Guest guest Posted February 11, 2001 Report Share Posted February 11, 2001 R., That's a wonderful thought.... I'll pray for your nieces and sister also! maria Re: lisa R > maria, > I guess we can only pray for our siblings and neices... I'll add your niece > to my prayers. Hopefully, some day we will see them again and they will > know how much we love them. > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 , You're welcome! We wouldn't know what to do without you either!!! I'm so sorry about the turmoil with your family. After many years of chaos and turmoil with some of my family members, this is my take: if saying something to your family will make you feel better, then do it! For so many years I would walk on egg shells to avoid any kind of confrontation. It isn't worth it. Things tend to boil up inside and eventually they do come out. As time passes, I think it tends to make the entire situation worse. You have to do what is best for you. I know you are looking forward to seeing your neices and nephews...that will be so nice. I hope you have a wonderful day! If it becomes a family war, you can always leave.... elle > thanks elle! > > I don't know what I would do without all you.. your support, understanding > and empathy make my life sooo much easier. I can't begin to find the right > words to thank you all for all that you do for me... > > I just found out that tomorrow my brother, sil and my niece and nephew are > coming down from Buffalo for a visit. I can't wait to go see the kids... > Dh doesn't think it is a good idea. My family really doesn't treat me that > well plus, they ignore or change the subject of my losses.. He has been > keeping his mouth shut (for my sake and since I usually beg him too!) for > the last 12 years. He is afraid that if we go over to see them at my moms > that he will lose it and there will be a family war. I can ask them to come > over to my place but they are only here a few days and I know it just won't > work out, plus I don't have the energy to be the one to entertain....I am > thinking that if we finally open our mouths about how they treat us, maybe > it will do some good, he thinks it will only make things worse than they > already are. > I really need to see my niece and nephew. THe last time I saw them was in > August when I was pg the first time. I think dh is mad at my brother and > his wife because they never even called me this time or sent a card... they > replied to an email we sent.... I believe that my mom told my whole family > that we didn't want calls. We told her this when we first came home from > vacation and didn't know what was going on.... > > I just want to see the kids..... and to go without dh will only make it > worse for me.... > > Sorry to go on and on.... thanks for listening. > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 R, I am sorry that you are feeling so crummy. I have been really restless lately too,, I feel like I am forgetting something all the time. Isn't that weird. I miss our baby so much. I sometimes feel kind of crazy because one minute I feel so positive and good about things and then the next I feel so down and upset. I think it just takes time to get feeling better, it has been so recent for both of us. Hang in there.------Keri > > I just wanted everyone to know that I am not that positive... I feel like I > am giving you all the wrong message about me... I am soooooooooo damm cranky > lately. I am soooooooo exhausted physically. I go to work and come home > and manage to make dinner before collapsing.... and by the time dh gets home > I am soooo moody and cranky. He keeps saying that I am pushing him away... > I usually tell him EVERYTHING and now I just want to be left alone. I am > soooooo tired of being sick and tired... I just want to feel better > physically... to be able to clean my mess of a house and exercise.... > I can't even concentrate to read a book and I am a huge book worm... SO you > see, all those compliments you have given me, I don't really deserve.... > > Today is 3 weeks since losing Jonathon. I expect myself to be better by > now, not some miserable witch of a person.... i wish my infections would > clear up, maybe that would help me feel better. Plus this medicine is > killing my stomach.... > > So sorry about this whiny, negative post.... > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. > > Find the best deals on the web at AltaVista Shopping! http://www.shopping.altavista.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 Thanks keri... I guess i thought I was just doing soo much better this time and I am, but it has only been 3 weeks today. I guess I need to cut myself some slack. We can hang in there together. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 , You have every right to wine and be miserable and cranky. You've been through a lot, and, unfortunately, it takes a toll. It's going to take time. You're still recovering from losing Sara, and now you have to deal with losing . Hey, you have every right to be cranky. DH will understand, he just wants you to be happy and doesn't know how to fix it; just keep telling him that you love him and you need time. I think focusing on your health is a good thing. You need to be strong and healthy for those future babies! Hang in there sweetie, it takes time. None of us healed overnight, and you're not superwoman (though we still think you are...). If you need to talk, we're all here for you. maria lisa r > I just wanted everyone to know that I am not that positive... I feel like I > am giving you all the wrong message about me... I am soooooooooo damm cranky > lately. I am soooooooo exhausted physically. I go to work and come home > and manage to make dinner before collapsing.... and by the time dh gets home > I am soooo moody and cranky. He keeps saying that I am pushing him away... > I usually tell him EVERYTHING and now I just want to be left alone. I am > soooooo tired of being sick and tired... I just want to feel better > physically... to be able to clean my mess of a house and exercise.... > I can't even concentrate to read a book and I am a huge book worm... SO you > see, all those compliments you have given me, I don't really deserve.... > > Today is 3 weeks since losing Jonathon. I expect myself to be better by > now, not some miserable witch of a person.... i wish my infections would > clear up, maybe that would help me feel better. Plus this medicine is > killing my stomach.... > > So sorry about this whiny, negative post.... > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 R, You are being wwwaaaayyyy to hard on yourself. You lost your baby 3 weeks ago and should NOT expect yourself to be better...or " over it " ...those are NOT words any of us would ever think of saying to you. I had my ep on 12/08 and I am NOWHERE near being better emotionally...physically I am coming along but it takes TIME. I still think you are wonderful. Lighten the load on your shoulders, girl, you are a blessing to all of us here. Thinking of you...KJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 thank you KJ, you have brought tears of joy to my eyes... lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2001 Report Share Posted February 16, 2001 thanks darci, i plan on having a lot of fun whether my parents like it or not!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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