Guest guest Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Mari, you are doing good to notice all these things, that is part of doing IE, especially in the beginning. Its also not unusual to apply the principles - 'a la dieting' - turning these into hard and fast rules which one either does 'right or wrong'. Such black/white thinking is more the realm of dieting and will misguide you as you try to apply the IE principles. I'd say you are doing pretty good - celebrate your little victories and also know that patience and not beating up on one's self is the best 'first' steps you can take on your IE journey. Hang in and keep posting! Best to you, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I'm pretty new to IE, maybe a month. In terms of life, it has been fantastic. My husband has followed my example. I feel a freedom that I've never felt before. > > I've been doing very well with only eating when I'm hungry. I stop before I'm full. > > I've been wondering if I'm being too...self-righteous. Self righteous thoughts such as: " I'm sooo much better at this than my husband. Look at how much food he ate! " or " He's eating again?! There is no way he is really hungry! " or " I didn't even eat a half of a sandwich! I'm so good at this. " > > Maybe I'm NOT following what my body says--I'm just eating way less food and waiting until I'm hungry again. Is that what this is all about? O > > Tonight, though, I wanted more food. I probably ate 2 or even 3 times more than I have been. Initially, I felt kind of guilty. Not totally guilty since that is kind of against the whole idea of intuitive eating, but a little guilty because I ate more than half a sandwich! > > Examining how my body feels, I don't really feel FULL. I'm not hungry anymore, but I'm not stuffed, which is how I thought I'd feel. It confuses me. > > Maybe sometimes the body just needs more food than normal? Maybe I'm alone with the kids and the dessert looked so good that I couldn't pass up two servings of it. It is hard for me to tell. I didn't really SAVOUR the food like I should have. I'm sure I could've gotten away with way less food. > > Any thoughts? > > > Mari > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 I try to focus only on satisfaction. I eat until I'm totally satisfied. Sometimes that means I overeat. Sometimes that means I actually undereat (I still feel a little hungry, but the thought of eating more kinda makes me sick). When I tried to focus on hunger/fulless, I felt panicky. When I first switched my focus to satisfaction, I slightly overate frequently, but I felt really calm. Now I almost always eat just right. With my focus on satisfaction, that gives me that complete permission to eat more when I'm having a special meal or special food, and to eat less when my options are less than palatable to me. I feel no guilt or panick now. It's easy to eat slowly when I'm looking for total satisfaction. I look for that bite where I truly don't want another bite at all. If I'm trying to limit to a certan level of fullness, I panick a bit, eat too fast, and miss that just right fullness level. Sara -- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " Katcha " wrote: > > Mari, you are doing good to notice all these things, that is part of doing IE, especially in the beginning. Its also not unusual to apply the principles - 'a la dieting' - turning these into hard and fast rules which one either does 'right or wrong'. Such black/white thinking is more the realm of dieting and will misguide you as you try to apply the IE principles. > > I'd say you are doing pretty good - celebrate your little victories and also know that patience and not beating up on one's self is the best 'first' steps you can take on your IE journey. Hang in and keep posting! > > Best to you, Katcha > IEing since March 2007 > > > > > > I'm pretty new to IE, maybe a month. In terms of life, it has been fantastic. My husband has followed my example. I feel a freedom that I've never felt before. > > > > I've been doing very well with only eating when I'm hungry. I stop before I'm full. > > > > I've been wondering if I'm being too...self-righteous. Self righteous thoughts such as: " I'm sooo much better at this than my husband. Look at how much food he ate! " or " He's eating again?! There is no way he is really hungry! " or " I didn't even eat a half of a sandwich! I'm so good at this. " > > > > Maybe I'm NOT following what my body says--I'm just eating way less food and waiting until I'm hungry again. Is that what this is all about? O > > > > Tonight, though, I wanted more food. I probably ate 2 or even 3 times more than I have been. Initially, I felt kind of guilty. Not totally guilty since that is kind of against the whole idea of intuitive eating, but a little guilty because I ate more than half a sandwich! > > > > Examining how my body feels, I don't really feel FULL. I'm not hungry anymore, but I'm not stuffed, which is how I thought I'd feel. It confuses me. > > > > Maybe sometimes the body just needs more food than normal? Maybe I'm alone with the kids and the dessert looked so good that I couldn't pass up two servings of it. It is hard for me to tell. I didn't really SAVOUR the food like I should have. I'm sure I could've gotten away with way less food. > > > > Any thoughts? > > > > > > Mari > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 This was helpful to me. warrior > > > > > > I'm pretty new to IE, maybe a month. In terms of life, it has been fantastic. My husband has followed my example. I feel a freedom that I've never felt before. > > > > > > I've been doing very well with only eating when I'm hungry. I stop before I'm full. > > > > > > I've been wondering if I'm being too...self-righteous. Self righteous thoughts such as: " I'm sooo much better at this than my husband. Look at how much food he ate! " or " He's eating again?! There is no way he is really hungry! " or " I didn't even eat a half of a sandwich! I'm so good at this. " > > > > > > Maybe I'm NOT following what my body says--I'm just eating way less food and waiting until I'm hungry again. Is that what this is all about? O > > > > > > Tonight, though, I wanted more food. I probably ate 2 or even 3 times more than I have been. Initially, I felt kind of guilty. Not totally guilty since that is kind of against the whole idea of intuitive eating, but a little guilty because I ate more than half a sandwich! > > > > > > Examining how my body feels, I don't really feel FULL. I'm not hungry anymore, but I'm not stuffed, which is how I thought I'd feel. It confuses me. > > > > > > Maybe sometimes the body just needs more food than normal? Maybe I'm alone with the kids and the dessert looked so good that I couldn't pass up two servings of it. It is hard for me to tell. I didn't really SAVOUR the food like I should have. I'm sure I could've gotten away with way less food. > > > > > > Any thoughts? > > > > > > > > > Mari > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 > > > > > > > > I'm pretty new to IE, maybe a month. In terms of life, it has been fantastic. My husband has followed my example. I feel a freedom that I've never felt before. > > > > > > > > I've been doing very well with only eating when I'm hungry. I stop before I'm full. > > > > > > > > I've been wondering if I'm being too...self-righteous. Self righteous thoughts such as: " I'm sooo much better at this than my husband. Look at how much food he ate! " or " He's eating again?! There is no way he is really hungry! " or " I didn't even eat a half of a sandwich! I'm so good at this. " > > > > > > > > Maybe I'm NOT following what my body says--I'm just eating way less food and waiting until I'm hungry again. Is that what this is all about? O > > > > > > > > Tonight, though, I wanted more food. I probably ate 2 or even 3 times more than I have been. Initially, I felt kind of guilty. Not totally guilty since that is kind of against the whole idea of intuitive eating, but a little guilty because I ate more than half a sandwich! > > > > > > > > Examining how my body feels, I don't really feel FULL. I'm not hungry anymore, but I'm not stuffed, which is how I thought I'd feel. It confuses me. > > > > > > > > Maybe sometimes the body just needs more food than normal? Maybe I'm alone with the kids and the dessert looked so good that I couldn't pass up two servings of it. It is hard for me to tell. I didn't really SAVOUR the food like I should have. I'm sure I could've gotten away with way less food. > > > > > > > > Any thoughts? > > > > > > > > > > > > Mari > > > > > > > > > > this was really helpful to me too. since i am dealing with some ED issues my hunger signals are really hard to connect with. the idea on focusing on satisfaction sounds a little easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2009 Report Share Posted July 26, 2009 Sara, that was helpful to me as well. How long have you been working on IE? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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