Re: New to IE approach and in legalizing food stage

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sounds like you're really intuitive in so many respects. Congratulations!

Sara

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> Thank you Sharon and Sara for sharing. I actually turned to my " normal " eater

husband and told him about my craving for 3 different kind of cakes after

getting a piece at work and how I so much want to follow this IE approach (I

have been reading to him from the books and they are all strewn over my

nightstand) but at the same time I don't want to balloon into a house. First he

asked me if I don't care about blowing up like a house - if I don't then he said

go ahead and buy the 3 cakes and eat them but then he said that he also likes to

eat cake and he doesn't stop himself when he is offered but when he has a

craving for more he thinks about a healthier choice because he enjoys feeling

lighter - so that made me calm down - and write a list of all the things I am

trying to work out. I don't need to check my weight on a daily basis anymore

and i don't need to walk obsessively - I don't need to be afraid to eat out

anymore which I have been trying out in the past few weeks with great success

(only ordering what i really really want)- I can add milk to my coffee and enjoy

it (Yey!)- I can eat a whole banana if i wish it checking my hunger levels, I

can close the TV while i eat to savor the foods but if it isn't always 100% to

forgive myself - I don't have to buy 3 cakes just because i have a craving but I

don't have to starve either. I can choose to make a healthier choice because I

want to be able to walk comfortable but I don't have to say no anymore to

anything if I feel like saying yes - but I can check what I feel about every

bite. If it is just the chicken bones I want then I should make more chicken

pieces, cut off the chicken and eat just the bones instead of eating all the

chicken first - if that is what I want. There is so much to learn. Thank you

for your insights. Diane

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I have a normal eater husband too. It's funny though, I think I project my thoughts onto him when it comes to expectations about my appearance. I've been feeling "out of control" with my eating and it feels scary. I think the beliefs about my appearance and the unknowns about my weight are freaking me out. I haven't weighed myself for at least a week now. I still have this shame and guilt about eating what I want. I think that goes way back to when I was a kid. It's this feeling like I don't deserve to eat b/c I'm overweight or shouldn't be eating white sugar/flour kinds of foods. In my thinking/beliefs there are these boundaries that I shouldn't be crossing even if I'm hungry. And as I am struggling with the eating, all the insecurities flood in. It's b/c I associate my eating (dieting) with wholeness, control, self respect, being attractive. And if I'm not doing that, I don't have a standard to define me. (That's not true, but it feels true.)Yes, right now it's really uncomfortable. I think the best thing for me is to wait until I'm hungry. I need to get grounded and let all these thoughts that are swimming around in my head, settle out.LTo: IntuitiveEating_Support From: diane@...Date: Sun, 23 Aug 2009 19:12:34 +0000Subject: New to IE approach and in legalizing food stage

Thank you Sharon and Sara for sharing. I actually turned to my "normal" eater husband and told him about my craving for 3 different kind of cakes after getting a piece at work and how I so much want to follow this IE approach (I have been reading to him from the books and they are all strewn over my nightstand) but at the same time I don't want to balloon into a house. First he asked me if I don't care about blowing up like a house - if I don't then he said go ahead and buy the 3 cakes and eat them but then he said that he also likes to eat cake and he doesn't stop himself when he is offered but when he has a craving for more he thinks about a healthier choice because he enjoys feeling lighter - so that made me calm down - and write a list of all the things I am trying to work out. I don't need to check my weight on a daily basis anymore and i don't need to walk obsessively - I don't need to be afraid to eat out anymore which I have been trying out in the past few weeks with great success (only ordering what i really really want)- I can add milk to my coffee and enjoy it (Yey!)- I can eat a whole banana if i wish it checking my hunger levels, I can close the TV while i eat to savor the foods but if it isn't always 100% to forgive myself - I don't have to buy 3 cakes just because i have a craving but I don't have to starve either. I can choose to make a healthier choice because I want to be able to walk comfortable but I don't have to say no anymore to anything if I feel like saying yes - but I can check what I feel about every bite. If it is just the chicken bones I want then I should make more chicken pieces, cut off the chicken and eat just the bones instead of eating all the chicken first - if that is what I want. There is so much to learn. Thank you for your insights. Diane

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Hi Diane, I recently decided that I can choose to eat only what I really enjoy. I love pecans and anything made with pecans. My favorite pie is pecan. I don't have it very often because of the high calorie and sugar content. Recently it finally clicked....I can eat the top (the only part which actually has pecans and which is the best part) without being obliged to eat the filling (mostly corn syrup) or the crust (shortening and flour). I can throw the rest away!!! My best friend has always eaten just the crust of crusty bread, leaving the white fluffy bread (or the guts as she calls it) on her plate. Carole If it is just the chicken bones I want then I should make more chicken pieces, cut off the chicken and eat just the bones instead of eating all the chicken first - if that is what I want. There is so much to learn. Thank you for your insights. Diane

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Thanks Carole -

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> If it is just the chicken bones I want then I should make more chicken pieces,

cut off the chicken and eat just the bones instead of eating all the chicken

first - if that is what I want.  There is so much to learn.  Thank you for your

insights. Diane

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Thanks for the reminder to eat what I really like and not worry about "wasting food." I really wanted a salad today for lunch. I ended up eating only the sliced cabbage and and the salsa that I had on it. The lettuce and tomatoes and spinach and carrots didn't taste good to me. Before I would have just eaten the plate of veggies and not really thought about the taste. I don't need to feel bad about throwing stuff away!LTo: IntuitiveEating_Support From: im4tune8_ca@...Date: Tue, 25 Aug 2009 07:36:16 -0700Subject: Re: New to IE approach and in legalizing food stage

Hi Diane, I recently decided that I can choose to eat only what I really enjoy. I love pecans and anything made with pecans. My favorite pie is pecan. I don't have it very often because of the high calorie and sugar content. Recently it finally clicked....I can eat the top (the only part which actually has pecans and which is the best part) without being obliged to eat the filling (mostly corn syrup) or the crust (shortening and flour). I can throw the rest away!!! My best friend has always eaten just the crust of crusty bread, leaving the white fluffy bread (or the guts as she calls it) on her plate. Carole If it is just the chicken bones I want then I should make more chicken pieces, cut off the chicken and eat just the bones instead of eating all the chicken first - if that is what I want. There is so much to learn. Thank you for your insights. Diane

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You know, it's funny. In the past (and sometimes, still), I would eat the part

of my meal that I like the least first. Then I would eat my favorite last.

(one of my weird food quirks.) Now practicing IE, I'll eat my favorite first.

What a concept. Sometimes it hits me, why did I eat parts I didn't really

like??

KT

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> Hi Diane,

>         I recently decided that I can choose to eat only what I really enjoy.

I love pecans and anything made with pecans. My favorite pie is pecan. I don't

have it very often because of the high calorie and sugar content. Recently it

finally clicked....I can eat the top (the only part which actually has pecans

and which is the best part) without being obliged to eat the filling (mostly

corn syrup) or the crust (shortening and flour). I can throw the rest away!!!

>      My best friend has always eaten just the crust of crusty bread, leaving

the white fluffy bread (or the guts as she calls it) on her plate.

>          

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Hi KT, I used to do the same thing. I 'm pretty sure that the practice came from being a member in good standing of the clean plate club. Since I had to eat everything on my plate whether or not I liked it (or would get it back for breakfast), I made sure that at least the last taste in my mouth was a good one. CaroleSubject: Re: New to IE approach and in legalizing food stageTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Received: Wednesday, August 26, 2009, 11:29 AMYou know, it's funny. In the past (and sometimes, still), I would eat the part of my meal that I like the least first. Then I would eat my favorite last. (one of my weird food quirks.) Now practicing IE, I'll eat my favorite first. What a concept. Sometimes it hits me, why did I eat parts I didn't really like??KT-

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