Jean Marie .. On Love and Respect

[Guest guest]

Marie ..

I hope you can find some help in the article

below. I believe that the two of you may very well benefit from a marriage

counselor. Most churches offer the service.

Yes .. you may never marry .. you may only remain

friends .. but the knowledge you will have gained from the counseling will

go with you for a lifetime.

The both of you need to learn to deal with your

fears of death and sickness. Why does it cause him fear? What impact is

it going to have on your life?

Only by talking will you find these answers. And

it helps to have an unbiased person there to act as a mediator.

hugs..

On Love and Respect

In a relationship, a marriage, or a friendship,

many people believe it is a 50/50 proposition. I am here to tell you there

are times when you will pull 90% and they will pull 10%. Then, the day

comes when he/she will pull 100% and you 0 %. These are the times when

we feel the most helpless.

As we are fighting our own feelings of inadequacy,

we are humbled to the fact that we need help and sometimes the only way

to get it is to ask for it. Sometimes it is very hard to ask for help;

it can be very frightening. Never be afraid to ask for help though, for

trust is behind the act of asking and trust is a large part of a relationship.

Trust is the heart behind the body of love.

Respect for the other person's feelings, respect

for their right to a bit of privacy, respect for their right to be angry,

or happy, or sad, or jubilant without taking offense or holding their feelings

against them is the backbone of any relationship. If you take that respect

away, the relationship crumbles for there is nothing to help hold it together.

A relationship can be delightful or it can

be full of sorrow. You have the ability to live a life of bliss, or allow

yourself to be thrown into an abyss of torment. If you allow yourself to

be treated with disrespect then your life will be a nightmare of your own

making. You have the ability and the right to say, "You are hurting me

in this relationship".

You also need to recognize the other person's

position and not trample their thoughts and their dreams into dust by using

unkind words or deeds.

A relationship can be a journey through paradise,

or it can be a lifetime of anguish. It is up to you to decide which it

is to be.

© April 2000 "Rion"

Sewell