Re: ...Stop Hating Their Bodies Book: Quotes & Thoughts

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Nice! Thanks for posting this!

Warrior (KT)

>

> I just got this book last week. I. SERIOUSLY. LOVE. THIS. BOOK. I had a couple

ideas/quotes tumbling around in my head that I'd like to put out there.

(Expression leads to impression.)

>

> Regarding negative body bashing & self-talk:

> - Take care of yourself, don't clobber yourself. Treat yourself with kindness.

> - Body bashing is ABUSIVE! Apologize to yourself. Would you dare say these

things to anyone else?

> - Motivation for lasting improvement cannot come from self-contempt.

> - Who says? ...thighs are only supposed to be slender; ...only a flat stomach

is a nice stomach; etc.

>

> You know the Golden Rule about treat others as you would like to be treated.

Well, in the matter of abusive self-talk, we need flip it: to treat ourselves as

we treat others. We wouldn't dare rip into them like we do ourselves! We know

how much it would hurt them. Well, WE ARE HURTING OURSELVES. Hence the

depression, etc. How would you feel if someone in your close circle said these

things to you? Hurt & depressed, naturally. And also, naturally, you feel the

same way when you say it to yourself.

>

> When you have a negative thought against yourself, stop and apologize and

challenge the thought with a defiant " Who says? " Don't participate in society's

current narrow definition of beauty.

>

[Guest guest]

I also read this book years ago, as well as attended a weekend workshop by the

authors. Despite learning to eat intuitively my attitude toward my body didn't

change much until I was diagnosed with celiac disease and then more recently

when I began fighting a potentially lethal bacterial infection. Before my CD

diagnosis, I would 'feel fat' when my stomach bloated after eating foods to

which I had (later diagnosed) allergies. I tried to stay as thin as possible so

that my clothes would still fit when my stomach unexpectedly bloated. I really

hated my stomach, because its bloating ruined the fit and appearance of my

clothes.

After my CD diagnosis, for the first time in my life, I realized I was NOT 'fat'

(and probably had never been 'fat'). Rather I experienced stomach bloat when I

reacted to certain foods. Learning to eat safe (nonallergic) foods helped me

eliminate frequent bloating. However I developed a more gracious attitude for

bloating, as a symptom of illness, rather than overeating or overweight.

More recently I've taken medication to fight an intestinal bacteria. The

medication made me feel nauseas, dizzy, headachey but never hungry. I also

endured a strong metallic taste from the medication. No matter how I took the

pills (in milk, in food, etc.), the taste just overwhelmed everything I ate. I

learned to eat substantial meals to slow the drug entering my system and causing

nausea. I learned to eat when I felt extremely nauseas, since I had almost no

hunger cues. I disliked gaining 2-3 pounds from the extra food. However, I need

to consider my overall health and well-being, rather than what I see on the

scale or how my clothes fit.

Because 2 rounds of the first drug didn't eliminate my bacteria symptoms, I will

tomorrow start a new stronger drug, which can also cause dizziness and nausea,

but NO metallic taste. I will need to take that drug with food (especially high

fat food to protect my sensitive stomach) 4 times a day. I normally only eat 3

meals a day. In order to evenly space the pills I plan to have a bedtime snack

to take the last dose of the day.

Since I don't sleep well immediately after eating, I need to eat a high fat,

easily digested food. So I plan to eat a small amount of coconut milk based ice

cream as my bedtime snack. I can't think of a more easily digested high fat

food. No, I'm not looking for suggestions. I'm actually looking forward to

enjoying ice cream before bed for the next 7 days. However, I also plan to eat

just enough for the other 3 meals to save some appetite for a bed time snack. I

usually don't feel hungry after dinner. So I've never been a night eater.

Fighting a potentially fatal bacteria changed my perspective about my body, its

appearance, its function and its well-being. Like other people, I sometimes

forget that this is the only body I get. Love it or hate it, this is it. I might

just as well treat it as well as I can.

SUE

tomorrow

>

> I just got this book last week. I. SERIOUSLY. LOVE. THIS. BOOK. I had a couple

ideas/quotes tumbling around in my head that I'd like to put out there.

(Expression leads to impression.)

>

> Regarding negative body bashing & self-talk:

> - Take care of yourself, don't clobber yourself. Treat yourself with kindness.

> - Body bashing is ABUSIVE! Apologize to yourself. Would you dare say these

things to anyone else?

> - Motivation for lasting improvement cannot come from self-contempt.

> - Who says? ...thighs are only supposed to be slender; ...only a flat stomach

is a nice stomach; etc.

>

> You know the Golden Rule about treat others as you would like to be treated.

Well, in the matter of abusive self-talk, we need flip it: to treat ourselves as

we treat others. We wouldn't dare rip into them like we do ourselves! We know

how much it would hurt them. Well, WE ARE HURTING OURSELVES. Hence the

depression, etc. How would you feel if someone in your close circle said these

things to you? Hurt & depressed, naturally. And also, naturally, you feel the

same way when you say it to yourself.

>

> When you have a negative thought against yourself, stop and apologize and

challenge the thought with a defiant " Who says? " Don't participate in society's

current narrow definition of beauty.

>

[Guest guest]

This sounds like a book I should read because I have a very hard time not

criticizing my body. I am so nice to everyone else, it makes no since why I am

so rude and mean to myself.

>

> I just got this book last week. I. SERIOUSLY. LOVE. THIS. BOOK. I had a couple

ideas/quotes tumbling around in my head that I'd like to put out there.

(Expression leads to impression.)

>

> Regarding negative body bashing & self-talk:

> - Take care of yourself, don't clobber yourself. Treat yourself with kindness.

> - Body bashing is ABUSIVE! Apologize to yourself. Would you dare say these

things to anyone else?

> - Motivation for lasting improvement cannot come from self-contempt.

> - Who says? ...thighs are only supposed to be slender; ...only a flat stomach

is a nice stomach; etc.

>

> You know the Golden Rule about treat others as you would like to be treated.

Well, in the matter of abusive self-talk, we need flip it: to treat ourselves as

we treat others. We wouldn't dare rip into them like we do ourselves! We know

how much it would hurt them. Well, WE ARE HURTING OURSELVES. Hence the

depression, etc. How would you feel if someone in your close circle said these

things to you? Hurt & depressed, naturally. And also, naturally, you feel the

same way when you say it to yourself.

>

> When you have a negative thought against yourself, stop and apologize and

challenge the thought with a defiant " Who says? " Don't participate in society's

current narrow definition of beauty.

>

[Guest guest]

Yep - and we should live in today and love ourselves no matter what - at some point there won't be a tomorrow, and look at all of those days of joy we passed by!

Subject: "...Stop Hating Their Bodies" Book: Quotes & ThoughtsTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, August 13, 2009, 1:54 PM

pg 59 "...much of what we are yelling at ourselves for reflects the misogynistic stance of our culture...must question the standards we have accepted without challenge... the ambivilance so many of us feel about our female bodies and our female selves comes from living in a culture in which women are treated badly. Unfortunately, the extreme loathing many women feel toward their bodies first took root in families where we felt unwanted or were actively abused...whether we got what we needed as children or not, the time has come to supply it to ourselves."pg 64 "All standards of beauty are time limited and arbitrary... you have simply learned the beauty rules of your culture...We urge you repeatedly-- but gently--challenge the external authority that taught you to look at yourself with disgust."pg 65 "What do you say when you see your reflection if you don't say, 'Yuck'?...say something like this: 'This is my body. What I see is the

reflection of my genetic heritage, my aging, my history of dieting, and my history with food.'...I may never look very different from the way I look right now. I am going to try to inhabit my body, dress myself, and enjoy my body as much as I can. It is my home. I will not continue to speak to myself about my body in the unkind ways I have learned. I am going to come to terms with myself at this size.'"