Re: Hi // LORI HAMMER

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Lori, I can understand how the empathy for others can get to you...it does

me, too and I live with someone, my daughter, who is going through a lot of the

same things that I am, so I know where you are coming from. As much as we

would miss you being here, you have to decide what is best for you. We can

sit here and be all selfish and beg you not to leave, but if your empathy for

us is causing you more pain than it should, then maybe stepping away from the

group, if even just on a temporary basis, may be the right thing for you to

do for you.

Give it a lot of thought and go with what your gut tells you to do. Don't

make an emotional decision about this.

Love and gentle hugs,

Debi/So. Cal.-54

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In a message dated 12/27/2007 8:03:17 P.M. Pacific Standard Time,

dodgeturbo99@... writes:

Hi Guys,

Sorry I have not been around through the Holidays. I hope everyone had the

best Holiday that you possibly could.

The reasons I was not on a lto is the fact that I am considering leaving the

Group. But, I am not sure if I can do it. All of you have become my family,

my friends,and especially the one place I can come and talk about the pain I

am having and you are the only ones who understand. You all are very special

people and never let anyone tell you different.

Not too many people in my life understand me. My pain had been getting worse

also I have had to go back to wearing my wrist braces as My Carpal Tunnel

has been bothering me so bad. There are a few of you that I had run ins with

and I apologize with all my heart but we all have different opinions and we are

allowed to have them. And hopefully there are still no hard feelings.

I have been racking my brains and visiting with about trying to

compile a list of the Dr's. who are not Fibro Friendly by you sending us the

information. But, it cannot turn into a revenge type thing. And it will have to

be

carefully handled. My docs say they believe but in my heart and soul I know

they don't understand me.

I would like to know what you think about trying to get something together

like that. I would compile the list and all I would need is name and address

of the Doc or specialist you saw and a brief account of how you were treated

or what you were told. I have other details I would like to work out but need

to decide if I am going to stay.

I read some of your emails and I just breaks my heart, and apparently I am a

very empathic person because I take your pain, tears, the hurt,and the

feeling that no one cares very seriously. Sometimes I take on all those

feelings

together and dwell on how I can fix someones broken spirit and heart. I take

everyone of your issues very seriously and some times it can bring me down so

far I don't function well. this does not mean anyone and I mean anyone should

hold back what they have to say. That is not the point of that prior comment

on my part. I have been told so many times that God never gives us anything

we cannot handle in our path of life. And so far I really believe it. We need

to have some faith and belief in that and we need to quit thinking we do not

count for anything, because we do. all of us regardless what stage we are at

in the disease. Please , please remember this. I am not trying to preach

religion to anyone so please do not be offended.

What I would like you all to do is think about what I said about compiling a

list of the Docs,specialists, whoever that are not Fibro Friendly. And I am

very " da?n angry at the way we are treated. " I have had this disease a very

long time, and it bothers me that now there are so many young people joining

for the support. But that is what we are here for.

Well that is what is going on in my life at this point and I again apologize

for not being around too much the last week or so.

Remember what ever happens you are all very special people and no one can

take that away from you. NO ONE! We have rights ,too!

Love and Big Gentle Hugs,

Lori Hammer

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