Re: help

February 22, 2001

,

Im on the upper Cape...Im trying to keep this whole surgery quiet. Kind of

just between him and me. I bet you might know my hubby.

February 22, 2001

what A & P does he work for i work for the one in

p-town

February 22, 2001

He's in Sandwich. I honestly do want this to stay quiet. Please don't tell

anyone. I don't mean to sound paranoid about this, but I've read in here how

someone was talking to someone esle and the person worked with the other

person who was being talked to and now it's all over her office. And this was

something she wanted kept quiet. I just dont want the same thing to happen to

me...

Thanks

February 22, 2001

Im not going to tell people they do not need to know. What you are doing. Im

not even back to work yet. They do know about me eather.What dose your hubby

do for A & P. I have there for 15years.

February 22, 2001

,

I'm a mom of 5 little ones...ages from 10yrs to 7 months. I don't work

outside the home. My husband is a dairy manager and has been with the company

for about the same time you have. What do you do there? Thank you for keeping

this between us. The last thing I need is for this to get back to my

mother-in-law from hell and have it spread all over the Cape. She's well

known for her mouth and I'm already the talk of the town up here...and thats

no joke.

February 22, 2001

I work fulltime in the deli. 5kids I thought 2 was bad. Mine are 9

and 5. Im 32 and my hubby 34. He workfulltime to.

February 22, 2001

Jeff, Some people do but i would not say a lot from the the people. That

talk at the meeting. I tried but my dad and hubby told people. Its ok because

i feel good about what i did. Its nice to have some people down here this are

going to do this. I felt all alone when i frist stared this because i did not

know anyone who had done this or was going to do it. good luck

February 22, 2001

It's nice to see some others from the Cape on here, too.

Hi . Yes, you guessed right when you called your friend yesterday wondering if the Paramedic from Truro that posted on here was me or not. I, like you and , am keeping this more as a secret...for now anyway. Do a lot of people do that in the beginning?

Your secret is sacred with me. :-) Stay safe.

Jeff

~I have six locks on my door all in a row. When I go out, I lock every other

one. I figure no matter how long somebody stands there picking the locks,they are always locking three.~

February 22, 2001

Yes everyone lets please be respectful of each other and NOT assume that

anything said here can be repeated all over the place. 's example is

well made she lives in a small place and does not need it broadcasted all

over if she does not wish it ...

I've seen this happen already once before and I'd hate to see it repeated.

What's on the list should stay on the list.

Lyssa

list owner

Re: HELP

He's in Sandwich. I honestly do want this to stay quiet. Please don't tell

anyone. I don't mean to sound paranoid about this, but I've read in here how

someone was talking to someone esle and the person worked with the other

person who was being talked to and now it's all over her office. And this

was

something she wanted kept quiet. I just dont want the same thing to happen

to

me...

Thanks

February 23, 2001

Jeff

Welcome I'm from the Cape too I'm pre-op w/ Dr. Thayer scheduled for 3/29 I

have told most friends and family everyone was great about it no negativity

so far.. I mean people have expressed fear about major surgery and my mom is

freaking out thinking of caring for my 2 y.o. while I'm in the hospital.. but

otherwise everyone was good.. I think it helped that I'm sure and that I

can't let their opinion change my plans... they don't have to live in this

body... just my 2cents

vicki

February 23, 2001

Jeff,

I think telling anyone is your business. It's a very personal choice. I know

for me that I do not want my personal life chitchatted about over coffee.

This whole weight battle for me has been huge, as I'm sure it is for everyone

who battles this. The surgery was a huge decision for me, but the last thing

I want people to think or talk about is that I failed in some way in loosing

this weight without surgery. Trust me...my mother in law would have the time

of her life talking about this and proving me in some way as a looser. So

with these reasons and many many more...I choose for myself to keep this

between my husband and I. That should be the basic point for all.....choose

for yourself as to what is best for you...not what others see is best. Know

what I mean? Gossip hurts and I'm not going to throw anyone a bone to gossip

about me...

just my thought...

February 23, 2001

My 0.02 cents was no one cared how I got fat why should they care how I got

thin

I told no one initially .. as time went on I told more. Still not everyone

knows. My neighbours don't know most of my distant family does not know ..

my oldest school friend but one I don't see very often doesn't know. I find

it easier to tell strangers or those I just met ..

its a personal choice and whatever you choose is right for you.

Lyssa

October 22, 2003

In a message dated 10/21/2003 10:48:39 PM Pacific Standard Time,

coprhed@... writes:

> but i've noticed recently that i'm having joint pain -

>

get those joints moving Sis .... chances are it has more to do with being

immobile. My joints for example and back too, always ache when I spend more

than one day in bed. ( am 46, could be an age thing ..? )

Once I'm back on my feet doing my daily walk .. things lossen up a bit.

hugs ... Rena

October 22, 2003

In a message dated 10/21/2003 10:48:39 PM Pacific Standard Time,

coprhed@... writes:

> but i've noticed recently that i'm having joint pain -

>

get those joints moving Sis .... chances are it has more to do with being

immobile. My joints for example and back too, always ache when I spend more

than one day in bed. ( am 46, could be an age thing ..? )

Once I'm back on my feet doing my daily walk .. things lossen up a bit.

hugs ... Rena

October 22, 2003

In a message dated 10/22/2003 9:51:21 AM Pacific Standard Time,

coprhed@... writes:

> i'm

> having a pity party over here and upset with my family b/c i feel i'm not

> getting support

we are here for you ... your " new " family. Take it a day at a time.

Keep posting/reading other peoples posts. Coming to the computer and

reading everyone's thoughts has made me feel less isolated and more personally

empowered to reach my personal goals.

Never give up !!! Hugs, ... Rena

October 22, 2003

Hey !!!

I am not having joint pain. In fact I was before surgery and now it's gone.

But I do have upper back pain that I never had before and it drives me

crazy!!!!

I did want to mention that if you are really feeling like you could sleep

all day you should talk to your doctor. I was having the same problem when

I was about 2 weeks out and it turned out to be from an infection.

Even now I am still tired however. I still need a nap every day or I can't

make it through.

Candi

help

hi everybody - i have a question....surgery was sept 22 nd and i just

weighed and lost 17 lbs - TG, i thought it would never move.....i have

some

things to work on - getting my fluids in and more " food " - i could just

sleep all day - but i've noticed recently that i'm having joint pain -

mainly right knee and elbow - anybody had this happen - i'm wondering if

its

related to calcium - i should get labs drawn this week.

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October 22, 2003

Hey !!!

I am not having joint pain. In fact I was before surgery and now it's gone.

But I do have upper back pain that I never had before and it drives me

crazy!!!!

I did want to mention that if you are really feeling like you could sleep

all day you should talk to your doctor. I was having the same problem when

I was about 2 weeks out and it turned out to be from an infection.

Even now I am still tired however. I still need a nap every day or I can't

make it through.

Candi

help

hi everybody - i have a question....surgery was sept 22 nd and i just

weighed and lost 17 lbs - TG, i thought it would never move.....i have

some

things to work on - getting my fluids in and more " food " - i could just

sleep all day - but i've noticed recently that i'm having joint pain -

mainly right knee and elbow - anybody had this happen - i'm wondering if

its

related to calcium - i should get labs drawn this week.

visit our website

www.geocities.com/tanyarn96/countryside.html

www.poncetihomes.com

October 22, 2003

hey rena - thanks - i know you are right - i should be up and around - i'm

having a pity party over here and upset with my family b/c i feel i'm not

getting support - they act as if nothing is wrong with me or that i had

surgery.

visit our website

www.geocities.com/tanyarn96/countryside.html

www.poncetihomes.com

-- Re: help

In a message dated 10/21/2003 10:48:39 PM Pacific Standard Time,

coprhed@... writes:

> but i've noticed recently that i'm having joint pain -

>

get those joints moving Sis .... chances are it has more to do with being

immobile. My joints for example and back too, always ache when I spend

more

than one day in bed. ( am 46, could be an age thing ..? )

Once I'm back on my feet doing my daily walk .. things lossen up a bit.

hugs ... Rena

October 22, 2003

Please if someone knows of the site with the letter that was written to the

insurance company (rough draft) please email me. al my husband goes in to the

doctor tomorrow and I wanted him to take a copy just like the one that I seen.

Thanks in advance

Bobi

October 22, 2003

Please if someone knows of the site with the letter that was written to the

insurance company (rough draft) please email me. al my husband goes in to the

doctor tomorrow and I wanted him to take a copy just like the one that I seen.

Thanks in advance

Bobi

October 22, 2003

There is one on the Gastric Bypass Family website.

> Please if someone knows of the site with the letter that was

written to the insurance company (rough draft) please email me. al

my husband goes in to the doctor tomorrow and I wanted him to take a

copy just like the one that I seen. Thanks in advance

> Bobi

>

October 22, 2003

Hey Bobi,

I found lots of good info about dealing with insurance on the

obesityhelp.com website. I would check that out. It took me two

tries before I was approved:-)

Keep us posted and take care!

Bridget

> Please if someone knows of the site with the letter that was

written to the insurance company (rough draft) please email me. al

my husband goes in to the doctor tomorrow and I wanted him to take a

copy just like the one that I seen. Thanks in advance

> Bobi

>

November 11, 2003

I bring my 12 month old to every appointment..

I can't afford a babysitter.. the nurses just love him.

Peace,

K

Open RNY Surgery date : 12/2/03

5' and 252 lbs

HELP

I have my preop consult today with the surgeon (surgery 11/18) and my

babysitter just called and bailed...Is this something that I can bring my 2

1/2 yr

old to??? Thanks

October 5, 2009

Sara,

Try not to worry! It sounds like you are progressing on your IE journey. If

your jeans fit the same and you have been working with a trainer I would guess

it's a combination of new muscle and water weight with maybe a little actual

weight gain. When I took up running I gained 10 pounds in a month (which

totally freaked me out because it was during an extremely restrictive diet).

Unless there is a specific reason to have an absolute number for your weight, my

nutritionist says you can ask not to be weighed or can be weighed facing away

from the number (I have a physical next month and I'm planning on facing away

because I'm feeling really positive right now and don't want the scale to bring

me down).

Best of luck!

~

>

> Hi all -

>

> I made a big mistake today, and got on the scale. I did it because I was

> going to the doctor, and I figured they were probably going to weigh me

> anyway so why not find out what my scale says, first. I've been doing IE

> since June, and I know I gained some weight at the beginning. I haven't

> gotten on the scale since July, and my clothes (meaning JEANS) fit the same,

> so I have been feeling good and figured my weight has stabilized. Wrong! I

> am 12 pounds up, since July 22. I was so surprised. I am already at a very

> high weight for me (236, my goal weight is 170) and while I'm very healthy

> and I work out, I am really feeling the extra pounds. My joints hurt and

> despite the fact that I lift weights weekly with a trainer and work hard at

> core strength, I have strained my back three times in the last month. (I

> have a wiggly 18 pound baby who is the cause of the back injuries).

>

> I'm not surprised that I gained weight at the beginning, but I thought my IE

> was going so well because of how I'm eating. I'm through my cake, cookies,

> ice cream and other " phases " and feel very apathetic about those foods. I'm

> starting to want vegetables and fruits again. I actually thought I might

> have lost weight, and that's partly why I had the nerve to get on the scale.

>

> For medical reasons, partly related to the doctor I went to today, I don't

> have all the time in the world to just keep on trusting IE and letting my

> weight be what it is. As long as I feel like my weight is going down, no

> matter how slowly, those medical issues will be addressed and I need that so

> badly. I know this is probably my only choice, since diets don't work at

> all for me (not even temporarily). But I'm so upset and confused. My

> trainer keeps asking me if the IE is " working " and I know that what she, and

> everyone, means is, am I losing weight? You and I know that IE is so much

> more than that, and that it IS working, because my relationship with food is

> so different. But if my weight is still going up, am I wrong? I always

> thought being " out of touch " with my own weight gain was a red flag that I

> was having food issues, but since my clothes feel the same I didn't think I

> was gaining. I thought weight loss was right around the corner and now I'm

> feeling all those old feelings of mistrust towards myself. I want so much

> to feel in tune with my body and not always feel that my body is betraying

> me.

>

> FYI, the doctor didn't pressure me about my weight; the medical part is I

> want to have another baby and I feel I can't go through another pregnancy

> when my body is already stressed by this extra weight.

>

> As you can tell I am freaking out. Please help?

>

October 5, 2009

,I'm one for whom diets never worked, even temporarily, also. so i can totally relate to how freaked out you are feeling!a couple thoughts... one, maybe you gained more than you realized initially, and have, in fact, already lost some of that weight, which is why you feel like you were losing... it's just that you aren't yet back down to where you were initially? did you weight yourself when you started IE, or some time before that when you had been dieting?

for me, when i stopped dieting, i had to work my way through legalizing, which definitely added some pounds, but i think my metabolism had also been screwed up from restricting calories and carbs for so long. so some of that weight gain was bound to happen as soon as i stopped dieting.

also, since dieting doesn't work AND makes us crazy... what are your other options? i truly believe that dieting causes weight gain. dont doubt the great progress you have made!!! making peace with food is HUGE. and i do believe that you will see downward progress in your weight... in whatever time frame your body is ready for. and the fact that you are working out is great! i think that matters more than your weight.

have you been medically advised that your weight is not safe for a pregnancy? or just that it would be better to lose weight? because a lot of the time those sorts of messages are theoretical. if possible, i say go for your dreams... and dont let weight get in the way if you can possibly help it!

good luck, and don't lose faith... you are doing great with IE! trust yourself.abby

Sara,

Try not to worry! It sounds like you are progressing on your IE journey. If your jeans fit the same and you have been working with a trainer I would guess it's a combination of new muscle and water weight with maybe a little actual weight gain. When I took up running I gained 10 pounds in a month (which totally freaked me out because it was during an extremely restrictive diet). Unless there is a specific reason to have an absolute number for your weight, my nutritionist says you can ask not to be weighed or can be weighed facing away from the number (I have a physical next month and I'm planning on facing away because I'm feeling really positive right now and don't want the scale to bring me down).