Guest guest Posted September 7, 2009 Report Share Posted September 7, 2009 Deb, About the time I first started discovering non-dieting (late 1980s?), I also found myself in the 'power struggle' stage of our marriage. What your post reminded me of was how we found out via Getting The Love You Want (book) that much of the 'attraction' that one has for a selected mate can be based upon the negatives one carries over from childhood regarding parenting etc. Its an interesting concept and difficult to grasp/swallow too. Yet when we were in the discovery stage of that process, all sorts of questions arose for both of us as to 'did I choose rightly?'. Hopefully you current reaction is only due to a new perspective upon your own life. In regards to one's spouse, I still think Dear Abby's suggestion of asking yourself - 'Would I be better off WITH or WITHOUT him/her?' is a good exercise to do. We all have pluses and minuses too, how these tally up is the telling story. Balance is good too. Another thing to consider is how diet mentality sets us up to expect INSTANT!!! MIRACLE!!! 'results'. Life isn't so quick to change, which is a good thing most times Getting to feel you are just fine RIGHT NOW may be the best thing you can do. Starting from such a 'strong' position may make your IE journey easier too. BEST wishes for you in all you do - Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I wanted to post about this before under my old sign on name. I decided that I need to be a little more anonymous because I'm really sharing alot of deep stuff that I've never really visited before - until now. > > I'm really finding the need to " get away. " I'm starting to get those great feelings of self-love once in awhile and it really does feel so good. I've noticed lately that I seem to be more attracted to my husband ONLY after I've overeaten. Which leads me to wonder - do I really love this man or did I just " settle " for him? > > So I'm wanting to just be alone and get away from him and all my responsibilities. Could this be why I've held on to my addiction all these years? It's sort of intriguing and also very scary. > > I'll be discussing this with my ED counselor this week. I'm just wondering if the right rehab would be a safe place to go to start dealing with this. > > Peaches (aka Deb) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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