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December 30, 1999

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Danbarmai7@... writes:

<< Oh, I love this!!!! I am a ROSACEAN!!!!! Very Cool!! >>

Sounds like we come from an exotic planet on Star Trek.

February 5, 2001

Welcome

,

Best of

luck with your consult of the 7th. Please let us know if you have

any questions.

Eating

never made me feel beautiful, actually just the opposite, the more I ate the

more I hated myself…. I did use food as a drug, as a release from the pain of

living and feeling. I also used it as a weapon… My ex-husband would tell me “your

not the woman I married [because I gained 100lbs after the birth of my

children]”, so I’d show him, and stick another cream puff in my mouth!

Joni – Dr.

Thayer 11/27/00

-----Original

Message-----

From: heather hunt

Sent: Monday, February 05, 2001

12:25 PM

To: support

Subject: new

here

Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively involved

with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

meeting and what a wonderful informational session. I

just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of the

smiles on your faces. I had an emotional breakthrough

after the meeting on the drive home. I realized that I

ate so

much because I felt beautiful when I was eating. I

found the stem to my problem, much like the lady who

shared last night about her dad, I too was looking for

acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to say was

that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I am. He

would always say you have a beautiful face why do you

eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying to

prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized this I

stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried, and I

feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I will feel

when I am really healthy.

I am very excited to have my first appointment on the

7th and see where I go from here. I would like to have

the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can understand

my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally start

preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

ready.

__________________________________________________

Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail - only $35

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February 5, 2001

Thanks for the responce Joni. I ate to spite people as

well, it was my bestfriend and now I have detached my

self from it, I have not been hungry in days and that

feels so good.

I have a question about the recovery time, I am 23 and

I work as a helpdesk consultant, so i sit all day, how

long should I allow for recovery. I know a lady who

had this done and she was back to work in less than 2

weeks, but I think that is pushing it.

-

Pre-Op

--- " Dicastro, Joan " wrote:

> Welcome ,

>

> Best of luck with your consult of the 7th. Please

> let us know if you have

> any questions.

>

> Eating never made me feel beautiful, actually just

> the opposite, the more I

> ate the more I hated myself.... I did use food as a

> drug, as a release from

> the pain of living and feeling. I also used it as a

> weapon... My ex-husband

> would tell me " your not the woman I married [because

> I gained 100lbs after

> the birth of my children] " , so I'd show him, and

> stick another cream puff in

> my mouth!

>

> Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00

> new here

>

> Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively

> involved

> with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

> Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

> meeting and what a wonderful informational session.

> I

> just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of the

> smiles on your faces. I had an emotional

> breakthrough

> after the meeting on the drive home. I realized that

> I

> ate so

> much because I felt beautiful when I was eating. I

> found the stem to my problem, much like the lady who

> shared last night about her dad, I too was looking

> for

> acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to say

> was

> that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I am.

> He

> would always say you have a beautiful face why do

> you

> eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying to

> prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized this

> I

> stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried, and I

> feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I will

> feel

> when I am really healthy.

> I am very excited to have my first appointment on

> the

> 7th and see where I go from here. I would like to

> have

> the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can

> understand

> my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally start

> preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

> ready.

>

> __________________________________________________

> Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail -

> only $35

> a year! http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

>

February 5, 2001

Hi ,

I am 23 too...It is nice to meet people around my age...where do

you live, if you don't mind me asking?

Kim in Methuen

> > Welcome ,

> >

> > Best of luck with your consult of the 7th. Please

> > let us know if you have

> > any questions.

> >

> > Eating never made me feel beautiful, actually just

> > the opposite, the more I

> > ate the more I hated myself.... I did use food as a

> > drug, as a release from

> > the pain of living and feeling. I also used it as a

> > weapon... My ex-husband

> > would tell me " your not the woman I married [because

> > I gained 100lbs after

> > the birth of my children] " , so I'd show him, and

> > stick another cream puff in

> > my mouth!

> >

> > Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00

> > new here

> >

> > Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively

> > involved

> > with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

> > Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

> > meeting and what a wonderful informational session.

> > I

> > just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of the

> > smiles on your faces. I had an emotional

> > breakthrough

> > after the meeting on the drive home. I realized that

> > I

> > ate so

> > much because I felt beautiful when I was eating. I

> > found the stem to my problem, much like the lady who

> > shared last night about her dad, I too was looking

> > for

> > acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to say

> > was

> > that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I am.

> > He

> > would always say you have a beautiful face why do

> > you

> > eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying to

> > prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized this

> > I

> > stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried, and I

> > feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I will

> > feel

> > when I am really healthy.

> > I am very excited to have my first appointment on

> > the

> > 7th and see where I go from here. I would like to

> > have

> > the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can

> > understand

> > my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally start

> > preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

> > ready.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> > Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail -

> > only $35

> > a year! http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> > <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

> >

February 6, 2001

Sorry i didn't see you at the meeting...good to see you on this

site...Congrats on your appt. the 7th which dr.?

goodluck

vicki

February 6, 2001

,

What

procedure are you having done? I’ve heard of people who have had the surgery

Lap going back to work after 2-3 weeks. I don’t think they would recommend this

for someone having the open procedure. I have a desk job as well. My disability

administrator approved me for 8 weeks out of work, I took 7, I could have gone

back after 5…. However, I got full pay, so why not take the time off… I am 42

and have worked fulltime since I was 19, it was the first time I had any

extended time off except for 6 weeks with the birth of each child…

Joni – Dr.

Thayer 11/27/00

-----Original

Message-----

From: heather hunt

Sent: Monday, February 05, 2001

3:50 PM

To:

OSSG-NewEngland

Subject: RE: new

here

Thanks for the responce Joni. I ate to spite people as

well, it was my bestfriend and now I have detached my

self from it, I have not been hungry in days and that

feels so good.

I have a question about the recovery time, I am 23 and

I work as a helpdesk consultant, so i sit all day, how

long should I allow for recovery. I know a lady who

had this done and she was back to work in less than 2

weeks, but I think that is pushing it.

-

Pre-Op

--- " Dicastro, Joan " wrote:

> Welcome ,

>

> Best of luck with your consult of the 7th. Please

> let us know if you have

> any questions.

>

> Eating never made me feel beautiful, actually just

> the opposite, the more I

> ate the more I hated myself.... I did use food as a

> drug, as a release from

> the pain of living and feeling. I also used it as a

> weapon... My ex-husband

> would tell me " your not the woman I married [because

> I gained 100lbs after

> the birth of my children] " , so I'd show him, and

> stick another cream puff in

> my mouth!

>

> Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00

> new here

>

> Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively

> involved

> with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

> Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

> meeting and what a wonderful informational session.

> I

> just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of the

> smiles on your faces. I had an emotional

> breakthrough

> after the meeting on the drive home. I realized that

> I

> ate so

> much because I felt beautiful when I was eating. I

> found the stem to my problem, much like the lady who

> shared last night about her dad, I too was looking

> for

> acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to say

> was

> that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I am.

> He

> would always say you have a beautiful face why do

> you

> eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying to

> prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized this

> I

> stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried, and I

> feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I will

> feel

> when I am really healthy.

> I am very excited to have my first appointment on

> the

> 7th and see where I go from here. I would like to

> have

> the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can

> understand

> my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally start

> preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

> ready.

>

> __________________________________________________

> Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail -

> only $35

> a year! http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

>

February 6, 2001

the consult is allinclusive that is your appt. w/ surgeon, psychologist and

nutritionist all in one...some people said they got a date the same day

though I think that's unusual.. I got my date about a month later and it was

two months after they gave it to me.... hope you get your date soon

vicki

February 6, 2001

Hi Kim-

I live in Providence, RI, but I work in Canton MA.

It is nice to meet people around my own age, I finally

feel that I am not alone in my age group, and thats a

first.

--- kgreenlee@... wrote:

> Hi ,

> I am 23 too...It is nice to meet people around

> my age...where do

> you live, if you don't mind me asking?

>

> Kim in Methuen

>

> > > Welcome ,

> > >

> > > Best of luck with your consult of the 7th.

> Please

> > > let us know if you have

> > > any questions.

> > >

> > > Eating never made me feel beautiful, actually

> just

> > > the opposite, the more I

> > > ate the more I hated myself.... I did use food

> as a

> > > drug, as a release from

> > > the pain of living and feeling. I also used it

> as a

> > > weapon... My ex-husband

> > > would tell me " your not the woman I married

> [because

> > > I gained 100lbs after

> > > the birth of my children] " , so I'd show him, and

> > > stick another cream puff in

> > > my mouth!

> > >

> > > Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00

> > > new here

> > >

> > > Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively

> > > involved

> > > with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

> > > Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

> > > meeting and what a wonderful informational

> session.

> > > I

> > > just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of

> the

> > > smiles on your faces. I had an emotional

> > > breakthrough

> > > after the meeting on the drive home. I realized

> that

> > > I

> > > ate so

> > > much because I felt beautiful when I was eating.

> I

> > > found the stem to my problem, much like the lady

> who

> > > shared last night about her dad, I too was

> looking

> > > for

> > > acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to

> say

> > > was

> > > that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I

> am.

> > > He

> > > would always say you have a beautiful face why

> do

> > > you

> > > eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying

> to

> > > prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized

> this

> > > I

> > > stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried,

> and I

> > > feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I

> will

> > > feel

> > > when I am really healthy.

> > > I am very excited to have my first appointment

> on

> > > the

> > > 7th and see where I go from here. I would like

> to

> > > have

> > > the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can

> > > understand

> > > my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally

> start

> > > preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

> > > ready.

> > >

> __________________________________________________

> > > Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo!

> Mail -

> > > only $35

> > > a year! http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> > > <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

> > >

February 6, 2001

Joni-

I want to have the lap. procedure done but the only

lap doctors I have found are at the Lahey clinic, and

I called to talk to them and It felt very automated

and since then I have not heard anything but bad

information about them, so I dont think i want to go

there. If anyone knows a Lap doctor please let me

know. I really like the feeling I got from the

patients of dr. reines and dr thayer, they felt very

warm and that is the atmosphere I need to be

successful. I will have so much more information

tomorrow after my consult. Maybe it is just the pre-op

jitters

_Heahter

--- " Dicastro, Joan " wrote:

> ,

>

> What procedure are you having done? I've heard of

> people who have had the

> surgery Lap going back to work after 2-3 weeks. I

> don't think they would

> recommend this for someone having the open

> procedure. I have a desk job as

> well. My disability administrator approved me for 8

> weeks out of work, I

> took 7, I could have gone back after 5.... However,

> I got full pay, so why

> not take the time off... I am 42 and have worked

> fulltime since I was 19, it

> was the first time I had any extended time off

> except for 6 weeks with the

> birth of each child...

>

> Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00

>

> new here

> >

> > Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively

> > involved

> > with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

> > Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

> > meeting and what a wonderful informational

> session.

> > I

> > just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of

> the

> > smiles on your faces. I had an emotional

> > breakthrough

> > after the meeting on the drive home. I realized

> that

> > I

> > ate so

> > much because I felt beautiful when I was eating. I

> > found the stem to my problem, much like the lady

> who

> > shared last night about her dad, I too was looking

> > for

> > acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to say

> > was

> > that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I

> am.

> > He

> > would always say you have a beautiful face why do

> > you

> > eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying

> to

> > prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized

> this

> > I

> > stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried, and

> I

> > feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I will

> > feel

> > when I am really healthy.

> > I am very excited to have my first appointment on

> > the

> > 7th and see where I go from here. I would like to

> > have

> > the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can

> > understand

> > my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally

> start

> > preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

> > ready.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> > Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail

> -

> > only $35

> > a year! http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

>

> > < http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/> >

> >

February 6, 2001

,

The only

other surgeon I know who does the procedure LAP, is Dr. from UMASS

Worcester. I believe several people from Egroups have had their surgery with

him and have been satisfied.

Joni – Dr.

Thayer 11/27/00

-----Original

Message-----

From: heather hunt

Sent: Tuesday, February 06, 2001

11:31 AM

To:

OSSG-NewEngland

Subject: RE: new

here

Joni-

I want to have the lap. procedure done but the only

lap doctors I have found are at the Lahey clinic, and

I called to talk to them and It felt very automated

and since then I have not heard anything but bad

information about them, so I dont think i want to go

there. If anyone knows a Lap doctor please let me

know. I really like the feeling I got from the

patients of dr. reines and dr thayer, they felt very

warm and that is the atmosphere I need to be

successful. I will have so much more information

tomorrow after my consult. Maybe it is just the pre-op

jitters

_Heahter

--- " Dicastro, Joan " wrote:

> ,

>

> What procedure are you having done? I've heard of

> people who have had the

> surgery Lap going back to work after 2-3 weeks. I

> don't think they would

> recommend this for someone having the open

> procedure. I have a desk job as

> well. My disability administrator approved me for 8

> weeks out of work, I

> took 7, I could have gone back after 5.... However,

> I got full pay, so why

> not take the time off... I am 42 and have worked

> fulltime since I was 19, it

> was the first time I had any extended time off

> except for 6 weeks with the

> birth of each child...

>

> Joni - Dr. Thayer 11/27/00

>

> new here

> >

> > Hi Group- I am new here. I have been actively

> > involved

> > with the Spotlight Health.com web site and I am

> > Pre-Op. Last thursday night I attended the group

> > meeting and what a wonderful informational

> session.

> > I

> > just sat there scanning the room, seeing all of

> the

> > smiles on your faces. I had an emotional

> > breakthrough

> > after the meeting on the drive home. I realized

> that

> > I

> > ate so

> > much because I felt beautiful when I was eating. I

> > found the stem to my problem, much like the lady

> who

> > shared last night about her dad, I too was looking

> > for

> > acceptance and love. All I ever wanted him to say

> > was

> > that I WAS (AM) beautiful no matter how heavy I

> am.

> > He

> > would always say you have a beautiful face why do

> > you

> > eat like this. Now, I realize that he was trying

> to

> > prepare me for the cruel world. Once I realized

> this

> > I

> > stopped being hungry. I just cried and cried, and

> I

> > feel 1000 pounds lighter, just imagine how I will

> > feel

> > when I am really healthy.

> > I am very excited to have my first appointment on

> > the

> > 7th and see where I go from here. I would like to

> > have

> > the surgery tomorrow lol I am sure you can

> > understand

> > my lack of patience. I have tried to mentally

> start

> > preparing myself for the change, and I think I'm

> > ready.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> > Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail

> -

> > only $35

> > a year! http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

>

> > < http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/

> <http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/>

>

> >

February 6, 2001

Vicki-

I hope that we can get together at the next meeting. I

guess I was in such awe of the support that I just sat

in the room and listened to what everyone was talking

about. I am having my appointment with Dr. Reines

tomorrow. Whoa a little nervous.

How many appointments do you have to goto before a

surgery date is scheduled? I am graduating college at

the end of May, I would love to have lost some weight

by the time I see my family.

heather

--- haiowatha@... wrote:

>

> Sorry i didn't see you at the meeting...good to see

> you on this

> site...Congrats on your appt. the 7th which dr.?

>

> goodluck

>

> vicki

>

__________________________________________________

February 6, 2001

,

You've heard bad things about Lahey? UGH ! ! ! That is where I am

going to be going. They are the only hospital / Doctor (Brams) in my

insurance index of approved care. Please write to me and tell me more.

I'm getting nervous.

**Andee.

February 7, 2001

Andee,

I just wanted you to know that a friend that I work with and a member of

this list, Pam Krist had her wls at Lahey and had no trouble at all.

Don

February 7, 2001

Andee,

Don't get nervous about the hospital. If you ask enough people you can

find something wrong with evey hospital and every surgeon. And I'm sure

that's in every case.

Pam

On Tue, 6 Feb 2001 22:35:58 -0500 (EST) artzychick@... writes:

> ,

> You've heard bad things about Lahey? UGH ! ! ! That is where I am

> going to be going. They are the only hospital / Doctor (Brams) in

> my

> insurance index of approved care. Please write to me and tell me

> more.

> I'm getting nervous.

> **Andee.

>

February 7, 2001

Andee-

I have not heard anything bad about their medical

abilities, they are pretty new to WLS though. It just

taked a long time to get an appointment and they are

not good about returing calls. IF that is the doctor

that you are able to goto, then I know they will treat

you well. Not every doctor is for every patient.

Personally I like Dr. Reines and he fits my patient

needs. Lahey may do that for you. I just did not care

for thier service.

--- artzychick@... wrote:

> ,

> You've heard bad things about Lahey? UGH ! ! !

> That is where I am

> going to be going. They are the only hospital /

> Doctor (Brams) in my

> insurance index of approved care. Please write to

> me and tell me more.

> I'm getting nervous.

> **Andee.

>

__________________________________________________

November 4, 2003

congrats on your approval! mine was lap, sure that you'll hear from

some " open " folks.

lori h.

> Hello Everyboy. My name is Cori and I am in process of having open

> RNY procedure. I just got my approval today. I am 35yo F I weight

> 315lbs i am 5'8 " .. I will be having the procedure in Honesdale PA.

> Can someone please tell me what it will be like during the first

> month? How much pain will i have? Will I be able to retun to full

> work say by Dec 20th If i have procedure done by Nov 12th????? I am

a

> Firefighter in NY and this weight has been killing me for years. I

> have found it harder and harder to do my job as the weight kept

> piling on. I had tried exercise programs I tried all the fad diets I

> had trainers nothing worked. My genetics just say without the

surgery

> i will be FAT. My family history is terrifying. All my relatives are

> heavy and all are dying young. by age 50 they have died or suffered

> major heart attacks or strokes. I dont plan on that being me that

is

> why i have persued the surgery.... WISH ME LUCK..... Cori

November 6, 2003

Hi Sassha!

First I like to say good luck in your upcoming appointments.

I know how exciting and fearful they can be!

Second.. as for the pictures...

I am not on th losing side yet.... but I can tell you now, when I look in mirror

I don't know who I am looking at. I don't reconize myself. I feel as if I am

looking at a stranger.

I can't wait to see ME again!

Peace,

K

Open RNY Surgery date : 12/2/03

5' and 252 lbs

New Here

snipped:

Did these people know who the

person was they were looking at after surgery in the pictures??

I had a funny feeling come over me thinking " Will I know me, as who

I was? " Did anyone here have that silly thought?

November 6, 2003

Hi Sassha!

First I like to say good luck in your upcoming appointments.

I know how exciting and fearful they can be!

Second.. as for the pictures...

I am not on th losing side yet.... but I can tell you now, when I look in mirror

I don't know who I am looking at. I don't reconize myself. I feel as if I am

looking at a stranger.

I can't wait to see ME again!

Peace,

K

Open RNY Surgery date : 12/2/03

5' and 252 lbs

New Here

snipped:

Did these people know who the

person was they were looking at after surgery in the pictures??

I had a funny feeling come over me thinking " Will I know me, as who

I was? " Did anyone here have that silly thought?

November 7, 2003

I have the same feeling for the most part except, that I have never actually

been thin ever. I haven't seen the 200lb mark since I was like 12 or 13 yrs

old so, the person I am now is the person who has always been overweight. So

will I still be me after I lose the weight? Will my family and my husband still

know me and love me. To be honest it scares me half to death. More than the

surgery itself. I don't want to end up one of those snotty skinny girls that

I never could stand. Maybe it sounds kinda stupid but, it's a real big fear

for me. I have always been the funny, sweet fat girl. Who will I be when

this is all over????

in MI

320/Pre-OP

November 7, 2003