Guest guest Posted February 3, 2001 Report Share Posted February 3, 2001 Beth, If Kim wont go to the party...I'll go!!! rofl <grinning> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 Anita....in case there are people under 18 here...they're " toys " to play with, but not stuffed animals for sure! Dawn Adult toy party Beth, An adult ladies toy party - what the heck is that?? Please do tell! Anita > > > > > > > I wanted to express my feelings on all of these topics if > > > > I may. > > > > > > > > For many years, I hated EVERYTHING, including the most > > > > important....me. I > > > > never knew this, as I always hid beneath my weight. My > > > > excuses were " I have > > > > a thyroid problem " , " I really don't eat much " , " I hold my > > > > weight well due to > > > > my height " , yadda, yadda, yadda. Every time I'd go on a > > > > diet, I'd lose a > > > > ton of weight, and everyone suddenly liked me again. I > > > > used to feel like > > > > they only liked me because I was thinner...>WRONG! They > > > > liked me because I > > > > liked me. > > > > > > > > I never realized ANY of this until after reading all these > > > > posts about this > > > > subject just these last 2 days. I thank you all for > > > > sharing. > > > > > > > > It occurred to me, that everyone of my closest friends > > > > talk to me more now, > > > > and often say how " bubbly " I am, and that I seem so > > > > happy. I really believe > > > > that I am MUCH happier now with myself, which has made me > > > > a stronger person, > > > > allowing people to see me for who I am, not being > > > > miserable hiding behind my > > > > weight all the time. > > > > > > > > I remember while in Grammar School, being called " The > > > > Beast " , and I always > > > > blamed it on my height (I was the tallest until about 10th > > > > grade). Then > > > > came Jr. High, and I knew it was due to the weight, but > > > > still blamed the > > > > height. High School sucked, all of my " friends " suddenly > > > > became snobs, and > > > > didn't speak to me. I know now that it wasn't because of > > > > them all being > > > > snobs, it was me hiding, because my weight got the best of > > > > me. > > > > > > > > Stemming back (rewind), I was always a chubby kid, then > > > > chunky, increasing > > > > to the " Huskies " at Sears. Suddenly I saw Lane > > > > (The BIG girls > > > > store). I didn't dress like any of my friends, not > > > > because I didn't like > > > > the style, but because it didn't fit. I simply never fit > > > > in with the > > > > " normal sized people " . Back when I was in H.S., being > > > > " cool " meant wearing > > > > sweats with the H.S. logo, but I couldn't wear those...I > > > > always said they > > > > were too small...it wasn't that at all, I was just too > > > > big. I started > > > > skipping school to be " cool " ...eventually getting me > > > > suspended to the point > > > > of almost being expelled. My mom said she'd be sending me > > > > to private > > > > school...NOT! Then I'd really be a stand out by all the > > > > " pretty " girls. > > > > Eventually I came around, busted my chops in school, > > > > summer school, and > > > > graduated with my class, with and early acceptance to > > > > college. > > > > > > > > Then college....I went to a Business school where you HAD > > > > to wear business > > > > clothing as part of the agenda...I wore the " old lady > > > > style " clothes from > > > > the " Big Girl store " . Again, I didn't fit in. I then > > > > quit school, saying I > > > > didn't like it....in actuality, I loved it, but hated me! > > > > > > > > Later in the years, I couldn't take it any more, no more > > > > places to hide, > > > > nobody liking me (again, I blamed them), and turned to > > > > suicide as my way > > > > out. I never told anyone all of this until now. Don't > > > > get me wrong, there > > > > were MANY things other than the weight, but I really > > > > believe this is what > > > > made me so unhappy. It put the " icing on the cake " so to > > > > speak. > > > > > > > > A few years later, after losing, gaining, losing, gaining > > > > PLUS, suicide was > > > > another option ...again. BAD CHOICE! Then there was > > > > hospitals, med's, and > > > > talking...that's when lot's of subjects came out. It's > > > > pretty sad to think > > > > that this was my way of realizing how miserable my life > > > > was, but that was > > > > the path to my " recovery " and " happiness " . > > > > > > > > Then, almost 3 years ago, I started researching WLS. I > > > > researched for a > > > > long time, finally scheduling my appt's., insurance, > > > > etc.... > > > > > > > > Here I am 17 mos. post op, and I can tell you my life has > > > > changed > > > > dramatically! > > > > > > > > I now longer hide to eat, I eat to survive. I have my > > > > friends who like ME, > > > > because I do. I'm in love with my husband, who I just > > > > married 2 months ago! > > > > I go out of my house! I'm always busy! I buy clothes > > > > with style, and not > > > > for size. I fit in my car with room! I buckle my > > > > seatbelt! I wear jeans! > > > > I fit into chairs with arms, I sit in booths, I think > > > > BEFORE I eat, rather > > > > than puke after! People compliment me, and I say " thank > > > > you " . People tell > > > > me I'm so much happier now, more outgoing, and more > > > > assertive. I don't HIDE > > > > anymore when I see someone I know, or haven't seen in a > > > > long time. I can > > > > walk without getting winded. More energy, less back > > > > aches, my feet don't > > > > hurt, and I can wear HEELS without bitchin! I can buy > > > > nylons at a " regular " > > > > store. I can " borrow " nice clothes from my mom, and > > > > exchange the clothes > > > > that my sister bought for me because they were MUCH too > > > > big! > > > > > > > > Most importantly, I found ME, and I am giving myself to > > > > others, and hoping > > > > for continued happiness with a lifetime of cherished > > > > moments with my > > > > husband, eventually hoping for our family to begin. > > > > > > > > I want to show our kids how important it is to believe in > > > > yourself and show > > > > the confidence everyone deserves, and NOT to hide beneath > > > > a shell. > > > > > > > > Thank you all for sharing, this has helped me TREMENDOUSLY > > > > really think > > > > about my life, and how much better it is, now that I've > > > > crossed the " bridge " > > > > to the " other side " , of which I strongly believe, I took > > > > the right road to > > > > knowing all about me! > > > > > > > > HUGS! > > > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 *ponders crashing the adult ladies toy party* *blinks innocently* -- Adult toy party Beth, An adult ladies toy party - what the heck is that?? Please do tell! Anita > > > > > > > I wanted to express my feelings on all of these topics if > > > > I may. > > > > > > > > For many years, I hated EVERYTHING, including the most > > > > important....me. I > > > > never knew this, as I always hid beneath my weight. My > > > > excuses were " I have > > > > a thyroid problem " , " I really don't eat much " , " I hold my > > > > weight well due to > > > > my height " , yadda, yadda, yadda. Every time I'd go on a > > > > diet, I'd lose a > > > > ton of weight, and everyone suddenly liked me again. I > > > > used to feel like > > > > they only liked me because I was thinner...>WRONG! They > > > > liked me because I > > > > liked me. > > > > > > > > I never realized ANY of this until after reading all these > > > > posts about this > > > > subject just these last 2 days. I thank you all for > > > > sharing. > > > > > > > > It occurred to me, that everyone of my closest friends > > > > talk to me more now, > > > > and often say how " bubbly " I am, and that I seem so > > > > happy. I really believe > > > > that I am MUCH happier now with myself, which has made me > > > > a stronger person, > > > > allowing people to see me for who I am, not being > > > > miserable hiding behind my > > > > weight all the time. > > > > > > > > I remember while in Grammar School, being called " The > > > > Beast " , and I always > > > > blamed it on my height (I was the tallest until about 10th > > > > grade). Then > > > > came Jr. High, and I knew it was due to the weight, but > > > > still blamed the > > > > height. High School sucked, all of my " friends " suddenly > > > > became snobs, and > > > > didn't speak to me. I know now that it wasn't because of > > > > them all being > > > > snobs, it was me hiding, because my weight got the best of > > > > me. > > > > > > > > Stemming back (rewind), I was always a chubby kid, then > > > > chunky, increasing > > > > to the " Huskies " at Sears. Suddenly I saw Lane > > > > (The BIG girls > > > > store). I didn't dress like any of my friends, not > > > > because I didn't like > > > > the style, but because it didn't fit. I simply never fit > > > > in with the > > > > " normal sized people " . Back when I was in H.S., being > > > > " cool " meant wearing > > > > sweats with the H.S. logo, but I couldn't wear those...I > > > > always said they > > > > were too small...it wasn't that at all, I was just too > > > > big. I started > > > > skipping school to be " cool " ...eventually getting me > > > > suspended to the point > > > > of almost being expelled. My mom said she'd be sending me > > > > to private > > > > school...NOT! Then I'd really be a stand out by all the > > > > " pretty " girls. > > > > Eventually I came around, busted my chops in school, > > > > summer school, and > > > > graduated with my class, with and early acceptance to > > > > college. > > > > > > > > Then college....I went to a Business school where you HAD > > > > to wear business > > > > clothing as part of the agenda...I wore the " old lady > > > > style " clothes from > > > > the " Big Girl store " . Again, I didn't fit in. I then > > > > quit school, saying I > > > > didn't like it....in actuality, I loved it, but hated me! > > > > > > > > Later in the years, I couldn't take it any more, no more > > > > places to hide, > > > > nobody liking me (again, I blamed them), and turned to > > > > suicide as my way > > > > out. I never told anyone all of this until now. Don't > > > > get me wrong, there > > > > were MANY things other than the weight, but I really > > > > believe this is what > > > > made me so unhappy. It put the " icing on the cake " so to > > > > speak. > > > > > > > > A few years later, after losing, gaining, losing, gaining > > > > PLUS, suicide was > > > > another option ...again. BAD CHOICE! Then there was > > > > hospitals, med's, and > > > > talking...that's when lot's of subjects came out. It's > > > > pretty sad to think > > > > that this was my way of realizing how miserable my life > > > > was, but that was > > > > the path to my " recovery " and " happiness " . > > > > > > > > Then, almost 3 years ago, I started researching WLS. I > > > > researched for a > > > > long time, finally scheduling my appt's., insurance, > > > > etc.... > > > > > > > > Here I am 17 mos. post op, and I can tell you my life has > > > > changed > > > > dramatically! > > > > > > > > I now longer hide to eat, I eat to survive. I have my > > > > friends who like ME, > > > > because I do. I'm in love with my husband, who I just > > > > married 2 months ago! > > > > I go out of my house! I'm always busy! I buy clothes > > > > with style, and not > > > > for size. I fit in my car with room! I buckle my > > > > seatbelt! I wear jeans! > > > > I fit into chairs with arms, I sit in booths, I think > > > > BEFORE I eat, rather > > > > than puke after! People compliment me, and I say " thank > > > > you " . People tell > > > > me I'm so much happier now, more outgoing, and more > > > > assertive. I don't HIDE > > > > anymore when I see someone I know, or haven't seen in a > > > > long time. I can > > > > walk without getting winded. More energy, less back > > > > aches, my feet don't > > > > hurt, and I can wear HEELS without bitchin! I can buy > > > > nylons at a " regular " > > > > store. I can " borrow " nice clothes from my mom, and > > > > exchange the clothes > > > > that my sister bought for me because they were MUCH too > > > > big! > > > > > > > > Most importantly, I found ME, and I am giving myself to > > > > others, and hoping > > > > for continued happiness with a lifetime of cherished > > > > moments with my > > > > husband, eventually hoping for our family to begin. > > > > > > > > I want to show our kids how important it is to believe in > > > > yourself and show > > > > the confidence everyone deserves, and NOT to hide beneath > > > > a shell. > > > > > > > > Thank you all for sharing, this has helped me TREMENDOUSLY > > > > really think > > > > about my life, and how much better it is, now that I've > > > > crossed the " bridge " > > > > to the " other side " , of which I strongly believe, I took > > > > the right road to > > > > knowing all about me! > > > > > > > > HUGS! > > > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 , Don't forget....if you crash the ladies "adult toy party"...you just might end up BEING the ladies adult "toy". <giggling> Sue from Webster Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 Anita, It's vibrators, and fun stuff! Sure as hell have some funky smelling oils that heat things up!....be careful though...might contain sugar! LOL! Can u imagine dumping after licking hot sexy lotion?!?!?!? That'd be a hoot! Dawn (who's NEVER smelled/tasted anything like that in my life) Re: Adult toy party Anita, UUMM, Its like .... um..... can someone help me here? Dawn? Beth On Sat, 03 Feb 2001 04:24:02 -0000 robert_armes@... writes: > Beth, > An adult ladies toy party - what the heck is that?? Please do tell! > > Anita > > > > > > > > > > I wanted to express my feelings on all of these topics > if > > > > > I may. > > > > > > > > > > For many years, I hated EVERYTHING, including the most > > > > > important....me. I > > > > > never knew this, as I always hid beneath my weight. My > > > > > excuses were " I have > > > > > a thyroid problem " , " I really don't eat much " , " I hold > my > > > > > weight well due to > > > > > my height " , yadda, yadda, yadda. Every time I'd go on a > > > > > diet, I'd lose a > > > > > ton of weight, and everyone suddenly liked me again. I > > > > > used to feel like > > > > > they only liked me because I was thinner...>WRONG! They > > > > > liked me because I > > > > > liked me. > > > > > > > > > > I never realized ANY of this until after reading all > these > > > > > posts about this > > > > > subject just these last 2 days. I thank you all for > > > > > sharing. > > > > > > > > > > It occurred to me, that everyone of my closest friends > > > > > talk to me more now, > > > > > and often say how " bubbly " I am, and that I seem so > > > > > happy. I really believe > > > > > that I am MUCH happier now with myself, which has made > me > > > > > a stronger person, > > > > > allowing people to see me for who I am, not being > > > > > miserable hiding behind my > > > > > weight all the time. > > > > > > > > > > I remember while in Grammar School, being called " The > > > > > Beast " , and I always > > > > > blamed it on my height (I was the tallest until about > 10th > > > > > grade). Then > > > > > came Jr. High, and I knew it was due to the weight, but > > > > > still blamed the > > > > > height. High School sucked, all of my " friends " > suddenly > > > > > became snobs, and > > > > > didn't speak to me. I know now that it wasn't because > of > > > > > them all being > > > > > snobs, it was me hiding, because my weight got the best > of > > > > > me. > > > > > > > > > > Stemming back (rewind), I was always a chubby kid, then > > > > > chunky, increasing > > > > > to the " Huskies " at Sears. Suddenly I saw Lane > > > > > (The BIG girls > > > > > store). I didn't dress like any of my friends, not > > > > > because I didn't like > > > > > the style, but because it didn't fit. I simply never > fit > > > > > in with the > > > > > " normal sized people " . Back when I was in H.S., being > > > > > " cool " meant wearing > > > > > sweats with the H.S. logo, but I couldn't wear those...I > > > > > always said they > > > > > were too small...it wasn't that at all, I was just too > > > > > big. I started > > > > > skipping school to be " cool " ...eventually getting me > > > > > suspended to the point > > > > > of almost being expelled. My mom said she'd be sending > me > > > > > to private > > > > > school...NOT! Then I'd really be a stand out by all the > > > > > " pretty " girls. > > > > > Eventually I came around, busted my chops in school, > > > > > summer school, and > > > > > graduated with my class, with and early acceptance to > > > > > college. > > > > > > > > > > Then college....I went to a Business school where you > HAD > > > > > to wear business > > > > > clothing as part of the agenda...I wore the " old lady > > > > > style " clothes from > > > > > the " Big Girl store " . Again, I didn't fit in. I then > > > > > quit school, saying I > > > > > didn't like it....in actuality, I loved it, but hated > me! > > > > > > > > > > Later in the years, I couldn't take it any more, no more > > > > > places to hide, > > > > > nobody liking me (again, I blamed them), and turned to > > > > > suicide as my way > > > > > out. I never told anyone all of this until now. Don't > > > > > get me wrong, there > > > > > were MANY things other than the weight, but I really > > > > > believe this is what > > > > > made me so unhappy. It put the " icing on the cake " so > to > > > > > speak. > > > > > > > > > > A few years later, after losing, gaining, losing, > gaining > > > > > PLUS, suicide was > > > > > another option ...again. BAD CHOICE! Then there was > > > > > hospitals, med's, and > > > > > talking...that's when lot's of subjects came out. It's > > > > > pretty sad to think > > > > > that this was my way of realizing how miserable my life > > > > > was, but that was > > > > > the path to my " recovery " and " happiness " . > > > > > > > > > > Then, almost 3 years ago, I started researching WLS. I > > > > > researched for a > > > > > long time, finally scheduling my appt's., insurance, > > > > > etc.... > > > > > > > > > > Here I am 17 mos. post op, and I can tell you my life > has > > > > > changed > > > > > dramatically! > > > > > > > > > > I now longer hide to eat, I eat to survive. I have my > > > > > friends who like ME, > > > > > because I do. I'm in love with my husband, who I just > > > > > married 2 months ago! > > > > > I go out of my house! I'm always busy! I buy clothes > > > > > with style, and not > > > > > for size. I fit in my car with room! I buckle my > > > > > seatbelt! I wear jeans! > > > > > I fit into chairs with arms, I sit in booths, I think > > > > > BEFORE I eat, rather > > > > > than puke after! People compliment me, and I say " thank > > > > > you " . People tell > > > > > me I'm so much happier now, more outgoing, and more > > > > > assertive. I don't HIDE > > > > > anymore when I see someone I know, or haven't seen in a > > > > > long time. I can > > > > > walk without getting winded. More energy, less back > > > > > aches, my feet don't > > > > > hurt, and I can wear HEELS without bitchin! I can buy > > > > > nylons at a " regular " > > > > > store. I can " borrow " nice clothes from my mom, and > > > > > exchange the clothes > > > > > that my sister bought for me because they were MUCH too > > > > > big! > > > > > > > > > > Most importantly, I found ME, and I am giving myself to > > > > > others, and hoping > > > > > for continued happiness with a lifetime of cherished > > > > > moments with my > > > > > husband, eventually hoping for our family to begin. > > > > > > > > > > I want to show our kids how important it is to believe > in > > > > > yourself and show > > > > > the confidence everyone deserves, and NOT to hide > beneath > > > > > a shell. > > > > > > > > > > Thank you all for sharing, this has helped me > TREMENDOUSLY > > > > > really think > > > > > about my life, and how much better it is, now that I've > > > > > crossed the " bridge " > > > > > to the " other side " , of which I strongly believe, I took > > > > > the right road to > > > > > knowing all about me! > > > > > > > > > > HUGS! > > > > > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 Anita, UUMM, Its like .... um..... can someone help me here? Dawn? Beth On Sat, 03 Feb 2001 04:24:02 -0000 robert_armes@... writes: > Beth, > An adult ladies toy party - what the heck is that?? Please do tell! > > Anita > > > > > > > > > > I wanted to express my feelings on all of these topics > if > > > > > I may. > > > > > > > > > > For many years, I hated EVERYTHING, including the most > > > > > important....me. I > > > > > never knew this, as I always hid beneath my weight. My > > > > > excuses were " I have > > > > > a thyroid problem " , " I really don't eat much " , " I hold > my > > > > > weight well due to > > > > > my height " , yadda, yadda, yadda. Every time I'd go on a > > > > > diet, I'd lose a > > > > > ton of weight, and everyone suddenly liked me again. I > > > > > used to feel like > > > > > they only liked me because I was thinner...>WRONG! They > > > > > liked me because I > > > > > liked me. > > > > > > > > > > I never realized ANY of this until after reading all > these > > > > > posts about this > > > > > subject just these last 2 days. I thank you all for > > > > > sharing. > > > > > > > > > > It occurred to me, that everyone of my closest friends > > > > > talk to me more now, > > > > > and often say how " bubbly " I am, and that I seem so > > > > > happy. I really believe > > > > > that I am MUCH happier now with myself, which has made > me > > > > > a stronger person, > > > > > allowing people to see me for who I am, not being > > > > > miserable hiding behind my > > > > > weight all the time. > > > > > > > > > > I remember while in Grammar School, being called " The > > > > > Beast " , and I always > > > > > blamed it on my height (I was the tallest until about > 10th > > > > > grade). Then > > > > > came Jr. High, and I knew it was due to the weight, but > > > > > still blamed the > > > > > height. High School sucked, all of my " friends " > suddenly > > > > > became snobs, and > > > > > didn't speak to me. I know now that it wasn't because > of > > > > > them all being > > > > > snobs, it was me hiding, because my weight got the best > of > > > > > me. > > > > > > > > > > Stemming back (rewind), I was always a chubby kid, then > > > > > chunky, increasing > > > > > to the " Huskies " at Sears. Suddenly I saw Lane > > > > > (The BIG girls > > > > > store). I didn't dress like any of my friends, not > > > > > because I didn't like > > > > > the style, but because it didn't fit. I simply never > fit > > > > > in with the > > > > > " normal sized people " . Back when I was in H.S., being > > > > > " cool " meant wearing > > > > > sweats with the H.S. logo, but I couldn't wear those...I > > > > > always said they > > > > > were too small...it wasn't that at all, I was just too > > > > > big. I started > > > > > skipping school to be " cool " ...eventually getting me > > > > > suspended to the point > > > > > of almost being expelled. My mom said she'd be sending > me > > > > > to private > > > > > school...NOT! Then I'd really be a stand out by all the > > > > > " pretty " girls. > > > > > Eventually I came around, busted my chops in school, > > > > > summer school, and > > > > > graduated with my class, with and early acceptance to > > > > > college. > > > > > > > > > > Then college....I went to a Business school where you > HAD > > > > > to wear business > > > > > clothing as part of the agenda...I wore the " old lady > > > > > style " clothes from > > > > > the " Big Girl store " . Again, I didn't fit in. I then > > > > > quit school, saying I > > > > > didn't like it....in actuality, I loved it, but hated > me! > > > > > > > > > > Later in the years, I couldn't take it any more, no more > > > > > places to hide, > > > > > nobody liking me (again, I blamed them), and turned to > > > > > suicide as my way > > > > > out. I never told anyone all of this until now. Don't > > > > > get me wrong, there > > > > > were MANY things other than the weight, but I really > > > > > believe this is what > > > > > made me so unhappy. It put the " icing on the cake " so > to > > > > > speak. > > > > > > > > > > A few years later, after losing, gaining, losing, > gaining > > > > > PLUS, suicide was > > > > > another option ...again. BAD CHOICE! Then there was > > > > > hospitals, med's, and > > > > > talking...that's when lot's of subjects came out. It's > > > > > pretty sad to think > > > > > that this was my way of realizing how miserable my life > > > > > was, but that was > > > > > the path to my " recovery " and " happiness " . > > > > > > > > > > Then, almost 3 years ago, I started researching WLS. I > > > > > researched for a > > > > > long time, finally scheduling my appt's., insurance, > > > > > etc.... > > > > > > > > > > Here I am 17 mos. post op, and I can tell you my life > has > > > > > changed > > > > > dramatically! > > > > > > > > > > I now longer hide to eat, I eat to survive. I have my > > > > > friends who like ME, > > > > > because I do. I'm in love with my husband, who I just > > > > > married 2 months ago! > > > > > I go out of my house! I'm always busy! I buy clothes > > > > > with style, and not > > > > > for size. I fit in my car with room! I buckle my > > > > > seatbelt! I wear jeans! > > > > > I fit into chairs with arms, I sit in booths, I think > > > > > BEFORE I eat, rather > > > > > than puke after! People compliment me, and I say " thank > > > > > you " . People tell > > > > > me I'm so much happier now, more outgoing, and more > > > > > assertive. I don't HIDE > > > > > anymore when I see someone I know, or haven't seen in a > > > > > long time. I can > > > > > walk without getting winded. More energy, less back > > > > > aches, my feet don't > > > > > hurt, and I can wear HEELS without bitchin! I can buy > > > > > nylons at a " regular " > > > > > store. I can " borrow " nice clothes from my mom, and > > > > > exchange the clothes > > > > > that my sister bought for me because they were MUCH too > > > > > big! > > > > > > > > > > Most importantly, I found ME, and I am giving myself to > > > > > others, and hoping > > > > > for continued happiness with a lifetime of cherished > > > > > moments with my > > > > > husband, eventually hoping for our family to begin. > > > > > > > > > > I want to show our kids how important it is to believe > in > > > > > yourself and show > > > > > the confidence everyone deserves, and NOT to hide > beneath > > > > > a shell. > > > > > > > > > > Thank you all for sharing, this has helped me > TREMENDOUSLY > > > > > really think > > > > > about my life, and how much better it is, now that I've > > > > > crossed the " bridge " > > > > > to the " other side " , of which I strongly believe, I took > > > > > the right road to > > > > > knowing all about me! > > > > > > > > > > HUGS! > > > > > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 hey dawn - maybe they can make it with splenda....lololol. maura RE: Adult toy party Anita,It's vibrators, and fun stuff! Sure as hell have some funky smelling oilsthat heat things up!....be careful though...might contain sugar! LOL! Can uimagine dumping after licking hot sexy lotion?!?!?!? That'd be a hoot!Dawn(who's NEVER smelled/tasted anything like that in my life)-----Original Message-----From: Beth Peluso Sent: Sunday, February 04, 2001 10:02 PMTo: OSSG-NewEngland Subject: Re: Adult toy partyAnita,UUMM, Its like .... um..... can someone help me here?Dawn?BethOn Sat, 03 Feb 2001 04:24:02 -0000 robert_armes@... writes:> Beth,> An adult ladies toy party - what the heck is that?? Please do tell!>> Anita> > > > >> > > > > I wanted to express my feelings on all of these topics> if> > > > > I may.> > > > >> > > > > For many years, I hated EVERYTHING, including the most> > > > > important....me. I> > > > > never knew this, as I always hid beneath my weight. My> > > > > excuses were "I have> > > > > a thyroid problem", "I really don't eat much", "I hold> my> > > > > weight well due to> > > > > my height", yadda, yadda, yadda. Every time I'd go on a> > > > > diet, I'd lose a> > > > > ton of weight, and everyone suddenly liked me again. I> > > > > used to feel like> > > > > they only liked me because I was thinner...>WRONG! They> > > > > liked me because I> > > > > liked me.> > > > >> > > > > I never realized ANY of this until after reading all> these> > > > > posts about this> > > > > subject just these last 2 days. I thank you all for> > > > > sharing.> > > > >> > > > > It occurred to me, that everyone of my closest friends> > > > > talk to me more now,> > > > > and often say how "bubbly" I am, and that I seem so> > > > > happy. I really believe> > > > > that I am MUCH happier now with myself, which has made> me> > > > > a stronger person,> > > > > allowing people to see me for who I am, not being> > > > > miserable hiding behind my> > > > > weight all the time.> > > > >> > > > > I remember while in Grammar School, being called "The> > > > > Beast", and I always> > > > > blamed it on my height (I was the tallest until about> 10th> > > > > grade). Then> > > > > came Jr. High, and I knew it was due to the weight, but> > > > > still blamed the> > > > > height. High School sucked, all of my "friends"> suddenly> > > > > became snobs, and> > > > > didn't speak to me. I know now that it wasn't because> of> > > > > them all being> > > > > snobs, it was me hiding, because my weight got the best> of> > > > > me.> > > > >> > > > > Stemming back (rewind), I was always a chubby kid, then> > > > > chunky, increasing> > > > > to the "Huskies" at Sears. Suddenly I saw Lane > > > > > (The BIG girls> > > > > store). I didn't dress like any of my friends, not> > > > > because I didn't like> > > > > the style, but because it didn't fit. I simply never> fit> > > > > in with the> > > > > "normal sized people". Back when I was in H.S., being> > > > > "cool" meant wearing> > > > > sweats with the H.S. logo, but I couldn't wear those...I> > > > > always said they> > > > > were too small...it wasn't that at all, I was just too> > > > > big. I started> > > > > skipping school to be "cool"...eventually getting me> > > > > suspended to the point> > > > > of almost being expelled. My mom said she'd be sending> me> > > > > to private> > > > > school...NOT! Then I'd really be a stand out by all the> > > > > "pretty" girls.> > > > > Eventually I came around, busted my chops in school,> > > > > summer school, and> > > > > graduated with my class, with and early acceptance to> > > > > college.> > > > >> > > > > Then college....I went to a Business school where you> HAD> > > > > to wear business> > > > > clothing as part of the agenda...I wore the "old lady> > > > > style" clothes from> > > > > the "Big Girl store". Again, I didn't fit in. I then> > > > > quit school, saying I> > > > > didn't like it....in actuality, I loved it, but hated> me!> > > > >> > > > > Later in the years, I couldn't take it any more, no more> > > > > places to hide,> > > > > nobody liking me (again, I blamed them), and turned to> > > > > suicide as my way> > > > > out. I never told anyone all of this until now. Don't> > > > > get me wrong, there> > > > > were MANY things other than the weight, but I really> > > > > believe this is what> > > > > made me so unhappy. It put the "icing on the cake" so> to> > > > > speak.> > > > >> > > > > A few years later, after losing, gaining, losing,> gaining> > > > > PLUS, suicide was> > > > > another option ...again. BAD CHOICE! Then there was> > > > > hospitals, med's, and> > > > > talking...that's when lot's of subjects came out. It's> > > > > pretty sad to think> > > > > that this was my way of realizing how miserable my life> > > > > was, but that was> > > > > the path to my "recovery" and "happiness".> > > > >> > > > > Then, almost 3 years ago, I started researching WLS. I> > > > > researched for a> > > > > long time, finally scheduling my appt's., insurance,> > > > > etc....> > > > >> > > > > Here I am 17 mos. post op, and I can tell you my life> has> > > > > changed> > > > > dramatically!> > > > >> > > > > I now longer hide to eat, I eat to survive. I have my> > > > > friends who like ME,> > > > > because I do. I'm in love with my husband, who I just> > > > > married 2 months ago!> > > > > I go out of my house! I'm always busy! I buy clothes> > > > > with style, and not> > > > > for size. I fit in my car with room! I buckle my> > > > > seatbelt! I wear jeans!> > > > > I fit into chairs with arms, I sit in booths, I think> > > > > BEFORE I eat, rather> > > > > than puke after! People compliment me, and I say "thank> > > > > you". People tell> > > > > me I'm so much happier now, more outgoing, and more> > > > > assertive. I don't HIDE> > > > > anymore when I see someone I know, or haven't seen in a> > > > > long time. I can> > > > > walk without getting winded. More energy, less back> > > > > aches, my feet don't> > > > > hurt, and I can wear HEELS without bitchin! I can buy> > > > > nylons at a "regular"> > > > > store. I can "borrow" nice clothes from my mom, and> > > > > exchange the clothes> > > > > that my sister bought for me because they were MUCH too> > > > > big!> > > > >> > > > > Most importantly, I found ME, and I am giving myself to> > > > > others, and hoping> > > > > for continued happiness with a lifetime of cherished> > > > > moments with my> > > > > husband, eventually hoping for our family to begin.> > > > >> > > > > I want to show our kids how important it is to believe> in> > > > > yourself and show> > > > > the confidence everyone deserves, and NOT to hide> beneath> > > > > a shell.> > > > >> > > > > Thank you all for sharing, this has helped me> TREMENDOUSLY> > > > > really think> > > > > about my life, and how much better it is, now that I've> > > > > crossed the "bridge"> > > > > to the "other side", of which I strongly believe, I took> > > > > the right road to> > > > > knowing all about me!> > > > >> > > > > HUGS!> > > > >> > > > > Dawn> > > > >> > > > >> > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2001 Report Share Posted February 4, 2001 *maniacal laugher* "Mwuhahaha! My plan has come to fruition! Errrr....I mean...Umm...Eep!" -- S. -----Original Message-----From: Sue4Life@... Sent: Sunday, February 04, 2001 11:39 PMTo: OSSG-NewEngland Subject: Re: Adult toy party, Don't forget....if you crash the ladies "adult toy party"...you just might end up BEING the ladies adult "toy". <giggling> Sue from Webster Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2001 Report Share Posted February 5, 2001 Ok, I get it - where do I sign up??? Anita > > > > > > > > > > > I wanted to express my feelings on all of these topics > > if > > > > > > I may. > > > > > > > > > > > > For many years, I hated EVERYTHING, including the most > > > > > > important....me. I > > > > > > never knew this, as I always hid beneath my weight. My > > > > > > excuses were " I have > > > > > > a thyroid problem " , " I really don't eat much " , " I hold > > my > > > > > > weight well due to > > > > > > my height " , yadda, yadda, yadda. Every time I'd go on a > > > > > > diet, I'd lose a > > > > > > ton of weight, and everyone suddenly liked me again. I > > > > > > used to feel like > > > > > > they only liked me because I was thinner...>WRONG! They > > > > > > liked me because I > > > > > > liked me. > > > > > > > > > > > > I never realized ANY of this until after reading all > > these > > > > > > posts about this > > > > > > subject just these last 2 days. I thank you all for > > > > > > sharing. > > > > > > > > > > > > It occurred to me, that everyone of my closest friends > > > > > > talk to me more now, > > > > > > and often say how " bubbly " I am, and that I seem so > > > > > > happy. I really believe > > > > > > that I am MUCH happier now with myself, which has made > > me > > > > > > a stronger person, > > > > > > allowing people to see me for who I am, not being > > > > > > miserable hiding behind my > > > > > > weight all the time. > > > > > > > > > > > > I remember while in Grammar School, being called " The > > > > > > Beast " , and I always > > > > > > blamed it on my height (I was the tallest until about > > 10th > > > > > > grade). Then > > > > > > came Jr. High, and I knew it was due to the weight, but > > > > > > still blamed the > > > > > > height. High School sucked, all of my " friends " > > suddenly > > > > > > became snobs, and > > > > > > didn't speak to me. I know now that it wasn't because > > of > > > > > > them all being > > > > > > snobs, it was me hiding, because my weight got the best > > of > > > > > > me. > > > > > > > > > > > > Stemming back (rewind), I was always a chubby kid, then > > > > > > chunky, increasing > > > > > > to the " Huskies " at Sears. Suddenly I saw Lane > > > > > > (The BIG girls > > > > > > store). I didn't dress like any of my friends, not > > > > > > because I didn't like > > > > > > the style, but because it didn't fit. I simply never > > fit > > > > > > in with the > > > > > > " normal sized people " . Back when I was in H.S., being > > > > > > " cool " meant wearing > > > > > > sweats with the H.S. logo, but I couldn't wear those...I > > > > > > always said they > > > > > > were too small...it wasn't that at all, I was just too > > > > > > big. I started > > > > > > skipping school to be " cool " ...eventually getting me > > > > > > suspended to the point > > > > > > of almost being expelled. My mom said she'd be sending > > me > > > > > > to private > > > > > > school...NOT! Then I'd really be a stand out by all the > > > > > > " pretty " girls. > > > > > > Eventually I came around, busted my chops in school, > > > > > > summer school, and > > > > > > graduated with my class, with and early acceptance to > > > > > > college. > > > > > > > > > > > > Then college....I went to a Business school where you > > HAD > > > > > > to wear business > > > > > > clothing as part of the agenda...I wore the " old lady > > > > > > style " clothes from > > > > > > the " Big Girl store " . Again, I didn't fit in. I then > > > > > > quit school, saying I > > > > > > didn't like it....in actuality, I loved it, but hated > > me! > > > > > > > > > > > > Later in the years, I couldn't take it any more, no more > > > > > > places to hide, > > > > > > nobody liking me (again, I blamed them), and turned to > > > > > > suicide as my way > > > > > > out. I never told anyone all of this until now. Don't > > > > > > get me wrong, there > > > > > > were MANY things other than the weight, but I really > > > > > > believe this is what > > > > > > made me so unhappy. It put the " icing on the cake " so > > to > > > > > > speak. > > > > > > > > > > > > A few years later, after losing, gaining, losing, > > gaining > > > > > > PLUS, suicide was > > > > > > another option ...again. BAD CHOICE! Then there was > > > > > > hospitals, med's, and > > > > > > talking...that's when lot's of subjects came out. It's > > > > > > pretty sad to think > > > > > > that this was my way of realizing how miserable my life > > > > > > was, but that was > > > > > > the path to my " recovery " and " happiness " . > > > > > > > > > > > > Then, almost 3 years ago, I started researching WLS. I > > > > > > researched for a > > > > > > long time, finally scheduling my appt's., insurance, > > > > > > etc.... > > > > > > > > > > > > Here I am 17 mos. post op, and I can tell you my life > > has > > > > > > changed > > > > > > dramatically! > > > > > > > > > > > > I now longer hide to eat, I eat to survive. I have my > > > > > > friends who like ME, > > > > > > because I do. I'm in love with my husband, who I just > > > > > > married 2 months ago! > > > > > > I go out of my house! I'm always busy! I buy clothes > > > > > > with style, and not > > > > > > for size. I fit in my car with room! I buckle my > > > > > > seatbelt! I wear jeans! > > > > > > I fit into chairs with arms, I sit in booths, I think > > > > > > BEFORE I eat, rather > > > > > > than puke after! People compliment me, and I say " thank > > > > > > you " . People tell > > > > > > me I'm so much happier now, more outgoing, and more > > > > > > assertive. I don't HIDE > > > > > > anymore when I see someone I know, or haven't seen in a > > > > > > long time. I can > > > > > > walk without getting winded. More energy, less back > > > > > > aches, my feet don't > > > > > > hurt, and I can wear HEELS without bitchin! I can buy > > > > > > nylons at a " regular " > > > > > > store. I can " borrow " nice clothes from my mom, and > > > > > > exchange the clothes > > > > > > that my sister bought for me because they were MUCH too > > > > > > big! > > > > > > > > > > > > Most importantly, I found ME, and I am giving myself to > > > > > > others, and hoping > > > > > > for continued happiness with a lifetime of cherished > > > > > > moments with my > > > > > > husband, eventually hoping for our family to begin. > > > > > > > > > > > > I want to show our kids how important it is to believe > > in > > > > > > yourself and show > > > > > > the confidence everyone deserves, and NOT to hide > > beneath > > > > > > a shell. > > > > > > > > > > > > Thank you all for sharing, this has helped me > > TREMENDOUSLY > > > > > > really think > > > > > > about my life, and how much better it is, now that I've > > > > > > crossed the " bridge " > > > > > > to the " other side " , of which I strongly believe, I took > > > > > > the right road to > > > > > > knowing all about me! > > > > > > > > > > > > HUGS! > > > > > > > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2001 Report Share Posted February 5, 2001 If I understood this stream, Beth was invited to a party over the weekend, but Dawn is going to have one? If so, add me to the list… What a diverse group we are, cruises, white water rafting, “toy” parties, what’s next Tupperware? Actually I think Lyssa had one of those a few months back… Hugs, Joni – Dr. Thayer 11/27/00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2001 Report Share Posted February 5, 2001 Joni, That is EXACTLY what happened. And I, too, will travel for toys Dawn. Beth On Mon, 5 Feb 2001 09:52:57 -0500 " Dicastro, Joan " writes: > If I understood this stream, Beth was invited to a party over the > weekend, > but Dawn is going to have one? If so, add me to the list... What a > diverse > group we are, cruises, white water rafting, " toy " parties, what's > next > Tupperware? Actually I think Lyssa had one of those a few months > back... > > Hugs, > Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2001 Report Share Posted February 5, 2001 Joni, I've been to a few, and planning on having one this Spring. I was telling Beth allllllllllllll about what fun a woman can have just looking at the stuff and trying to figure it all out! LOL! Dawn RE: Re: Adult toy party If I understood this stream, Beth was invited to a party over the weekend, but Dawn is going to have one? If so, add me to the list… What a diverse group we are, cruises, white water rafting, “toy” parties, what’s next Tupperware? Actually I think Lyssa had one of those a few months back… Hugs, Joni – Dr. Thayer 11/27/00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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