Guest guest Posted November 1, 2010 Report Share Posted November 1, 2010 I haven't written in a while. This Christmas will mark 2 years of NC from nada. I have done my best to keep her out of our lives. We live 5 hours away, I have changed our phone numbers, we have moved, we have told our children's teachers and friends and relatives that nada is not to have contact with or possession of our children. We have rewritten wills. We've done everything in my power to take our lives back. The economy sucks. My husband lost his job, and our little family of 5 has been living with my husband's parents now for 10 months. Nada found out about this, and it didn't take long for her to try to triangulate. She sent letters in the mail full of lies and manipulations (I don't know why won't talk to me! I just love my grandchildren and miss them! Please help me fix this!) She calls here and they forget to check the caller ID and answer the phone, and then say they feel uncomfortable 'lying' to her and saying I'm not home, or give me messages from her (dramatic exaggerations like " I just want to know my surgery went ok " when all that happened was a routine doctors appointment and yearly exams). You all have nadas. You know how they can twist the truth and triangulate and send flying monkeys in to try to drag us back into their webs. I don't know what to do. My living situation is so out of control right now. I've told them I don't want to talk to her, don't want her having information about me or the kids, don't want to hear about it. My FIL thinks he can somehow 'fix' this situation, he is a meddler in general. I don't want nada calling, but I know I can't make her stop, because she has figured out that if she calls here often enough, someone will eventually pick up, and that is enough to make her fixate. I've started getting tense and jumpy every time the phone rings. She used to call my house 6 times a day, that is why I changed my number. Now it's happening again. I've thought and thought and I know there is probably no easy fix for this, but am I missing something? Has anyone else been in a situation like this? How did you cut nada off? How did you stay sane? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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