Re: Roger Gould M. D. - Shrink Yourself (Break free from emotional eating forever!)

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Hi ,

Thank you for your suggestion about reading Shrink Yourself. I tried to find it

in my local library system and there's not a copy anywhere near me. As a way to

be more sustainable and keep my book collection manageable, I prefer to get

books from the library or buy them used locally. I've added Shrink Yourself to

my wishlist on Amazon.com and will hopefully find a copy to review before I

purchase it. I'm collecting a set of non-dieting approach books and like to read

different one to know, which I'll keep in my collection. When Women Stop Hating

Their Bodies by Hirschmann and Munter is also a great book to pair with IE.

I tend to prefer eating sweet food period. In a way, I was raised on sweets...so

my palette is conditioned to sweet. It doesn't help that the food industry puts

sugar in just about everything either. I've experimented and learned to really

like other tastes as well. I don't think that your experience is necessarily a

contradiction to IE. I think that it's super easy and convenient to eat sweets

everyday. And, I think that eventually most people can get tried of sweets when

the " emotional " eating component related to them (that we've developed over many

years) is recognized and transformed and when we are open to bring new taste

experiences into their life.

Sweets provide us energy like any other food and when there's an

physiological/emotional high or comfort feeling (any feeling that we like)

associated with them, our desire to eat them is reinforced. Usually, there's

some type of crash or downward energy spiral after sweets that we may not

associate with the sweets because it happens hours later. After I learned about

my true hunger, I was able to feel the emotional aspect of my eating much more

clearly. The emotional level of my eating felt like " static " ...like a hum of

energy on top of my true hunger. In the past, my emotions and the true hunger

were so intertwined that I couldn't tell the difference. So,the work that you're

doing now to transform your emotional issues around food is great!

Latoya

Practicing IE since Jan '08

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> Subject: passing on our own issues to our children

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Sunday, May 31, 2009, 9:38 AM

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> I haven't been posting much lately although I've been reading. The recent

posts on our children and weight/diet issues really hit home to me. I have a 4

year old and a 19 month old and I'm afraid that my efforts to NOT pass along my

problems will backfire. My four year old is super skinny and always has been

(preeclampsia, born premature, etc.) but she's about 45 %ile and super strong,

healthy. She doesn't eat a lot, she rarely eats dinner. I make food and our rule

is that she has to taste everything (1 bite), but I put no other requirements on

it. We rarely have desert but if we do I don't allow her to eat it unless she's

eaten dinner, but I'm afraid this is backfiring. I've seen her at times shove

food into her mouth just to finish dinner so she can eat dessert, and that makes

me want to cry. My other option though is to let her eat dessert even if she's

eaten no other food. i know some believe in this, I've read about it, but it

seems irresponsible to

> me - she's only four and she has no concept of what's good for her or really

what her body needs I don't think. she's been sucked in to the high fructose

corn syrup etc. - all that stuff is engineered to taste good, and how can that

compete with anything natural? At her preschool the other day I heard of another

4 year old who said her mom packed her vegetables for lunch so that she would be

healthy and not get fat, because if you get fat it's bad. I barely made it to

the parking lot before I started crying. How do I handle this? If I ignore it

I'm afraid I don't have the weapons to fight the media messages, but if I make

too big a deal of it I'm afraid I'll make them as obsessed as I was/am... I'm

afraid that me being a positive image won't be enough, especially since I'm

still struggling with my own stuff.

> My 19 month old, btw, is the complete opposite - loves eating, all foods,

usually eats her dinner and her sister's, cries when food is gone, etc. Of

course, on the other end of my issue spectrum, I'm worried she's eating too much

- but i don't limit her in any way as I think that would backfire for sure. I

plan to discuss it with the pediatrician this week. The physical weights they're

at are less concerning to me than the mental factors involved...

> Thanks for listening. Any advice is welcome, but I appreciate the opportunity

to just say it.

> Gillian

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(replies below section commented on) - Katcha

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> I keep thinking about something contradictory to the IE philosophy and I've

finally decided to post it. For 10 + years of my life (ages 20-30) I lived on a

menu that was nearly 90% sweets, AND I NEVER grew tired of them!

, how does that contradict IE philosophy? Could it be that you are still

equating sweets with 'bad' food? If sweets do not feed you well, I would agree

that you could say they are 'bad' for you. But I have found that there is more

to WHY this is than just a simple label of 'bad' put onto that category.

> I ate sweets in place of my regular meals, and I didn't have a weight problem

until I suffered 3 miscarriages (between ages 34-37)- eating healthy by the way

because of pregnancy, that I learned of the comfort food could provide me. Then

it became habitual, and hence the weight problems I have now.

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> I am reading Shrink Yourself right now and it is excellent. It is helping me

determine the causes of my unhappiness which lead to my feelings of

powerlessness. What an amazing book. I believe that anybody who buys the book

Intuitive Eating should pair it with this one, so that they can get a hold on

their emotional eating and avoid gaining so much weight with the initial IE

freedom.

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> Here's a review of the book:

> " This empowering book will allow you to lose weight by recognizing the

emotional stumbling blocks in your life that contribute to your emotional

eating. If you're fed up with yo-yo diets that leave you feeling frustrated,

confused, and powerless, you owe it to yourself to read the wisdom in this

book. "

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If you can supply the author's name, I can add this book to the Book List in the

Files section here at the group site.

> Knobloch

> Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless device from U.S. Cellular

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> If you can supply the author's name, I can add this book to the Book List in

the Files section here at the group site.

I see that you included this name at the header of your post. I have now added

this book title, author and your review to the Book List here.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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Do you want us to give you book titles and reviews on the list or is it easier off-list? (Don't want to clutter things for you.)  Also, I checked out some of the blogs listed and it said you had to have an invitation.  If we want to check out the blogs that are listed, do we have to do anything special?  Thanks, I'm just learning the ropes on this.

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> If you can supply the author's name, I can add this book to the Book List in the Files section here at the group site.

I see that you included this name at the header of your post. I have now added this book title, author and your review to the Book List here.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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, thanks for the book names and reviews too. I have added these to the

Book List.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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> Thanks, Katcha. I'm not much of a blogger either. I just was intrigued by

> one of the titles, but I won't work too hard at it. From this list, it sure

> seems there is a wealth of support out there - who knew?????

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> I'll give you a couple books I have loved while I'm thinking about it then

> These may unfortunately be out of print, but if anyone is intrigued by

> them and can get their hands on a copy, they are worth it.

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> *The Ten Habits of Naturally Slim People by Jill H. Podjasek*

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> This book is so incredible because it gets down to all those nitty gritty

> questions....she literally has portions of a chapter dedicated to " The

> Bite " , " The Chew " , " The Swallow " ....and answers questions like, how do I

> know if I'm hungry or if I've had enough? This book is so detailed and a

> wonderful book for people who have decided to embrace intuitive eating, and

> come up with all those questions and road blocks they want to get past, and

> need something as detailed and specific as this book gets.

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> *Think Yourself Thin by Debbie

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> Just like it sounds, this book is full of written and visualizing techniques

> to change how you think about yourself, and become thin inside and outside.

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> *The Only Diet There Is by Sondra Ray*

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> One of my most treasured books in my 'thin' library (as well as *Sondra

> Ray's I Deserve Love*), this book is chock full of the most amazing

> affirmations that counteract just about every negative thought or stumbling

> block a fat thinking mind might come up with....this is the book that most

> helped me change how I thought about myself. Gosh, just flipping through it

> makes me feel happy.

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> Hope some of those are helpful to you if you are able to get your hands on

> them.

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