Re: Love/Hate Relationship with the Scale

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

first off, a big pat on the back for your husband for sticking by your side last night. It would have been so easy for him to give in to you.

I am a scale addict also. I have found that weighing myself can reflect how my whole day goes If I weigh in high then I'm in a bad mood, if I've lost then I'm happy. there is never a happy medium. I know I shouldnt let a number judge but it does. I did go for about a month without weighing and i was dying to do it but also scared. In the end after weighing I was about the same. I don't have any answers for you but can offer you empathy.

Barb

Subject: Love/Hate Relationship with the ScaleTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, April 7, 2009, 12:50 PM

Good Afternoon,As many of you know I am in an IE valley this and needed to start from scratch again. I am a recovering anorexic, over exerciser and emotional overeater and have always been addicted to my scale. Even during my IE peaks, I have never completely ditched my scale. Maybe this is why I am still having issues? On my quest to really get back on the IE track, I have decided to go crazy hard core and asked my husband to hide my scale. I also asked him along with my close friends to support me in this, because they know how addicted I am to weighing myself. I haven't weighed myself for 23 days and I had a mini-meltdown last night. I felt huge and fat and just got my period so I wanted to get on the scale so I could prove that this not weighing myself is making me fatter. My hubby wouldn't tell me where he had hid the scale and told me that my body is looking fabulous (he doesn't like when I am stick thin and actually likes a

little more meat on my bones, which also freaked me out as well). I pleaded and pleaded and he stood up to me and didn't let me have my way. It was too late for me to drive to the gym, and my neighbors would think I was a freak if I knocked on their door to weigh myself...so I had to sit with all of my feelings. I then immediately wanted to go raid the kitchen so I could eat my way into a food coma or do a million sit-ups, jumping jacks or pushups but I didn't. I spent the rest of the evening very restless and unsettled and just wanted the scale, exercise or food to take the edge off. I didn't do any of it. It was very hard to just sit with all my feelings but I did it and feel fabulous this morning!!! I didn't come to any major conclusions that I don't already know about myself...Nothing changed but I woke up this morning feeling so much better, because I did have to do any "masking behaviors" to get through the unsettled feelings. What

is your relationship like with the scale????IE since 2000

[Guest guest]

I absolutely hate the scale (which I guess is good for IE, huh?) but every once

in awhile, they'll publish something about how successful weight losers weigh

themselves every day to quickly " fix " weight increase. Then, I think, maybe I

should be weighing myself everyday. I know this isn't right, but I often think,

once I lose the weight I want to lose, I'll start weighing myself regularly like

this. My head understands this is wrong, but my emotions say this is what I

should do.

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> Good Afternoon,

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> As many of you know I am in an IE valley this and needed to start from scratch

again. I am a recovering anorexic, over exerciser and emotional overeater and

have always been addicted to my scale. Even during my IE peaks, I have never

completely ditched my scale. Maybe this is why I am still having issues? On my

quest to really get back on the IE track, I have decided to go crazy hard core

and asked my husband to hide my scale. I also asked him along with my close

friends to support me in this, because they know how addicted I am to weighing

myself. I haven't weighed myself for 23 days and I had a mini-meltdown last

night.

>

> I felt huge and fat and just got my period so I wanted to get on the scale so

I could prove that this not weighing myself is making me fatter. My hubby

wouldn't tell me where he had hid the scale and told me that my body is looking

fabulous (he doesn't like when I am stick thin and actually likes a little more

meat on my bones, which also freaked me out as well). I pleaded and pleaded and

he stood up to me and didn't let me have my way. It was too late for me to drive

to the gym, and my neighbors would think I was a freak if I knocked on their

door to weigh myself...so I had to sit with all of my feelings. I then

immediately wanted to go raid the kitchen so I could eat my way into a food coma

or do a million sit-ups, jumping jacks or pushups but I didn't. I spent the

rest of the evening very restless and unsettled and just wanted the scale,

exercise or food to take the edge off. I didn't do any of it. It was very hard

to just sit with all my feelings but I did it and feel fabulous this morning!!!

>

> I didn't come to any major conclusions that I don't already know about

myself...Nothing changed but I woke up this morning feeling so much better,

because I did have to do any " masking behaviors " to get through the unsettled

feelings.

>

> What is your relationship like with the scale????

>

>

> IE since 2000

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[Guest guest]

I put it in my 1/2 bath that we rarely use and do not miss it at all! I, too, let the scale dictate my life before IE. It does seem weird at first not weighing in (1-3 x a day!) and not getting that "rush" when the number is down. But it is a relief to not have to hate myself when the number was up! Hang in there!

Kim

Subject: Love/Hate Relationship with the ScaleTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, April 7, 2009, 12:50 PM

Good Afternoon,As many of you know I am in an IE valley this and needed to start from scratch again. I am a recovering anorexic, over exerciser and emotional overeater and have always been addicted to my scale. Even during my IE peaks, I have never completely ditched my scale. Maybe this is why I am still having issues? On my quest to really get back on the IE track, I have decided to go crazy hard core and asked my husband to hide my scale. I also asked him along with my close friends to support me in this, because they know how addicted I am to weighing myself. I haven't weighed myself for 23 days and I had a mini-meltdown last night. I felt huge and fat and just got my period so I wanted to get on the scale so I could prove that this not weighing myself is making me fatter. My hubby wouldn't tell me where he had hid the scale and told me that my body is looking fabulous (he doesn't like when I am stick thin and actually likes a

little more meat on my bones, which also freaked me out as well). I pleaded and pleaded and he stood up to me and didn't let me have my way. It was too late for me to drive to the gym, and my neighbors would think I was a freak if I knocked on their door to weigh myself...so I had to sit with all of my feelings. I then immediately wanted to go raid the kitchen so I could eat my way into a food coma or do a million sit-ups, jumping jacks or pushups but I didn't. I spent the rest of the evening very restless and unsettled and just wanted the scale, exercise or food to take the edge off. I didn't do any of it. It was very hard to just sit with all my feelings but I did it and feel fabulous this morning!!! I didn't come to any major conclusions that I don't already know about myself...Nothing changed but I woke up this morning feeling so much better, because I did have to do any "masking behaviors" to get through the unsettled feelings. What

is your relationship like with the scale????IE since 2000

[Guest guest]

GOOD for you !! You just proved to yourself that you don't need to weigh

yourself! It would seem to me that no matter what the # 'says' to you, you are

going to react badly - so why make the scale your 'god'?!?

I avoid the scale myself. I haven't weighted myself in about a year - having

that done only at annual dr exam times (coming up in 2 weeks). My scale is

currently gathering dust right in our bath room and I hardly think about it any

more.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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Nothing changed but I woke up this morning feeling so much better, because I did

have to do any " masking behaviors " to get through the unsettled feelings.

>

> What is your relationship like with the scale????

>

>

> IE since 2000

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