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Hi I am new to this group. I am 7w 1d pg and was diagnosed last week

with b/u. I have been trying to do some research on this and have

found a lot of conflicting information. I have another u/s scheduled

for next week to get a clearer picture of what is going on.

I guess my question is...is it rare to carry to term and are birth

defects very common? My ob does not seem to be worried about this

but I am just trying to find out as much information as I can. Any

advice would be helpful!!

Thanks,

Jodi

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Hi, ,

Welcome to the group! It sounds like you have had a very tough stretch in your life. I'm sorry to hear about your husband's death. Losing a spouse is right up there at the top of the most difficult transitions in life, so take time to be kind and loving and gentle with yourself.

Part of being loving to ourselves is nourishing our bodies appropriately. I have to keep telling myself that, because I was trained by my parents that overeating was nurturance.

Feeling closeness can and should sometimes involve other people, but for me it has also to have the component of being good to myself, because I am the one who truly knows what soothes me, and so I am best equipped to nurture myself. Yesterday I went out to a garden center (love browsing garden centers, and this is one of my favs) on a mission to find some bright annuals to put around a small Japanese lantern I bought for our flower beds to commemorate Duncan, our ie who just died. Both the lantern and the bright annuals were ways of soothing myself--the loss was a hard one for me, and these small things are within our budget and very nurturing to my sore spirit when I look at them. And they beat the heck out of stuffing myself, because there are no recriminations.

I, too, read some of Geneen's books long ago and they didn't click until recently. Congratulations on having that "aha" moment when it all makes sense. I'm one of those people who easily "forgets" things like that, so if you are, too, keep a copy of your post handy so you can open it up and read it when you lose faith in the process, as we all tend to do from time to time.

Again, welcome. I look forward to hearing more from you.

Laurie

This is my first post. I have been overweight all of my life, except for the period when I smoked. Then I got a spot on my lung, so I went back to eating instead of smoking. I bought Geneen Roth's book "Breaking Free from Emotional Eating" in 1998, I read it but was not able to quit eating when full, I may have tried briefly but the program did not last long. I recently bought her Women, God & Food. I read it but still did not know how to put anything in practice. In the meantime dozen of diets, meal replacement programs, nothing is permanent. In the meantime my husband died Sept. 4 of last year, 2009. The last year of his life He had cancer, and I gained 24#. I now weigh 202#. I was searching the web when I ran into IE. So I joined this group.

Last night while going through some CD's I found four CD's I must have bought some years ago. I had never listened to them. They are Geneen's breaking Free From Emotional Eating workshop. I listened to the first one. I was really impressed. I understood the program for the first time. Track 14 was wonderful, she talks about our need to be kissed & huged, held close. Basically we substitute food for closeness. Anyway today is a new day, I have been thinking all day of different ways I can feel loved. One way is to have close friends and do things I enjoy. Really try to love myself. I did not really understand what that meant before. Now I know better how to treat myself with kindness. Will post more as I try to put some of these concepts in practice.