Guest guest Posted March 10, 2009 Report Share Posted March 10, 2009 I find this topic very interesting. I have never thought of restaraunt food or take out as a way to nurture. Reward yes. Nurture no. So this is giving me some really good food for thought! Along the lines of nurturing internally, I was wondering if we can discuss what ways we can nurture ourselves internally rather than externally with the food. Especially when we are short on time as you mention. I can think of tons of ways I nurture myself, but they do take time. But what ways can we nurture ourselves in short, quick time frame? Or, is the only way to nurture ourselves is to find the time needed to do so? If so, than do we need to ensure we take that time and if so how? I so agree with what you say when the first things you cut are your hobbies and sleep. My hobbies are definately something that goes on the back burner, but they are also something that so energizes me and relaxes me at the same time. Another area that I have put on the back burner that I am so trying to find the energy and time to get back to is volunteering. It gets me outside of myself, fills me up emotionally and keeps me busy so I'm not bored with my life and turn to the food for friendship and entertainment. Alana -- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " normaaaaaaaa " wrote: > > This is a great topic! > > Since I have started to practice more IE and eating more mindfully I have found that my eating habits are usually dependent on my need for self care. > > Alot of times this is because I push myself too hard in work, school, life etc... The first thing I cut out are my hobbies and sleep. This lands up leaving me physically tired and needing time to take a breath and relax. But I rarely let myself have these momments. I struggle with feeling like taking time to relax or sleep is a " waste " of time. This time isn't graded... > > On top of this I always want to get the good grades and reviews. And I struggle with being able to sit down and focus on one thing for hours to get the work done. So I land up procrastinating a lot. I think I have ADHD but I have never been officially diagnosed. > > SO anyway all of this leaves me needing to feel nurtured but not allowing myself to have the time to do so. So I land up relying on external things to nurture myself. Usually this means food. Definitely a lot of food that is take - out. Buying food at a convenience store or restaurant for some reason makes me feel like I am nurturing myself. Maybe because for many years these food items and just the act of eating out I considered taboo. I think I have been able to remove more of that taboo feeling but I still consider it that special event. But this ironic since I get some type of food at a convenience store almost every day. haha! : ) For some reason, eating out just feels like I am putting that exra effort into myself and I really need that a lot of times. > > Goodluck! > K > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2009 Report Share Posted March 10, 2009 Yes, this is a great topic. It was a huge a - ha momment for me when I realized that I don't have a weight or food problem but a problem with self - care. I never take care of myself the way I should. I always succumb to the pressures of the world. Like I said earlier this means sleeping less and spending less time on myself to get better grades, to get more done... So then I eat to make myself feel less tired or stressed etc... I still struggle with this. I am finding it really difficult to balance what I want to get done with how I need to care for myself. My selfcare goals are to eat foods that make me feel physically good. Too often I eat whatever is convenient, which usually leaves me feelng sick. To sleep for eight hours on a consistent schedule. Also, to take time to draw. But I think I also need to work on maintaining perspective. Inevitably there will be times when I can't care for myself the way I really need to. This is really hard for me when I am actually going through the momment. I will have to make more of an effort to figure this out. : ) Good discussion! Kaylin > > > > This is a great topic! > > > > Since I have started to practice more IE and eating more mindfully I have found that my eating habits are usually dependent on my need for self care. > > > > Alot of times this is because I push myself too hard in work, school, life etc... The first thing I cut out are my hobbies and sleep. This lands up leaving me physically tired and needing time to take a breath and relax. But I rarely let myself have these momments. I struggle with feeling like taking time to relax or sleep is a " waste " of time. This time isn't graded... > > > > On top of this I always want to get the good grades and reviews. And I struggle with being able to sit down and focus on one thing for hours to get the work done. So I land up procrastinating a lot. I think I have ADHD but I have never been officially diagnosed. > > > > SO anyway all of this leaves me needing to feel nurtured but not allowing myself to have the time to do so. So I land up relying on external things to nurture myself. Usually this means food. Definitely a lot of food that is take - out. Buying food at a convenience store or restaurant for some reason makes me feel like I am nurturing myself. Maybe because for many years these food items and just the act of eating out I considered taboo. I think I have been able to remove more of that taboo feeling but I still consider it that special event. But this ironic since I get some type of food at a convenience store almost every day. haha! : ) For some reason, eating out just feels like I am putting that exra effort into myself and I really need that a lot of times. > > > > Goodluck! > > K > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2009 Report Share Posted March 10, 2009 Sleep! Definately sleep! I do a few different things... At work I usually have either one of the IE groups or my on line mom's group up at all times. That way if I need a quick mental break I know that I can check in to see what everyone is up to. I'm lucky enough to have some good friends at work that I check in with regularly. I'm also VERY blessed to have an excellent relationship with my parents and they are both on email or just a phone call away. I know that if I need support I can find it in any of these places. I don't have a lot of " me " time at home until after my son's bed time. Shoot, he's a two year old. I can't even go to the bathroom alone! I have a book club that meets once a month and a knit club that meets every other week. I do NOT miss these meetings. It's two hours a week where I can be Jen and not Mommy. I also treat myself to a pedicure once a month. There is a place right next to my day care that does a great hour long pedi for $25 - complete with a food and leg massage! I realize that I've very fortunate to have great emotional support at home that allows me to do these things. If I could only figure out how to stop eating when I've had enough! > > > > This is a great topic! > > > > Since I have started to practice more IE and eating more mindfully I have found that my eating habits are usually dependent on my need for self care. > > > > Alot of times this is because I push myself too hard in work, school, life etc... The first thing I cut out are my hobbies and sleep. This lands up leaving me physically tired and needing time to take a breath and relax. But I rarely let myself have these momments. I struggle with feeling like taking time to relax or sleep is a " waste " of time. This time isn't graded... > > > > On top of this I always want to get the good grades and reviews. And I struggle with being able to sit down and focus on one thing for hours to get the work done. So I land up procrastinating a lot. I think I have ADHD but I have never been officially diagnosed. > > > > SO anyway all of this leaves me needing to feel nurtured but not allowing myself to have the time to do so. So I land up relying on external things to nurture myself. Usually this means food. Definitely a lot of food that is take - out. Buying food at a convenience store or restaurant for some reason makes me feel like I am nurturing myself. Maybe because for many years these food items and just the act of eating out I considered taboo. I think I have been able to remove more of that taboo feeling but I still consider it that special event. But this ironic since I get some type of food at a convenience store almost every day. haha! : ) For some reason, eating out just feels like I am putting that exra effort into myself and I really need that a lot of times. > > > > Goodluck! > > K > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2009 Report Share Posted March 10, 2009 Kimberlie, That is a really good comment... I place extremely high expectations for myself. If I am going to put the time into something I want to put my very best at it. I want to know that if I fail I can have no regrets because I tried my hardest. This high expectation and drive for perfectionism is definitely the root of my self care issues. This is actually what I am struggling with. How can I still do my best without partially sacrifising myself mentally and physically? I tend to rely on the idea that when this life phase is over the next will be easier. But by now I know it is never going to get easier and I better figure out a way to start incorporating myself into life before I get lost in it. I think I need to start small, like with something once a month I always do for myself. I like the pedicure idea! - K > > > > > > This is a great topic! > > > > > > Since I have started to practice more IE and eating more mindfully I have found that my eating habits are usually dependent on my need for self care. > > > > > > Alot of times this is because I push myself too hard in work, school, life etc... The first thing I cut out are my hobbies and sleep. This lands up leaving me physically tired and needing time to take a breath and relax. But I rarely let myself have these momments. I struggle with feeling like taking time to relax or sleep is a " waste " of time. This time isn't graded... > > > > > > On top of this I always want to get the good grades and reviews. And I struggle with being able to sit down and focus on one thing for hours to get the work done. So I land up procrastinating a lot. I think I have ADHD but I have never been officially diagnosed. > > > > > > SO anyway all of this leaves me needing to feel nurtured but not allowing myself to have the time to do so. So I land up relying on external things to nurture myself. Usually this means food. Definitely a lot of food that is take - out. Buying food at a convenience store or restaurant for some reason makes me feel like I am nurturing myself. Maybe because for many years these food items and just the act of eating out I considered taboo. I think I have been able to remove more of that taboo feeling but I still consider it that special event. But this ironic since I get some type of food at a convenience store almost every day. haha! : ) For some reason, eating out just feels like I am putting that exra effort into myself and I really need that a lot of times. > > > > > > Goodluck! > > > K > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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