what to do when the BPD throws uglies

[Guest guest]

I remember reading here that the best way to remove oneself from nada without a

big fight, is to get really boring.

Well, I guess I have " succeeded " because my nada quietly informed me on the

phone this weekend, that I was boring. I think nada feels so empty that she is

wanting to toy with me just for her own entertainment!

But emotionally, I was galled at her words, and hurt, because my secret fear

has always been that I would hear these words, and would be crushed and

bewildered.

When nada or fada throw uglies at you like this, what are some of the tactics

you have found that worked in helping you defuse them?

Best,