Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Wow katcha that really rings true for me too! Its my 'reward' for making it through the day and enhance the pleasure of finally getting 'me' time.In this case I want the pleasure of tasty food or drink for its OWN sake, not as a substitute for something else!I'm not sure that's so wrong, either, as 'wrong' omplies that 'food is bad'Hmmm definitely somthing to think about!Mikki Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerryFrom: "Katcha" Date: Tue, 14 Jul 2009 14:57:30 -0000To: <IntuitiveEating_Support >Subject: Light bulb moment Eating in evening times has long been a point of concern with me. I am not as plagued with it now as I was bothered by it when I began, but it has continued to pester at me, especially when I know that I am NOT hungry. Yet it seems that I can't sit down and enjoy our evening entertainment without 'enhancing' that pleasure with a 'treat'. I've often asked myself " What is it you really want? " (instead of the food I am eating). I've danced around the edges of this issue with realizations such as 1) past associations - TV time was always snack time in my family and 2) food = pleasure etc. All true, but none really satisfying for an answer This morning a thought popped into my head that rings true for me - eating in the evening is an 'indulgence',and a reminder that I merit good things for me. As long as I fight that meriting, I am also fighting my deep need to be appreciated, even/especially by myself. Katcha IEing since March 2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Katcha and Mikki, you have really given me some things to think about here! Definitely a " light bulb moment, " Katcha! Yesterday for lunch I had a drive-thru burger and fries that I didn't really want as a " reward " for enduring the pain of an annual exam and a tetanus shot in the morning! Why would I reward myself with something I didn't particularly want in the first place? I really was craving something more cold and thirst-quenching, like a salad or some fruit. It's like in the back of my mind, something " healthy " and " good " like fruits and vegetables aren't a reward, but something " bad " like fast food can be. And of course, half and hour later I was emotionally " rewarded " and numbed, but physically unsatisfied, as my body didn't get the food it wanted. Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 That is very interest topic here. To be honest I don't see junk foods as reward or for that matter health foods as reward. Whatever I am in mood for that's reward for me. Honest pretty much everything are reward to me. I didn't think that way for years until I started IE back in April and I am trying to learning much as I can since then. Eliza > > Katcha and Mikki, you have really given me some things to think about here! Definitely a " light bulb moment, " Katcha! > > Yesterday for lunch I had a drive-thru burger and fries that I didn't really want as a " reward " for enduring the pain of an annual exam and a tetanus shot in the morning! Why would I reward myself with something I didn't particularly want in the first place? I really was craving something more cold and thirst-quenching, like a salad or some fruit. It's like in the back of my mind, something " healthy " and " good " like fruits and vegetables aren't a reward, but something " bad " like fast food can be. And of course, half and hour later I was emotionally " rewarded " and numbed, but physically unsatisfied, as my body didn't get the food it wanted. > > Dawn > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Katcha,I think I had an " ah ha " moment when I read your email. I thought I had stopped doing that, rewarding myself with food, but when i came to do this temporary camp job, i was working CRAZY long hours, dealing with a swine flu outbreak, and i wouldn't get to have a break until 11:30 at night... and i found myself, for the first time in months, eating food i wasn't hungry for. and eating mindlessly while watching a DVD. it was like suddenly, when i was working really REALLY hard, the rules reverted to one's i abandoned months ago... very strange. thanks for sharing... this has given me " food for thought. " abby That is very interest topic here. To be honest I don't see junk foods as reward or for that matter health foods as reward. Whatever I am in mood for that's reward for me. Honest pretty much everything are reward to me. I didn't think that way for years until I started IE back in April and I am trying to learning much as I can since then. Eliza > > Katcha and Mikki, you have really given me some things to think about here! Definitely a " light bulb moment, " Katcha! > > Yesterday for lunch I had a drive-thru burger and fries that I didn't really want as a " reward " for enduring the pain of an annual exam and a tetanus shot in the morning! Why would I reward myself with something I didn't particularly want in the first place? I really was craving something more cold and thirst-quenching, like a salad or some fruit. It's like in the back of my mind, something " healthy " and " good " like fruits and vegetables aren't a reward, but something " bad " like fast food can be. And of course, half and hour later I was emotionally " rewarded " and numbed, but physically unsatisfied, as my body didn't get the food it wanted. > > Dawn > -- Abigail C. Wolfson, RN, MS, CPNP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Dawn that awareness and feedback is the BEST 'lesson' you could have for yourself! I'm glad to read (between the lines) that you didn't beat yourself up over this, just let it 'be' and noted it for future choices. Great step Katcha IEing since March 2007 > And of course, half and hour later I was emotionally " rewarded " and numbed, but physically unsatisfied, as my body didn't get the food it wanted. > > Dawn > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 ....been there... lol Warrior > > Katcha and Mikki, you have really given me some things to think about here! Definitely a " light bulb moment, " Katcha! > > Yesterday for lunch I had a drive-thru burger and fries that I didn't really want as a " reward " for enduring the pain of an annual exam and a tetanus shot in the morning! Why would I reward myself with something I didn't particularly want in the first place? I really was craving something more cold and thirst-quenching, like a salad or some fruit. It's like in the back of my mind, something " healthy " and " good " like fruits and vegetables aren't a reward, but something " bad " like fast food can be. And of course, half and hour later I was emotionally " rewarded " and numbed, but physically unsatisfied, as my body didn't get the food it wanted. > > Dawn > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2009 Report Share Posted December 11, 2009 Robyn, Yay for you! I think we need some sort of bronze lightbulb trophy or something...LOL ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2009 Report Share Posted December 11, 2009 Neat and wonderful connection Robyn A mental cartoon popped into my mind as I read your post - that of a skinny person with ropey muscles rowing away on a slaver ship and thinking to themselves - I love that I look like ____!! And as long as they don't mind the lashes on their back and chained to a rough bench all the time - its 'success'!! (LOL!!) That is so NOT 'me', so I know that going that-a-way is a distraction/detour from what MY life is. Thank you IE journey for all the better ways I am going ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Okay...so I realized today why I feel so frustrated...someone responded > awhile back to my frustrated post that I probably still had some diet > mentality hang-ups. I thought, " No way. I know diets don't work. " But > today, in talking w/ my husband, I realized yes, yes I do! Here's the hang > up and why I get so frustrated w/ IE.... > > I expect that if I follow IE for a week (treating it like I do WW and > following the " rules " 100%) then I'll drop 5 lbs...just like I can do w/ > WW. However, IE is a MUCH MUCH slower process. And as I think back to when > I did an IE type program before (Spring of 1999) I didn't reach what I > believe to be my bodies natural weight until about 10 months later--about a > 40 lb loss. With WW I could drop 40 lbs in a much shorter time period...if > I followed it religiously. However...it comes back w/ that approach and is > full of a whole host of other problems and hangups. > > So...the light bulb for me is to just keep on, keepin' on! To give my body > time to learn new/re-learn old skills and to not get frustrated when I see > no loss b/c it's not going to happen like it does w/ WW. I have to > continually remind myself of how this process worked 10 years ago...and give > my body the grace it needs b/c it's 10 years older than it was the last time > I adopted the IE philosophy. > > Just wanted to share. It was just encouraging to realize that IE has worked > before...I just wasn't watching a scale or a calendar last time! I was just > listening to my body back then. > > Robyn > > -- > Of course I'm crazy, but that doesn't mean I'm wrong! > > iBlog at www.trlw.blogspot.com > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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