Re: And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

[Guest guest]

When I signed up for this group I did not realize intuitive eating was a book/plan.

I just typed in emotional eating and this was one of the groups. I have not gotten much from the group because I have not understood much of what is going on.Is this group for people who have an understanding of intuitive eating or is it also away to learn about it.

L & P

PJ

Thinking about unsubbing not sure I fit here

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sun, December 13, 2009 7:47:54 PMSubject: And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

Hi Everyone,

For those of you who don't know me, I am the owner or "list-mom" of this group. I haven't been posting much lately and that will change soon, but I had to jump in here and ask that we get back on topic. By on topic, I mean back to sharing our successes, "a-ha" moments, times of challenge, and basically showing support of our fellow group members. I have read the post in question several times now, and while it is highly rules-driven and representative of the all-or-nothing, or black and white thinking that is so prevalent in diet mentality, I completely understand all of your reactions. In general those of us who tend to eat for emotional reasons are on the sensitive side (including me, big time!), so I think everyone who contributed to the conversation did a very good job of responding in a much more respectful way than you may have wanted. (And yes, that is ALL of you, no one needs to be

worried or paranoid, I include you all). I hear your frustration and frankly, shock, about that post. Clearly the poster either has not completely bought in to the philosophy of IE or is experiencing a lot of internal conflict, maybe due to letting go of control, and this is her/his way of trying to gain control. That's a big issue I see a lot in coaching IE. Letting go of control (dieting/restrictio n) is scary, and many people will look for other ways to gain control. Some people will abuse shopping, addictive substances (not very often, fortunately) , or turn their focus to controlling a spouse, children, etc. They usually don't see it when they are doing it, but it's not unusual. I can't say that this is what this person is doing, but it may be, given all the rules she/he is imposing.

I see a few very positive outcomes from this situation. And because of this, I would like to publicly acknowledge Katcha and let her know that it is a blessing that she let the post go through. Katcha works extremely hard to support everyone in this group and she has endless amounts of caring and supportive energy, as you are all aware. Because of her (and Eva, our other co-moderator) , I have been able to have the space to deal with some personal issues as well as work on various exciting projects coming out next year. We are all really lucky to have her here.

So, what can we learn from this?

First, if you go back and look at the responses from those of you that replied to the original post, you'll see how committed you are to IE and how ingrained it is in your mind, and I have to assume, your life. You can probably remember when you first heard about this weird thing called IE and how foreign and maybe even scary it seemed. And, like most people, you probably had some time and possibly more diets to go through before you completely embraced IE. I know that many of you are still in the beginning stages of your journey, and probably some of you are still in the this-is-scary, I-can't-possibly- do-this phase. I hope these posts show you that it is going to click for you, and you will be just as excited and committed that you will want to defend it as well.

Second, I learned a very powerful lesson when I was working with my IE mentor and I share it with my clients because it's so important. When you are experiencing conflict with someone, no matter who it is, and no matter how wrong you think they are, the best thing you can do for yourself is have compassion for that person. It's really easy to get mad, take their actions personally, want to change them, and even tell them why they are wrong. And if you think about it, you probably know that all those approaches generally do not work or help. The person isn't going to change just because you want them to. That's where compassion comes in. So using this post we've been discussing as an example, we can say (as a couple of you already have to a certain extent), "Isn't that sad that she is so rules-driven and can't experience the freedom that comes with IE?" And it is sad, and a few of you

have said you feel sorry for her (assuming she is a "her"). When you have compassion, it takes all the feelings that you are being attacked personally by that person away. You take back the power over your feelings instead of letting someone else cause your feelings. You can't do much about her beliefs or actions, but having compassion will help you express your feelings (and not eat over them) while not having the stressful, awful feelings of anger take over and cause actions you may regret or simply affect you in a very negative way. This is so powerful, I hope you can understand it. If you want to discuss it more or share your thoughts, please do and I'll be sure to respond as well.

Third, I thought it was awesome that Arnie posted how the poster could possibly learn from our group if the discussion about her post stops and we just carry on as before. I can't tell you how often I get a personal email from a member telling me how much they get from the posts even though they stay in the background and don't jump into the conversations. We have over 1300 members and only a small percentage are actively posting, so lots more are reading and taking it in without any of us knowing. Because of this, I would like to allow the poster to remain in the group if she chooses and hopefully she will find some benefit. If she chooses to leave, that is her decision, but I am not going to ban her at this time. All new members have their posts moderated before the show up in the group, and she is no exception. So any future similar posts will not be allowed, although I don't expect any.

In case she is reading this, I want to confirm the recommendation of Shape Down. My understanding is Gwen's problem has morphed into a much more rules-driven, your body is a temple type program, it is not IE based as it was in the beginning. Thin Within may be a nice in between for those that want an IE approach but with the structure of a spiritually- driven program.

So to sum up a very long email, there are two major take-aways: 1) Many of you are doing a wonderful job of embracing IE, and those of you not there yet, you can see that it is possible and it will happen, and 2) When you are in conflict with someone and you don't see that anything will change, having an attitude of compassion will go a long way in helping you accept it and move on. And just like forgiveness (which is different from compassion), you don't have to let that person know, it's really for you. Just like holding a grudge almost always only hurts you, and not the other person, it is the same with being angry or resentful. Compassion is for you.

I would love your thoughts, questions, experiences that relate to this, etc. If you need to send me a private email, that's fine, use gillian@healthierou tcomes.com.

So let's move forward, let the subject drop and move on to our main focus of adopting and learning IE and moving through the journey.

Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

Get your report, "The 6 Steps to Guilt-Fr*e Eating" at http://www.Healthie rOutcomes. com Follow me on Twitter: http://www.twitter. com/gillianhood

[Guest guest]

PJ this is a group for newbies as well as those with more IE practice too. I had

read some non-dieting type books before I joined here, but I hadn't read 'the'

Intuitive Eating book so I was a bit out of touch at first, but I soon caught on

as I read along. There is a Book List in the Files section at the group. I

highly recommend at least looking at it and you can copy it over and print it

out to take to a book store or library to look at the books first and see what

is available. I found reading what has been laid out so well by authors is an

excellent way to 'get' what this is all about quickly and throughly too.

Newbies are allowed to ask questions! This not only helps them to get the

information they need, it helps those who have worked on these practices to

review and re-do too. Nothing like 'OH MY! I had forgotten that' for reinforcing

one;s own practices too ;-)

If you think this is a process that you would like to do for yourself, I

encourage you to at least read back - starting with last week's posts - and get

a good idea of what this group is about as well as perhaps finding out what the

'lingo' is and questions raised etc.

BEST to you, Katcha

IEing since March

PS its OK to not be comfortable at first, that's a sign of change triggering.

And we are always 'here' when you are ready if that isn't at this exact moment.

>

> When I signed up for this group I did not realize intuitive eating was a

book/plan.

> I just typed in emotional eating and this was one of the groups. I have not

gotten much from the group because I have not understood much of what is going

on.Is this group for people who have an understanding of intuitive eating or is

it also away to learn about it.

> L & P

> PJ

> Thinking about unsubbing not sure I fit here

[Guest guest]

Hey, PJ. There many of us are emotional eating as well. I am one of those. This group is about support people who has various reasons to come join this group. I don't know what it is you are looking for this emotional eating. Yes, there is a book for this and to be honest with you after reading the book myself. This book does include emotional eating as well in some of chapters. Eliza DomingeVolunteer Chat CoordinatorEveryone deserve have a better second chance.Domestic Abuse Helpline for the Men and Womenhttp://dahmw.org/

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Mon, December 14, 2009 6:23:34 AMSubject: Re: And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

When I signed up for this group I did not realize intuitive eating was a book/plan.

I just typed in emotional eating and this was one of the groups. I have not gotten much from the group because I have not understood much of what is going on.Is this group for people who have an understanding of intuitive eating or is it also away to learn about it.

L & P

PJ

Thinking about unsubbing not sure I fit here

From: Gillian Hood-son <gillian@healthierou tcomes.com>To: IntuitiveEating_ Support@yahoogro ups.comSent: Sun, December 13, 2009 7:47:54 PMSubject: [intuitiveEating_ Support] And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

Hi Everyone,

For those of you who don't know me, I am the owner or "list-mom" of this group. I haven't been posting much lately and that will change soon, but I had to jump in here and ask that we get back on topic. By on topic, I mean back to sharing our successes, "a-ha" moments, times of challenge, and basically showing support of our fellow group members. I have read the post in question several times now, and while it is highly rules-driven and representative of the all-or-nothing, or black and white thinking that is so prevalent in diet mentality, I completely understand all of your reactions. In general those of us who tend to eat for emotional reasons are on the sensitive side (including me, big time!), so I think everyone who contributed to the conversation did a very good job of responding in a much more respectful way than you may have wanted. (And yes, that is ALL of you, no one needs to be

worried or paranoid, I include you all). I hear your frustration and frankly, shock, about that post. Clearly the poster either has not completely bought in to the philosophy of IE or is experiencing a lot of internal conflict, maybe due to letting go of control, and this is her/his way of trying to gain control. That's a big issue I see a lot in coaching IE. Letting go of control (dieting/restrictio n) is scary, and many people will look for other ways to gain control. Some people will abuse shopping, addictive substances (not very often, fortunately) , or turn their focus to controlling a spouse, children, etc. They usually don't see it when they are doing it, but it's not unusual. I can't say that this is what this person is doing, but it may be, given all the rules she/he is imposing.

I see a few very positive outcomes from this situation. And because of this, I would like to publicly acknowledge Katcha and let her know that it is a blessing that she let the post go through. Katcha works extremely hard to support everyone in this group and she has endless amounts of caring and supportive energy, as you are all aware. Because of her (and Eva, our other co-moderator) , I have been able to have the space to deal with some personal issues as well as work on various exciting projects coming out next year. We are all really lucky to have her here.

So, what can we learn from this?

First, if you go back and look at the responses from those of you that replied to the original post, you'll see how committed you are to IE and how ingrained it is in your mind, and I have to assume, your life. You can probably remember when you first heard about this weird thing called IE and how foreign and maybe even scary it seemed. And, like most people, you probably had some time and possibly more diets to go through before you completely embraced IE. I know that many of you are still in the beginning stages of your journey, and probably some of you are still in the this-is-scary, I-can't-possibly- do-this phase. I hope these posts show you that it is going to click for you, and you will be just as excited and committed that you will want to defend it as well.

Second, I learned a very powerful lesson when I was working with my IE mentor and I share it with my clients because it's so important. When you are experiencing conflict with someone, no matter who it is, and no matter how wrong you think they are, the best thing you can do for yourself is have compassion for that person. It's really easy to get mad, take their actions personally, want to change them, and even tell them why they are wrong. And if you think about it, you probably know that all those approaches generally do not work or help. The person isn't going to change just because you want them to. That's where compassion comes in. So using this post we've been discussing as an example, we can say (as a couple of you already have to a certain extent), "Isn't that sad that she is so rules-driven and can't experience the freedom that comes with IE?" And it is sad, and a few of you

have said you feel sorry for her (assuming she is a "her"). When you have compassion, it takes all the feelings that you are being attacked personally by that person away. You take back the power over your feelings instead of letting someone else cause your feelings. You can't do much about her beliefs or actions, but having compassion will help you express your feelings (and not eat over them) while not having the stressful, awful feelings of anger take over and cause actions you may regret or simply affect you in a very negative way. This is so powerful, I hope you can understand it. If you want to discuss it more or share your thoughts, please do and I'll be sure to respond as well.

Third, I thought it was awesome that Arnie posted how the poster could possibly learn from our group if the discussion about her post stops and we just carry on as before. I can't tell you how often I get a personal email from a member telling me how much they get from the posts even though they stay in the background and don't jump into the conversations. We have over 1300 members and only a small percentage are actively posting, so lots more are reading and taking it in without any of us knowing. Because of this, I would like to allow the poster to remain in the group if she chooses and hopefully she will find some benefit. If she chooses to leave, that is her decision, but I am not going to ban her at this time. All new members have their posts moderated before the show up in the group, and she is no exception. So any future similar posts will not be allowed, although I don't expect any.

In case she is reading this, I want to confirm the recommendation of Shape Down. My understanding is Gwen's problem has morphed into a much more rules-driven, your body is a temple type program, it is not IE based as it was in the beginning. Thin Within may be a nice in between for those that want an IE approach but with the structure of a spiritually- driven program.

So to sum up a very long email, there are two major take-aways: 1) Many of you are doing a wonderful job of embracing IE, and those of you not there yet, you can see that it is possible and it will happen, and 2) When you are in conflict with someone and you don't see that anything will change, having an attitude of compassion will go a long way in helping you accept it and move on. And just like forgiveness (which is different from compassion), you don't have to let that person know, it's really for you. Just like holding a grudge almost always only hurts you, and not the other person, it is the same with being angry or resentful. Compassion is for you.

I would love your thoughts, questions, experiences that relate to this, etc. If you need to send me a private email, that's fine, use gillian@healthierou tcomes.com.

So let's move forward, let the subject drop and move on to our main focus of adopting and learning IE and moving through the journey.

Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

Get your report, "The 6 Steps to Guilt-Fr*e Eating" at http://www.Healthie rOutcomes. com Follow me on Twitter: http://www.twitter. com/gillianhood

[Guest guest]

PJ, although I'm a newbie to IE and others who have been IEing longer may provide a better response, to me IE is a process whereby if you commit to the process and follow the principles you gain peace of mind and a healthy relationship with food and your body. May I suggest that you take a look at the list of books recommended on the IE website. But first please read "Intuitive Eating" by Tribole and Elyse Resch that outlines the basic tenets of the IE process, one of which is learning to cope with your emotions without using food.

All the best,

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

By the way, PJ, I forgot to mention that emotional eating is also an issue for me and probably others in the support.

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

What I am looking for this group can't ultimatly give me. It might however help me get there. I want to be a weight where my husband will really love me and not be wishing there was less of me to love.

L & P

PJ

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Mon, December 14, 2009 10:54:38 AMSubject: Re: And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

Hey, PJ. There many of us are emotional eating as well. I am one of those. This group is about support people who has various reasons to come join this group. I don't know what it is you are looking for this emotional eating. Yes, there is a book for this and to be honest with you after reading the book myself. This book does include emotional eating as well in some of chapters. Eliza DomingeVolunteer Chat CoordinatorEveryone deserve have a better second chance.Domestic Abuse Helpline for the Men and Womenhttp://dahmw. org/

From: pjmack <macktop9prodigy (DOT) net>To: IntuitiveEating_ Support@yahoogro ups.comSent: Mon, December 14, 2009 6:23:34 AMSubject: Re: [intuitiveEating_ Support] And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

When I signed up for this group I did not realize intuitive eating was a book/plan.

I just typed in emotional eating and this was one of the groups. I have not gotten much from the group because I have not understood much of what is going on.Is this group for people who have an understanding of intuitive eating or is it also away to learn about it.

L & P

PJ

Thinking about unsubbing not sure I fit here

From: Gillian Hood-son <gillian@healthierou tcomes.com>To: IntuitiveEating_ Support@yahoogro ups.comSent: Sun, December 13, 2009 7:47:54 PMSubject: [intuitiveEating_ Support] And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

Hi Everyone,

For those of you who don't know me, I am the owner or "list-mom" of this group. I haven't been posting much lately and that will change soon, but I had to jump in here and ask that we get back on topic. By on topic, I mean back to sharing our successes, "a-ha" moments, times of challenge, and basically showing support of our fellow group members. I have read the post in question several times now, and while it is highly rules-driven and representative of the all-or-nothing, or black and white thinking that is so prevalent in diet mentality, I completely understand all of your reactions. In general those of us who tend to eat for emotional reasons are on the sensitive side (including me, big time!), so I think everyone who contributed to the conversation did a very good job of responding in a much more respectful way than you may have wanted. (And yes, that is ALL of you, no one needs to be

worried or paranoid, I include you all). I hear your frustration and frankly, shock, about that post. Clearly the poster either has not completely bought in to the philosophy of IE or is experiencing a lot of internal conflict, maybe due to letting go of control, and this is her/his way of trying to gain control. That's a big issue I see a lot in coaching IE. Letting go of control (dieting/restrictio n) is scary, and many people will look for other ways to gain control. Some people will abuse shopping, addictive substances (not very often, fortunately) , or turn their focus to controlling a spouse, children, etc. They usually don't see it when they are doing it, but it's not unusual. I can't say that this is what this person is doing, but it may be, given all the rules she/he is imposing.

I see a few very positive outcomes from this situation. And because of this, I would like to publicly acknowledge Katcha and let her know that it is a blessing that she let the post go through. Katcha works extremely hard to support everyone in this group and she has endless amounts of caring and supportive energy, as you are all aware. Because of her (and Eva, our other co-moderator) , I have been able to have the space to deal with some personal issues as well as work on various exciting projects coming out next year. We are all really lucky to have her here.

So, what can we learn from this?

First, if you go back and look at the responses from those of you that replied to the original post, you'll see how committed you are to IE and how ingrained it is in your mind, and I have to assume, your life. You can probably remember when you first heard about this weird thing called IE and how foreign and maybe even scary it seemed. And, like most people, you probably had some time and possibly more diets to go through before you completely embraced IE. I know that many of you are still in the beginning stages of your journey, and probably some of you are still in the this-is-scary, I-can't-possibly- do-this phase. I hope these posts show you that it is going to click for you, and you will be just as excited and committed that you will want to defend it as well.

Second, I learned a very powerful lesson when I was working with my IE mentor and I share it with my clients because it's so important. When you are experiencing conflict with someone, no matter who it is, and no matter how wrong you think they are, the best thing you can do for yourself is have compassion for that person. It's really easy to get mad, take their actions personally, want to change them, and even tell them why they are wrong. And if you think about it, you probably know that all those approaches generally do not work or help. The person isn't going to change just because you want them to. That's where compassion comes in. So using this post we've been discussing as an example, we can say (as a couple of you already have to a certain extent), "Isn't that sad that she is so rules-driven and can't experience the freedom that comes with IE?" And it is sad, and a few of you

have said you feel sorry for her (assuming she is a "her"). When you have compassion, it takes all the feelings that you are being attacked personally by that person away. You take back the power over your feelings instead of letting someone else cause your feelings. You can't do much about her beliefs or actions, but having compassion will help you express your feelings (and not eat over them) while not having the stressful, awful feelings of anger take over and cause actions you may regret or simply affect you in a very negative way. This is so powerful, I hope you can understand it. If you want to discuss it more or share your thoughts, please do and I'll be sure to respond as well.

Third, I thought it was awesome that Arnie posted how the poster could possibly learn from our group if the discussion about her post stops and we just carry on as before. I can't tell you how often I get a personal email from a member telling me how much they get from the posts even though they stay in the background and don't jump into the conversations. We have over 1300 members and only a small percentage are actively posting, so lots more are reading and taking it in without any of us knowing. Because of this, I would like to allow the poster to remain in the group if she chooses and hopefully she will find some benefit. If she chooses to leave, that is her decision, but I am not going to ban her at this time. All new members have their posts moderated before the show up in the group, and she is no exception. So any future similar posts will not be allowed, although I don't expect any.

In case she is reading this, I want to confirm the recommendation of Shape Down. My understanding is Gwen's problem has morphed into a much more rules-driven, your body is a temple type program, it is not IE based as it was in the beginning. Thin Within may be a nice in between for those that want an IE approach but with the structure of a spiritually- driven program.

So to sum up a very long email, there are two major take-aways: 1) Many of you are doing a wonderful job of embracing IE, and those of you not there yet, you can see that it is possible and it will happen, and 2) When you are in conflict with someone and you don't see that anything will change, having an attitude of compassion will go a long way in helping you accept it and move on. And just like forgiveness (which is different from compassion), you don't have to let that person know, it's really for you. Just like holding a grudge almost always only hurts you, and not the other person, it is the same with being angry or resentful. Compassion is for you.

I would love your thoughts, questions, experiences that relate to this, etc. If you need to send me a private email, that's fine, use gillian@healthierou tcomes.com.

So let's move forward, let the subject drop and move on to our main focus of adopting and learning IE and moving through the journey.

Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

Get your report, "The 6 Steps to Guilt-Fr*e Eating" at http://www.Healthie rOutcomes. com Follow me on Twitter: http://www.twitter. com/gillianhood

[Guest guest]

PJ,

I really appreciate your honesty and I hope you choose to stay! :0)

Blessings,

Suzanne

[intuitiveEating_ Support] And now back to our regularly scheduled program....PLEASE READ

Hi Everyone,

For those of you who don't know me, I am the owner or "list-mom" of this group. I haven't been posting much lately and that will change soon, but I had to jump in here and ask that we get back on topic. By on topic, I mean back to sharing our successes, "a-ha" moments, times of challenge, and basically showing support of our fellow group members. I have read the post in question several times now, and while it is highly rules-driven and representative of the all-or-nothing, or black and white thinking that is so prevalent in diet mentality, I completely understand all of your reactions. In general those of us who tend to eat for emotional reasons are on the sensitive side (including me, big time!), so I think everyone who contributed to the conversation did a very good job of responding in a much more respectful way than you may have wanted. (And yes, that is ALL of you, no one needs to be worried or paranoid, I include you all). I hear your frustration and frankly, shock, about that post. Clearly the poster either has not completely bought in to the philosophy of IE or is experiencing a lot of internal conflict, maybe due to letting go of control, and this is her/his way of trying to gain control. That's a big issue I see a lot in coaching IE. Letting go of control (dieting/restrictio n) is scary, and many people will look for other ways to gain control. Some people will abuse shopping, addictive substances (not very often, fortunately) , or turn their focus to controlling a spouse, children, etc. They usually don't see it when they are doing it, but it's not unusual. I can't say that this is what this person is doing, but it may be, given all the rules she/he is imposing.

I see a few very positive outcomes from this situation. And because of this, I would like to publicly acknowledge Katcha and let her know that it is a blessing that she let the post go through. Katcha works extremely hard to support everyone in this group and she has endless amounts of caring and supportive energy, as you are all aware. Because of her (and Eva, our other co-moderator) , I have been able to have the space to deal with some personal issues as well as work on various exciting projects coming out next year. We are all really lucky to have her here.

So, what can we learn from this?

First, if you go back and look at the responses from those of you that replied to the original post, you'll see how committed you are to IE and how ingrained it is in your mind, and I have to assume, your life. You can probably remember when you first heard about this weird thing called IE and how foreign and maybe even scary it seemed. And, like most people, you probably had some time and possibly more diets to go through before you completely embraced IE. I know that many of you are still in the beginning stages of your journey, and probably some of you are still in the this-is-scary, I-can't-possibly- do-this phase. I hope these posts show you that it is going to click for you, and you will be just as excited and committed that you will want to defend it as well.

Second, I learned a very powerful lesson when I was working with my IE mentor and I share it with my clients because it's so important. When you are experiencing conflict with someone, no matter who it is, and no matter how wrong you think they are, the best thing you can do for yourself is have compassion for that person. It's really easy to get mad, take their actions personally, want to change them, and even tell them why they are wrong. And if you think about it, you probably know that all those approaches generally do not work or help. The person isn't going to change just because you want them to. That's where compassion comes in. So using this post we've been discussing as an example, we can say (as a couple of you already have to a certain extent), "Isn't that sad that she is so rules-driven and can't experience the freedom that comes with IE?" And it is sad, and a few of you have said you feel sorry for her (assuming she is a "her"). When you have compassion, it takes all the feelings that you are being attacked personally by that person away. You take back the power over your feelings instead of letting someone else cause your feelings. You can't do much about her beliefs or actions, but having compassion will help you express your feelings (and not eat over them) while not having the stressful, awful feelings of anger take over and cause actions you may regret or simply affect you in a very negative way. This is so powerful, I hope you can understand it. If you want to discuss it more or share your thoughts, please do and I'll be sure to respond as well.

Third, I thought it was awesome that Arnie posted how the poster could possibly learn from our group if the discussion about her post stops and we just carry on as before. I can't tell you how often I get a personal email from a member telling me how much they get from the posts even though they stay in the background and don't jump into the conversations. We have over 1300 members and only a small percentage are actively posting, so lots more are reading and taking it in without any of us knowing. Because of this, I would like to allow the poster to remain in the group if she chooses and hopefully she will find some benefit. If she chooses to leave, that is her decision, but I am not going to ban her at this time. All new members have their posts moderated before the show up in the group, and she is no exception. So any future similar posts will not be allowed, although I don't expect any. In case she is reading this, I want to confirm the recommendation of Shape Down. My understanding is Gwen's problem has morphed into a much more rules-driven, your body is a temple type program, it is not IE based as it was in the beginning. Thin Within may be a nice in between for those that want an IE approach but with the structure of a spiritually- driven program.

So to sum up a very long email, there are two major take-aways: 1) Many of you are doing a wonderful job of embracing IE, and those of you not there yet, you can see that it is possible and it will happen, and 2) When you are in conflict with someone and you don't see that anything will change, having an attitude of compassion will go a long way in helping you accept it and move on. And just like forgiveness (which is different from compassion), you don't have to let that person know, it's really for you. Just like holding a grudge almost always only hurts you, and not the other person, it is the same with being angry or resentful. Compassion is for you.

I would love your thoughts, questions, experiences that relate to this, etc. If you need to send me a private email, that's fine, use gillian@healthierou tcomes.com.

So let's move forward, let the subject drop and move on to our main focus of adopting and learning IE and moving through the journey.

Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

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