Re: Please offer some advice.

August 26, 2006

LOL, yep, that is basically what I told him. I also really didn't appreciate

the smell of the food in the bedroom. Yech. He has a bad habit of wanting to

lay in bed and eat like a lazy piggy. He knows I'll tell his Mom, too. LOL...

Dana

In a message dated 8/26/2006 4:57:25 PM Pacific Standard Time,

tune1552@... writes:

Dana,

I know you understand why that post cracks me up.......I think we all

have days like that. But the visual of you chewin on your husband and he is

standing there with chinese food in one hand and all just made me

laugh......I could see you " I'm tellin your mom!! " LOL........I hope today

was better......

Mike T

August 26, 2006

Glad I could share some of the info I have learned in my program. It makes

it not so scary when you find out what you are going through is common, totally

normal, and that you are not alone. And best of all, those emotions and

feelings will pass, and they don't last long!

Dana

In a message dated 8/26/2006 5:07:26 PM Pacific Standard Time,

blueeyes269_2000@... writes:

Thank you Dana,

I am currently going through all those feelings also. I don't get to see my

therapist until next week. I think the reason I hadn't gone through it before

was I had terrible pain from my hernia repair and I wished I hadn't had it

done!!!!!. Thank you for saying that these feelings are normal. I cried when I

read it. Thank you again Dana!

Patty

Date of Change - Aug 8, 2006

August 26, 2006

It will get better every day. I promise. :-) Those first few weeks

you just long for something that I could chew!!! :-) Protein shakes

will help w/ that if your surgeon will allow you to have them. I could

have them once I was released from the hospital. But each surgeon is

different. I can't help much w/ the pain. I didn't have a lot of

pain. But what little I did have got better ever day! Did your surgeon

give you any sort of pain relief? Do you like popsicles? Sugar free

popsicles are the bomb!! :-) And get yourself some different flavors of

crystal light.

As for what you are missing out w/ on your daughter right now....think

about what you're NOT going to miss out on later. There's going to be

so much more you'll feel like doing. And you're extending your life by

doing this so you'll be around a lot longer for her!!!

W

380/318/160

claireadams55 wrote:

> I am pretty new to the group, and I just had the gastric bypass on

> Aug. 21st. I am home now, and going through the most severe

> depression I have ever felt. I know that I was addicted to food, and

> that is what got me in the shape I am in, but I can't understand why

> all I seem to do since I have been home is obsess about it and cry. I

> am dreaming about it! I know how insane that is. I guess everything

> with the surgery has just hit me pretty hard. I wasn't expecting to

> be in as much pain as I have been in, and I guess I thought all those

> cravings were just going to drift away. I am soooo hungry, and I have

> never liked broth or jello which is all my diet consists of now and

> for the next week and half. My husband is gone taking our three year

> old to the two birthday parties I couldn't take her today, because of

> my recovery, and that has just made me sadder to think I am already

> missing out on something fun to experience with my daughter. I know

> all of this may seem a little silly to you guys, but I am really

> struggling and wondering if I made a huge mistake. Any counseling I

> can get from someone that has gone through it would help greatly!!

>

August 26, 2006

Oh . I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I felt like you too. when I

had my surgery done in May this year. The only difference is that I never second

guessed my self about having the surgery. I knew I did the right thing for me.

I too also thought that all my cravings for the naughty foods would just

magically go away but unfortuneatly they did not. I found it hard too to just

eat jello and broth the first few weeks. You just need to persist. It DOES get

better.

I thought I would be heaps hungry too but thankfully I was not. I did however

have moments where I saw some foods that I would have loved to have but they

were " naughty " foods.

it does get easier. You have made the right decision. When we have just

had surgery and are in pain I bet we all think if it was the right decision but

you know what when the pain has subsided and you start feeling better you will

come to realise that the life altering decision you have made will be the best

thing for you. Just think of all the things you will be able to do when you

start losing all the weight. I have lost 66 pounds so far and I have entered

myself into a 12km walk. Now I never would have done that when I was heavier.

When you start losing you will have more energy, your outlook on life will

change and you will probably wonder why you didn't get the surgery done sooner.

I know I certainly asked myself that.

The surgery is a tool to help you on your weight loss journey. You will still

need to change your old eating habits into new ones and also do more exercise.

You will still have cravings as I do but I have learned to substitute those

cravings with an activity or something that will take my mind off the

temptation. Now for me that is hard most of the time because I work in a

supermarket. It was really hard when I first went back to work but now when I

walk past all the food wanting all the wrong foods does not even get a thought

from me. I don't see lollies and cookies and think yes I want some because you

know what I truly don't want them. Your body changes it's view on different

foods and in turn that will change your outlook on things too.

Keep your chin up . Things will get better as will your whole outlook on

life. We are all here for you.

Australia

321/255/176

Please offer some advice.

I am pretty new to the group, and I just had the gastric bypass on

Aug. 21st. I am home now, and going through the most severe

depression I have ever felt. I know that I was addicted to food, and

that is what got me in the shape I am in, but I can't understand why

all I seem to do since I have been home is obsess about it and cry. I

am dreaming about it! I know how insane that is. I guess everything

with the surgery has just hit me pretty hard. I wasn't expecting to

be in as much pain as I have been in, and I guess I thought all those

cravings were just going to drift away. I am soooo hungry, and I have

never liked broth or jello which is all my diet consists of now and

for the next week and half. My husband is gone taking our three year

old to the two birthday parties I couldn't take her today, because of

my recovery, and that has just made me sadder to think I am already

missing out on something fun to experience with my daughter. I know

all of this may seem a little silly to you guys, but I am really

struggling and wondering if I made a huge mistake. Any counseling I

can get from someone that has gone through it would help greatly!!

August 26, 2006

Dana,

I know you understand why that post cracks me up.......I think we all

have days like that. But the visual of you chewin on your husband and he is

standing there with chinese food in one hand and all just made me

laugh......I could see you " I'm tellin your mom!! " LOL........I hope today

was better......

Mike T

Re: Re: Please offer some advice.

>

> Yeah, it doesn't quite work that way... but it sure would be nice! I

> haven't

> had crying jags, but I have had some off days where everything and

> everyone

> pisses me off. I had one of those yesterday. I was hungry but nothing

> sounded

> right to eat, so by the time my husband got home from work I was tired,

> pissed off, and hungry. I was ready to rip his head off for nothing. He

> tried to

> bring a carton of leftover Chinese food into the bedroom to eat, and I had

> a

> fit and yelled at him for trying to eat on my nice pink satin " dry clean

> only "

> bedspread. LOL. (We live in his Mom's house and she has told him numerous

> times to NOT bring food upstairs into the bedrooms.) I told him his Mom

> was

> going to kick him out if she caught him eating up there again. Then I

> stormed

> out of the house and went to Safeway to get some soup, and it was so

> crowded at

> 8 PM, I was pissed at all the other people shopping.

>

> Dana

>

> In a message dated 8/26/2006 4:30:23 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> claireadams55@... writes:

>

> Thanks for your response. I guess I just thought I would jump out

> of the hospital and life would be peachy!! I know I have to get

> these emotions in check. I have 3 year old who keeps asking me why

> I keep crying. I don't need to give her anything to worry about. I

> didn't get to talk to a psych nurse, but I wish I could have.

> Thanks again,

>

August 26, 2006

Thanks Patti. That it a great way of looking at it. I just needed

to hear those things I guess. I have GOT to get past this hump.

Good luck with your surgery preparations! Once I got approved,

everything went so fast that I now I am hoping that I did the right

think. Thanks again!

>

> Hi ,

> Well, I haven't gone through it yet, but just think about all the

things you WILL be able to experience with your daughter once you

lose the weight! That is the reason I am having the WLS (God willing

the insurance co. agrees)! I have a two year old daughter and am

having a very hard time keeping up with her. I want to be able to

take her swimming, and horseback riding and teach her to

rollerskate. None of that I can do at this weight! I want to be here

to see her graduate high school, go to college, get married and

someday have children of her own. If I don't have this surgery, I

will never make it long enough to see my grandchildren! And even if

I did I would probably be in a wheelchair and unable to do the

things MY Mom does with her granddaughter! There will be other

birthday parties to go to! Lots and lots of them. This will pass!

> Patti in upstate NY

> Please offer some advice.

>

> I am pretty new to the group, and I just had the gastric bypass on

> Aug. 21st. I am home now, and going through the most severe

> depression I have ever felt. I know that I was addicted to food,

and

> that is what got me in the shape I am in, but I can't understand

why

> all I seem to do since I have been home is obsess about it and

cry. I

> am dreaming about it! I know how insane that is. I guess

everything

> with the surgery has just hit me pretty hard. I wasn't expecting

to

> be in as much pain as I have been in, and I guess I thought all

those

> cravings were just going to drift away. I am soooo hungry, and I

have

> never liked broth or jello which is all my diet consists of now

and

> for the next week and half. My husband is gone taking our three

year

> old to the two birthday parties I couldn't take her today, because

of

> my recovery, and that has just made me sadder to think I am

already

> missing out on something fun to experience with my daughter. I

know

> all of this may seem a little silly to you guys, but I am really

> struggling and wondering if I made a huge mistake. Any counseling

I

> can get from someone that has gone through it would help greatly!!

>

August 26, 2006

I am so glad you guys are making me feel NORMAL!!!!!!!!!!!

CLaire-

-- In GastricBypass-LOSERS , DanaColan@... wrote:

>

> Yeah, it doesn't quite work that way... but it sure would be nice!

I haven't

> had crying jags, but I have had some off days where everything

and everyone

> pisses me off. I had one of those yesterday. I was hungry but

nothing sounded

> right to eat, so by the time my husband got home from work I was

tired,

> pissed off, and hungry. I was ready to rip his head off for

nothing. He tried to

> bring a carton of leftover Chinese food into the bedroom to eat,

and I had a

> fit and yelled at him for trying to eat on my nice pink

satin " dry clean only "

> bedspread. LOL. (We live in his Mom's house and she has told him

numerous

> times to NOT bring food upstairs into the bedrooms.) I told him

his Mom was

> going to kick him out if she caught him eating up there again.

Then I stormed

> out of the house and went to Safeway to get some soup, and it was

so crowded at

> 8 PM, I was pissed at all the other people shopping.

>

> Dana

>

> In a message dated 8/26/2006 4:30:23 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> claireadams55@... writes:

>

> Thanks for your response. I guess I just thought I would jump out

> of the hospital and life would be peachy!! I know I have to get

> these emotions in check. I have 3 year old who keeps asking me

why

> I keep crying. I don't need to give her anything to worry about.

I

> didn't get to talk to a psych nurse, but I wish I could have.

> Thanks again,

>

August 26, 2006

Thank you Dana,

I am currently going through all those feelings also. I don't get to see my

therapist until next week. I think the reason I hadn't gone through it before

was I had terrible pain from my hernia repair and I wished I hadn't had it

done!!!!!. Thank you for saying that these feelings are normal. I cried when I

read it. Thank you again Dana!

Patty

Date of Change - Aug 8, 2006

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August 26, 2006

I am so sorry you are feeling down. Have you talked to your

doctor or a psych.? Maybe they could offer some suggestions. As for

missing food, well you will soon find more things to replace that...

reaching goals, exercising, looking at new clothes (hehe), really this

will pass, i am not trying to make light of your situation. As for

missing the parties today, think of how many more parties and other fun

things you will be doing once the weight statrs coming off and you get

your energy back.

Keep posting and expressing your thoughts, someone here will have just

the right answer i am sure.

August 26, 2006

Gee....sounds like one of my PMS fits. I guess I should be ready for it.

Speaking of PMS (sorry guys), does anyone get the cravings like before?

Jackie

DanaColan@... wrote:

Yeah, it doesn't quite work that way... but it sure would be nice! I haven't

had crying jags, but I have had some off days where everything and everyone

pisses me off. I had one of those yesterday. I was hungry but nothing sounded

right to eat, so by the time my husband got home from work I was tired,

pissed off, and hungry. I was ready to rip his head off for nothing. He tried to

bring a carton of leftover Chinese food into the bedroom to eat, and I had a

fit and yelled at him for trying to eat on my nice pink satin " dry clean only "

bedspread. LOL. (We live in his Mom's house and she has told him numerous

times to NOT bring food upstairs into the bedrooms.) I told him his Mom was

going to kick him out if she caught him eating up there again. Then I stormed

out of the house and went to Safeway to get some soup, and it was so crowded at

8 PM, I was pissed at all the other people shopping.

Dana

In a message dated 8/26/2006 4:30:23 PM Pacific Standard Time,

claireadams55@... writes:

Thanks for your response. I guess I just thought I would jump out

of the hospital and life would be peachy!! I know I have to get

these emotions in check. I have 3 year old who keeps asking me why

I keep crying. I don't need to give her anything to worry about. I

didn't get to talk to a psych nurse, but I wish I could have.

Thanks again,

August 26, 2006

YES!!! It sucks really... Chocolate... I have to keep SF fudgesicles in stock.

J Tro wrote: Gee....sounds like one of my PMS

fits. I guess I should be ready for it.