My break Free day !

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Last week my " naturally thin " son said something to me that stopped me cold.

When picking up groceries he said " We only by what we like to eat " . Why had

this never occured to me ? I always get what I am supposed to have according to

what ever the diet of the week allows me, then by Tues. I chuck it out the

window and binge for the next 3 days, then have the " last supper " and the cycle

starts all over again .

So today I went and bought just what I wanted and liked the most. I was

surprised all the stuff I passed by that I normally would have bought because I

should eat it or because I was preparing to binge,and most of them were my binge

foods that I really don't care for at all . What I bought were the most

delicious looking strawberries, a pineapple and baby asparagus, only the best

ones would do.

Did I cruise down the aisle with the Slim Fast and meal bars... oh yeah I did ,

it drew me like a magnet. I looked at them and asked myself , do you really love

to eat this ? If yes , then buy it , if not keep on going. So I kept walking and

ended up with a bag of pistachios instead. In the end looking at what I had in

my cart, it was all fresh, natural, healthy food.... well everything except the

package of ring dings, which I love and deny myself( and end up eating 3 Pria

bars instead ).

So I left the store , not feeling stressed about following a regime of what

someone else thinks I should be eating, but feeling good about what I have to

eat for the week. WHen I get hungry I will have exactly what I enjoy

eating...and I will feel nourished and satisfied !

[Guest guest]

THAT'S GREAT!!

Doesn't it feel wonderful!?

It sounds like you truly had an AH HA moment!! Way to go!

Kimberlie

Subject: My break Free day !To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Saturday, May 16, 2009, 11:09 AM

Last week my " naturally thin "son said something to me that stopped me cold. When picking up groceries he said " We only by what we like to eat". Why had this never occured to me ? I always get what I am supposed to have according to what ever the diet of the week allows me, then by Tues. I chuck it out the window and binge for the next 3 days, then have the "last supper " and the cycle starts all over again .So today I went and bought just what I wanted and liked the most. I was surprised all the stuff I passed by that I normally would have bought because I should eat it or because I was preparing to binge,and most of them were my binge foods that I really don't care for at all . What I bought were the most delicious looking strawberries, a pineapple and baby asparagus, only the best ones would do.Did I cruise down the aisle with the Slim Fast and meal bars... oh yeah I did , it drew me like a magnet. I looked at them and asked myself

, do you really love to eat this ? If yes , then buy it , if not keep on going. So I kept walking and ended up with a bag of pistachios instead. In the end looking at what I had in my cart, it was all fresh, natural, healthy food.... well everything except the package of ring dings, which I love and deny myself( and end up eating 3 Pria bars instead ).So I left the store , not feeling stressed about following a regime of what someone else thinks I should be eating, but feeling good about what I have to eat for the week. WHen I get hungry I will have exactly what I enjoy eating...and I will feel nourished and satisfied !

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Thanks for the encouragement Kimberlie...it feels like a weight lifted from me.I have taken care of everyone ( children , ailing parents, pets etc.) for so long I have never learned how to take care of myself..... my likes and dislikes. Now is the time ( at 56) for some self discovery.

Right now I am just going moment to moment,trying not to eat when I am not hungry and to sit with my feelings trying to understand what it is that drives me to eat when my body isn't calling for the fuel.

I also find so much support and insight from everyone in this group. It helps to read all of the posts and to know I am not the only one dealing with these issues

Sally

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Saturday, May 16, 2009 4:01:04 PMSubject: Re: My break Free day !

THAT'S GREAT!!

Doesn't it feel wonderful!?

It sounds like you truly had an AH HA moment!! Way to go!

Kimberlie

From: wolves727 <wolves727yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: [intuitiveEating_ Support] My break Free day !To: IntuitiveEating_ Support@yahoogro ups.comDate: Saturday, May 16, 2009, 11:09 AM

Last week my " naturally thin "son said something to me that stopped me cold. When picking up groceries he said " We only by what we like to eat". Why had this never occured to me ? I always get what I am supposed to have according to what ever the diet of the week allows me, then by Tues. I chuck it out the window and binge for the next 3 days, then have the "last supper " and the cycle starts all over again .So today I went and bought just what I wanted and liked the most. I was surprised all the stuff I passed by that I normally would have bought because I should eat it or because I was preparing to binge,and most of them were my binge foods that I really don't care for at all . What I bought were the most delicious looking strawberries, a pineapple and baby asparagus, only the best ones would do.Did I cruise down the aisle with the Slim Fast and meal bars... oh yeah I did , it drew me like a magnet. I looked at them and asked myself

, do you really love to eat this ? If yes , then buy it , if not keep on going. So I kept walking and ended up with a bag of pistachios instead. In the end looking at what I had in my cart, it was all fresh, natural, healthy food.... well everything except the package of ring dings, which I love and deny myself( and end up eating 3 Pria bars instead ).So I left the store , not feeling stressed about following a regime of what someone else thinks I should be eating, but feeling good about what I have to eat for the week. WHen I get hungry I will have exactly what I enjoy eating...and I will feel nourished and satisfied !

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Hi Sally, I think most women, especially from our generation and before (I'll be 55 in August) were raised to put everyone else first. I know my mom always reserved the chipped crystal glass (too good to throw away), the chipped plate, the wobbly chair, etc. for herself. Once, when I was setting the table, I noticed one of my crystal glasses was chipped, so I threw it out. My mom was shocked and said I should keep it to use myself. I threw it out anyways. My local CLSC (health center) offered a course called "Choisir de Maigrir?" (Choosing to Lose Weight?" This is a 45 hour course where we covered all sorts of things including examining our food intake vs output, our reasons for wanting to lose weight, body image issues, food preferences, etc. One woman made the discovery that she actually was undereating and

needed to eat more for the amount of energy she was using through being so active. One very interesting thing we did was a taste test. We used banana, potato chips, dark chocolate and milk chocolate. We turned our backs to each other and took one piece at a time, really tasting it. We practiced eating slowly vs fast for each food item. When we ate slowly, we really tasted the food. I found that the chocolate was wonderful when allowed to melt slowly (no surprize there!), the banana was soso, but what really floored me was that when I ate the potato chips quickly I liked them, but when I ate them slowly, really tasting them for the first time, I was grossed out. All I could taste was the salt and the fat. Ugh. I really haven't been wanting to eat chips since then. Everytime I think of that experience, it stops me. I plan to repeat this experiment with other foods as they come up. After all, there are so

many foods out there, why not choose the ones we enjoy the most. Carole

I have taken care of everyone ( children , ailing parents, pets etc.) for so long I have never learned how to take care of myself..... my likes and dislikes. Now is the time ( at 56) for some self discovery.

Right now I am just going moment to moment,trying not to eat when I am not hungry and to sit with my feelings trying to understand what it is that drives me to eat when my body isn't calling for the fuel.

Sally

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I love that you threw out the chipped glasses, Carole, and stood up to the pressure.  That was great!When I took the Thin Within course, they had us do the same taste test.  I will never forget it.  What a great learning experience.  It was amazing to see the power of 'savor'.  I also love having the permission to say no to something you thought you wanted, and as you are savoring it, change your mind.  Savoring something makes it much easier to do that.  Sounds like an interesting class!

Hi Sally,    I think most women, especially from our generation and before (I'll be 55 in August) were raised to put everyone else first. I know my mom always reserved the chipped crystal glass (too good to throw away), the chipped plate, the wobbly chair, etc. for herself. Once, when I was setting the table, I noticed one of my crystal glasses was chipped, so I threw it out. My mom was shocked and said I should keep it to use myself. I threw it out anyways.

     My local CLSC (health center) offered a course called " Choisir de Maigrir? " (Choosing to Lose Weight? " This is a 45 hour course where we covered all sorts of things including examining our food intake vs output, our reasons for wanting to lose weight, body image issues, food preferences, etc. One woman made the discovery that she actually was undereating and

needed to eat more for the amount of energy she was using through being so active.    One very interesting thing we did was a taste test. We used banana, potato chips, dark chocolate and milk chocolate. We turned our backs to each other and took one piece at a time, really tasting it. We practiced eating slowly vs fast for each food item. When we ate slowly, we really tasted the food. I found that the chocolate was wonderful when allowed to melt slowly (no surprize there!), the banana was soso, but what really floored me was that when I ate the potato chips quickly I liked them, but when I ate them slowly, really tasting them for the first time, I was grossed out. All I could taste was the salt and the fat. Ugh. I really haven't been wanting to eat chips since then. Everytime I think of that experience, it stops me.

     I plan to repeat this experiment with other foods as they come up. After all, there are so

many foods out there, why not choose the ones we enjoy the most.         Carole

I have taken care of everyone ( children , ailing parents, pets etc.) for so long I have never learned how to take care of myself..... my likes and dislikes. Now is the time ( at 56) for some self discovery.

Right now I am just going moment to moment,trying not to eat when I am not hungry and to sit with my feelings trying to understand what it is that drives me to eat when my body isn't calling for the fuel.

Sally  

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[Guest guest]

Congratulations on your shopping experience! Isn't it liberating? I admit I

still have issue with it at times, but I " m getting better and better every

shopping trip.

It is so good to hear that others are having, or have had the same experience.

I bought 2% milk and whole milk this week. I already had skim milk, (of course)

so I did a taste test. I sipped each milk and really thought about the flavor

and satisfaction level it gave me. I surprised myself by enjoying the 2% milk

the most. I enjoyed the flavor of the skim milk, but there was a lack of

satisfaction with the watery mouth feel (no surpises there). The whole milk

actually felt too rich. I felt like my mouth was being coated by the milk too

much to enjoy it. 2% was perfect. Delicious flavor and creamy texture that was

not overwhelming. If you would have asked me at any point in any diet what I

prefer I would have said whole milk. Simply because it was forbidden.

Enjoy your future shopping trips.

Kath