Guest guest Posted August 3, 2009 Report Share Posted August 3, 2009 Welcome! You will probably love it here. And your insight is very welcome for us too. Warrior (KT) > > Hello everyone, > > I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead. > > A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. > > I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. > > I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can. > > Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with! > > Thanks again, > > Mindy Jo:) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2009 Report Share Posted August 4, 2009 Hi Mindy Jo, I'm glad you found this group. I think you will learn a lot from it. The Thin Within book is a great one to read. I just read it recently and it really hit home. I've been working at IE for several months now. There are days I'm proud of how far I've come and other days I wonder if I'll ever be at peace with food. It's definitly a long journey and not something that happens overnight. It took us a long time to get to where we are and change won't happen overnight. I can identify with you a lot because I too am a stay at home homeschooling mom of 3, ages 5.5, 8, & 10 and I have a self employed husband that is constantly working. It's hard to drop the whole diet mentality but it's well worth it when you do. My first step in this process was to dump the scale, it mentally drives me the wrong way. Look forward to reading your posts and glad to have you here! Barb Subject: I am a newbieTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, August 3, 2009, 12:56 AM Hello everyone, I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead.A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can.Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with!Thanks again,Mindy Jo:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2009 Report Share Posted August 4, 2009 Thanks Barb,My biggest struggle is dealing with the fact that my body calls for way less food than my families bodies do. My whole family is extremely fit and I thank God for them. They do listen to their bodies and never had the struggles I do and prayerfully never will. I would do fine with one meal a day and if it were only me, I could do that fine. But making three meals and snacks, I feel I am in food all day long and the temptation is constantly facing me. For example, just now I got done with my morning farm chores and we had too much cows milk yesterday so we made homemade ice cream. We like to bike ride, so I told the kids that when we get back we would eat it then. It was not done and we were hungry, so we had a bowl of cereal instead. Now I am not hungry this morning and the kids are and they wanted the homemade ice cream with raspberries for breakfast, so I break it out and serve it up...but as hard as it was, I am in here typing to you instead of eating. It was the first time I made ice cream and I am kind of sad I could not enjoy it with them. Hubby will be up soon to get ready for work and he likes pancake, waffle, meat, kind of breakfasts. So, again saying no. It seems I work really hard to make these meals but never get to enjoy them with the family. I need a new mindset. I do love making them happy and enjoy cooking them wonderful meals. So, I am trying to find my reward in that. What do you do in these situations? I do like to sit down with the family while they eat but my husband thinks it is unhealthy to skip meals and that I am crazy, so that kind of ends up being the conversation and somehow I end up justifying the fact that I should eat when I am not hungry. So, I have found just leaving and doing other things has been the answer for now. Thank you for your encouraging words. I tend to go to the scale to see how good/bad I have been. The numbers seem to be what lets me know. I am gathering that this is bad. When the numbers are bad I tend to be in a discouraged mood all day and that does not help my mind. So, maybe this is a good thing I need to do as well. I don't know if I can right away though.God Bless you today!Mindy Jo:)To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: bbspaller@...Date: Tue, 4 Aug 2009 07:24:16 -0700Subject: Re: I am a newbie Hi Mindy Jo, I'm glad you found this group. I think you will learn a lot from it. The Thin Within book is a great one to read. I just read it recently and it really hit home. I've been working at IE for several months now. There are days I'm proud of how far I've come and other days I wonder if I'll ever be at peace with food. It's definitly a long journey and not something that happens overnight. It took us a long time to get to where we are and change won't happen overnight. I can identify with you a lot because I too am a stay at home homeschooling mom of 3, ages 5.5, 8, & 10 and I have a self employed husband that is constantly working. It's hard to drop the whole diet mentality but it's well worth it when you do. My first step in this process was to dump the scale, it mentally drives me the wrong way. Look forward to reading your posts and glad to have you here! Barb From: Mindy Jo <lyonsmj1979msn>Subject: I am a newbieTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, August 3, 2009, 12:56 AM Hello everyone, I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead.A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can.Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with!Thanks again,Mindy Jo:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2009 Report Share Posted August 4, 2009 Mindy Jo, Like I said before, I am still fairly new to this (been at it since Jan) and there are more experienced people here than me. But from reading your posts my first thoughts are...she is denying herself food and anytime we deny ourselves something we just want it more in the end. Have you read Geneen Roth's Intuitive Eating book? She talked about eating the choc chip cookie dough for a few weeks and she finally became sick of eating it. That's what you need to do...just allow yourself to have it. Quit telling yourself you can't because the more you tell yourself you can't have it, the more you'll want it! My first step was to throw all my dieting mentality out the window and tell myself I can eat anything I want BUT I have to be hungry. That has been hard because I'm an emotional eater and find myself eating because of every emotion that crosses me! But for once in my life I'm happy not to have to diet and watch everything I put in my mouth. My kids are a huge inspiration to me because they are intuitive eaters and it's amazing to me how they can just eat until they are full no matter what it is and be done. It does take a lot of time! If you ever want to email me off line feel free to! We could exchange farm stories! We have the start of one between chickens, ducks and rabbits! oh my! Barb From: Mindy Jo <lyonsmj1979@ msn.com>Subject: [intuitiveEating_ Support] I am a newbieTo: IntuitiveEating_ Support@yahoogro ups.comDate: Monday, August 3, 2009, 12:56 AM Hello everyone, I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead.A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can.Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with!Thanks again,Mindy Jo:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2009 Report Share Posted August 4, 2009 I am new, so keep that in mind. But since starting the book Intuitive Eating, I have, personally, learned that for me, being my own hall monitor about my eating didn't help me lose or maintain long term. I can now have SOME ice cream so I don't have to be a warden to myself about it in any way. That makes me more likely to eat less when I do eat. Don't know if that makes sense. Actually, the ideas in Intuitive Eating (and on this board) don't make sense really, until you start to practice them and you realize they work. So now, I have a different " sense " that is growing stronger. ;-) Hang in there. Freedom awaits. KT (Warrior) > > > > Subject: I am a newbie > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Date: Monday, August 3, 2009, 12:56 AM > > > > > Hello everyone, > > I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead. > > A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. > > I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I > find myself eating a lot. > > I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can. > > Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with! > > Thanks again, > > Mindy Jo:) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2009 Report Share Posted August 4, 2009 Hi Mindy Jo,Welcome  Sounds like your life is as busy as mine! I, too, have a family (3 boys!) with often bigger appetites than mine, but I look at it this way....I get to have a wonderful variety of foods around that people will enjoy. I think if it were just me, I'd have less to choose from if that makes sense, lol. As you go through your day, and you are serving foods, tell yourself that you can have ANY of those items you want, as long as you are hungry when you have them. If you call it temptation, or create a situation of avoidance, your mind is going to dwell on those things. It sounds like you have some fabulous foods there on the farm (I can't imagine having the opportunity for fresh homemade ice cream made that day, right from the cow!) and as an intuitive eater, no matter where you are in your journey, you are allowed to eat the foods your body wants, when you are hungry. Sometimes it is hard to explain these concepts to others around us, even if they don't have the same struggles as we might have, but just persevere until they understand where you are coming from and remind them you know your body better than anyone else. No one else can tell you when you are hungry or when you have had enough - only you. And about the word 'accountability'. The great thing here is that you don't have to be accountable to this group. This is a most wonderful place for support and insights, and everyone is at a different place in their intuitive eating journey, so there is no right, no wrong - just a warm and caring place. Glad you are here!  Thanks Barb,My biggest struggle is dealing with the fact that my body calls for way less food than my families bodies do. My whole family is extremely fit and I thank God for them. They do listen to their bodies and never had the struggles I do and prayerfully never will. I would do fine with one meal a day and if it were only me, I could do that fine. But making three meals and snacks, I feel I am in food all day long and the temptation is constantly facing me. For example, just now I got done with my morning farm chores and we had too much cows milk yesterday so we made homemade ice cream. We like to bike ride, so I told the kids that when we get back we would eat it then. It was not done and we were hungry, so we had a bowl of cereal instead. Now I am not hungry this morning and the kids are and they wanted the homemade ice cream with raspberries for breakfast, so I break it out and serve it up...but as hard as it was, I am in here typing to you instead of eating. It was the first time I made ice cream and I am kind of sad I could not enjoy it with them. Hubby will be up soon to get ready for work and he likes pancake, waffle, meat, kind of breakfasts. So, again saying no. It seems I work really hard to make these meals but never get to enjoy them with the family. I need a new mindset. I do love making them happy and enjoy cooking them wonderful meals. So, I am trying to find my reward in that. What do you do in these situations? I do like to sit down with the family while they eat but my husband thinks it is unhealthy to skip meals and that I am crazy, so that kind of ends up being the conversation and somehow I end up justifying the fact that I should eat when I am not hungry. So, I have found just leaving and doing other things has been the answer for now. Thank you for your encouraging words. I tend to go to the scale to see how good/bad I have been. The numbers seem to be what lets me know. I am gathering that this is bad. When the numbers are bad I tend to be in a discouraged mood all day and that does not help my mind. So, maybe this is a good thing I need to do as well. I don't know if I can right away though. God Bless you today!Mindy Jo:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 6, 2009 Report Share Posted August 6, 2009 The first time I ready Intuitve Eating, I took away a strong message of only eating when hungy and stopping when just full or satisfied. They sort of became my new rules. I did great with it at first, but then I found myself obsessing about them, and consequently not being able to follow them. I just kept gaining more and more weight. Then I gave up. I figured, whatever weight my body wants to be, that's just weight I'll be. I started eating whenever I wanted, whatever I wanted, and as much as I wanted. I really thought I would gain more weight, but I had accepted that possibility completely. I just din't want to obsess about food anymore. I felt quite full most of the time, but surprisingly my pants actually loosened up a little. I was completely satisfied with food, and my pants were looser? Now I find hunger/satiety almost effortless (hoping it lasts!!!!!). I re-read IE, and found a very different message than the first time I read it. I found the message that it was okay to overeat. That it was okay to eat when not hungry. That my focus should be on not allowing myself to feel deprived. That if I felt deprived, I should give myself permission to eat. That a lot of " emotional overeating " was actually a rebellion or panic eating over " rules " and feeling deprived. That emotional eating was real, but most of the time, it was really about that sense of deprivation. Now, when I want an ice cream, and I'm not hungry, I eat it anyway. Just last week, this happened. I was satisfied after eating that ice cream for 4.5 hours. Had I not ate it, I would have felt deprived and panicky and ended up overeating when I finally allowed myself acess. Weight isn't really all that connected to what or how much we eat. I think it's much more connected to how we feel about food. Remember, it takes a lot of energy and trouble for our bodis to bother to carry around extra weight. The only reason our bodies to bother, is to protect us against famine. That's why the result of dieting (self-inflicted famine) is for our bodies to make sure we keep extra weight on to protect against an environment that provides frequent famine (yo-yo dieting). And our thoughts very much affect out bodies chemistry. If we feel deprived, our bodies will feel deprived. There are many chemicals (neurotransmitters and hormones) in our bodies that make sure our body is at the weight it intends to be at. This effects not just our hunger, but our metabolism. There are probably countless ways we don't even know about to make sure our bodies stay at the weight they feel comfortable at. Remember, this is and has always been absolutely essential to our very survival. When we feel panicky about foot, so will our bodies. Our bodies will react with a chemistry that demands more weight as a precaution. It has helped me to imagine that there is no connection between my eating and my weight. That it's only my peace with food that will effect my weight. And, in most ways, I believe that is true. And I feel very peaceful about food rigt now. Sara > > Hello everyone, > > I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead. > > A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. > > I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. > > I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can. > > Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with! > > Thanks again, > > Mindy Jo:) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 6, 2009 Report Share Posted August 6, 2009 Excellent post Sara - you brought up so many 'newbie' thoughts and concerns as well as how you got past them. I can very much relate to how what you do/see as IE 'grows' with time. At first I too wanted 'it ALL - NOW', but of course I wasn't ready nor able to do that. Yet after letting go of needing 'now' or a time 'limit' - I seem to have then been able to relax into just doing it. Inspiring post - thanks for sharing ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > The first time I ready Intuitve Eating, I took away a strong message of only eating when hungy and stopping when just full or satisfied. They sort of became my new rules. I did great with it at first, but then I found myself obsessing about them, and consequently not being able to follow them. I just kept gaining more and more weight. Then I gave up. I figured, whatever weight my body wants to be, that's just weight I'll be. I started eating whenever I wanted, whatever I wanted, and as much as I wanted. I really thought I would gain more weight, but I had accepted that possibility completely. I just din't want to obsess about food anymore. I felt quite full most of the time, but surprisingly my pants actually loosened up a little. I was completely satisfied with food, and my pants were looser? Now I find hunger/satiety almost effortless (hoping it lasts!!!!!). > > I re-read IE, and found a very different message than the first time I read it. I found the message that it was okay to overeat. That it was okay to eat when not hungry. That my focus should be on not allowing myself to feel deprived. That if I felt deprived, I should give myself permission to eat. That a lot of " emotional overeating " was actually a rebellion or panic eating over " rules " and feeling deprived. That emotional eating was real, but most of the time, it was really about that sense of deprivation. > > Now, when I want an ice cream, and I'm not hungry, I eat it anyway. Just last week, this happened. I was satisfied after eating that ice cream for 4.5 hours. Had I not ate it, I would have felt deprived and panicky and ended up overeating when I finally allowed myself acess. > > Weight isn't really all that connected to what or how much we eat. I think it's much more connected to how we feel about food. Remember, it takes a lot of energy and trouble for our bodis to bother to carry around extra weight. The only reason our bodies to bother, is to protect us against famine. That's why the result of dieting (self-inflicted famine) is for our bodies to make sure we keep extra weight on to protect against an environment that provides frequent famine (yo-yo dieting). And our thoughts very much affect out bodies chemistry. If we feel deprived, our bodies will feel deprived. There are many chemicals (neurotransmitters and hormones) in our bodies that make sure our body is at the weight it intends to be at. This effects not just our hunger, but our metabolism. There are probably countless ways we don't even know about to make sure our bodies stay at the weight they feel comfortable at. Remember, this is and has always been absolutely essential to our very survival. When we feel panicky about foot, so will our bodies. Our bodies will react with a chemistry that demands more weight as a precaution. > > It has helped me to imagine that there is no connection between my eating and my weight. That it's only my peace with food that will effect my weight. And, in most ways, I believe that is true. And I feel very peaceful about food rigt now. > > Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2009 Report Share Posted August 7, 2009 Thank you so much Sara. I am pretty new to IE, and I think a lot of what you said is REALLY going to help me! > > > > Hello everyone, > > > > I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead. > > > > A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. > > > > I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. > > > > I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can. > > > > Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with! > > > > Thanks again, > > > > Mindy Jo:) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2009 Report Share Posted August 7, 2009 This was very good...thank you for sharing this! I could identify with this soooo much! I am going to read and re read this. Thanks again.Mindy Jo:)To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: saralouwho@...Date: Thu, 6 Aug 2009 18:10:17 +0000Subject: Re: I am a newbie The first time I ready Intuitve Eating, I took away a strong message of only eating when hungy and stopping when just full or satisfied. They sort of became my new rules. I did great with it at first, but then I found myself obsessing about them, and consequently not being able to follow them. I just kept gaining more and more weight. Then I gave up. I figured, whatever weight my body wants to be, that's just weight I'll be. I started eating whenever I wanted, whatever I wanted, and as much as I wanted. I really thought I would gain more weight, but I had accepted that possibility completely. I just din't want to obsess about food anymore. I felt quite full most of the time, but surprisingly my pants actually loosened up a little. I was completely satisfied with food, and my pants were looser? Now I find hunger/satiety almost effortless (hoping it lasts!!!!!). I re-read IE, and found a very different message than the first time I read it. I found the message that it was okay to overeat. That it was okay to eat when not hungry. That my focus should be on not allowing myself to feel deprived. That if I felt deprived, I should give myself permission to eat. That a lot of "emotional overeating" was actually a rebellion or panic eating over "rules" and feeling deprived. That emotional eating was real, but most of the time, it was really about that sense of deprivation. Now, when I want an ice cream, and I'm not hungry, I eat it anyway. Just last week, this happened. I was satisfied after eating that ice cream for 4.5 hours. Had I not ate it, I would have felt deprived and panicky and ended up overeating when I finally allowed myself acess. Weight isn't really all that connected to what or how much we eat. I think it's much more connected to how we feel about food. Remember, it takes a lot of energy and trouble for our bodis to bother to carry around extra weight. The only reason our bodies to bother, is to protect us against famine. That's why the result of dieting (self-inflicted famine) is for our bodies to make sure we keep extra weight on to protect against an environment that provides frequent famine (yo-yo dieting). And our thoughts very much affect out bodies chemistry. If we feel deprived, our bodies will feel deprived. There are many chemicals (neurotransmitters and hormones) in our bodies that make sure our body is at the weight it intends to be at. This effects not just our hunger, but our metabolism. There are probably countless ways we don't even know about to make sure our bodies stay at the weight they feel comfortable at. Remember, this is and has always been absolutely essential to our very survival. When we feel panicky about foot, so will our bodies. Our bodies will react with a chemistry that demands more weight as a precaution. It has helped me to imagine that there is no connection between my eating and my weight. That it's only my peace with food that will effect my weight. And, in most ways, I believe that is true. And I feel very peaceful about food rigt now. Sara > > Hello everyone, > > I am very new. I am horribly upset with myself right now! This time last year I was very happy at 145 and I weighed myself today at 167. I really am going down a path I don't like. I am very good at condemning myself and I know I eat too much lately. Quite frankly I am overwhelmed. My heart needs to be in serve mode with my family and it is so overwhelmed and discouraged that I find myself eating instead. > > A bit about myself: I am a stay at home homeschooling mom of four kids ages 9, 8, 5, and 3 (almost4:) and have been married for eleven years now. I will be turning 30 at the end of this year. We just moved in February from a lake house to a farm house about 50 miles away. We have cows, chickens, dogs, cats, ducks, and a mini horse. Not to mention a garden and lots of 4-h activities. > > I have to say that as busy as that all sounds, I find myself in a huge hole of loneliness. My hubby works nights 4am-4pm. So, I find myself eating a lot. > > I cry a lot because I hate the choices I am making in this area, but really don't have the support or strength to stop. I wake up in the mornings and think, today will be the day I don't overeat and then by noon I am so weak, I just fall in the food trap. So, I have the book Thin Within. A couple years ago I did the weigh down Workshop. I was disappointed in some aspects of that although it did teach me some fundamentals of non dieting. So, here is my life and some struggles in short. Any questions, encouraging words, and just accountability and much prayer would be wonderful. I will be doing the same for others as best as I can. > > Thank you and from the looks of the posts today, this seems like a group I can identify with! > > Thanks again, > > Mindy Jo:) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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