Alone and Loving It

[Guest guest]

I too am alone. My ex left me in 1995 - talk about feelings of

being rejected. I haven't had a man in my life for almost 10

years. And I really don't have a lot of girl friends, just a few

really close ones. I'm 41. I happen to enjoy and embrace my

being alone. I believe that I am being prepared for someone special

in my life and so is someone else for me. I'm sure you've heard of

the Law of Attraction? A lot of it has been mentioned here. I

think so much of what happens to us is all in our thoughts and

attitude.

It is good that you are having little dialogues with yourself. That

is good awareness and that is half the battle and a good first step

to change.

I would suggest finding some positives in being single and alone

instead of dwelling on the fact that you are alone and being

depressed about it. Find a way to be your best friend and lover!

Until you accept where you are at and fight it you won't be able to

move forward. And just because you are heavier shouldn't prevent

you from getting out there and doing things that you enjoy. Maybe

start with a list of things you would like to go and do. And then

make a committment to yourself (because you are worth it!) to get

out there and do them. Maybe it's as simple as going to a movie by

yourself.

A good book that was recommend to me by my hair dresser (I have it

on my reading list) is Love Will Find You (not sure who the author

is).

And remember that you are not alone! You have all of us here to

support you. I also believe that there is a God in the universe

that loves each and every one of us - that includes you!

Wishing you the best,

Alana

THEN, it was 6:00 p.m. and I was

> alone and I felt like a reject for being in this condition (51, 60

> lbs over my " healthy body weight " and single for 10 years). I

then

> proceed to the grocery store to buy food that would numb this

super-

> reject feeling - mission accomplished for a short period of time.

>

> I did think: " Hey Patti, you're eating because you feel lonely

and

> you're trying to feel satisfied in a way eating won't help,

because

> you're full " But, then my other voice that says " You won't be

loved

> if you're overweight " told me " Uou can't be with anyone, because

> you're fat, so there's no answer here for you today " .

>

> So, you get my question: I'm eating because I'm alone and I'm

alone

> because I'm overweight - it's a vicious circle?? I am in Los

> Angeles, after all. This theory could be a lot of B.S. Although,

> I'm relatively sure I'm feeding the " alone " with food.

>

> Any and all comments are appreciated. I've been in a 12 step

group

> for my binge eating for five years, and honesty will not offend me

> (down 70 lbs and holding for a couple years now).

>

> Thanks so much for reading this and sorry for the tome.

>

> Patti

>