Guest guest Posted March 5, 2009 Report Share Posted March 5, 2009 AH! I love this post! I am so excited for you! : ) - K > > > Subject: insight of the day > To: " IntuitiveEating_Support " <intuitiveeating_support > > Date: Tuesday, March 3, 2009, 2:07 PM > > > > > > > > I just finished a session with Gillian, so she gets part credit We were talking about what remaining issues I might have about self-sabotage (one of my big diet problems was that I'd sabotage myself to make my belief that " I always fail at diets " be true). We were also celebrating my successes at letting go of much of my " gotcha " eating - the secret binges when I was angry, or erasing all traces that I went through the drive-through or hit the vending machine before I get home... > > About 5 minutes after we finished, this came into my mind full-blown: > > > " just because you love him doesn't mean he's right " > > and... wow, if that's true, I can stop defending myself, feeling defensive, or arguing (with myself OR him) about any points of disagreement. I can just do what seems right to me. without listing (in my mind or out loud) the 10 reasons it's ok, even if " he " doesn't agree with me. > > it was true of my father, it was true of my first husband, and it's true of my husband now. > > I love him to pieces, and he's not always right. > > You know what? I bet as I get that simple idea through my thick skull, it'll be easier to recognize and appreciate when he IS right because I won't be in the habit of feeling defensive! > > It's actually pretty remarkable how much of my life I've wasted with the energy I put into other people's opinion of my job, my butt, how I hang the toilet paper on the roll, how often I clean the top of the refrigerator or go to the gym. I think it's high time to reclaim my internal dialogue for things that will actually make me happy and move my life forward. > > I'm not entirely sure how this connects to my eating habits, but I'm 100% certain that it DOES, or it wouldn't have come up after an hour of talking about them! LOL So, now I'm going to go away and think about it > > Mikki > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2009 Report Share Posted March 5, 2009 > > About 5 minutes after we finished, this came into my mind full-blown: > * " just because you love him doesn't mean he's right " * > > and... wow, if that's true, I can stop defending myself, feeling defensive, > or arguing (with myself OR him) about any points of disagreement. I can > just do what seems right to me. without listing (in my mind or out loud) > the 10 reasons it's ok, even if " he " doesn't agree with me. > Wow, I know exactly what you mean. it's only very recently that I have had the confidence to do what I want (mostly) without being extremely influenced by what other people think, or might think, or what I think they think, etc -- especially with regard to food, but also other things. you know what finally drove this home to me was when I had to teach undergraduates a couple of years ago. They would do all this obnoxious stuff and I would be like " how can they think this? that is so obviously wrong. How could I be so wrong about this? " And the answer is " you're the teacher for a reason! they're idiot children and you're right! they should listen to you! " After that I started ignoring opposition in various ways and it's only expanded since then. thea Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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