Light Bulb Moment

[Guest guest]

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> Eating in evening times has long been a point of concern with me. I am not as

plagued with it now as I was bothered by it when I began, but it has continued

to pester at me, especially when I know that I am NOT hungry. Yet it seems that

I can't sit down and enjoy our evening entertainment without 'enhancing' that

pleasure with a 'treat'. I've often asked myself " What is it you really want? "

(instead of the food I am eating). I've danced around the edges of this issue

with realizations such as 1) past associations - TV time was always snack time

in my family and 2) food = pleasure etc. All true, but none really satisfying

for an answer

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> This morning a thought popped into my head that rings true for me - eating in

the evening is an 'indulgence',and a reminder that I merit good things for me.

As long as I fight that meriting, I am also fighting my deep need to be

appreciated, even/especially by myself.

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> Katcha

> IEing since March 2007

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eating in the evenings has always been an issue for me too. i have ALWAYS

counted in a dessert after dinner, even if it turns out i don't really need/want

it. but like you said i was always stumped as to why i felt like i had to have

something extra every night. your light bulb moment has given me something to

think about. kudos on learning more and more about yourself.

[Guest guest]

Okay...so I realized today why I feel so frustrated...someone responded awhile back to my frustrated post that I probably still had some diet mentality hang-ups.  I thought, " No way.  I know diets don't work. "   But today, in talking w/ my husband, I realized yes, yes I do!  Here's the hang up and why I get so frustrated w/ IE....

I expect that if I follow IE for a week (treating it like I do WW and following the " rules " 100%) then I'll drop 5 lbs...just like I can do w/ WW.  However, IE is a MUCH MUCH slower process.  And as I think back to when I did an IE type program before (Spring of 1999) I didn't reach what I believe to be my bodies natural weight until about 10 months later--about a 40 lb loss.  With WW I could drop 40 lbs in a much shorter time period...if I followed it religiously.  However...it comes back w/ that approach and is full of a whole host of other problems and hangups.

So...the light bulb for me is to just keep on, keepin' on!  To give my body time to learn new/re-learn old skills and to not get frustrated when I see no loss b/c it's not going to happen like it does w/ WW.  I have to continually remind myself of how this process worked 10 years ago...and give my body the grace it needs b/c it's 10 years older than it was the last time I adopted the IE philosophy.

Just wanted to share.  It was just encouraging to realize that IE has worked before...I just wasn't watching a scale or a calendar last time!  I was just listening to my body back then.  Robyn

-- Of course I'm crazy, but that doesn't mean I'm wrong!iBlog at www.trlw.blogspot.com

[Guest guest]

We can give Gold Stars too Katcha

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> Robyn,

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> Yay for you! I think we need some sort of bronze lightbulb trophy or

something...LOL

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[Guest guest]

Hi Robyn,

I love your insights! Such positive thoughts about being patient with the IE process! Thanks for posting this.

Laurie

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Fri, December 11, 2009 4:10:19 PMSubject: Light Bulb Moment

Okay...so I realized today why I feel so frustrated.. .someone responded awhile back to my frustrated post that I probably still had some diet mentality hang-ups. I thought, "No way. I know diets don't work." But today, in talking w/ my husband, I realized yes, yes I do! Here's the hang up and why I get so frustrated w/ IE....