way out all I have to say is some people dont have a

clue. We changed our bodies but we still have to deal with the head

hunger..

Marilynn

>

> Hi,

> Personally I'm proud to tell them I had the surgery. I think it is

> the most amazing gift and love to share. Yes, now and then I get

> some not so good reactions (I HATE when people say I took the easy

> way out) but all in all most are very intriuged and want to know

> more. As for those who don't believe in it etc., I remind myself

> they are entitled to their opinion and WE know it was anything but

> easy!!!

>

>

> Open RNY 1/10/05

> 310/250/150

>

>

> > > Hi all,

> > > I am now two weeks post op and Ive lost 15.2 lbs and 13

> inches.

> > > Iam feeling realy good. Tommorrow is my First check up. Its

> > > unbelivable all of my incisions are almost healed up and you

> can

> > > barely tell they were there to begin with. I get nauseas alot

> lately,

> > > but I havent thrown up ( Thank GOD).

> > >

> > > I just want to thank every for your support. Just having this

> site has

> > > made things alot nicer. I don't feel so alone. I've noticed at

> work

> > > and in the community I get two responses, those who are

> totally

> > > excited and want to no everything and are like cheerleaders

> and those

> > > who treat me like I have the plague and look down on me. It

> kinda

> > > hard to gauge why everyone emotions are so strong.

> > >

> > > I am looking forward to more progress. Thanks again for your

> support

> > >

> > > Bridge

> > > 246/231/145

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

And most of the time those who say we took the easy way out are the ones

who don't have weight issues & have no clue what we've been thru.

380/344/160

Wild Child wrote:

> I'm with you ...I don't care who knows about the surgery and if they

> have any questions I will anwser them and tell them all about it. As for

> this being the easy way out all I have to say is some people dont have a

> clue. We changed our bodies but we still have to deal with the head

> hunger..

> Marilynn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

And most of the time those who say we took the easy way out are the ones

who don't have weight issues & have no clue what we've been thru.

380/344/160

Wild Child wrote:

> I'm with you ...I don't care who knows about the surgery and if they

> have any questions I will anwser them and tell them all about it. As for

> this being the easy way out all I have to say is some people dont have a

> clue. We changed our bodies but we still have to deal with the head

> hunger..

> Marilynn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I've actually told quite a few people. At first I wasn't going to, but I

figure they'll all figure it out anyway. Why even start the charade if I can

t finish it, ya know? All of my family knows. They want to take family pics

while we're back home. I actually asked them to wait until next year, so I

won't be fat in them! Lol They just said they'll take new pics. I've had

nothing but good reactions-with the 2 exceptions. One woman's had the

surgery-just last year-and it seems like she doesn't WANT me to succeed. She

s negative whenever I talk to her. I just quit even trying. The other was my

best friend, who was genuinely concerned about my health afterwards. She's

still concerned, but has taken the time to read all of the info I've sent to

her.

Most people are small minded. I keep that thought foremost in my head

whenever I mention the surgery. I chalk nastiness up to ignorance.

" If you don't stand behind our troops,

Feel free to stand in front of them "

Proud military wife to

Proud momma to , , , Jayden,

and Marielle

[Guest guest]

Racheal, that brought to my mind the times as a teenager that I got picked last

for teams. We had an all girls touch football game during gym one day. I was the

last one picked because of my weight. It was quiet funny when I ran faster then

most of them skinny minnies and had heart in what I did. I made more touch

downs, threw touch downs, and was praised for doing so great with of course the

look of shock on many of their faces!!

I even played basketball one day with some guys friends. I was the only girl.

They thought they were going wipe the floor with me, however, I was making shots

and they were like damn, they stopped laying back around me and although they

did kick my butt in the end, I showed them to never under estimate your

opponent, no matter what size they are

LOVE Those memories!!!! Looks can be so deceiving sometimes!!

" R.D. Abernathy " wrote:

,

I work in an environment (Marine Corps civilian employee) where people think you

just have to have the discipline to exercise and eat right. Many of them would

have the perception that I took the easy way out because I am young (30), had no

health issues other than a sore back, and I still had the ability to walk. Even

though it shouldn't, their perceptions could affect my progression within the

organization. Many people think if you are fat then you are lazy and not a good

worker, which all of us here know that is not true. However, since I knew what

the perceptions were ahead of time, I chose to be discrete with the people I

work with.

I am proud of myself and I have no problem sharing with my family, friends, and

church. And, not one of them has had a negative comment. They are all

supportive.

in Virginia

299/248/150

surgery day: 5/3/06

Re: People's reactions

Hi,

Personally I'm proud to tell them I had the surgery. I think it is

the most amazing gift and love to share. Yes, now and then I get

some not so good reactions (I HATE when people say I took the easy

way out) but all in all most are very intriuged and want to know

more. As for those who don't believe in it etc., I remind myself

they are entitled to their opinion and WE know it was anything but

easy!!!

Open RNY 1/10/05

310/250/150

> > Hi all,

> > I am now two weeks post op and Ive lost 15.2 lbs and 13

inches.

> > Iam feeling realy good. Tommorrow is my First check up. Its

> > unbelivable all of my incisions are almost healed up and you

can

> > barely tell they were there to begin with. I get nauseas alot

lately,

> > but I havent thrown up ( Thank GOD).

> >

> > I just want to thank every for your support. Just having this

site has

> > made things alot nicer. I don't feel so alone. I've noticed at

work

> > and in the community I get two responses, those who are

totally

> > excited and want to no everything and are like cheerleaders

and those

> > who treat me like I have the plague and look down on me. It

kinda

> > hard to gauge why everyone emotions are so strong.

> >

> > I am looking forward to more progress. Thanks again for your

support

> >

> > Bridge

> > 246/231/145

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

, this is something you are doing for yourself. I feel that it is up to

you and really, it's no ones business but yours to be quite blunt. There is this

huge thing going on with Star , I feel that it is wrong for people to think

she should HAVE to tell everyone whether she has surgery or not. It's her

business, leave it alone. My opinion anyways!!!

wrote:

I am still waiting on approval and am trying to decide what to do

about telling people when the time comes. I have told 4 friends at

work and have to decide what to tell a few other people that will miss

me for the 2 weeks I would be away from work. I am so bad at flat out

lies that I don't want to say I'm going on vacation.

It's not really that I want to keep it a secret and I don't really car

what anyone thinks. The problem is that I have the insecurity that it

won't work and then I feel like everyone would look at me like I'm a

loser (and not the good kind). It's one thing to fail at something and

another to have it be so public. I don't think there is any chance

that I would truly fail to lose weight, but after carrying it for so

long, my self-confidence is a bit lacking.

Assuming it worked, though, I agree with the finger idea for critics!

> >

> The thing that bothers

> > me is that when people I have told go ahead and tell other

> people. I

> > feel like if I wanted to tell them, I would have myself.

> >

> >

> >

>

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[Guest guest]

Ya know...I was thinking about being in school earlier today & had a

memory that wasn't very pleasant. When I was in grammer school they

used to weigh us and measure our height once or twice a year. I can

remember dreading those day sooooooooooo much because I was the biggest

kid in the class. I don't know why they did it. And they always

weighed you in front of the whole class. UGH! It was horrible. I'd

protest if they tried to do that at my daughter's school now.

380/344/160

Shauna Thalman wrote:

> Racheal, that brought to my mind the times as a teenager that I got picked

last for teams. We had an all girls touch football game during gym one day. I

was the last one picked because of my weight. It was quiet funny when I ran

faster then most of them skinny minnies and had heart in what I did. I made more

touch downs, threw touch downs, and was praised for doing so great with of

course the look of shock on many of their faces!!

>

> I even played basketball one day with some guys friends. I was the only

girl. They thought they were going wipe the floor with me, however, I was making

shots and they were like damn, they stopped laying back around me and although

they did kick my butt in the end, I showed them to never under estimate your

opponent, no matter what size they are

>

> LOVE Those memories!!!! Looks can be so deceiving sometimes!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I agree!!

Woodard wrote:

Ya know...I was thinking about being in school earlier today & had a

memory that wasn't very pleasant. When I was in grammer school they

used to weigh us and measure our height once or twice a year. I can

remember dreading those day sooooooooooo much because I was the biggest

kid in the class. I don't know why they did it. And they always

weighed you in front of the whole class. UGH! It was horrible. I'd

protest if they tried to do that at my daughter's school now.

380/344/160

Shauna Thalman wrote:

> Racheal, that brought to my mind the times as a teenager that I got picked

last for teams. We had an all girls touch football game during gym one day. I

was the last one picked because of my weight. It was quiet funny when I ran

faster then most of them skinny minnies and had heart in what I did. I made more

touch downs, threw touch downs, and was praised for doing so great with of

course the look of shock on many of their faces!!

>

> I even played basketball one day with some guys friends. I was the only girl.

They thought they were going wipe the floor with me, however, I was making shots

and they were like damn, they stopped laying back around me and although they

did kick my butt in the end, I showed them to never under estimate your

opponent, no matter what size they are

>

> LOVE Those memories!!!! Looks can be so deceiving sometimes!!

>

>

>

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