Guest guest Posted October 9, 2004 Report Share Posted October 9, 2004 Jan, It sounds to me like you are going through a very tough bout of depression! I can certainly understand it with everything that you have been going through the last couple of months. The hurricanes in Florida have been absolutely devastating to so many and being sick certainly does not help the situation! Also everything that you wrote about is true and sometimes being a little older can catch up with you especially where stress is concerned. Know that everyone here supports you and Loves you and will help anyway that we can. I have also been through very rough times recently and I am fighting MS along with the RSD. I have wanted to give up the fight many times and even thought of Suicide recently, but a very good friend in this group really talked some sense into me!!!!! I will be in debt to her for the rest of my life! Keep in mind that no matter how bad it gets, you will always have friends and support from all in the group. Yes somedays are worse than others, but you need to take this one day at a time, and take it from me it will get better! I sometimes need to tell myself that on a daily basis. I live week to week on my WC check and have many credit card bills, but know that you cannot take blood from a stone and will somehow, someway take care of all my debts and live a happy life. One thing I have realized since I have been sick is that you do not have to be rich to be happy! I will make the best out of my life and that is all I can do. As far as my pain and illnesses go, I will keep fighting the fight and will not allow the insuance companies, WC, and LTD to win! I have worked way to hard for the last 22 years to let them win and that is what they want!!!! I know that GOD is watching over me and I will win this as long as I keep him in my heart! Take Care and NEVER GIVE UP MY FRIEND! Do not let them get the best of you, because then they win and do not want to see that happen!!!! LOL AND PRAYERS!! Dawn "Mr. Jan G. Loeb" wrote: Hello Group: It has been mostly 5 days since my return to Florida. When I posted during the week, so many people have e mailed me to see how I was doing back in Florida. I am trying to get back to all of you. It has not been an easy week for me as I am dealing with Post Hurricane syndrome, and ealing with my ex doctor who took advantage of me when I was away. Now as an ex Mediator that used be in court most of the time, I am currently at the opposite end of the spectrum. You know that I love all of you, and that I have always done for everyone in me life, I always gave my all. Now I am also at the opposite end of the scale on that. Its hard to always have taken care of myself, and now I have been dependant, its very hard to undertsand this situation I am in. There are so many things I would like to say, but I keep them short. I should have been an attorney. When your down and out, people tend to take advantage of you, and when you have a good life and doing well, you dont look at this. Well Now that my medical condition has taken many turns for the worse, I try to stay positive. I have also tried to deal with an attorney from our Hospital here, and told him I dont appreciate the click in this community between doctors and how the Hippa law is violated all the time in regards to confidentiality. When you are in a small community, I have learned not to trust these doctors that during there care they have gone behind your back and did there number. My orthopedic Doctor that I have had for the last 19 years here after moving from Miami to Central Florida is a good doctor and has taken good care of until 2 years ago when other medical problems have come up during RSD/CRPS problems, and Ortho's do not want to venture into unkonown waters when other medical problems come up and dont want to touch you in fear they are ethically bound to hand you over to another specialist. I am currently in a problem thinking I would move to East Tennessee to live and get away from here, but My son was injured as I told you during the week. My sons wife cannot take of me and now her husband and daughter. I dont want to create more stress than they can handle. so, the next 2 months is a major battle of decision making. Those of us that have good family backup and good financial support, are in better shape. After being through at least one Horrible hurricane that I went days without food, Electric, telephone, water and just horrible problems have taught me a lesson. To some of you that are new to the group, I have had RSD-CRPS since 1985, and now the rug has been pulled under me in many ways. As I see, it, when you are young, in many ways you can handle the first 2 stages, but as get older and the stress gets to you, these conditions of stress, Weather conditions, esp in Florida, dealing with Doctors/Hospitals that try to fight you, your conditions have gotton worse and have effected your entire body. Believe me, RSD-CRPS can effect your entire body and Spread. I am trying to get back to all of you that supported me during the past few years. When you have flair ups, you really dont want to do anything bet try to get your mind off of your problems. But it seems reality is still there. RSD-CRPS does also cause a lot of memory loss and its in combination with your medications as well. I have learned all these years, that doctors do not like educated patients, because they feel, that they have gone through med school that they dont have to hear from there patients. It takes away there superior Godly authority. So most doctors feel, that they must show they are smarter then you, its like a chess game. Well, I guess this was long, but well worth the posting to all of you that have been here to support me. Thinking of you all. Hugs Jan Avon Park, Fla. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 I am currently in a problem thinking I would move to East Tennessee to live and get away from here, but My son was injured as I told you during the week. My sons wife cannot take of me and now her husband and daughter. I dont want to create more stress than they can handle. so, the next 2 months is a major battle of decision making. Those of us that have good family backup and good financial support, are in better shape. After being through at least one Horrible hurricane that I went days without food, Electric, telephone, water and just horrible problems have taught me a lesson. Jan, I know you don't want to cause any stress for your son and daughter in law, but let me tell you it is just as stressful for your son and daughter in law having you so far away. I know how I felt after my Mother died, our father became quite a recluse almost. One day he says he is going to go to Bend OR which is a 5 1/2 drive in good weather,and stay there for the winter, well needless to say we had record snow fall, so after that he then decides to go down to Yuma AZ in the summer time!!! His AC broke and he wouldn't accept any money from us to get it fixed. He came home and was here for only 4 days and died on the golf course, anyway I am trying to tell you, is that whole time he was in Bend and AZ we were all worried sick I tried so many times to tell him to come home but he would make up some excuse. My heart is still grieving because when we lost our Mother it was a year later almost to the date we lost our Father, but in looking back we really lost him when Mom died, they were married 50 years. Anyway to get myself on track again, just because you are not under their roof doesn't mean they are not worried about you. Now if you want to hold off the move for a couple of months, to let your son get better, that is probably a good idea. But don't think you are sparing them in any way. They are probably more worried now that you are back down there. Just thought I would let you know, from a child's view of dealing with an elderly parent. Lin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 Jan, Have they offered you the opportunity to move down there close to them? You can move closer to them and gain assistance from state services if needed instead of being a burden on your daughter in law. But I'm thinking if she drove all the way during a hurricane to pick you up that she wouldn't mind helping out. Carla On Sun, 10 Oct 2004 00:46:37 -0700 (Pacific Daylight Time), wrote: > > > > > > I am currently in a problem thinking I would move to East Tennessee to live > and get away from here, but My son was injured as I told you during the > week. My sons wife cannot take of me and now her husband and daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 Jan, It is good to hear from you but I'm sorry you are going through such a troubled time right now. To have the hurricane do so much damage on top of everything else must be so difficult. I hope that your son is doing well and will recover fully from his injury. I was on no mail so I don't know what happened to him but I pray all will be well. I know you don't want to burden his wife on top of everything she has to do right now, but please don't make this decision without speaking to your family about it...maybe they will still be able to take you in. I know how hard of a decision it is. I myself am trying to decide if I should move back home for my sister to help me, but she has 6 kids, one of them is a newborn, and I feel that I will be too much of a burden on her. And then sometimes I think maybe I can be a help to her with the kids, at least in some areas, and maybe I'm meant to go home now. I don't know but it is a tough decision to make so please look at all aspects of it and I'm sure you will make the best decision for everyone involved. I just wanted to say hi and welcome back, and if there is anything I can do to help please let me know. Hang in there and stay positive as you said!! <hugs> Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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