Re: Why are some people so uncaring, and can't understand illness?? I'm so sad today!!

[Guest guest]

Z., You have every right to be upset, and in your place I would write a letter to the governing

board of the school with a copy to whatever parent organization is there, too. I would just state the

issue, and do any whining to us, here. We know how you feel, and have been there, done that

many times ourselves, but the school needs to be made aware of the discourtesy to parents, the

special "attention" you got as a disabled person, and the response you got when you made it clear

that coming in was a hardship for you. Put it in plain two syllable English, and keep a copy. Then let

go of it. You cannot change everyone else, just how you react to them. So, do the constructive thing by sending in a critical letter, thereby venting to the people who insulted you and other parents

by their so called professional behavior. Then come to us for understanding, support, and commiseration. We love you, no matter what. Loving hugs, MM

[Guest guest]

I agree, I would send a letter to the principal with copy to the pastor of the parish, or since the principal was actually one of the people who was indifferent to you, maybe a letter to the pastor with copy to the principal. You may even want to send a copy to the diocese. Find out who is the supervisor for your school and copy him/her on it. And definitely whine to us and keep the letter to basic facts.

I have to say that although I have a lot of issues with my sons' catholic school they are never based on their indifference regarding health problems. Some of you may remember that in Nov of 2002 it wasn't a decision I had a choice to make with my chemo treatment. It was a situation where the doctor called me and told me I had to get to the hospital right now and submit myself for chemo treatment. It was the week of the open house at school and all parents had individual appointments made. I called the school to speak with the principal. I was in tears and could hardly contain myself. She wasn't available but called me within 5 min. I told her I wouldn't be able to attend the conferences, and I wouldn't be able to see the report cards until the next week. I also told her that my husband may blunder and not keep the uniforms and uniform as they should be, he may forget to give the right amount of money for lunches, etc. She gave me so much support, she said not to even bother with daily money for the lunches, my kids will be fed and not to worry if they are not picked up from school on time, etc. I have to tell you that I felt my kids were really safe and at home at the school. The support continued throughout the year. Whenever certain classes (or the parents) were responsible for some events, I was told by the principal that I shouldn't do it unless I feel up to it.The secretary was also incredibly nice and supportive, although she is usually a nasty thing. The principal even spoke with the kids' teachers to let them know of the situation so they could watch out for any behavior that may come as a result of them being stressed out because "mommy is sick".

I've written letters to the diocese in the earlier years with remarks about certain "management" of the school that really worried me, but that was more because of the pastor's hold on the school. I had no choice but to write a thank you letter to show my appreciation on how my health situation was handled by the school. I think it should only be natural for such behavior to be visible on a daily basis anywhere. It's absence is regrettable especially in a Catholic school, were I thought one of the lesson our kids learn is compassion.

Good luck and keep us posted.

Mojo

Re: Why are some people so uncaring, and can't understand illness?? I'm so sad today!!

Z., You have every right to be upset, and in your place I would write a letter to the governingboard of the school with a copy to whatever parent organization is there, too. I would just state theissue, and do any whining to us, here. We know how you feel, and have been there, done thatmany times ourselves, but the school needs to be made aware of the discourtesy to parents, thespecial "attention" you got as a disabled person, and the response you got when you made it clearthat coming in was a hardship for you. Put it in plain two syllable English, and keep a copy. Then letgo of it. You cannot change everyone else, just how you react to them. So, do the constructive thing by sending in a critical letter, thereby venting to the people who insulted you and other parentsby their so called professional behavior. Then come to us for understanding, support, and commiseration. We love you, no matter what. Loving hugs, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=lupies