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In a message dated 10/12/1999 11:27:11 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tereson@... writes:

<< Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

none! Is it a homonal thing? >>

THIS IS ME! I haven't had a sex drive since BEFORE I got pregnant! And when

we do have sex, we need to use a lubricante like AstroGlide (much better than

Ky---fyi). I've wondered the same thing. Anyone have any suggestions for us?

<3,

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In a message dated 10/13/1999 1:19:21 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

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<< did not want it at all. >>

Me either! And while pregnant, it just didn't seem like it was as satisfying

to me either!

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> Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

> none! Is it a homonal thing?

Yes it does lower your sex drive!! I'm the same was as you, but I really

don't see my breasts as anything sexual anymore, I just see sex as

bothersome and something I must do to make DH happy (which doesn't always

make for a happy household)

> Besides that I am just too tired and want to sleep! How do you deal with

> this? I did not expect to have the same sex life I had before I had

> children but this is the baren desert.

No suggestions really, just make sure you find some time for YOU once in a

while, it can do a world of good...even just a bath at night with NO

INTURUPTIONS! :)

Good luck, hope it all works out for yak!

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Tereson,

That is part of the natural process of child spacing. It does have to do

with hormones and also how much sleep you are getting. I am not sure what

kind of advice to give you as I don't have much sex drive while nursing.

Getting plenty of nutrition helps. I still take my prenatal vitamins and

try to supplement myself with B vitamins and vitamin E. This seems to help

keep me feeling my best. I also think I remember you have a high-need

baby. If not I am sorry but if so than that will have an impact in itself.

Being all " touched-out " from a high need baby makes it less desirable to

think about your partner in a sensual way. I know I have been there. My

first child is extremely high-need and it took a lot longer for my sex

drive to return. It didn't get any better when I weaned her at a year,

like I thought it would. With my son he is much less high-need and he

sleeps pretty well. We are still nursing, he's almost two, and my sex

drive seems to be returning much faster than with my daughter. For me it

also has to do with how I am feeling about myself. I wasn't feeling too

great when my high need daughter was a baby. I felt like I could barely

please her let alone anyone else. Just my .02 hope this helps.

Wendi

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Sex and BF

I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know who

else to ask.

Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

none! Is it a homonal thing?

I know I get totally turned off if my husband and I start to get intimate

and then the baby cries to nurse...I just can't go in between them

both...it

is confusing to me. I feel like my boobs are just up for grabs.

Besides that I am just too tired and want to sleep! How do you deal with

this? I did not expect to have the same sex life I had before I had

children but this is the baren desert.

Input please.

Tereson

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Robin,

The lubrication thing is related to hormones and does get better after

weaning. Astroglide is the best. 2nd to Nature, like it says on the

bottle. LOL

Wendi

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In a message dated 10/12/1999 11:27:11 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tereson@... writes:

<< Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

none! Is it a homonal thing? >>

THIS IS ME! I haven't had a sex drive since BEFORE I got pregnant! And when

we do have sex, we need to use a lubricante like AstroGlide (much better

than

Ky---fyi). I've wondered the same thing. Anyone have any suggestions for

us?

<3,

Robin

nursing sah ap mom to Mae 12/08/1998

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Tereson and everyone, please do not laugh at me, but I must have had the

total opposite of normal preg. They say when you are preg you want it all

the time, also you don't have to worry about becoming preg. I on the

otherhand was sick the whole nine months and did not want it at all. My DH

was lucky to get anything once a month! But after I had (not right

after about 5 wks) I found that I had my drive back! I told I am the

opposite. Only now it is more uncomfortable..I know you all are

experiencing it. You just need to wait until the baby has had her feedings

and goes down for a nap or bedtime, take a relaxing bubble bath together

that will get you in the right direction! :)

Sex and BF

>

>

> I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know who

> else to ask.

>

> Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

> none! Is it a homonal thing?

>

> I know I get totally turned off if my husband and I start to get intimate

> and then the baby cries to nurse...I just can't go in between them

both...it

> is confusing to me. I feel like my boobs are just up for grabs.

>

> Besides that I am just too tired and want to sleep! How do you deal with

> this? I did not expect to have the same sex life I had before I had

> children but this is the baren desert.

>

> Input please.

>

> Tereson

> Mother of Eden -- Home of the....

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> Lightweight, comfy, secure and affordable baby sling!

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>

> > Breastfeeding is Best!!

> http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

> http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

>

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I need to try that, I have not been able to find it when we go shopping

though

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>

> From: sMommy@...

>

> In a message dated 10/12/1999 11:27:11 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> tereson@... writes:

>

> << Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

> none! Is it a homonal thing? >>

>

> THIS IS ME! I haven't had a sex drive since BEFORE I got pregnant! And

when

> we do have sex, we need to use a lubricante like AstroGlide (much better

> than

> Ky---fyi). I've wondered the same thing. Anyone have any suggestions for

> us?

> <3,

> Robin

> nursing sah ap mom to Mae 12/08/1998

> wife to Nate (Lowride193)

> aka GrnEye6879 or Mom2Natali

>

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> Breastfeeding is Best!!

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> http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

>

> If you like this list also check out

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>

> > Breastfeeding is Best!!

> http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

> http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

>

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Do you think it all depends on the gender of the baby?

Sex and BF

>

>

> >

> >

> >I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know

who

> >else to ask.

> >

> >Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

> >none! Is it a homonal thing?

> >

> >I know I get totally turned off if my husband and I start to get intimate

> >and then the baby cries to nurse...I just can't go in between them

> both...it

> >is confusing to me. I feel like my boobs are just up for grabs.

> >

> >Besides that I am just too tired and want to sleep! How do you deal with

> >this? I did not expect to have the same sex life I had before I had

> >children but this is the baren desert.

> >

> >Input please.

> >

> >Tereson

> >Mother of Eden -- Home of the....

> >Fuzzi Bunz STAY DRY Diapering System and

> >Lightweight, comfy, secure and affordable baby sling!

> >http://www.motherofeden.com

> >

> >>Breastfeeding is Best!!

> >http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

> >http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

> >

> >If you like this list also check out

> http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies

>

> > Breastfeeding is Best!!

> http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

> http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

>

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Well I am stumped now!! I thought I was on to something, that maybe I just

discovered something new!! Kari we could have made money on the discovery!

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>

> >

> >

> >Do you think it all depends on the gender of the baby?

>

> > Breastfeeding is Best!!

> http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

> http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

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Hello...With my first baby and now Dalton I have felt the same way. It is

really hard for DH at times. I know that once I quit BF with #1 my old sex

drive returned. With #2 and #3, I had a really strong desire for sex

during pregnancy and when I was nursing. I am not sure what the difference

was. I also know that with #1 when I was pregnant when ever we got really

intimate, I would run to the bathroom and throw up!!! My DH was not

impressed!! We laugh about it now but sure didn't back then.

Kari

Sex and BF

>

>

>I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know who

>else to ask.

>

>Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

>none! Is it a homonal thing?

>

>I know I get totally turned off if my husband and I start to get intimate

>and then the baby cries to nurse...I just can't go in between them

both...it

>is confusing to me. I feel like my boobs are just up for grabs.

>

>Besides that I am just too tired and want to sleep! How do you deal with

>this? I did not expect to have the same sex life I had before I had

>children but this is the baren desert.

>

>Input please.

>

>Tereson

>Mother of Eden -- Home of the....

>Fuzzi Bunz STAY DRY Diapering System and

>Lightweight, comfy, secure and affordable baby sling!

>http://www.motherofeden.com

>

>>Breastfeeding is Best!!

>http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

>http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

>

>If you like this list also check out

http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies

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In a message dated 10/12/1999 11:27:13 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tereson@... writes:

<< Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

none! Is it a homonal thing? >>

Count me in, too. I think breastfeeding has a lot to do with it. I never

exclusively breastfed my son, and we couldn't wait until the 6 week check up

to have sex. This time, we just did it for the first time a few weeks ago

(she was born June 25th) and we haven't since. I'm not interested in the

least. Its also because we now have 2 small children, the house is a wreck

that I can't seem to keep up with, and I've gone back to work part time. Now

we're supposed to " serve our masters " ? I've had a lot of complaining from my

DH lately for lack of " nookie " . I told him to be in my shoes for a while.

Find out what my daily life is like. Then tell me that he wants sex.

That'll change his mind.

Just my 2 cents,

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In a message dated 10/13/1999 1:35:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

sMommy@... writes:

<< And while pregnant, it just didn't seem like it was as satisfying

to me either! >>

I had two different experiences. First of all, I'm not a healthy pregnant

woman. The first time was heart problems and gall bladder disease (which I

found out the latter is quite common). This past time was heart problems

again, GD and preterm labor. The first pregnancy I swear we did it 2-3 times

a day the last 5 months. This past time, I didn't want it at all. I don't

remember doing it more than 3 times the whole 9 months. I don't know if

gender has anything to do with it, but my first was a boy, and my second is a

girl.

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In a message dated 10/12/99 11:27:15 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tereson@... writes:

<< I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know who

else to ask.

Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

none! Is it a homonal thing?

>>

I know that I am the same way, just always too shy to ask. Thanks for

bringing up a something that I am always too embaressed to ask about. I know

I feel much better knowing that most of you on this list are in the same

boat!

By the way, this happened to me only with my last (4th) baby and I also have

4 boys.

Jodi

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I couldn't agree more! My husband and I haven't had sex in months and I

am telling you I couldn't care less! I have a 10 week old, an almost five

year old and I keep two girls full time. Between the laundry, dishes,

chasing kids I am lucky to get a shower everyday and I am breast feeding the

baby. Yeah I feel like having sex...NOT! I want to sleep when I am in bed!

He has no clue and I am sure if he did he wouldn't want sex all the time

either.

(NC)

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<<<

Subject: Sex and BF

I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know

who

else to ask.

Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

none! Is it a homonal thing?>>>

Alright, i can comment on this...i am a professional! LOL I haven't had

a sex drive since i got pregnant with KATIE 6 YEARS ago! It is very

frustrating to say the least and i think i have figured out what causes

it. Hormones. When i got pregnant, i lost the sex drive...then i

nursed...hormones at the same level...then i got on the pill...still at

the same level. Then i got off the pill...bam...sex drive came back just

in time to get pregnant! LOL Got pregnant...libido gone once

again...nursing, gone...so i told DH i was NEVER getting back on

hormonally changing BC again!!! Either HE gets fixed or...well, we may

have more kids. I will NOT have my tubes tied. Too much info on that in

my folders to even THINK about having that done! geez!

Anyway, know youre not alone in yoour lack of sex drive, i am right there

with ya. I could become celibate for the rest of my life and not care.

Debbie

SAHM to (4-23-94)-home schooled

and (6-3-99)- breast fed

Wife to Mike (12-21-91)

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In a message dated 10/13/1999 1:03:57 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

naturebaby@... writes:

<< try to supplement myself with B vitamins and vitamin E. >>

I read that taking anymore than 2 mg of vitamin B6 a day is not good for

your milk supply. Just thought I would share.

B ... SAHM to and Madeline

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In a message dated 10/13/1999 1:25:38 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

tomkari@... writes:

<< All 4 of our babies have been boys. >>

I must laugh at the way you said this!! LOL As if now , they are no longer

boys!! LOL :) Just teasing :) it's cute

B ... SAHM to and Madeline

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We first did the deed at 6 months postpartum and then it was another 2

months till the next time we did anything. Now it is allof maybe 2 tiems a

month if that and is a year old.

Buffy

wife to since 4-20-96 and mommy to Rebeka 1-31-96

and 9-21-98

following child-lead weaning, practice AP, cloth diaper, stopped

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>To: breastfeedingonelist

>Subject: Re: Sex and BF

>Date: Wed, 13 Oct 1999 07:48:10 EDT

>

>In a message dated 10/12/1999 11:27:13 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

>tereson@... writes:

>

><< Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

> none! Is it a homonal thing? >>

>

>Count me in, too. I think breastfeeding has a lot to do with it. I never

>exclusively breastfed my son, and we couldn't wait until the 6 week check

>up

>to have sex. This time, we just did it for the first time a few weeks ago

>(she was born June 25th) and we haven't since. I'm not interested in the

>least. Its also because we now have 2 small children, the house is a wreck

>that I can't seem to keep up with, and I've gone back to work part time.

>Now

>we're supposed to " serve our masters " ? I've had a lot of complaining from

>my

>DH lately for lack of " nookie " . I told him to be in my shoes for a while.

>Find out what my daily life is like. Then tell me that he wants sex.

>That'll change his mind.

>

>Just my 2 cents,

>

>

>------------------------------------------------------------------------

>Breastfeeding is Best!!

>http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding

>http://forums.delphi.com/bf_list/start

>

>If you like this list also check out

>http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies

><< text3.html >>

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In a message dated 10/13/1999 11:41:46 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

mdmoore4@... writes:

<< I will NOT have my tubes tied. Too much info on that in

my folders to even THINK about having that done! >>

I was wondering if anyone has any link about this. Dh wants me to get my

tubes tied, and I am leary about it. TIA!

<3,

Robin

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>Being all " touched-out " from a high need baby makes it less desirable to

think about your partner in a sensual way.

So true so true. I actually have two high need children that are in

constant need of physical attention. I am an introvert and it takes

everything I have to give to them during the day. My husband is like them

so he needs all of my attention too. Some days I just want to run away and

be by myself for an hour or so but my husband is so rarely home I don't get

to do that.

Anyway, you hit the nail on the head with that statement. I am totally

touched out.

Tereson

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Wow! Thanks for the great response on this. I don't feel all by myself

now. I though I was the only woman not wanting sex at all. I mean, my

brain would like to but my body just does not cooperate. Maybe I shoudl get

some of that progesterone cream to help me out. I am willing to try

anything.

How do your husbands deal with this? I have told my husband he can do it if

he wants but I just don't enjoy it. Maybe I could sleep through it ;-)

Poor guy. He won't go for that.

Tereson

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Just curious does anyone in the group pratice NFP? I am catholic and when

my husband and I were in our engagment classes lol they briefly spoke of

this and I am seriously considering it. My ob schedule was packed so my six

week visit will be done tomorrow at almost 10 wks and I still do not know

what kind of bc to do. Please help me come up with options! :) Thanks

8/06/99

Sex and BF

>

> I have to say I am a little embarrased bringing this up but don't know

> who

> else to ask.

>

> Does breastfeeding have an impact on your sex drive? I have absolutely

> none! Is it a homonal thing?>>>

>

> Alright, i can comment on this...i am a professional! LOL I haven't had

> a sex drive since i got pregnant with KATIE 6 YEARS ago! It is very

> frustrating to say the least and i think i have figured out what causes

> it. Hormones. When i got pregnant, i lost the sex drive...then i

> nursed...hormones at the same level...then i got on the pill...still at

> the same level. Then i got off the pill...bam...sex drive came back just

> in time to get pregnant! LOL Got pregnant...libido gone once

> again...nursing, gone...so i told DH i was NEVER getting back on

> hormonally changing BC again!!! Either HE gets fixed or...well, we may

> have more kids. I will NOT have my tubes tied. Too much info on that in

> my folders to even THINK about having that done! geez!

> Anyway, know youre not alone in yoour lack of sex drive, i am right there

> with ya. I could become celibate for the rest of my life and not care.

> Debbie

> SAHM to (4-23-94)-home schooled

> and (6-3-99)- breast fed

> Wife to Mike (12-21-91)

> AP, FB

>

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In a message dated 10/13/1999 7:29:23 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

naturebaby@... writes:

<< My prenatal has 2.6mg of B6 in it alone. I would love more information

about this. >>

I can't even remember where I read it anymore...I remember looking at my

vitamin bottle to see if I had more or less. I will look through my books

and see if I can find that info for you. And of course if you find it

yourself, let me know! :)

B ... SAHM to and Madeline

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I found Astroglide at CVS drugstores and Wal-mart.

<3,

Robin

nursing sah ap mom to Mae 12/08/1998

wife to Nate (Lowride193)

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