Re: my relationship is suffering because of Mr. P

[Guest guest]

:

You've raised a very tough question.

That's because serious illness can impact if not destroy relationships of all

levels.

In the over eight years that I've been sick, I've always felt that it was

tougher on my husband because;

He's the one whose seen me writhing in pain.

He's the one who's held my head as I've retched and puked.

He's the one on whom I've actually thrown up.

He's the one who has had to clean me up when either of both ends have emptied

all over the place.

He's the one who's had to call the fire department ambulance over and over.

He's the one to get the emergency calls and pages from the police and

hospital ER staff.

And, worst of all, he's the one who has, too often, stood by helplessly as

I've suffered.

The toll on him is immeasurable.

I suggest that you two seek counseling as a couple. There are psychologists

who specialize in working with the sick and their loved ones.

-E

Have you considered going for counseling as a couple?

[Guest guest]

:

We were married just two years when all of this started.

It destroyed our financially, but not our love.

Thankfully, humor has gotten us through so much.

You see, I'm a former standup comic who has always gotten through crises with

laughter.

-E

[Guest guest]

--- esquare726@... wrote:

> :

>

> You've raised a very tough question.

>

> That's because serious illness can impact if not

> destroy relationships of all

> levels.

>

> In the over eight years that I've been sick, I've

> always felt that it was

> tougher on my husband because;

>

> He's the one whose seen me writhing in pain.

> He's the one who's held my head as I've retched and

> puked.

> He's the one on whom I've actually thrown up.

> He's the one who has had to clean me up when either

> of both ends have emptied

> all over the place.

> He's the one who's had to call the fire department

> ambulance over and over.

> He's the one to get the emergency calls and pages

> from the police and

> hospital ER staff.

>

> And, worst of all, he's the one who has, too often,

> stood by helplessly as

> I've suffered.

>

> The toll on him is immeasurable.

>

> I suggest that you two seek counseling as a couple.

> There are psychologists

> who specialize in working with the sick and their

> loved ones.

>

> -E

>

>

> Have you considered going for counseling as a

> couple?

>

>

Thanks E, I think you right, we should definitly

consider counseling, I know for a fact I'm depressed,

and he's depressed, Ive been sick for a long time, but

now I am constantly sick and I think it's been hard on

him, harder than I think, I just hope things will get

better in the long run, we've been together for 13

years and I would hate to give up now.

Thanks again,

:}

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[Guest guest]

:

Who needs a cup?!?!?

-E

[Guest guest]

--- esquare726@... wrote:

> :

>

> Who needs a cup?!?!?

>

>

> -E

>

LOL!! so true around my house!

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[Guest guest]

Dearest E,

Are you suggesting that you're not considered quite as " gentle " as Ed,

being so " different " and all? Hahahahhahahahha... I might well perhaps laugh

hard enough to piss myself on that one, but assume I'll be hearing about it

soon enough.

With only the DEEPEST love and admiration,

- Harold, Memphis

<< Holly:

You are so right.

Many folks wonder about us as we are so very different, something that we

discussed when we were interviewed by Sally Raphael.

But those differences keep the marriage fresh.

Men who meet Ed comment on his being a gentle man.

Woman ask if he has a clone.

I just sent you a private email containing the newspaper story about how we

met and married.

-E >>

[Guest guest]

Ed and I are truly an odd couple.

First of all, there is a fifteen year age difference.

He's an old fart and I simply refuse to grow up.

He's a scientist and I've always been creative.

He's rather reclusive.

I'm a big mouth.

It's hilarious!!

-E

[Guest guest]

Cheryl:

Ed just turned 66. I will be 51 in two weeks.

He's one of those people who was always mature.

I, on the other hand...

-E

[Guest guest]

We have no children.

But Ed sure can be a handful.

He was a 55 year-old bachelor when I married him.

-E

[Guest guest]

-Those oppisite relation ship are the best. I am pretty quiet and

Mike is always laughing and joking. But we are only two month apart

in age. He turned forty and regressed. I don't think he will ever

grow up. But he is alot of fun.

Cheryl

-- In pancreatitis@y..., esquare726@a... wrote:

> Ed and I are truly an odd couple.

>

> First of all, there is a fifteen year age difference.

>

> He's an old fart and I simply refuse to grow up.

>

> He's a scientist and I've always been creative.

>

> He's rather reclusive.

> I'm a big mouth.

>

> It's hilarious!!

>

>

> -E

[Guest guest]

-We are exactly the oppisite.

I feel like I am raising three kids instead of two.

Cheryl

-- In pancreatitis@y..., esquare726@a... wrote:

> Cheryl:

>

> Ed just turned 66. I will be 51 in two weeks.

>

> He's one of those people who was always mature.

> I, on the other hand...

>

> -E