Re: Support needed

November 8, 2009

Glad to see you posting Fay and I am glad that the group is helping you the only thing that I would advise is something someone posted in the group that really helped me when I started IE Focus on one principle at a time and once you feel you understand that then move on to the next principle. For example focus on finding your true hunger signal once you feel you have found that signal then focus on eating slowly or whatever principle you choose. Just take things slowly until you understand the principles. I have to tell you though IE isn't as easy as people think when they read about it you have your ups and downs as with anything in life but in the long run you will feel better about yourself and your body once you start to practice IE principles. Eva

Hi Everyone, I've been reading this digest for a few weeks now whilst getting to grips with the key principles of IE. It's been wonderful for me and I have truely felt so much better. After 2 pregnancies in quick sucession, I gained a lot of weight and ate and ate and ate to get through the difficulties I faced looking after my two beautiful babies. I came to IE through the Beyond Chocolate book which I found very interesting. I've since read a tremendous amount of material and am trying to intergrate the key principles into my life without making them rules. I have two problems - the first is that since Friday night I've had an awful tummy bug, just a really bad pain in my lower abdomen - I lost my appetitie and not eating has been hard for me. I have just blown my starvation with biscuits and chocolates which is crazy as I felt I had legalised these foods and have a huge supply available. My tummy now really hurts and my hubby has to work this pm so I'm ill and having to look after my two littlies and I feel sad like I used to when I binged. I don't want to beat myself up but I feel terrible, it's really hard to break the habbits of a lifetime. When I'm managing to follow the IE principles (generally) I have real problems with the concept of true 'demand' feeding. I am a person who thrives on routine - my babies have strict routines and as such I only get certain times when I'm not looking after them. These are conventional meal times (breakfast excluded) and I try really hard to make sure that I'm hungry at these times in order that I can eat with focus and without tending to my little ones. Is this really in line with the principles of IE? Do you think I'm cheating? I know this all sounds very diet mentality but I'm trying to get my head around all of this after years and years of eating problems, like many of you I guess. Many thanks for listening and thank you for some inspiring recent posts - I love them and they really help me in getting to grips with my eating obsession, Love Fay x PS: Is there anyone who has done a Beyond Chocolate workshop on here and if so, do you recommend them? Do you know of any UK support groups or would any of you be interested in creating one?

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November 8, 2009

Welcome Fay, I am glad you joined us here. I too found that being a part of

support like this group assisted me to keep on focus with IEing as well as

providing me input (new ideas) and allowing me to vent frustrations when I

needed that too.

What is it about your following a schedule that pleases/comforts you and what

about that is a nuisance for you? When I worked my home life was 'enriched' by

having a basic schedule in mind because it helped me to not let important things

(laundry, bill paying) 'slide'. But I also felt it was important to have 'free'

time to just do fun things too. I am having a reaction (purely my own, no

refection for you) to thinking about your sweet babies on a strict schedule.

Probably because I remember the 'ah ha!' moment I felt when I read how the IE

authors talked about how babies have such a real notion of when and how much

they need to eat. I vividly remembered how my younger brother would turn his

head away when he had enough and how my mother told me to encourage him to take

the last (few) swallows from his bottle. So wrong really, but that is where the

'waste not' lesson is enforced and built upon isn't it ;-)

It seems that there are a few other UK members in the group, hopefully they will

'wave' at you soon.

Best to you, Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> I've been reading this digest for a few weeks now whilst getting to grips with

the key principles of IE. It's been wonderful for me and I have truely felt so

much better. After 2 pregnancies in quick sucession, I gained a lot of weight

and ate and ate and ate to get through the difficulties I faced looking after my

two beautiful babies.

>

> I came to IE through the Beyond Chocolate book which I found very interesting.

I've since read a tremendous amount of material and am trying to intergrate the

key principles into my life without making them rules.

>

> I have two problems - the first is that since Friday night I've had an awful

tummy bug, just a really bad pain in my lower abdomen - I lost my appetitie and

not eating has been hard for me. I have just blown my starvation with biscuits

and chocolates which is crazy as I felt I had legalised these foods and have a

huge supply available. My tummy now really hurts and my hubby has to work this

pm so I'm ill and having to look after my two littlies and I feel sad like I

used to when I binged. I don't want to beat myself up but I feel terrible, it's

really hard to break the habbits of a lifetime.

>

> When I'm managing to follow the IE principles (generally) I have real problems

with the concept of true 'demand' feeding. I am a person who thrives on routine

- my babies have strict routines and as such I only get certain times when I'm

not looking after them. These are conventional meal times (breakfast excluded)

and I try really hard to make sure that I'm hungry at these times in order that

I can eat with focus and without tending to my little ones. Is this really in

line with the principles of IE? Do you think I'm cheating? I know this all

sounds very diet mentality but I'm trying to get my head around all of this

after years and years of eating problems, like many of you I guess.

>

> Many thanks for listening and thank you for some inspiring recent posts - I

love them and they really help me in getting to grips with my eating obsession,

>

> Love Fay x

>

> PS: Is there anyone who has done a Beyond Chocolate workshop on here and if

so, do you recommend them? Do you know of any UK support groups or would any of

you be interested in creating one?

>

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November 9, 2009

Hi Fay

Waving from the UK

here. I’ve not been to a BC workshop but have read the book. I

tend to lurk on here, absorbing the wisdom of those who post (I can’t strongly

enough express my thanks to those who do that). I’m not sure what a

separate UK

support group would add to my experience apart from more familiar foods being

discussed sometimes, so I would be interested in understanding if I’m

missing the point somewhere. Maybe we can have a Brit thread on here

instead?

I do visit another IE thyep forum occasionally, but again it is US

based. Let me know if you want details or if you find a UK group so I

can go see – I always return to here though, I must admit.

Sending love,

From:

IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Fay McCombie

Sent: 08 November 2009 14:55

To:

intuitiveeating_support

Subject:

Support needed

Hi Everyone,

I've been reading this digest for a few weeks now whilst

getting to grips with the key principles of IE. It's been wonderful

for me and I have truely felt so much better. After 2 pregnancies in

quick sucession, I gained a lot of weight and ate and ate and ate to

get through the difficulties I faced looking after my two beautiful

babies.

I came to IE through the Beyond Chocolate book which I found very interesting.

I've since read a tremendous amount of material and am trying to

intergrate the key principles into my life without making them rules.

I have two problems - the first is that since Friday night I've had an awful

tummy bug, just a really bad pain in my lower abdomen - I lost my appetitie and

not eating has been hard for me. I have just blown my starvation with biscuits

and chocolates which is crazy as I felt I had legalised these foods and have a

huge supply available. My tummy now really hurts and my hubby has to work this

pm so I'm ill and having to look after my two littlies and I feel sad like

I used to when I binged. I don't want to beat myself up but I feel terrible,

it's really hard to break the habbits of a lifetime.

When I'm managing to follow the IE principles (generally) I have real problems

with the concept of true 'demand' feeding. I am a person who thrives on routine

- my babies have strict routines and as such I only get certain times when I'm

not looking after them. These are conventional meal times (breakfast

excluded) and I try really hard to make sure that I'm hungry at these times in

order that I can eat with focus and without tending to my little ones. Is this

really in line with the principles of IE? Do you think I'm cheating? I know

this all sounds very diet mentality but I'm trying to get my head around

all of this after years and years of eating problems, like many of you I guess.

Many thanks for listening and thank you fo! ! r some inspiring recent posts - I

love them and they really help me in getting to grips with my eating obsession,

Love Fay x

PS: Is there anyone who has done a Beyond Chocolate workshop on here and if so,

do you recommend them? Do you know of any UK support groups or would any of

you be interested in creating one?

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November 9, 2009

Hi Fay and welcome!

Babies! I remember the days! My youngest baby is 18 years now and my babies

are having their own babies!

Anyway, I totally FEEL what you're going through. I think just when I've " got

it, " then WHAM!, something happens and I'm back into the food. I think what

you're asking is how could that happen when you felt sick physically and also

understood the principle of allowing yourself to have anything???

I guess in my opinion, the answer is " Old habits die hard. "

Dont beat yourself up over returning to old behaviors. These behaviors somehow

" got us through " the tough times and have become engrained in our beings. I am

told it will take awhile to trust that the behavior is no longer needed. Pay

close attention to the little bits of progress that are happening because these

become your stepping stones to getting out of the hole!

Watch your babies carefully as I believe they will be great teachers for you!

Treat yourself as you would them.

You mentioned that you are trying to eat at times when you can focus on your

hunger without the distraction of the babies and their schedule. I think that's

a perfect demonstration of self-love! Engulge in that " alone time. " Feed

yourself with the love and attention that you give to your children.

Warm hugs,

Deb