Jeanmarie's boyfriend

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>>>>>>>Jeanmarie said: Subject: I need advice

>>>>>>am just about 23 and I have had a boyfriend

>>>>>>>we have been living together for two years. I was

>>>>>>>>diagnosed with Lupus Nephritis

>>>>>>>I have been having signs of renal failure and it has been a

>>>>>>>difficult Before I started getting worse, we were

>>>>>>>talking about getting married And now he says that

>>>>>>>>he is feeling trapped.

>>>>>>>going through in his own way or if he is trying to push me away

>>>>>>>because he still has unresolved issues from his Dad's death.

>>>>>>>every time we start getting close again, he gets weird around me.

>>>>>>>>I don't know if this is really a healthy situation for me to be in

>>>>>>>>right now. either get out of this relationship or see if Greg comes

>>>>>>>>around and supports me more?

I am sorry Jeanmarie. I am a Christian so you may not like to hear that I

believe in marriage. I can't help but feel that if he wanted to make a real

commitment to you, you would be married now. It sounds like he is afraid he

will have to take care of you. Why were you waiting to get married when you

have lived together for 2 years? If he feels trapped, let him go. If he

feels trapped now, when you are married you will be the one trapped. He

will not all of a sudden become a caring, giving husband just because you

get a ring. Do you have a family to move in with? You need support right

now & he sounds too immature to provide it. You call him your boyfriend &

that sounds like that is what he is, a boy, not a man. Stress is a killer

with lupus. This boy is causing you stress & marriage will only make it

worse. If you have children the stress will be ten fold! My suggestion is

to cut him loose & find a kind supporting husband. Cheryl in CA