Re: Need help, really struggling...

[Guest guest]

Hi ...no need to apologize- we're all here for support on this journey.

I have so been there! I don't know how many times I've stepped on the scale and seen a number that was too high and then struggled for days (or weeks) to stop binging and felt so ashamed about it. THis IE journey is one of the hardest things I've ever done.

I'm currently reading When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies and it's starting to sink into my thick skull that it's not such a big deal that I am fat. I am good enough just as I am.

And - so are you!! You're !! There's nobody else just like you!

I hope you feel better soon! And remember you are definitely not alone in your stuggles!!

Subject: Need help, really struggling...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Received: Friday, February 27, 2009, 4:56 PM

Hi everyone,I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be really appreciated.I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know I've been overeating.. .more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of sugar and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour, the craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I push all the rational thoughts away.So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me. Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and calorie counting leads me

right to food obsession and bingeing. But I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, "this time will be different." But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body. And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for me to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at this weight. I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but I don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would understand.. .Thank you for reading,

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[Guest guest]

, your struggles are understood here. I know I have had tough

times and set backs too. What kept me going was to pick one small

little IE thing that I could do and let that baby step get me back

onto my way. Perhaps you needed to re-visit WW just so you would

remember why you decided to chuck dieting? It really is difficult to

ditch the 'good/bad - food/me' mentality that dieting encourages and

adopt the I AM (no judgment) thinking that IE suggests. Hang in there

and keep posting - it sure helps me to do that.

Best to you - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be

> really appreciated.

>

> I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On

> Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much

> weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know I've

> been overeating...more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't

> have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of sugar

> and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when

> I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour, the

> craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I

> push all the rational thoughts away.

>

> So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know

> better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me.

> Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and

> calorie counting leads me right to food obsession and bingeing. But

> I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, " this time will be

> different. " But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of

> overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body.

>

> And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so

> much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for me

> to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like

> I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at

> this weight.

>

> I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but I

> don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would

> understand...

>

> Thank you for reading,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi !

Have no fear, your fellow IE'ers are here! You should be really proud of yourself for posting about your struggle, that is a really positive step back in the direction of IE.. I want you to know you are not alone. I can tell you that I have struggled lately too. I lost my focus lately, and spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to get myself on track. It took me a while but I finally remembered why I started IE. That got me motivated again in the IE direction, because I realized that life before IE was so much harder than it is now. I posted a blog about it this week. (sorry, it's really long) I just wanted to share my post, so you can see that you are not alone. Hope it helps in some way!

Hugs,

Bonnie

I forgot why I began IE

I’ve been feeling a little lost lately, so I went back to reading “When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies†to see if I could pick up any new inspiration. Thank goodness I did!

During January I kind of got caught up in the diet bandwagon because all of my friends were going on diets and I was feeling left out. I knew I wasn’t going to go on a diet with them, but I wanted to feel like part of the group. So I tried to join a weightloss contest with them in hopes of just sitting on the bench and getting to wear the team jersey. I wanted to participate just enough, but not so much that I actually went on the diet itself. It wasn’t the diet contest specifically, but I started having a gradual shift from being totally against diets. I began to forget my basic principles of Intuitive Eating (these are not necessarily everyones principles with IE.)

When I started IE, it was because I was so fed up with diets and bad body thoughts that I actually become angry at dieting. I decided to banish my bad body thoughts about myself, and question society’s beliefs that skinny is good and fat is bad. But slowly, through the past few weeks, I have been observing others going on diets, and have lightened my hatred of the diets. This in turn opened up my inner self to thinking that fat is bad, so I am bad, and that I will only be better if I lose weight. I began to get anxious, wanting to see results for my efforts in IE. I wanted to lose weight too, but by using IE. That way I could have proof that IE works for weight loss too.

From just reading the chapter Resisting The Cure from “When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies†I am starting to remember why I stopped dieting and began IE. It was not to lose weight! I do IE to find self-acceptance and love for my body NOW. Not love for my body when and only when I lose weight. IE is not a means to an end.. IE is the beginning, the middle and the Grand Finale. I take IE with me everywhere I go, in every thought, and with every conversation I have. IE has taught me to challenge what others say. I wonder “is this really a true statement, or just what society has found acceptable?†I don’t take what is considered the norm as the truth anymore. I am doing IE to accept my body, love my body, dress it to the nines and flaunt my curves, at 170 pounds. I am not doing IE to see results on a scale.

The biggest weight I have lost since I started IE in October 2008 is the weight off my shoulders of self-doubt and insecurity. I am making huge strides with IE, and my victories are not weighable on a scale. I am on my way to becoming a woman who loves herself at the weight she is right now.

I also am learning to love others exactly the way they are too. Everyone has a body that is lovely and interesting. I am doing IE so that I can become a strong, confident woman. Iam eventually going to attract a man that will be my husband, and I will know him when I meet him because he will feel the same way about me as I feel about myself. He will fall in love with a woman who loves every shape and size because all sizes are beautiful.

We will raise children that will not have insecurities about their weights. They wil love and accept their own bodies, because we are good role models for self-acceptance. I am doing IE so that one day, I will raise a daughter who respects herself and her body because her mother does. This little girl will never have to see me pick apart my body, and portray the belief that my body is not good enough. She will see that her daddy loves her mommy just the way she is, so he will love and accept her daughter as she is as well. My daughter will grow up not needing validation from other men, because she has enough validation from home.

I am doing IE to stop the legacy of self-hatred and bad body thoughts sent down to me from generations of women who have been taught to hate their bodies at an early age from their own parents, their friends, and society.

I may not have lost weight in pounds yet, and that is fine by me. I forgot why I started IE, but now I remember. I do IE to love and accept myself just as I am. The positive things that will come from making this change will be the cherry on top!

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Friday, February 27, 2009 3:56:59 PMSubject: Need help, really struggling...

Hi everyone,I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be really appreciated.I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know I've been overeating.. .more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of sugar and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour, the craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I push all the rational thoughts away.So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me. Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and calorie counting leads me

right to food obsession and bingeing. But I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, "this time will be different." But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body. And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for me to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at this weight. I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but I don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would understand.. .Thank you for reading,

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

speaking for myself, the problem has always been that " resistance is

futile " . that is to say, the more i feel that i should not be eating

something, the more likely i am to eat it.

I really do think you have to fill your house with all kinds of crap

and eat till it is no longer special, no matter how long it takes (and

it might take a year or more, it did for me). you can't be secretly

feeling guilt about it. you have to tell yourself this is a thing you

are doing for your mental and physical health.

it's easier for me than for a lot of people, because my husband never

has anything to say about food or weight. but to be honest, what

really helped me was psychiatry. obviously most people don't have my

issues, long family history of nuttiness in various forms, but I

personally don't think I would have gotten to this stage without it.

You might think about whether this is something to look into. I know

it's hard. I went to some bad places before I got help.

Thea

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be

> really appreciated.

>

> I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On

> Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much

> weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know I've

> been overeating...more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't

> have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of sugar

> and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when

> I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour, the

> craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I

> push all the rational thoughts away.

>

> So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know

> better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me.

> Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and

> calorie counting leads me right to food obsession and bingeing. But

> I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, " this time will be

> different. " But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of

> overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body.

>

> And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so

> much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for me

> to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like

> I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at

> this weight.

>

> I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but I

> don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would

> understand...

>

> Thank you for reading,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Excellent reply as well as double wonderful reminder of your (our?!?)

true objectives and how IE plays in that effort.

ehugs, Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi !

> Have no fear, your fellow IE'ers are here! You should be really

proud of yourself for posting about your struggle, that is a really

positive step back in the direction of IE. I want you to know you are

not alone. I can tell you that I have struggled lately too. I lost

my focus lately, and spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to

get myself on track. It took me a while but I finally remembered why I

started IE. That got me motivated again in the IE direction, because I

realized that life before IE was so much harder than it is now.

I posted a blog about it this week. (sorry, it's really long) I just

wanted to share my post, so you can see that you are not alone. Hope

it helps in some way!

>

> Hugs,

> Bonnie

> I forgot why I began IE

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I have been where you are. I have gained weight since starting my IE journey. But, I know this is a long process - my nutritionist (who teaches/supports IE) told me that people who are willing to gain weight recover from their eating problems more permanently, Also, from what I've read in these posts, the weight gain is part of the process.

IE isn't really about weight loss....it is about recovering the trust in our selves; it's learning to nourish ourselves in all ways, not just with food; it's about reclaiming our bodies and minds; What we weigh has nothing to do with this stuff...eventually, our bodies will settle at a weight that is perfect for us (not some chart).

Hang in there, . Keep posting, keep reading the Intuitive Eating book,and keep your eyes on the prize!!

Kim

IE since Aug 08

Subject: Need help, really struggling...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Friday, February 27, 2009, 4:56 PM

Hi everyone,I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be really appreciated.I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know I've been overeating.. .more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of sugar and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour, the craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I push all the rational thoughts away.So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me. Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and calorie counting leads me

right to food obsession and bingeing. But I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, "this time will be different." But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body. And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for me to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at this weight. I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but I don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would understand.. .Thank you for reading,

[Guest guest]

Well said Kim!!

>

> Hi ,

>  

> I have been where you are. I have gained weight since starting my IE

journey. But, I know this is a long process - my nutritionist (who

teaches/supports IE) told me that people who are willing to gain

weight recover from their eating problems more permanently, Also, from

what I've read in these posts, the weight gain is part of the process.

>  

> IE isn't really about weight loss....it is about recovering the

trust in our selves; it's learning to nourish ourselves in all ways,

not just with food; it's about reclaiming our bodies and minds; What

we weigh has nothing to do with this stuff...eventually, our bodies

will settle at a weight that is perfect for us (not some chart).

>  

> Hang in there, . Keep posting, keep reading the Intuitive

Eating book,and keep your eyes on the prize!!

>  

> Kim

> IE since Aug 08

[Guest guest]

Thanks Katcha

I think the first thing I need to work on is just what you mentioned,

the " good/bad food/me " thing. I think that labeling my food as " bad "

food and then feeling that guilt after eating it led me to the

binge.

I feel better after a nice weekend of trying my best to listen to my

body and though I'm still struggling, I'm trying to let go of that

guilt. I just feel so much pressure to fit society's mold that it's

hard to allow myself to let go of that guilt.

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would

be

> > really appreciated.

> >

> > I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On

> > Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how

much

> > weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know

I've

> > been overeating...more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't

> > have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of

sugar

> > and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know

when

> > I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour,

the

> > craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I

> > push all the rational thoughts away.

> >

> > So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I

know

> > better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for

me.

> > Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and

> > calorie counting leads me right to food obsession and bingeing.

But

> > I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, " this time will be

> > different. " But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of

> > overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body.

> >

> > And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so

> > much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard

for me

> > to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel

like

> > I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself

at

> > this weight.

> >

> > I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting,

but I

> > don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would

> > understand...

> >

> > Thank you for reading,

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie

Thanks for posting your blog entry. It does help. It is encouraging

to me to read about your success and I hope that someday I too can

feel that acceptance. I know I'm here for the same reasons, to be

able to love and respect myself NOW, not when I lose weight. It's

still difficult for me to give up the diets, as much as I hate them,

because I still want to lose this weight. I still carry this hope

though that I will eventually lose that mentality if I just keep

working hard to stick with IE.

Thank you!

>

> Hi !

> Have no fear, your fellow IE'ers are here! You should be really

proud of yourself for posting about your struggle, that is a really

positive step back in the direction of IE. I want you to know you

are not alone. I can tell you that I have struggled lately too. I

lost my focus lately, and spent a lot of time trying to figure out

how to get myself on track. It took me a while but I finally

remembered why I started IE. That got me motivated again in the IE

direction, because I realized that life before IE was so much harder

than it is now. I posted a blog about it this week. (sorry, it's

really long) I just wanted to share my post, so you can see that you

are not alone. Hope it helps in some way!

>

> Hugs,

> Bonnie

> I forgot why I began IE

> I’ve been feeling a little lost lately, so I went back to reading

“When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies†to see if I could pick up

any new inspiration. Thank goodness I did!

> During January I kind of got caught up in the diet bandwagon

because all of my friends were going on diets and I was feeling left

out. I knew I wasn’t going to go on a diet with them, but I wanted

to feel like part of the group. So I tried to join a weightloss

contest with them in hopes of just sitting on the bench and getting

to wear the team jersey. I wanted to participate just enough, but not

so much that I actually went on the diet itself.  It wasn’t the

diet contest specifically, but I started having a gradual shift from

being totally against diets. I began to forget my basic principles

of Intuitive Eating (these are not necessarily everyones principles

with IE.) 

> When I started IE, it was because I was so fed up with diets and

bad body thoughts that I actually become angry at dieting. I decided

to banish my bad body thoughts about myself, and question society’s

beliefs that skinny is good and fat is bad. But slowly, through the

past few weeks, I have been observing others going on diets, and have

lightened my hatred of the diets. This in turn opened up my inner

self to thinking that fat is bad, so I am bad, and that I will only

be better if I lose weight. I began to get anxious, wanting to see

results for my efforts in IE. I wanted to lose weight too, but by

using IE. That way I could have proof that IE works for weight loss

too.

> From just reading the chapter Resisting The Cure from “When Women

Stop Hating Their Bodies†I am starting to remember why I stopped

dieting and began IE. It was not to lose weight! I do IE to find self-

acceptance and love for my body NOW. Not love for my body when and

only when I lose weight. IE is not a means to an end. IE is the

beginning, the middle and the Grand Finale. I take IE with me

everywhere I go, in every thought, and with every conversation I

have. IE has taught me to challenge what others say. I wonder “is

this really a true statement, or just what society has found

acceptable?†I don’t take what is considered the norm as the

truth anymore. I am doing IE to accept my body, love my body, dress

it to the nines and flaunt my curves, at 170 pounds. I am not doing

IE to see results on a scale.

> The biggest weight I have lost since I started IE in October 2008

is the weight off my shoulders of self-doubt and insecurity. I am

making huge strides with IE, and my victories are not weighable on a

scale. I am on my way to becoming a woman who loves herself at the

weight she is right now.

> I also am learning to love others exactly the way they are too.

Everyone has a body that is lovely and interesting. I am doing IE so

that I can become a strong, confident woman. Iam eventually going to

attract a man that will be my husband, and I will know him when I

meet him because he will feel the same way about me as I feel about

myself. He will fall in love with a woman who loves every shape and

size because all sizes are beautiful.

> We will raise children that will not have insecurities about their

weights. They wil love and accept their own bodies, because we are

good role models for self-acceptance. I am doing IE so that one day,

I will raise a daughter who respects herself and her body because her

mother does. This little girl will never have to see me pick apart

my body, and portray the belief that my body is not good

enough. She will see that her daddy loves her mommy just the way she

is, so he will love and accept her daughter as she is as well. My

daughter will grow up not needing validation from other men, because

she has enough validation from home.

> I am doing IE to stop the legacy of self-hatred and bad body

thoughts sent down to me from generations of women who have been

taught to hate their bodies at an early age from their own parents,

their friends, and society.

> I may not have lost weight in pounds yet, and that is fine by me. I

forgot why I started IE, but now I remember. I do IE to love and

accept myself just as I am. The positive things that will come from

making this change will be the cherry on top!

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Sent: Friday, February 27, 2009 3:56:59 PM

> Subject: Need help, really struggling...

>

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be

> really appreciated.

>

> I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On

> Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much

> weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know

I've

> been overeating.. .more like bingeing...on sweets mostly.. I don't

> have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of

sugar

> and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when

> I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour,

the

> craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I

> push all the rational thoughts away.

>

> So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know

> better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me.

> Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and

> calorie counting leads me right to food obsession and bingeing. But

> I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, " this time will be

> different. " But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of

> overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body.

>

> And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so

> much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for

me

> to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like

> I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at

> this weight.

>

> I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but

I

> don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would

> understand.. .

>

> Thank you for reading,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Thea,

I feel exactly that same way, " resistance is futile. " Denying myself

is my trigger.

I have thought about getting professional help. Financially it is

unfeasible for me though, which is a bummer because there is a woman

in my area that deals with my specific food/ emotional issues. She

is very expensive though...

I hope that coming here and feeling not so alone can be a form of

therapy for me

Thanks for listening,

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would

be

> > really appreciated.

> >

> > I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On

> > Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how

much

> > weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know

I've

> > been overeating...more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't

> > have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of

sugar

> > and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know

when

> > I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour,

the

> > craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I

> > push all the rational thoughts away.

> >

> > So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I

know

> > better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for

me.

> > Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and

> > calorie counting leads me right to food obsession and bingeing.

But

> > I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, " this time will be

> > different. " But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of

> > overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body.

> >

> > And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so

> > much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard

for me

> > to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel

like

> > I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself

at

> > this weight.

> >

> > I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting,

but I

> > don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would

> > understand...

> >

> > Thank you for reading,

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

, I used an AA 'trick' - 30 posts in 30 days - as my

commitment to myself to get IE going for me. It helped me to stay

immersed in IE thought and hear others talk about dropping diet

mentality too. We too often think that 'everyone thinks X about

eating/diets' but this group is living proof that there ARE people who

think different and have a better life as a result. Its a gift we give

to ourselves.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi Thea,

>

> I feel exactly that same way, " resistance is futile. " Denying myself

> is my trigger.

>

> I have thought about getting professional help. Financially it is

> unfeasible for me though, which is a bummer because there is a woman

> in my area that deals with my specific food/ emotional issues. She

> is very expensive though...

>

> I hope that coming here and feeling not so alone can be a form of

> therapy for me

>

> Thanks for listening,

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

 

Would you consider calling the woman that you wish you could see, who's very expensive, and say " I'd love to see you, but your price is out of my reach. Would you consider seeing me on a sliding scale basis? "

 

Feel free to sound a little desperate. I think people are more amenable to this than you would think, especially if they feel like the person they would be helping is really in a bind.

 

Good luck!

 

abby

 

 

, I used an AA 'trick' - 30 posts in 30 days - as mycommitment to myself to get IE going for me. It helped me to stayimmersed in IE thought and hear others talk about dropping dietmentality too. We too often think that 'everyone thinks X about

eating/diets' but this group is living proof that there ARE people whothink different and have a better life as a result. Its a gift we giveto ourselves. KatchaIEing since March 2007

>

> Hi Thea,> > I feel exactly that same way, " resistance is futile. " Denying myself > is my trigger. > > I have thought about getting professional help. Financially it is

> unfeasible for me though, which is a bummer because there is a woman > in my area that deals with my specific food/ emotional issues. She > is very expensive though...> > I hope that coming here and feeling not so alone can be a form of

> therapy for me > > Thanks for listening,> >

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone

I just want to thank all of you again for the kind comments. It really helped

me to be able to get it out and to hear so many supportive kind words back.

Little update

I've been doing very well. I've been working really hard everyday to listen to

my body and try to figure out when I'm hungry and when I'm full. And those

little voices that begin to count calories in my head or add things up as I eat?

I stop them as soon as I hear them and tell myself that if I eat a little more

than I need, I just won't be hungry as soon. It will all work out. I've been

doing my best to steer clear of any dieting talk, magazines, and commercials

that make me think of losing weight. Those are triggers that make me feel bad

about myself. I know it is not going to be easy all the time, I still want to

lose the extra weight, but I'm reminding myself that dieting only adds pounds to

me. I have faith that this will work for me. I already feel better, more

confident, and like I'm taking care of myself because I'm learning to listen to

my body. I feel pround. It's making me happier and I'm looking forward to the

day where I can be comfortable with exactly where I'm at.

The thing that is most ironic is that I'm actually eating healthier now than

when I was trying to diet. I'm focusing on how I feel when I eat certain foods

and it leads me to healthy choices. Eating healthy is very important to me

because I am an athlete. It's crazy that dieting and trying to be " healthier "

(really thinner) caused me to be less healthy and more stressed.

Thanks for reading my rambling thoughts...

> >

> >

> > From: jeni4305 <jmdolenga@>

> > Subject: Need help, really struggling...

> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > Date: Friday, February 27, 2009, 4:56 PM

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > I'm really struggling right now. Any kind words or advice would be

> > really appreciated.

> >

> > I don't know how to move forward. I took a few steps back. On

> > Wednesday, after getting on the scale I was shocked to see how much

> > weight I've gained. I've been avoiding the scale because I know

> I've

> > been overeating.. .more like bingeing...on sweets mostly. I don't

> > have too much of a problem with 'real' foods, but a tiny bit of

> sugar

> > and I completely lose control. Or give up control. And I know when

> > I'm doing it that if I could just wait it out, even a half hour,

> the

> > craving would go away. But, I just can't seem to stop myself. I

> > push all the rational thoughts away.

> >

> > So, Wednesday night I re-signed up for Weight Watchers. And I know

> > better. I know from experience that dieting doesn't work for me.

> > Dieting has led me to gain weight, not lose it. That dieting and

> > calorie counting leads me right to food obsession and bingeing. But

> > I pushed those thoughts away and told myself, " this time will be

> > different. " But it wasn't. One 'good' day and two days of

> > overeating, not at all listening to or honoring my body.

> >

> > And I'm sitting here now, feeling sick because I've just eaten so

> > much. Feeling ashamed and sad and wondering why it is so hard for

> me

> > to trust, respect, and listen to my body. I guess I just feel like

> > I'm not good enough the way I am, so it's hard to accept myself at

> > this weight.

> >

> > I apologize for the ramble, and I know it's not very uplifting, but

> I

> > don't have anyone in my life that I can tell this to who would

> > understand.. .

> >

> > Thank you for reading,

> >

> >

> >

>