Re: 'Not now' does not mean 'Not for hours'

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Amen!

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: apple.kabob@...Date: Tue, 6 Oct 2009 17:23:17 +0000Subject: 'Not now' does not mean 'Not for hours'

Something that's been helping me lately is to remind myself when I'm eating that if I'm full, choosing to stop eating now does not mean that if I'm hungry in 10 minutes I can't have more. Back in the diet mentality I felt a lot of pressure to eat my whole meal, whatever meager thing it was, because if I didn't I would need to wait for hours before I would have the chance to eat again (or if the hunger got too bad I would have to cheat and eat something and feel bad about myself for failing to 'eat right'). While it is more convenient for meals to fit into nicely scheduled evenly spaced blocks of time, if all that it takes to be full is a quarter of a sandwich, I shouldn't eat half a sandwich or a whole sandwich just because it's mealtime and I shouldn't feel bad about myself if 45 mins later I am really hungry and eat the rest of it and a banana. Having a scoop of ice cream now does not mean I can't have another one later in the day (and it will probably taste better than if I have two scoops at once just because I two scoops is my definition of unrestricted serving). If I'm at a restaurant, I don't need to eat my meal (or even half of it) just because I'm at a restaurant and am afraid of being judged by the waitstaff or other diners (I can take it home and it will be fine later). Food should be subservient to my needs and my schedule and not vice versa.

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> Food should be subservient to my needs and my schedule and not vice versaGreat advice! I need to tattoo that on my forehead, LOL.Thanks for sharing,A

 

Something that's been helping me lately is to remind myself when I'm eating that if I'm full, choosing to stop eating now does not mean that if I'm hungry in 10 minutes I can't have more. Back in the diet mentality I felt a lot of pressure to eat my whole meal, whatever meager thing it was, because if I didn't I would need to wait for hours before I would have the chance to eat again (or if the hunger got too bad I would have to cheat and eat something and feel bad about myself for failing to 'eat right'). While it is more convenient for meals to fit into nicely scheduled evenly spaced blocks of time, if all that it takes to be full is a quarter of a sandwich, I shouldn't eat half a sandwich or a whole sandwich just because it's mealtime and I shouldn't feel bad about myself if 45 mins later I am really hungry and eat the rest of it and a banana. Having a scoop of ice cream now does not mean I can't have another one later in the day (and it will probably taste better than if I have two scoops at once just because I two scoops is my definition of unrestricted serving). If I'm at a restaurant, I don't need to eat my meal (or even half of it) just because I'm at a restaurant and am afraid of being judged by the waitstaff or other diners (I can take it home and it will be fine later). Food should be subservient to my needs and my schedule and not vice versa.

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I like how you give food responsibility -- a fun way to think about it!And I totally agree with what you are saying... when I first started, I ate tons of little meals... I think IE is much easier when you don't let yourself get too ravenous, especially in the beginning. Now that I have been doing it a while, getting really hungry isn't as scary for me -- I think I proved to myself that I will feed myself whenever I need it. I can actually choose to ignore it now, sometimes, which feels empowering.

 

> Food should be subservient to my needs and my schedule and not vice versaGreat advice! I need to tattoo that on my forehead, LOL.Thanks for sharing,

A

 

Something that's been helping me lately is to remind myself when I'm eating that if I'm full, choosing to stop eating now does not mean that if I'm hungry in 10 minutes I can't have more. Back in the diet mentality I felt a lot of pressure to eat my whole meal, whatever meager thing it was, because if I didn't I would need to wait for hours before I would have the chance to eat again (or if the hunger got too bad I would have to cheat and eat something and feel bad about myself for failing to 'eat right'). While it is more convenient for meals to fit into nicely scheduled evenly spaced blocks of time, if all that it takes to be full is a quarter of a sandwich, I shouldn't eat half a sandwich or a whole sandwich just because it's mealtime and I shouldn't feel bad about myself if 45 mins later I am really hungry and eat the rest of it and a banana. Having a scoop of ice cream now does not mean I can't have another one later in the day (and it will probably taste better than if I have two scoops at once just because I two scoops is my definition of unrestricted serving). If I'm at a restaurant, I don't need to eat my meal (or even half of it) just because I'm at a restaurant and am afraid of being judged by the waitstaff or other diners (I can take it home and it will be fine later). Food should be subservient to my needs and my schedule and not vice versa.

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This is definitely something I needed to hear. I have trouble stopping when

physically satisfied because I am scared of being hungry again, and I like

tasting food and sometimes don't want to stop (I have realized that this is

emotional eating for me). I've definitely made a lot of progress, but what you

said gives me a new way of thinking about it. Thanks so much for sharing!

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> Something that's been helping me lately is to remind myself when I'm eating

that if I'm full, choosing to stop eating now does not mean that if I'm hungry

in 10 minutes I can't have more. Back in the diet mentality I felt a lot of

pressure to eat my whole meal, whatever meager thing it was, because if I didn't

I would need to wait for hours before I would have the chance to eat again (or

if the hunger got too bad I would have to cheat and eat something and feel bad

about myself for failing to 'eat right'). While it is more convenient for meals

to fit into nicely scheduled evenly spaced blocks of time, if all that it takes

to be full is a quarter of a sandwich, I shouldn't eat half a sandwich or a

whole sandwich just because it's mealtime and I shouldn't feel bad about myself

if 45 mins later I am really hungry and eat the rest of it and a banana. Having

a scoop of ice cream now does not mean I can't have another one later in the day

(and it will probably taste better than if I have two scoops at once just

because I two scoops is my definition of unrestricted serving). If I'm at a

restaurant, I don't need to eat my meal (or even half of it) just because I'm at

a restaurant and am afraid of being judged by the waitstaff or other diners (I

can take it home and it will be fine later). Food should be subservient to my

needs and my schedule and not vice versa.

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I agree completely. I oscillate between needing to eating lots of smaller

meals, and at other times, I don't care to eat until I'm hungrier. But it's got

to be about what I want to do, not about forcing myself to wait to eat. If I

want to eat now, even if my only hunger sign is the desire to eat, I have

committed to respecting that, and that has calmed me down a lot about food.

Sara

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> >> Something that's been helping me lately is to remind myself when I'm

> >> eating that if I'm full, choosing to stop eating now does not mean that if

> >> I'm hungry in 10 minutes I can't have more. Back in the diet mentality I

> >> felt a lot of pressure to eat my whole meal, whatever meager thing it was,

> >> because if I didn't I would need to wait for hours before I would have the

> >> chance to eat again (or if the hunger got too bad I would have to cheat and

> >> eat something and feel bad about myself for failing to 'eat right'). While

> >> it is more convenient for meals to fit into nicely scheduled evenly spaced

> >> blocks of time, if all that it takes to be full is a quarter of a sandwich,

> >> I shouldn't eat half a sandwich or a whole sandwich just because it's

> >> mealtime and I shouldn't feel bad about myself if 45 mins later I am really

> >> hungry and eat the rest of it and a banana. Having a scoop of ice cream now

> >> does not mean I can't have another one later in the day (and it will

> >> probably taste better than if I have two scoops at once just because I two

> >> scoops is my definition of unrestricted serving). If I'm at a restaurant, I

> >> don't need to eat my meal (or even half of it) just because I'm at a

> >> restaurant and am afraid of being judged by the waitstaff or other diners

(I

> >> can take it home and it will be fine later). Food should be subservient to

> >> my needs and my schedule and not vice versa.

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> >>

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Wow Sara, that last sentence hit me; I think I am starting to live it and there is a great peace living within me because of it.

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: saralouwho@...Date: Thu, 8 Oct 2009 17:42:16 +0000Subject: Re: 'Not now' does not mean 'Not for hours'

I agree completely. I oscillate between needing to eating lots of smaller meals, and at other times, I don't care to eat until I'm hungrier. But it's got to be about what I want to do, not about forcing myself to wait to eat. If I want to eat now, even if my only hunger sign is the desire to eat, I have committed to respecting that, and that has calmed me down a lot about food. Sara> >> >>> >>> >> Something that's been helping me lately is to remind myself when I'm> >> eating that if I'm full, choosing to stop eating now does not mean that if> >> I'm hungry in 10 minutes I can't have more. Back in the diet mentality I> >> felt a lot of pressure to eat my whole meal, whatever meager thing it was,> >> because if I didn't I would need to wait for hours before I would have the> >> chance to eat again (or if the hunger got too bad I would have to cheat and> >> eat something and feel bad about myself for failing to 'eat right'). While> >> it is more convenient for meals to fit into nicely scheduled evenly spaced> >> blocks of time, if all that it takes to be full is a quarter of a sandwich,> >> I shouldn't eat half a sandwich or a whole sandwich just because it's> >> mealtime and I shouldn't feel bad about myself if 45 mins later I am really> >> hungry and eat the rest of it and a banana. Having a scoop of ice cream now> >> does not mean I can't have another one later in the day (and it will> >> probably taste better than if I have two scoops at once just because I two> >> scoops is my definition of unrestricted serving). If I'm at a restaurant, I> >> don't need to eat my meal (or even half of it) just because I'm at a> >> restaurant and am afraid of being judged by the waitstaff or other diners (I> >> can take it home and it will be fine later). Food should be subservient to> >> my needs and my schedule and not vice versa.> >>> >>> > > >> > > > -->

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I think that is very wise Sara. And even more wonderful that you are seeing

pleasant results too.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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> I agree completely. I oscillate between needing to eating lots of smaller

meals, and at other times, I don't care to eat until I'm hungrier. But it's got

to be about what I want to do, not about forcing myself to wait to eat. If I

want to eat now, even if my only hunger sign is the desire to eat, I have

committed to respecting that, and that has calmed me down a lot about food.

>

> Sara