Guest guest Posted June 9, 2002 Report Share Posted June 9, 2002 *SIGH* I TRY SO HARD NOT TO HAVE THE FIRST THING I POST ABOUT MY DH BE SOMETHING NEGATIVE, LIKE I DID THIS TIME. HE IS AN ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL MAN. HE'S SWEET, CARING, OUTGOING, FUNNY AND VERY COMMITTED. HE SHOWS ME ALL THE TIME HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME. HE IS MY SOUL MATE AND MY TRUE LOVE AND I COULD NEVER ASK FOR A BETTER PARTNER TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH. HE ALSO HAS HIS FLAWS - LIKE EVERYONE DOES. HIS BIG ONE IS THAT WHEN HE'S TIRED OR FRUSTRATED/STRESSED, HE GETS NASTY. MY CFS FRUSTRATES HIM. I'M HOPING HE KIND OF SNAPS OUT OF IT, BUT I DOUBT HE WILL. IT WILL TAKE SOME TIME FOR HIM TO LEARN TO NOT BE NASTY WHEN HE'S GRUMPY. THEN THERE'S ME. I HAVE A BIG MOUTH. WHEN HE'S NASTY TO ME, I TELL HIM LIKE IT IS. SOMETIMES IT HELPS, SOMETIMES IT MAKES IT WORSE. BUT THAT'S ME AND I'M NOT CHANGING THAT. I AM NOT NASTY TO HIM, BUT I'M FIRM ABOUT WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE AND WHAT IS NOT. HOPE THAT HELPS YOU GET A CLEAR PICTURE OF LIFE WITH DH. SUSAN > SORRY TO SAY THIS SUSAN BUT THE FIRST THING YOU NEED TO GET RID OF IN > THE NEGATIVE ATTUTIDE(?) OF YOUR HUBBY. YOU DO NOT NEED THAT CRAP FROM > ANYONE ESPECIALLY SOMEONE WHO IS SUPPOSED TO LOVE YOU. HE DOES NOT > HAVE TO UNDRSTAND THESE DDS TO REALIZE YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN. > IF HE CAN NOT SUPPORT YOU THEN YOU NEED HIM ABOUT AS MUCH AS YOU NEED > A MINNOW WITH OUT ANYTHING TO FISH WITH. OR NOT AT ALL. MY HUBBY HAS > WASHED MY HAIR, GIVEN ME A BATH GOT ME IN AND OUT OF THE TUB ALL > BECAUSE I COULD NOT RAISE MY HANDS MAKE MY ARMS WORK RIGHT OR GET MY > LEGS TO GO THE RIGHT WAY. HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THESE DDS EITHER BUT > HE SEES WHAT THEY DO TO ME AND HOW MY BODY GETS AT TIMES. I HAVE A > 4Y/O GRANDSON AND ICAN'T LIFT HIM EITHER HE CLIMBS IN MY LAP I ROCK > HIM AND IFWE ARE NOT ON THE BED AND HE FALLSASLEEP MY HUSBAND CARRIES > HIM TO BED. BESIDES WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND THAT HE > CAN NOT COMFORT YOUR CHILD? HE HELPED GET THE CHILD HERE AND HE IS THE > PARENT ALSO JUMP HIM NEXT TIME.WE HAVE TO TOLERATE THESE DDS WE HAVE > NO CHOICE BUT WE DON'T HAVE TO TOLERATE CRAP LIKE YOUR HUSBAND IS > DISHING OUT. WE ALSO KNOW HIS WORDS DON'T SLIDE RIGHT OFF YOUR BACK > BEEN THERE DONE THAT FOR YEARS FROM OTHER PPL. WORDS HURT AND YOU > SHOULD NOT HAVE TO TAKE IT. LUV JO > > > > > > > > http://community.webtv.net/jowaca/JOSFAVORITEPICTURES > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2002 Report Share Posted June 10, 2002 SUSAN I AM NOT A NEGATIVE PERSON AND DON'T WISH TO COME OFF LIKE ONE. BUT I HATE WHEN PPL WHO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT OUR BODIES DO TO US TELLING US WHAT WE CAN DO WHEN THEY DON'T HAVE A CLUE. I WENT THRU THAT WITH MY AUNT UNTIL I TOOK HER TO MY DR WITH ME AND HAD HIM SHOW HER DIFFERENT THINGS. SHE ALSO HAD TO HELP ME UP SEVERAL TIMES AFTER I FELL AND SLIDE DOWN THE AISLES AT THE MALL HERE IN TOWN WHILE WE WERE CHRISTMAS SHOPPING. SHE WAS EMBRASSED BY MY CANE SO I LEFT IT IN THE CAR TO PLEASE HER. SHE WENT TO GET IT FOR ME LOL. MY UNCLE WAYNE TOLD HER I WOULD FALL WITH OUT MY CANE CAUSE MY LEGS WOULD GO OUT FROM UNDER ME. SOMR PPL HAVE TO SEE FOR THEMSELVES AND OTHERS TAKE YOUR WORD FOR IT. BUT I HAVE FOUND THE MORE NEGATIVE PPL ARE THE WORSE THESE DDS ARE. MAYBE ITS OUR BODYS WAY OF SHOWING THEM ITS NOT WELL BUT ITS NOT IN OUR MINDS EITHER. EXPLAIN TO YOUR HUBBY THAT STRESS MAKES US WORSE BECAUSE IT DOES. THE LESS STRESS THE MORE WE CAN DO. BUT THEN SOME TIMES OUR BODY IS GOING TO REBEL NO MATTER WHAT WE DO OR HOW WE TRY IT JUST DOESN'T WORK. HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND THAT GETTING NASTY IS NOT HELPING MATTERS AT ALL. SORRY IF I CAME OFF SOUNDING MEAN AND NASTY I'M REALLY NOT. LUV JO http://community.webtv.net/jowaca/JOSFAVORITEPICTURES *SIGH* I TRY SO HARD NOT TO HAVE THE FIRST THING I POST ABOUT MY DH BE SOMETHING NEGATIVE, LIKE I DID THIS TIME. HE IS AN ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL MAN. HE'S SWEET, CARING, OUTGOING, FUNNY AND VERY COMMITTED. HE SHOWS ME ALL THE TIME HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME. HE IS MY SOUL MATE AND MY TRUE LOVE AND I COULD NEVER ASK FOR A BETTER PARTNER TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH. HE ALSO HAS HIS FLAWS - LIKE EVERYONE DOES. HIS BIG ONE IS THAT WHEN HE'S TIRED OR FRUSTRATED/STRESSED, HE GETS NASTY. MY CFS FRUSTRATES HIM. I'M HOPING HE KIND OF SNAPS OUT OF IT, BUT I DOUBT HE WILL. IT WILL TAKE SOME TIME FOR HIM TO LEARN TO NOT BE NASTY WHEN HE'S GRUMPY. THEN THERE'S ME. I HAVE A BIG MOUTH. WHEN HE'S NASTY TO ME, I TELL HIM LIKE IT IS. SOMETIMES IT HELPS, SOMETIMES IT MAKES IT WORSE. BUT THAT'S ME AND I'M NOT CHANGING THAT. I AM NOT NASTY TO HIM, BUT I'M FIRM ABOUT WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE AND WHAT IS NOT. HOPE THAT HELPS YOU GET A CLEAR PICTURE OF LIFE WITH DH. SUSAN > SORRY TO SAY THIS SUSAN BUT THE FIRST THING YOU NEED TO GET RID OF IN > THE NEGATIVE ATTUTIDE(?) OF YOUR HUBBY. YOU DO NOT NEED THAT CRAP FROM > ANYONE ESPECIALLY SOMEONE WHO IS SUPPOSED TO LOVE YOU. HE DOES NOT > HAVE TO UNDRSTAND THESE DDS TO REALIZE YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN. > IF HE CAN NOT SUPPORT YOU THEN YOU NEED HIM ABOUT AS MUCH AS YOU NEED > A MINNOW WITH OUT ANYTHING TO FISH WITH. OR NOT AT ALL. MY HUBBY HAS > WASHED MY HAIR, GIVEN ME A BATH GOT ME IN AND OUT OF THE TUB ALL > BECAUSE I COULD NOT RAISE MY HANDS MAKE MY ARMS WORK RIGHT OR GET MY > LEGS TO GO THE RIGHT WAY. HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THESE DDS EITHER BUT > HE SEES WHAT THEY DO TO ME AND HOW MY BODY GETS AT TIMES. I HAVE A > 4Y/O GRANDSON AND ICAN'T LIFT HIM EITHER HE CLIMBS IN MY LAP I ROCK > HIM AND IFWE ARE NOT ON THE BED AND HE FALLSASLEEP MY HUSBAND CARRIES > HIM TO BED. BESIDES WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND THAT HE > CAN NOT COMFORT YOUR CHILD? HE HELPED GET THE CHILD HERE AND HE IS THE > PARENT ALSO JUMP HIM NEXT TIME.WE HAVE TO TOLERATE THESE DDS WE HAVE > NO CHOICE BUT WE DON'T HAVE TO TOLERATE CRAP LIKE YOUR HUSBAND IS > DISHING OUT. WE ALSO KNOW HIS WORDS DON'T SLIDE RIGHT OFF YOUR BACK > BEEN THERE DONE THAT FOR YEARS FROM OTHER PPL. WORDS HURT AND YOU > SHOULD NOT HAVE TO TAKE IT. LUV JO > > > > > > > > http://community.webtv.net/jowaca/JOSFAVORITEPICTURES > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2002 Report Share Posted June 10, 2002 I DON'T THINK YOU'RE MEAN OR NEGATIVE JO. I APPREICATE YOUR INPUT A LOT. I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONE SOUNDING NEGATIVE, BY POSTING ABOUT MY DH'S REMARKS. I KNOW THAT JUST SAYING THE NEGATIVE STUFF ABOUT HIM MAKES PEOPLE THINK HE'S SOME HORRIBLE GUY, BUT HE'S REALLY NOT. HE'S JUST A JERK SOMETIMES LOL WE'RE TALKING AND HE'S WORKING ON GETTING IT. HE ASKED ME YESTERDAY IF I WAS OK, WHICH WAS ONE OF THE FIRST TIMES HE'S DONE THAT. I TOLD HIM I WAS PUSHING TOO HARD AND I WAS WEARING MYSELF OUT, SO HE TOOK OVER FOR ME. I MUST BE MAKING SOME PROGRESS! SUSAN > SUSAN I AM NOT A NEGATIVE PERSON AND DON'T WISH TO COME OFF LIKE ONE. > BUT I HATE WHEN PPL WHO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT OUR BODIES DO TO US TELLING > US WHAT WE CAN DO WHEN THEY DON'T HAVE A CLUE. I WENT THRU THAT WITH > MY AUNT UNTIL I TOOK HER TO MY DR WITH ME AND HAD HIM SHOW HER > DIFFERENT THINGS. SHE ALSO HAD TO HELP ME UP SEVERAL TIMES AFTER I > FELL AND SLIDE DOWN THE AISLES AT THE MALL HERE IN TOWN WHILE WE WERE > CHRISTMAS SHOPPING. SHE WAS EMBRASSED BY MY CANE SO I LEFT IT IN THE > CAR TO PLEASE HER. SHE WENT TO GET IT FOR ME LOL. MY UNCLE WAYNE TOLD > HER I WOULD FALL WITH OUT MY CANE CAUSE MY LEGS WOULD GO OUT FROM > UNDER ME. SOMR PPL HAVE TO SEE FOR THEMSELVES AND OTHERS TAKE YOUR > WORD FOR IT. BUT I HAVE FOUND THE MORE NEGATIVE PPL ARE THE WORSE > THESE DDS ARE. MAYBE ITS OUR BODYS WAY OF SHOWING THEM ITS NOT WELL > BUT ITS NOT IN OUR MINDS EITHER. EXPLAIN TO YOUR HUBBY THAT STRESS > MAKES US WORSE BECAUSE IT DOES. THE LESS STRESS THE MORE WE CAN DO. > BUT THEN SOME TIMES OUR BODY IS GOING TO REBEL NO MATTER WHAT WE DO OR > HOW WE TRY IT JUST DOESN'T WORK. HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND THAT GETTING > NASTY IS NOT HELPING MATTERS AT ALL. SORRY IF I CAME OFF SOUNDING MEAN > AND NASTY I'M REALLY NOT. LUV JO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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