Re: Re: Nurturing Internally

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I wonder how many of us hold ourselves & others to extremely high expectations?

I know that I do...

Subject: Re: Nurturing InternallyTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, March 10, 2009, 2:19 PM

Yes, this is a great topic. It was a huge a - ha momment for me when I realized that I don't have a weight or food problem but a problem with self - care. I never take care of myself the way I should. I always succumb to the pressures of the world. Like I said earlier this means sleeping less and spending less time on myself to get better grades, to get more done... So then I eat to make myself feel less tired or stressed etc... I still struggle with this. I am finding it really difficult to balance what I want to get done with how I need to care for myself. My selfcare goals are to eat foods that make me feel physically good. Too often I eat whatever is convenient, which usually leaves me feelng sick. To sleep for eight hours on a consistent schedule. Also, to take time to draw. But I think I also need to work on maintaining perspective. Inevitably there will be times when I can't care for myself the

way I really need to. This is really hard for me when I am actually going through the momment. I will have to make more of an effort to figure this out. : ) Good discussion! Kaylin > >> > This is a great topic! > > > > Since I

have started to practice more IE and eating more mindfully I have found that my eating habits are usually dependent on my need for self care. > > > > Alot of times this is because I push myself too hard in work, school, life etc... The first thing I cut out are my hobbies and sleep. This lands up leaving me physically tired and needing time to take a breath and relax. But I rarely let myself have these momments. I struggle with feeling like taking time to relax or sleep is a "waste" of time. This time isn't graded... > > > > On top of this I always want to get the good grades and reviews. And I struggle with being able to sit down and focus on one thing for hours to get the work done. So I land up procrastinating a lot. I think I have ADHD but I have never been officially diagnosed. > > > > SO anyway all of this leaves me needing to feel nurtured but not allowing myself to have the time to do

so. So I land up relying on external things to nurture myself. Usually this means food. Definitely a lot of food that is take - out. Buying food at a convenience store or restaurant for some reason makes me feel like I am nurturing myself. Maybe because for many years these food items and just the act of eating out I considered taboo. I think I have been able to remove more of that taboo feeling but I still consider it that special event. But this ironic since I get some type of food at a convenience store almost every day. haha! : ) For some reason, eating out just feels like I am putting that exra effort into myself and I really need that a lot of times. > > > > Goodluck!> > K> > > >>