Re: Insulted at work - need to vent

[Guest guest]

Been there and done that, and you are right, you can lose the weight,

but it's hard to lose UGLY.....LOL

H.

>

> I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting. Now I

> have to vent.

>

> I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work in a

> research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a new

> female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for me. Our

> system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that sentiment

> is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

>

> She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

> unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're ugly and

> I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

> better in a mean spirited way.

>

> OK, vent over.

>

> in MI

>

[Guest guest]

You'll still get the backhanded comments after surgery! It never ends!

" You look so good now. " I didn't look good before? LOL

W

380/310/160

W wrote:

> I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting. Now I

> have to vent.

>

> I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work in a

> research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a new

> female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for me. Our

> system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that sentiment

> is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

>

> She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

> unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're ugly and

> I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

> better in a mean spirited way.

>

> OK, vent over.

>

> in MI

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh come on. I get those " kind words " with having shaved off my beard,

getting a hair cut or wearing a new shirt. Don't read so much into

that crap. People are just trying to make conversation albeit rather

clumsly.

Ask yourself, too, did you have WLS for others? Major surgery for

compliments from others (even sincere ones)? I had WLS for myself and

to a lesser extent my family.

Mike in GR

> > I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting.

Now I

> > have to vent.

> >

> > I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work

in a

> > research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a

new

> > female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for

me. Our

> > system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that

sentiment

> > is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

> >

> > She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

> > unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're

ugly and

> > I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

> > better in a mean spirited way.

> >

> > OK, vent over.

> >

> > in MI

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Alot of people are so heartless & will never change.It really hurts

to have to encounter them. (((Hugs)))

Kim F

RNY 6/23/06

298/232/135

>

> I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting.

Now I

> have to vent.

>

> I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work

in a

> research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a

new

> female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for me.

Our

> system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that

sentiment

> is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

>

> She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

> unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're ugly

and

> I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

> better in a mean spirited way.

>

> OK, vent over.

>

> in MI

>

[Guest guest]

haha You know, we just come to a point where it's tiring to see and hear. I can

understand where you are coming from though. I have 3 sisters, need I say more

hahaha.

W wrote: I so want to get this surgery

done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting. Now I

have to vent.

I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work in a

research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a new

female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for me. Our

system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that sentiment

is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're ugly and

I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

better in a mean spirited way.

OK, vent over.

in MI

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[Guest guest]

Oh I could care less about there " compliments " . Like you, I had this

surgery for me. To make me feel good and to be healthy. As long as I

am happy...I don't care what anyone thinks.

W

380/319/160

Mike wrote:

> Oh come on. I get those " kind words " with having shaved off my beard,

> getting a hair cut or wearing a new shirt. Don't read so much into

> that crap. People are just trying to make conversation albeit rather

> clumsly.

>

> Ask yourself, too, did you have WLS for others? Major surgery for

> compliments from others (even sincere ones)? I had WLS for myself and

> to a lesser extent my family.

>

> Mike in GR

>

>

[Guest guest]

Kim,

Don't feel bad. I am with Mike on this one: they are trying, albeit

clumsily, to be encouraging... I mean, what are they supposed to say...?

" Ohh, by the way, although you were fat and killing yourself before, now you

look healthy although not as pretty?? " I mean... really... what would you

like to hear? Honestly. What would I like to hear??

I drill and drill and drill my brains and can't really come up with any

answers. What are people supposed to say?? I think that just " you look

wonderful " is the appropriate response at seeing you successfully losing the

weight, becoming healthy and seeing you happy.

_____

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Subject: Re: Insulted at work - need to vent

Alot of people are so heartless & will never change.It really hurts

to have to encounter them. (((Hugs)))

Kim F

RNY 6/23/06

298/232/135

>

> I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting.

Now I

> have to vent.

>

> I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work

in a

> research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a

new

> female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for me.

Our

> system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that

sentiment

> is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

>

> She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

> unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're ugly

and

> I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

> better in a mean spirited way.

>

> OK, vent over.

>

> in MI

>

[Guest guest]

But Mike, we're girls....it's different for us.

And for me, it's not the backhanded compliment that bugged me. It was

the unstated insult of " But she's cute " to explain why I was treated

differently than a coworker.

in MI

> > > I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting.

> Now I

> > > have to vent.

> > >

> > > I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work

> in a

> > > research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a

> new

> > > female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for

> me. Our

> > > system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that

> sentiment

> > > is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

> > >

> > > She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

> > > unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're

> ugly and

> > > I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

> > > better in a mean spirited way.

> > >

> > > OK, vent over.

> > >

> > > in MI

> > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah, I think I DO look allot better than I did 120+ pounds ago! I think

they are telling the truth!

Mike T

Re: Insulted at work - need to vent

> But Mike, we're girls....it's different for us.

>

> And for me, it's not the backhanded compliment that bugged me. It was

> the unstated insult of " But she's cute " to explain why I was treated

> differently than a coworker.

>

> in MI

>

>

>> > > I so want to get this surgery done, I am SOOOO tired of waiting.

>> Now I

>> > > have to vent.

>> > >

>> > > I was commenting at work how one of the graduate students (I work

>> in a

>> > > research lab at a University) was going out of his way to help a

>> new

>> > > female employee when I couldn't get him to do a darn thing for

>> me. Our

>> > > system administrator said " but she's cute " . The rest of that

>> sentiment

>> > > is obvious... " and you're not " . Jerk. Just wait, I'll show them.

>> > >

>> > > She's not really cute, just thin. And he's really overweight and

>> > > unattractive himself. I tell myself " I may be fat, but you're

>> ugly and

>> > > I can always lose weight. " . OK not very PC, but it makes me feel

>> > > better in a mean spirited way.

>> > >

>> > > OK, vent over.

>> > >

>> > > in MI

>> > >

>> > >

>> >

>>

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