Re: doctor visit

[Guest guest]

Aww... ((Thea)) you don't need to feel ashamed at all! You have to find your own "groove" and it can't be easy with everyone trying to show you their "right" way. Do you want to lose weight? I definitely feel it has to be on our own terms when we're ready, and only then. Sent from my iPod

I went to the doctor for the yearly thing today, and for the first time in my life, got a bit of a gentle scolding on my weight. She wasn't a jerk about it. She said "do you have any concerns about your weight?" and I could have said no, and I guess that would have been the end of it. But I got kind of flustered and said that I knew I was overweight and she gave me this brochure about some weight management group on campus. What can that possibly be? some list of allowed foods? a food log? I can't do that again. I just can't.

I just really feel bad, like really ashamed. It's so strange. I had sort of convinced myself that my weight wasn't that bad, that my husband didn't mind, etc. But he must, everyone must be all "that thea, what the hell happened with her this year?" Between this and my protein-crazed mother, I just feel awful.

thea

[Guest guest]

Thea,

I am sorry you are feeling bad about yourself - I know that feeling! It doesn't

matter what other people think of you - We are never going to know what others

truly think and specualting, ime, has only led to self-sabotage because I never

speculate that people are thinking that Georgi - she is so wonderful.

The part of I.e. I found very helpful with feeling bad about myself, was

focusing on things I liked about myself - both inner qualities and outer. i.e.

I like that I am kind, I like my hair, etc.

Diets are not the answer! I know that now. Stick with the intuitve eating

program - it takes time but I truly believe that in addition to getting to

whatever weight is right for YOUR body you also heal your relationship with

food.

Hang in there,

Georgi

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> I went to the doctor for the yearly thing today, and for the first time in my

life, got a bit of a gentle scolding on my weight. She wasn't a jerk about it.

She said " do you have any concerns about your weight? " and I could have said no,

and I guess that would have been the end of it. But I got kind of flustered and

said that I knew I was overweight and she gave me this brochure about some

weight management group on campus. What can that possibly be? some list of

allowed foods? a food log? I can't do that again. I just can't.

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> I just really feel bad, like really ashamed. It's so strange. I had sort of

convinced myself that my weight wasn't that bad, that my husband didn't mind,

etc. But he must, everyone must be all " that thea, what the hell happened with

her this year? " Between this and my protein-crazed mother, I just feel awful.

>

> thea

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[Guest guest]

Thea,

It sounds as if the outside world is beating up on you! Nearly every where you

turn, the message of wrong! is being said to you. Grrr! What comes to my mind is

a straight jacket that others are saying it the 'latest fashion' FOR YOU!

Thanks, but NO thanks - if you like it soooo much wear it yourself - LOL!!

You have been working with this long enough to know how one's attitude about

themselves is one of the BEST starting points in this process. Yes we mainly

begin with the basics that we can manage - food and tuning in on our internal

hunger etc. Yet how we see ourselves can be the 'image' that our internal drives

aim for. Can you dress yourself nicely, give yourself a loving hug and savor

what you eat? I bet you can! Toss that brochure - its propaganda direct from the

dieting industry - lol! Your body is THE source of information that you really

need to BE the great gal you are. Your hubby thinks so, so why not you too?

Ehugs, Katcha

IEing since March 2007

PS medical people provide a SERVICE - which ought to support YOU, not the other

way around.

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> I went to the doctor for the yearly thing today, and for the first time in my

life, got a bit of a gentle scolding on my weight. She wasn't a jerk about it.

She said " do you have any concerns about your weight? " and I could have said no,

and I guess that would have been the end of it. But I got kind of flustered and

said that I knew I was overweight and she gave me this brochure about some

weight management group on campus. What can that possibly be? some list of

allowed foods? a food log? I can't do that again. I just can't.

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> I just really feel bad, like really ashamed. It's so strange. I had sort of

convinced myself that my weight wasn't that bad, that my husband didn't mind,

etc. But he must, everyone must be all " that thea, what the hell happened with

her this year? " Between this and my protein-crazed mother, I just feel awful.

>

> thea

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[Guest guest]

It sounds like a totally awkward and uncomfortable situation. If it comes up

again I would tell her that you are doing IE and leave it at that (perhaps give

a small explanation/ give the reference to the book if she's not familiar with

it). My nutritionist was really supportive of me trying IE which makes me hope

there are more medical professionals out there with a positive health/body

attitude. She's pretty cool about all things body in general- don't worry about

your weight or weigh yourself, exercise because it makes you feel better not to

be thinner, don't be afraid to eat breakfast and snacks, eating a variety of

foods is good in general but obsessing over it/ worry about it is not. If your

doctor makes you feel uncomfortable but you are concerned about your

relationship to eating, I would ask for a referral/ seek out an IE/mindful

eating friendly nutritionist/doctor. Good luck!

~

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> > I went to the doctor for the yearly thing today, and for the first time in

my life, got a bit of a gentle scolding on my weight. She wasn't a jerk about

it. She said " do you have any concerns about your weight? " and I could have

said no, and I guess that would have been the end of it. But I got kind of

flustered and said that I knew I was overweight and she gave me this brochure

about some weight management group on campus. What can that possibly be? some

list of allowed foods? a food log? I can't do that again. I just can't.

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> > I just really feel bad, like really ashamed. It's so strange. I had sort

of convinced myself that my weight wasn't that bad, that my husband didn't mind,

etc. But he must, everyone must be all " that thea, what the hell happened with

her this year? " Between this and my protein-crazed mother, I just feel awful.

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> > thea

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[Guest guest]

Thea, I definitely have these moments, too. I start telling myself that the

whole world looks down on me, when really I'm looking down on me. When you look

down on yourslef, that's the important thing. That's what makes us feel

terrible. I usually have to re-center myself after something like that knocks

me off my path. I journal, I say kind things about myself, I focus on the

people who are supportive in my life. Whatever gets you back to a centered,

loving focus on yourself, and back to trust in your body's natural instinct.

Please remember, your doctor's scolds are about your doctor's hang-ups and

inaccurate beliefs, not yours. Her judgment and beliefs are based on a

completely discredited view of the human body and how it works. You are

beautiful the way you are. You are the weight you are because your body has

been loving enough to protect you from the damages of diet mentaliy. Try to

love your body for that.

This too shall pass,

Sara

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> I went to the doctor for the yearly thing today, and for the first time in my

life, got a bit of a gentle scolding on my weight. She wasn't a jerk about it.

She said " do you have any concerns about your weight? " and I could have said no,

and I guess that would have been the end of it. But I got kind of flustered and

said that I knew I was overweight and she gave me this brochure about some

weight management group on campus. What can that possibly be? some list of

allowed foods? a food log? I can't do that again. I just can't.

>

> I just really feel bad, like really ashamed. It's so strange. I had sort of

convinced myself that my weight wasn't that bad, that my husband didn't mind,

etc. But he must, everyone must be all " that thea, what the hell happened with

her this year? " Between this and my protein-crazed mother, I just feel awful.

>

> thea

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[Guest guest]

Hi Everybody,

I just added a couple more files that relate to going to the doctor. If you aren't at the Yahoo site, go there and click on Files on the left of your screen. You'll see "IE and Doctor Visits". In this folder are three documents that may be helpful. One is a set of questions when looking for a doctor, we compiled these from the group a while back. Another is a template, also created as a group, that you can customize and give to your doctor to explain IE and why it is important that your doctor honors your decisions.

Finally, there is a file with material from the HAES (Health at Every Size) movement. These two documents are from Bacon and are also useful for discussing IE with your doctor.

In the folder called "Additional Information" is another HAES letter, this one to give to family or friends asking for their support, or at the very least, asking them to keep their mouths shut (it doesn't say that really, but we've all wanted to say it at some point!).

Don't forget about the other resources we have here. We have all the Files, and there are other things to check out in the Links and Database sections. Have fun exploring!

Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

Get your report, "The 6 Steps to Guilt-Fr*e Eating" at http://www.HealthierOutcomes.com Follow me on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/gillianhood

From: IntuitiveEating_Support [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of thea_kronborgSent: Wednesday, September 23, 2009 6:00 PMTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: doctor visit

I went to the doctor for the yearly thing today, and for the first time in my life, got a bit of a gentle scolding on my weight. She wasn't a jerk about it. She said "do you have any concerns about your weight?" and I could have said no, and I guess that would have been the end of it. But I got kind of flustered and said that I knew I was overweight and she gave me this brochure about some weight management group on campus. What can that possibly be? some list of allowed foods? a food log? I can't do that again. I just can't.I just really feel bad, like really ashamed. It's so strange. I had sort of convinced myself that my weight wasn't that bad, that my husband didn't mind, etc. But he must, everyone must be all "that thea, what the hell happened with her this year?" Between this and my protein-crazed mother, I just feel awful. thea