Re: Nurturing Internally & POEM

[Guest guest]

Alana-

You make such a great point and perhaps verbalized what I was feeing. The

restaurant food and convenience store stuff that I buy is definitely a REWARD,

rather than a way to really NURTURE myself. Again, this is feeding into the

" sweet wild child " concept. My friends with children buy their children " treats "

all the time....and I feel like this is what I am doing for myself. And I think

this is also one of the reasons I " feel bad. " Not so much because I eat foods

that are recently legalized and very unhealthy...but because my desire for these

foods tell me that I'm really not ready to take care of myself right now...and

this is the best I can do right now. Of course, I'm also worried that I will

" stay like this forever, " (buying up all the easter egg whoppers and cadbury

cream eggs) even though the testimony of so many IE'rs prove otherwise. I just

wish that what I wanted....was actually good for me. But I guess I'm trying to

skip steps here and journeys cannot be rushed.

Also, here's a poem that so fully fits into IE....hope you enjoy:

Love After Love by Walcott

The time will come

when, with elation

you will greet yourself arriving

at your own door, in your own mirror

and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again the stranger who was your self.

Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart

to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored

for another, who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,

peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life.

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> I find this topic very interesting. I have never thought of restaraunt food

or take out as a way to nurture. Reward yes. Nurture no. So this is giving me

some really good food for thought!

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[Guest guest]

Wow, what an amazing poem. Very moving.

 

I don't know if this helps you, but I find a lot of times it's the buying of the treat, and not necessarily the consuming of the treat, that makes me feel... I don't know, nurtured? Happy? Loved?

 

But it actually feels to me EXACTLY like when I was child and was treated to a piece of candy! And I love it that I can do that for myself anytime I want to! I love being a grown up!

 

Do you think that for you, the buying and the eating of the treat are the same pleasure, or separate?

 

If it's the buying, reward away! You deserve it! We all do! Buy whatever you want that makes you feel good. If you can't pick between two things, get both! Get two bags of both! And then you can get home and sit down and relax and think about the food that you bought and decide what, of any of it, you want to eat. And whatever you decide to eat, if you try to eat it mindfully, I think you will enjoy it more and also be less likely to eat more than your body can handle.

 

I LOVE having lots of play food in the house. It makes me feel spoiled and well loved. And if I never decide to eat some of the things, who cares? It makes me feel great just knowing they are there.

Alana-You make such a great point and perhaps verbalized what I was feeing. The restaurant food and convenience store stuff that I buy is definitely a REWARD, rather than a way to really NURTURE myself. Again, this is feeding into the " sweet wild child " concept. My friends with children buy their children " treats " all the time....and I feel like this is what I am doing for myself. And I think this is also one of the reasons I " feel bad. " Not so much because I eat foods that are recently legalized and very unhealthy...but because my desire for these foods tell me that I'm really not ready to take care of myself right now...and this is the best I can do right now. Of course, I'm also worried that I will " stay like this forever, " (buying up all the easter egg whoppers and cadbury cream eggs) even though the testimony of so many IE'rs prove otherwise. I just wish that what I wanted....was actually good for me. But I guess I'm trying to skip steps here and journeys cannot be rushed.

Also, here's a poem that so fully fits into IE....hope you enjoy:Love After Love by WalcottThe time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror

and each will smile at the other's welcome, and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self.Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit. Feast on your life.

>> I find this topic very interesting. I have never thought of restaraunt food or take out as a way to nurture. Reward yes. Nurture no. So this is giving me some really good food for thought!

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[Guest guest]

Now that I think about it, they are two separate things that have become

intertwined. I do love the buying. I love " going out into the world, " looking

at all the pretty colors, and choosing what I want. Unfortunately, I seem to

view this in a negative way, but I love the way you are being

non-judgemental.......and the true test will be if I actually eat all that food

in a compulsive way. So if I buy a lot of food because it is filling some

need....but I don't binge on it.......that is definitely a move in the right

direction. However, there is a part of me that's worried about combining

" compulsions " or swapping one for another. I wish I weren't so negative and

analytical and WORRIED......Thank you so much for your positive words.

Definitely helpful.

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