sensitive subject, very little CC, talking about intimacy

[Guest guest]

I know that the S** word is a quazi-taboo topic on e-boards. But,

nonetheless, here is my two cents.

I think the best way to handle this topic is with honesty and totally

open communication with your spouse.

Probably one of the best ways my hubby and I have dealt with this is

by making our times together as non-goal oriented.

We have been married almost 14 years now, and I can say some of our

most precious times together, did not end with a goal in mind.

It is so rare nowadays to have total, one-on-one, no distraction

time, and recognizing how precious time is, we have made a pact to

have intimacy at times, without a goal.

This kind of time together helped us get thru: three high risk

pregnancies, a hysterectomy, several TMJ surgeries, and recovery from

a hernia.

By laying out the guidelines that there is no end-goal, it takes the

pressure off either of us to " preform " and it is pure, glorious,

intimacy in its greatest, purest form.

We will also be planning our post decompression surgery time this way

too, and I am looking forward to having great intimacy even with the

" no-sex for six weeks " time period.

For those whom have read this, if I have offended anyone, I

appologize in advance.

My thought about this type of topic, we are all in the same boat, and

if one of us figures out a better way to row their oar, then it can

only help those of use who can use the help.

Le

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