Re: Hello from Calgary, Alberta, Canada!

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Welcome to the group so glad to have you with us. Eva

I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in weight loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me what I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise - especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now. As soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food without this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of being "fat", and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day be a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over heels in love with my bod, but I am not... Okay, I'm rambling now.Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn learn loads about how to heal myself!Agnieszka

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Agnieszka,Welcome to the group!

I have a block about anyone telling me what to do, too! Diets never worked for me for that reason... as soon as you tell me I cant have something, all I want is that thing! That's why Intuitive Eating is so great... there's really no rules. I recently discovered When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies through this group and it is really brilliant. The beginning I didnt like so much but after that I feel like I have learned SOOOOO much about how to care for myself, and how my eating reflects how well i am doing with that. I highly reccomend it.

And as for the running... I am a runner, and I say if you want to run, go for it! Start moving your body to work towards that goal... regardless of your weight! Well, maybe wait until your pregnancy and first 6 weeks postpartum are over, but after that... 

Best,

Abby

 

Welcome to the group so glad to have you with us.  Eva

 

 

I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in weight loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me what I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise - especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now. As soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food without this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of being " fat " , and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day be a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over heels in love with my bod, but I am not... Okay, I'm rambling now.Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn learn loads about how to heal myself!Agnieszka

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While we are on the subject of encouragement Yesterday on Ray I saw A personal trainer who is 80 years old he gave this advice move your body every day and eat everything in moderation. It inspird me yesterday so I thought I would share it with the group. Eva

Thanks, Abby, so nice to hear encouraging words!I've always thought I'd have such a long long long way to go before being able to start running... But you know, then I heard this awesome story about a man who was over 300 lbs and he just picked up one day and started running. He said that first time almost killed him but he just kept going. It seems to me that all the other ways of moving - other than swimming and dancing on your own or in a club - require putting oneself under the scrutiny of others and that's just too painful. You know, if you get a personal trainer, or if you join a gym - where everyone is bored out of their brains while thudding along in the treadmill so they people-watch and probably people-judge... it just don't feel good. But running or walking are so freeing. That's my dream, to run for a little while without pain, to enjoy the freedom, to just enjoy my body's ability to do that... God, it makes me want to cry when I think of all the limitations I feel now... Anyway... If you can suggest some reading material about getting started - like, how not to hurt myself with the first time, because if that were to happen it would probably be hard to continue...- I'd really appreciate it. I wish there was an obese-person's running club or something...Thanks again,Agnieszka> > >> >> > Welcome to the group so glad to have you with us. Eva> >> > > >> >> >> > I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been> > working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time> > but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in weight> > loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me what> > I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise -> > especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now. As> > soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing> > control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and> > up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my> > ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food without> > this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body> > without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as> > much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of being> > "fat", and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!> >> > What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am> > currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a> > grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we> > were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day be> > a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United> > Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I> > want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious> > trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over> > heels in love with my bod, but I am not...> >> > Okay, I'm rambling now.> >> > Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn> > learn loads about how to heal myself!> >> > Agnieszka> >> > > >> > > > -->

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Thanks, Abby, so nice to hear encouraging words!

I've always thought I'd have such a long long long way to go before being able

to start running... But you know, then I heard this awesome story about a man

who was over 300 lbs and he just picked up one day and started running. He said

that first time almost killed him but he just kept going. It seems to me that

all the other ways of moving - other than swimming and dancing on your own or in

a club - require putting oneself under the scrutiny of others and that's just

too painful. You know, if you get a personal trainer, or if you join a gym -

where everyone is bored out of their brains while thudding along in the

treadmill so they people-watch and probably people-judge... it just don't feel

good. But running or walking are so freeing. That's my dream, to run for a

little while without pain, to enjoy the freedom, to just enjoy my body's ability

to do that... God, it makes me want to cry when I think of all the limitations

I feel now... Anyway... If you can suggest some reading material about getting

started - like, how not to hurt myself with the first time, because if that were

to happen it would probably be hard to continue...- I'd really appreciate it. I

wish there was an obese-person's running club or something...

Thanks again,

Agnieszka

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> >

> > Welcome to the group so glad to have you with us. Eva

> >

> > In a message dated 10/23/2009 11:22:55 A.M. Central Daylight Time,

> > mama_agnieszka@... writes:

> >

> >

> >

> > I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been

> > working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time

> > but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in weight

> > loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me what

> > I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise -

> > especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now. As

> > soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing

> > control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and

> > up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my

> > ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food without

> > this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body

> > without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as

> > much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of being

> > " fat " , and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!

> >

> > What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am

> > currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a

> > grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we

> > were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day be

> > a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United

> > Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I

> > want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious

> > trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over

> > heels in love with my bod, but I am not...

> >

> > Okay, I'm rambling now.

> >

> > Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn

> > learn loads about how to heal myself!

> >

> > Agnieszka

> >

> >

> >

>

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I haven't read this book but I think it would be awesome....

The Courage To Start: A Guide To Running for Your Life (Paperback)~  " The Penguin " Bingham (Author)

the author has a wonderful column every month in Runners World (the magazine) for " Penguins, " the back of the pack, slow runners. such as himself. he shows all runners that we share the same joys and frustrations. and that running is not about winning races. nor how far you can go, or what you look like. (when i did my first marathon, i was sure that i would be the fattest person there... and i was far from it! runners are all shapes and sizes.) it's about the joy and liberation it brings. (i will add that running has never made me lose weight... so i never had that connection in my head to rebel against... it just makes me feel more alive.) 

Oh, and he ends every column with " Waddle on, friends. " So when you see it at the end of the review, that's why. I've pasted the amazon review, below. 

i think the most important thing is to go REALLY SLOWLY. you are far better off to UNDERdo it than to overdo it. grete waitz, another very famous runner (she won the NYC marathon 4 times... the first after never having run more than 15 miles before) says " hurry slowly. " i think that is a great motto. if you rush things, you get injured or burnt out and it takes so much longer in the long run.

my only bit of advice is beware of any nutritional advice in the book... dont stray from your IE path and start dieting... good luck!

Has the idea of running crossed your mind, but you haven't acted on it because you don't think you have the body of a runner? Have you thought about running but quit before you started because you knew that you would be breathless at the end of your driveway? Well, put aside those fears because you can do it. Bingham, author of the popular Runner's World column " The Penguin Chronicles, " transformed himself from an overweight couch potato who smoked into a runner who has completed eleven marathons and hundreds of road races.

Forget about the image of a perfect body in skintight clothes, and don't worry about how fast or how far you go. Bingham shows how anyone can embrace running as a life-enhancing activity -- rather than as a competition you will never win. In an entertaining blend of his own success story and practical advice, Bingham provides reasonable guidelines for establishing a program of achievable goals; offers tips on clothing, running shoes, and other equipment; and explains how anyone can prepare for and run distances ranging from a few miles to marathons.

After all, in running and in life, the difference between success and failure sometimes comes down to a single step. Waddle on, friends. 

 

While we are on the subject of encouragement Yesterday on Ray I saw A personal trainer who is 80 years old he gave this advice move your body every day and eat everything in moderation.  It inspird me yesterday so I thought I would share it with the group.  Eva

 

 

Thanks, Abby, so nice to hear encouraging words!I've always thought I'd have such a long long long way to go before being able to start running... But you know, then I heard this awesome story about a man who was over 300 lbs and he just picked up one day and started running. He said that first time almost killed him but he just kept going. It seems to me that all the other ways of moving - other than swimming and dancing on your own or in a club - require putting oneself under the scrutiny of others and that's just too painful. You know, if you get a personal trainer, or if you join a gym - where everyone is bored out of their brains while thudding along in the treadmill so they people-watch and probably people-judge... it just don't feel good. But running or walking are so freeing. That's my dream, to run for a little while without pain, to enjoy the freedom, to just enjoy my body's ability to do that... God, it makes me want to cry when I think of all the limitations I feel now... Anyway... If you can suggest some reading material about getting started - like, how not to hurt myself with the first time, because if that were to happen it would probably be hard to continue...- I'd really appreciate it. I wish there was an obese-person's running club or something...Thanks again,Agnieszka> > >> >> > Welcome to the group so glad to have you with us. Eva> >> > > >> >> >> > I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been> > working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time> > but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in weight> > loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me what> > I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise -> > especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now. As> > soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing> > control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and> > up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my> > ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food without> > this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body> > without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as> > much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of being> > " fat " , and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!> >> > What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am> > currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a> > grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we> > were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day be> > a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United> > Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I> > want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious> > trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over> > heels in love with my bod, but I am not...> >> > Okay, I'm rambling now.> >> > Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn> > learn loads about how to heal myself!> >> > Agnieszka> >> > > >> > > > -->

-- Abigail C. Wolfson, RN, MS, CPNPLICH School Based Health CenterBNS/BCS610 Henry Street, Room 209Brooklyn, NY 11231 (fax)

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Good luck Agnieszka!

Your passion and motivation is inspiring to me I wish you all the best!

> >

> > >

> > >

> > > Welcome to the group so glad to have you with us. Eva

> > >

> > > In a message dated 10/23/2009 11:22:55 A.M. Central Daylight Time,

> > > mama_agnieszka@ writes:

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been

> > > working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time

> > > but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in

weight

> > > loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me

what

> > > I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise -

> > > especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now.

As

> > > soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing

> > > control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and

> > > up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my

> > > ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food

without

> > > this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body

> > > without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as

> > > much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of being

> > > " fat " , and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!

> > >

> > > What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am

> > > currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a

> > > grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we

> > > were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day

be

> > > a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United

> > > Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I

> > > want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious

> > > trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over

> > > heels in love with my bod, but I am not...

> > >

> > > Okay, I'm rambling now.

> > >

> > > Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn

> > > learn loads about how to heal myself!

> > >

> > > Agnieszka

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

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> >

>

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I'm really behind on the messages here but I wanted to say welcome from Nova Scotia, Canada!!

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Fri, October 23, 2009 1:11:05 AMSubject: Hello from Calgary, Alberta, Canada!

I'm new here and new to the Intuitive Eating method, too. I have been working with the inner aspects of my disordered eating for quite some time but none of my work (through counseling and reading) has resulted in weight loss... see, I have this huge block about anyone ever trying to tell me what I should and shouldn't eat... and I have this other block about exercise - especially since having children and being about 120 pounds heavier now. As soon as I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy, I started losing control. And since 2004, and my first pregnancy, I have gone up and up and up... And at the moment, I feel totally stuck and nearly hopeless about my ability to recover some sense of possibility that a)I can enjoy food without this constant sense of threat of binging, b)I can take care of my body without depriving and hurting myself, c)I can be physically well, move as much as I want to, without constant pain and without the shame of

being "fat", and d)I am not doomed to a short and painful fat existence!What else about me? I'm 34, have two daughters (age 4.5 and 3) and am currently 28 weeks along with my third. I'm a social worker by training, a grad school drop out (got pregnant), married to my dear husband since we were 24, and more or less enjoying my life as a mama. Wanting to one day be a minister in the United Church of Canada (sort of like the United Methodists in the States, I believe), a writer, and a RUNNER!!!!! Yes, I want to run. Alas, not yet. I'm 300 pounds and I feel that I'm in serious trouble. Health is good, sugar, blood pressure, etc., husband is head over heels in love with my bod, but I am not... Okay, I'm rambling now.Bless you all and I hope to make some friends here, and to learn learn learn loads about how to heal myself!Agnieszka

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