Guest guest Posted December 29, 2002 Report Share Posted December 29, 2002 We went to the mall today. It was one of THOSE days. We went into a buffet type restaurant where Trevayne proceeded to scream bloody murder. All eyes were on us and I just wanted to yell....Stop staring you idiots! You look as ridiculous as he does with your superior looks on your faces with the can't you control the brat shake of the head! You want to get this kid in control yourself have at it! ARRRGH People! In general we do pretty well on outings they all get stimmy except Chenoa of course but the stimming really doesn't bother me that much. Now I must go clean the carpet as t he cat has crapped on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 In a message dated 12/29/2002 10:37:21 PM Eastern Standard Time, parenting_autism writes: > (((((((Chris)))))) > > I know the feeling! Have you thought about either you or the kids wearing > informative t-shirts, or handing out cards like the ones I made up? > > Sue > My mom got shirts from Autisticwear.com for the whole family. They're great! She got my favorite for Brittney, too... " I'm Autistic What's your excuse? " :oD ~Aradia~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 Ok, I get the husband not letting you but what difference does your MIL's opinion make? Ok that was nasty sounding. Sorry. Jacquie H Re: Stop staring! (((((((Chris)))))) I know the feeling! Have you thought about either you or the kids wearing informative t-shirts, or handing out cards like the ones I made up? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 I have usually ignored people but at times I have been compelled (after the comments) to say " excuse me, my daughter has autism " ! Most people have no clue what that actually entails but it shuts them up anyway. I have seriously been considering getting some cards in the last few weeks before her teacher hit her she was so confident, but now she is so afraid when we are outdoors. She now has stranger anxiety, and is still even anxious about the people she knows. If anybody so much as talks to her she melts down hides her head and screams " I don't need to see him " (whatever sex-always him) Two different woman picked her glove up after she dropped it while we were out and she was petrified when they tried to hand it back. At times like that the cards would be good, because even those people who were just being kind must have thought 'what the hell did I do wrong'? There is no way we are going to get Liesel back into another school after this! Louisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 I just try not to take the kids to many places any more See, for me I refuse to stay home with the fear that my kids will go off in public and they have many many times. I figure it this way I have as much right to be out as anyone else with my kids and if people are uncomfortable with the way my kids act sometimes that's their problem. I do get annoyed sometimes because they are so ready to judge but don't think of how rude THEY are by staring or making uncalled for comments. I have thought of the shirts or the cards but I don't think DH would go for it he would say we don't need to advertise the fact. Anyway... CHRIS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 Nope, not nasty sounding at all, at least I didn't take it that way! LOL!! :-) She's ingrained herself in our lives WAY TOO MUCH, and I'm trying to figure out how to get her to back off, without hurting her feelings and without having miss out on a Grandma. She's the type that if she gets ticked off, she'll hold a grudge forever. While I doubt she'd keep herself from seeing for too long, I'd rather have the family " together " without problems, so I bite my tongue most of the time. :-( Working on asserting myself without pissing people off. ellen Re: Stop staring! Ok, I get the husband not letting you but what difference does your MIL's opinion make? Ok that was nasty sounding. Sorry. Jacquie H Re: Stop staring! (((((((Chris)))))) I know the feeling! Have you thought about either you or the kids wearing informative t-shirts, or handing out cards like the ones I made up? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 Why not? Are they worried about what people will think? Do they think it will reflect badly on ? Penny RE: Stop staring! Georga, I have the transfer made up for , but hubby and MIL won't let me make the shirt. :-( All you need is a white t-shirt the iron on transfer paper for the printer. Lots cheaper than ordering them. :-) ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 Probably, but I think I may do it anyway, just to be a bitch! :-) I just have to find a decent weight, white t-shirt. Had some from Osh Kosh, but they shrank up too small. There was also one that said " Know Me, Know Autism " which I thought was cute too. Get paid .03 per click Get paid .01 per click per minute My ebay auctions! RE: Stop staring! Georga, I have the transfer made up for , but hubby and MIL won't let me make the shirt. :-( All you need is a white t-shirt the iron on transfer paper for the printer. Lots cheaper than ordering them. :-) ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 > See, for me I refuse to stay home with the fear that my kids will go off in public and they have many many times. I figure it this way I have as much right to be out as anyone else with my kids and if people are uncomfortable with the way my kids act sometimes that's their problem. I do get annoyed sometimes because they are so ready to judge but don't think of how rude THEY are by staring or making uncalled for comments. I have thought of the shirts or the cards but I don't think DH would go for it he would say we don't need to advertise the fact. Anyway... > CHRIS That's my attitude. I have taken the kids everywhere from day one. melted down in a major variety store one day when she was 9. I thought the store was going to call children's services on me. But I take them out anyway. And if I get too fed up with the looks and comments, I tell the person staring " Would you like me to tattoo 'I'm AUTISTIC' on her forhead? " It usually embarrasses them far more than it does me. I think my husband would go for the t-shirts. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 For those interested there are some really cool political statement type t-shirts at the Mom's on a Mission for Autism website. I know politcal isn't necessarily cool here but there is a t-shirt there for our autistic gems that reads " I may not be able to understand what you're saying to me.I may have severe temper tantrums. I may have some odd behaviors.I am not Naughty or Spoiled, I have Autism.www.momsonamissionforautism.org " I just got the 3 I ordered, the one above for JR and two of the Silent Epidemic t's. We went out to dinner tonight in our new t's all though most didn't say anything there were a lot of looks and that's cool. Getting the message relayed is the only way to get people to accept our kids. I can't wait until they restock the " Mercury Is " t-shirts. DEB > We went to the mall today. It was one of THOSE days. We went into a buffet type restaurant where Trevayne proceeded to scream bloody murder. All eyes were on us and I just wanted to yell....Stop staring you idiots! You look as ridiculous as he does with your superior looks on your faces with the can't you control the brat shake of the head! You want to get this kid in control yourself have at it! ARRRGH People! > > In general we do pretty well on outings they all get stimmy except Chenoa of course but the stimming really doesn't bother me that much. > > Now I must go clean the carpet as t he cat has crapped on it. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 Deb, I really liked those too, but Matt's too small for the smallest size, and I'm too big for the biggest size. :-( That's why I have to make my own. I do like them though. ellen Re: Stop staring! For those interested there are some really cool political statement type t-shirts at the Mom's on a Mission for Autism website. I know politcal isn't necessarily cool here but there is a t-shirt there for our autistic gems that reads " I may not be able to understand what you're saying to me.I may have severe temper tantrums. I may have some odd behaviors.I am not Naughty or Spoiled, I have Autism.www.momsonamissionforautism.org " I just got the 3 I ordered, the one above for JR and two of the Silent Epidemic t's. We went out to dinner tonight in our new t's all though most didn't say anything there were a lot of looks and that's cool. Getting the message relayed is the only way to get people to accept our kids. I can't wait until they restock the " Mercury Is " t-shirts. DEB > We went to the mall today. It was one of THOSE days. We went into a buffet type restaurant where Trevayne proceeded to scream bloody murder. All eyes were on us and I just wanted to yell....Stop staring you idiots! You look as ridiculous as he does with your superior looks on your faces with the can't you control the brat shake of the head! You want to get this kid in control yourself have at it! ARRRGH People! > > In general we do pretty well on outings they all get stimmy except Chenoa of course but the stimming really doesn't bother me that much. > > Now I must go clean the carpet as t he cat has crapped on it. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 I know, but for some reason I didn't think of that. DUH! I think would get mad at me if I put that shirt on the kids too (make one up for him. LOL), but it would be funny (society sucks) Georga Hackworth www.ubah.com/F1549 Enter to win $50 in FREE books! Re: Stop staring! (((((((Chris)))))) I know the feeling! Have you thought about either you or the kids wearing informative t-shirts, or handing out cards like the ones I made up? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 I am in the possition that I don't go out without my husband (I don't drive, working on that finally...long story, but I did at one point). hates going into stores and such so he is more than willing to sit in the car with the kids. The few places that we take the kids in we both go in. For some reason I have noticed that we get fewer looks when the kids are acting up with both parents there. For the life of me I DO NOT understand that one. Georga Hackworth www.ubah.com/F1549 Enter to win $50 in FREE books! Re: Stop staring! I just try not to take the kids to many places any more See, for me I refuse to stay home with the fear that my kids will go off in public and they have many many times. I figure it this way I have as much right to be out as anyone else with my kids and if people are uncomfortable with the way my kids act sometimes that's their problem. I do get annoyed sometimes because they are so ready to judge but don't think of how rude THEY are by staring or making uncalled for comments. I have thought of the shirts or the cards but I don't think DH would go for it he would say we don't need to advertise the fact. Anyway... CHRIS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 >>That's my attitude. I have taken the kids everywhere from day one. melted down in a major variety store one day when she was 9. I thought the store was going to call children's services on me. But I take them out anyway. And if I get too fed up with the looks and comments, I tell the person staring " Would you like me to tattoo 'I'm AUTISTIC' on her forhead? " It usually embarrasses them far more than it does me. << Sounds like something I would do. Buster rarely has any episodes in public, but I've had strangers come up and ask me, what's *wrong* with him, because he flaps his arms or does his speak. I love overhearing people talk about him, they usually get an attitude from me. debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 People stare at too, especially if we go to the city where no one knows us. I deal with it by ignoring them or by looking them in the eye and giving them a big smile. I find it works better than a dirty look and embarrasses them so that they stop staring. Tuna ===== Youth fades; love droops, the leaves of friendship fall; A mother's secret hope outlives them all. " - Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2002 Report Share Posted December 30, 2002 >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> both guys screaming because they don't want to walk, and me singing " the ants go marching one by one " on the top of my lungs to get them to walk. I hold my head up high, make no direct eye contact with anybody, and say over and over in my head - F-CK 'EM - they don't know us, they don't want to know us and more importantly, I don't want to know them if they're judging us... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> OMG, that is so me, I even sing that song! I just do what I have to in order to get everyone to where they're supposed to be. It's exhausting. Tuna ===== Youth fades; love droops, the leaves of friendship fall; A mother's secret hope outlives them all. " - Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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