Guest guest Posted February 15, 2009 Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 Sorry for the delayed response, I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond. I read them all right as they came into my email account but wanted to wait till I had available time to craft a good response rather than rush something... Anyway Katcha I believe you are right, I need to find out what works for me. The good news is that I have definitely made " progress " . Although I still compulsively eat the candy I love I turn down eating candy. This is unheard of for me!! Before IE I would just shove whatever taboo food item I could get in my mouth. After actually paying attention to the eating process I realize a lot of this food does not taste good to me. So I am trying to just go with it right now. I think my " sudden " candy eating is part emotional (stress in my life) and part de - tabooing it after a lifetime of viewing it as a taboo food. So I am trying trying to re - realize that this is a healing journey that takes time. : ) Thanks! K > > > > Over the past couple of weeks I have been struggling with my " Sweet > > wild child " who needs to constantly eat candy. > > > > Whenever I resist her she rebels and demands more. She seems to be > > afraid of depravation. > > > > I feel like I have been doing fairly well with the IE principles. I > > have not been overeating, binging or restricting any food. But I have > > lapsed regularly on eating when not hungry. > > > > I have been drawn to eating candy on a near regular basis. I have > > probably been finishing a meduim size bag of candy every four days. > > Agh, that is kind of embarressing for me to admit. > > > > But I like how it tastes and I have really been drawn to it. > > > > In a way I feel as if I am still legalizing this food item. Candy has > > always been the ultimate taboo food for me. I always considered it > > my " gain weight " food and have been chastised by people when seen > > eating it. I wonder if because of all this it will take longer to > > legalize the food item for myself. > > > > Also I wonder what component of emotionality is involved. If I do not > > have some near me I start to feel deprived. But also struggling with > > not eating it compulsively... The past couple weeks candy has seemed > > to calm and relax me. I don't want it to be this way but am > > struggling with how to change this. When I can not take care of > > myself I do it with food. I really struggle with meeting my goals > > (ex. doing well in graduate school) while taking care of myself (ex. > > getting enough sleep). > > > > I know this is the root of all my eating/weight problems. I need to > > care for myself better. I " mouth eat " when I don't have enough time > > to sleep or relax myself. But I guess I struggle with how to > > consistently achieve amongst the chaotic world of things to - do. > > > > I am just starting to get annoyed with my " sweet wild child " who is > > always demanding candy and will not listen to me when I say I am not > > drawn to any right now. And I guess I am really scared of gaining > > weight. > > > > Does any one have any thoughts or advice? > > > > - K > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2009 Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 Well lately it has been peanut butter m & m's and hershey hugs. In the past I would devour every type of candy I could get my hands in. I have very clear memories of a summer day where I was sitting a lone in the housing, I was reading a book and scarfed down a giant box of swedish fish. It would give me headaches but I still kept at it! So IE has definitely helped me make progress, I am far more selective with my candy choices. If I want candy I will usually wait to get something I really like rather than just scarf down whatever is in front of me. I will also say I am far better at mindfully eating the candy. But I am definitely not fully there yet. I would say I compulsively eat it but not as fast as I used to. Or in the same old binging mindset. And I have been reminding myself to slow down and take long breaks when eating (candy or anything) so I can feel how it affects my body. I find this is especially helpful with candy. A lot of times if I eat it too fast I don't feel the belly ache or the headache coming on. For now, I am trying to just go with this and see where it takes me. Oh I really like your idea of drawing food! In the past I have done this... Not for IE purposes just as a craft. It is interesting to think of this hobby in a new light! Thanks, K > > I am just starting to get annoyed with my " sweet wild child " who is > > always demanding candy and will not listen to me when I say I am not > > drawn to any right now. And I guess I am really scared of gaining > > weight. > > > > Does any one have any thoughts or advice? > > > > - K > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2009 Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 I live near Philadelphia. Go P.A.! ; ) I completely agree with you about the food police. For now, I am just trying to go with this process. It is awesome to think that some day I can see candy as just that... and not a symbol of so many other things in my life. - K > > > Subject: Battling with Candy > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Date: Monday, February 9, 2009, 10:04 AM > > > > > > > Over the past couple of weeks I have been struggling with my " Sweet > wild child " who needs to constantly eat candy. > > Whenever I resist her she rebels and demands more. She seems to be > afraid of depravation. > > I feel like I have been doing fairly well with the IE principles. I > have not been overeating, binging or restricting any food. But I have > lapsed regularly on eating when not hungry. > > I have been drawn to eating candy on a near regular basis. I have > probably been finishing a meduim size bag of candy every four days. > Agh, that is kind of embarressing for me to admit. > > But I like how it tastes and I have really been drawn to it. > > In a way I feel as if I am still legalizing this food item. Candy has > always been the ultimate taboo food for me. I always considered it > my " gain weight " food and have been chastised by people when seen > eating it. I wonder if because of all this it will take longer to > legalize the food item for myself. > > Also I wonder what component of emotionality is involved. If I do not > have some near me I start to feel deprived. But also struggling with > not eating it compulsively. .. The past couple weeks candy has seemed > to calm and relax me. I don't want it to be this way but am > struggling with how to change this. When I can not take care of > myself I do it with food. I really struggle with meeting my goals > (ex. doing well in graduate school) while taking care of myself (ex. > getting enough sleep). > > I know this is the root of all my eating/weight problems. I need to > care for myself better. I " mouth eat " when I don't have enough time > to sleep or relax myself. But I guess I struggle with how to > consistently achieve amongst the chaotic world of things to - do. > > I am just starting to get annoyed with my " sweet wild child " who is > always demanding candy and will not listen to me when I say I am not > drawn to any right now. And I guess I am really scared of gaining > weight. > > Does any one have any thoughts or advice? > > - K > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2009 Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 Thank you for your comments and suggestions. I really like the hot bath idea. Those always calm me down and too often I talk myself out of taking one because it will " take too long " . - K > > > > Over the past couple of weeks I have been struggling with > my " Sweet > > wild child " who needs to constantly eat candy. > > > > Whenever I resist her she rebels and demands more. She seems to be > > afraid of depravation. > > > > I feel like I have been doing fairly well with the IE principles. > I > > have not been overeating, binging or restricting any food. But I > have > > lapsed regularly on eating when not hungry. > > > > I have been drawn to eating candy on a near regular basis. I have > > probably been finishing a meduim size bag of candy every four > days. > > Agh, that is kind of embarressing for me to admit. > > > > But I like how it tastes and I have really been drawn to it. > > > > In a way I feel as if I am still legalizing this food item. Candy > has > > always been the ultimate taboo food for me. I always considered it > > my " gain weight " food and have been chastised by people when seen > > eating it. I wonder if because of all this it will take longer to > > legalize the food item for myself. > > > > Also I wonder what component of emotionality is involved. If I do > not > > have some near me I start to feel deprived. But also struggling > with > > not eating it compulsively... The past couple weeks candy has > seemed > > to calm and relax me. I don't want it to be this way but am > > struggling with how to change this. When I can not take care of > > myself I do it with food. I really struggle with meeting my goals > > (ex. doing well in graduate school) while taking care of myself > (ex. > > getting enough sleep). > > > > I know this is the root of all my eating/weight problems. I need > to > > care for myself better. I " mouth eat " when I don't have enough > time > > to sleep or relax myself. But I guess I struggle with how to > > consistently achieve amongst the chaotic world of things to - do. > > > > I am just starting to get annoyed with my " sweet wild child " who > is > > always demanding candy and will not listen to me when I say I am > not > > drawn to any right now. And I guess I am really scared of gaining > > weight. > > > > Does any one have any thoughts or advice? > > > > - K > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2009 Report Share Posted February 16, 2009 Hi, I had forgotten what a battle it was, not to eat sweets after giving them upyears ago, and this was mainly because of the frequent visits to the dentist,and the all the pain I was going through,so to have fewer visits I now only eat sugary foods once a week.At the weekend there were 6 McKenna shows, and on one of them he wastalking about emotional eating and food cravings, and as he says 'we use smoking,gambling, shopping, drugs and eating to give us love ect.'I have 3 great cravings and they are, cheese, bread and oranges,what I do understand that the sweet gravings are because of the sugar,but what is it about cheese and bread, which starts a graving?I wonder why we don't eat a carrot, or take some fruit when feeling low?It is strange thing is that even though my body craves oranges for the vitaminC, I still go for the foods which are said to be comforting.I surpore you have to ask yourself why do you eat so much candy?and see what comes from this.Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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