Re: new member's story (TTC)

[Guest guest]

welcome . I am soo sorry for you loss and pain. You have found a

tremendous support group here. Share whatever you need to and you will

receive unconditional support and love.

It took me almost 2 years to get pg. I got pg in august and had an ep on

8/31/00 and lost my right tube,after weeks of up and downs.

We started trying again in Nov and I found out a week and half ago that I

was pg. I just suffered a m/c on thursday and emergency surgery on friday

to make sure that it wasn't in my left tube. Thank God it wasn't and that

tube seems to be good.

It is totally normal to be anxious and frightened. It just goes with the

territory, but it DOES get easier each day. If it wasn't for these woman, I

would have lost my mind months ago. Share with us as long as you like and I

promise you will get what you need.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group. You will find a great amount of support here.

I'm sorry for your loss. Thats great that you will be able to ttc

next month.

Pam

[Guest guest]

, I am so sorry to hear about your loss and all the complications,

following it, the loss itself I know can seem to much to bear. You have joined a

wonderful support group, we are here if you need any of us. ----Keri

>

> -I hope I am posting this message correctly as this is

> the first time I have ever joined an egroup.

>

>

> I am currently 25 years old. I was 24 last September

> when I got pregnant. My husband and I had planned it

> all out, and we were thrilled to have gotten pregnant

> right away. I was disappointed, however, after

> discovering that I had to wait until I was eight weeks

> until I went to see my doctor. Somehow, I managed to

> survive the wait.

>

> When the day came for my visit, I took the day off of

> work (I am a teacher), and just spent some time to

> myself. I remember my sister calling, and I told her

> I was afraid they wouldn't find anything.

>

> Hours later, I was in the doctor's office having a

> transvaginal ultrasound when my doctor asked me in a

> voice of concern if I was sure my dates were right. I

> had no doubt because I had been planning this for

> months, even years.

>

> Well, they couldn't find sac. They found a

> pseudo-sac, but they also discovered that my ovary was

> " full. " They began following my hcg level. When I

> left, I thought they were telling me I wasn't

> pregnant, so I called the nurse. She informed me that

> they knew I was pregnant, but they were concerned

> about an ectopic pregnancy.

>

> I refused to worry about it until the test results

> came back the following Monday. Well, that weekend, I

> began spotting with a brown discharge followed on that

> Monday with heavy bleeding. I never had any severe

> pain, just a great deal of gastrointestinal

> discomfort. I went in daily for the next three days

> to the doctor.

>

> On Monday, another hcg was performed and another

> ultrasound. On Tuesday, after discovering the

> pregnancy was not viable, the doctor performed a

> biopsy on my uterus to double-check that there was no

> sign of pregnancy actually in the uterus.

>

> When the results showed no sign of pregnancy in the

> uterus, it was determined that the pregnancy was

> ectopic. I was treated with an injection of

> Methotrexate.

>

> Weeks later, I had another transvaginal ultrasound,

> and the size of my right ovary had significantly

> decreased leaving the doctor to believe the pregnancy

> had occured there.

>

> I then developed what is called a " dysfunctional

> uterus. " Basically I coninued to bleed from October

> 23rd-January 3rd. My doctor put me on a strong dose

> of birth control pills to try to control or stop the

> bleeding. I bled through the first month of pills,

> but thank goodness, the second month I stopped.

>

> I just finished the second month of pills, and I have

> received permission to try to conceive in a month from

> now. The days seem to be dragging on. I am anxious

> to try again, but I am also frightened.

>

> That is why I joined this group. My body is getting

> back to normal. My mind- well at times I think I am

> doing well, but especially at night, I can't escape

> what has happened.

>

> -I tried to keep this brief, I don't know how well I

> did at that.

>

> Thank you for reading my story.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

, that is so sad. I know very well that sinking feeling which you must

have felt on learning this. I do have to say tho, that I am amazed that your

pregnancy went that long and your tube didn't rupture. I barely made it to 7

weeks and my tubes burst! You are blessed (tho it may not seem like it now)

to still have that tube. And now you can feasibly demand that your next

pregnancy be monitored closely. Based on what you've told us, tho, I

personally feel like you will have no problem having a normal pregnancy. I

hope this was just an unfortunate, unexplainable loss, and if nothing else,

you will not take future pregnancies for granted like I did before this

whole mess. Take care,

M

>

> -I hope I am posting this message correctly as this is

> the first time I have ever joined an egroup.

>

>

> I am currently 25 years old. I was 24 last September

> when I got pregnant. My husband and I had planned it

> all out, and we were thrilled to have gotten pregnant

> right away. I was disappointed, however, after

> discovering that I had to wait until I was eight weeks

> until I went to see my doctor. Somehow, I managed to

> survive the wait.

>

> When the day came for my visit, I took the day off of

> work (I am a teacher), and just spent some time to

> myself. I remember my sister calling, and I told her

> I was afraid they wouldn't find anything.

>

> Hours later, I was in the doctor's office having a

> transvaginal ultrasound when my doctor asked me in a

> voice of concern if I was sure my dates were right. I

> had no doubt because I had been planning this for

> months, even years.

>

> Well, they couldn't find sac. They found a

> pseudo-sac, but they also discovered that my ovary was

> " full. " They began following my hcg level. When I

> left, I thought they were telling me I wasn't

> pregnant, so I called the nurse. She informed me that

> they knew I was pregnant, but they were concerned

> about an ectopic pregnancy.

>

> I refused to worry about it until the test results

> came back the following Monday. Well, that weekend, I

> began spotting with a brown discharge followed on that

> Monday with heavy bleeding. I never had any severe

> pain, just a great deal of gastrointestinal

> discomfort. I went in daily for the next three days

> to the doctor.

>

> On Monday, another hcg was performed and another

> ultrasound. On Tuesday, after discovering the

> pregnancy was not viable, the doctor performed a

> biopsy on my uterus to double-check that there was no

> sign of pregnancy actually in the uterus.

>

> When the results showed no sign of pregnancy in the

> uterus, it was determined that the pregnancy was

> ectopic. I was treated with an injection of

> Methotrexate.

>

> Weeks later, I had another transvaginal ultrasound,

> and the size of my right ovary had significantly

> decreased leaving the doctor to believe the pregnancy

> had occured there.

>

> I then developed what is called a " dysfunctional

> uterus. " Basically I coninued to bleed from October

> 23rd-January 3rd. My doctor put me on a strong dose

> of birth control pills to try to control or stop the

> bleeding. I bled through the first month of pills,

> but thank goodness, the second month I stopped.

>

> I just finished the second month of pills, and I have

> received permission to try to conceive in a month from

> now. The days seem to be dragging on. I am anxious

> to try again, but I am also frightened.

>

> That is why I joined this group. My body is getting

> back to normal. My mind- well at times I think I am

> doing well, but especially at night, I can't escape

> what has happened.

>

> -I tried to keep this brief, I don't know how well I

> did at that.

>

> Thank you for reading my story.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. But am glad you've found this

group. There are many women on here who are also ttc (trying to

conceive) and hopefully we will be able to give you emotional

support.

> I am anxious

> to try again, but I am also frightened

I think everyone who has had an ectopic feels this way once they

start ttc again. So please know that you are not alone in this.

Post whenever you want to with whatever you want to. There is almost

always someone on to respond to you. Take care.

-AmyR

[Guest guest]

-Thank you for replying, and I too am sorry for your loss. Although,

I have had a little while longer than you to deal with the loss, it

is so fresh to me that I can imagine what you must be going through.

First of all, I know I felt that I wanted to just " feel " better

physically. My doctor told me all I needed was to have one good

menstral cycle. I felt I could move on with a goal, but all the

bleeding help any chances for that at bay.

I hope for you that your hcg level drops quickly and effectively so

that you are able to try again when you want to.

**I didn't loose my tube, but a distant family member of mine did

when she was just a teenager. She then preceded to have four healthy

babies in the six years following her surgery. -Just something I

thought I'd share with you.

As you can tell, I like to " chat. " If you have any questions or need

to express any emotions feel free to write.

-- In ectopicpregnancy@y..., " Marie D'Alessio "

<DAYANKSWIFE@A...> wrote:

> Hi ,

> I am also 25, and my husband and I were married in April. I went

off

> birth control in October to start planning pg after a few months,

and

> I became pg in November. I actually didn't know it, since I

started

> bleeding at the time I should have. But the bleeding didn't stop

for

> 3 weeks, and I was having annoying cramping all that time. I wound

> up in surgery with an EP on Jan.4, and I lost my left tube. I am

> only in this for 4 weeks, and already I can't stand the waiting, so

I

> know how you feel.

> I am very sorry for your loss, and I know this group will be great

> support!!!

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, it's with a new screen name. Thank you for welcoming me.

You all seem very supportive and very active on the website. That is

great. The information and support I am already receiving is very

comforting.

> ,

>

> I'm sorry to hear of your loss. But am glad you've found this

> group. There are many women on here who are also ttc (trying to

> conceive) and hopefully we will be able to give you emotional

> support.

>

> > I am anxious

> > to try again, but I am also frightened

>

> I think everyone who has had an ectopic feels this way once they

> start ttc again. So please know that you are not alone in this.

> Post whenever you want to with whatever you want to. There is

almost

> always someone on to respond to you. Take care.

>

> -AmyR

[Guest guest]

-Hi Vicki, it's . You are right, I am very lucky to have

suffered no loss to my tubes or ovary. I feel for those who have,

and I like to share my story of a distant family member who lost one

tube due to an EP at the age of 15, and she proceeded to have four

healthy babies by the age of 22. That always gives me hope.

-- In ectopicpregnancy@y..., Vicki Dunkle <bobbyd@h...> wrote:

> Hi ,

> Welcome to the group, I hope you find as much support and

information as

> I have here. It is a great bunch of ladies with a wealth of

experience

> and information. I am sorry for your loss. Don't give up hope

though,

> there are alot of women here that conceived with one tube after an

ep,

> or with " blocked " or damaged tubes also. It is a good thing that you

> have both of your tubes and didn't loose an ovary. Take care,

> Vicki

>

> Webster wrote:

> >

> > -I hope I am posting this message correctly as this is

> > the first time I have ever joined an egroup.

> >

> > I am currently 25 years old. I was 24 last September

> > when I got pregnant. My husband and I had planned it

> > all out, and we were thrilled to have gotten pregnant

> > right away. I was disappointed, however, after

> > discovering that I had to wait until I was eight weeks

> > until I went to see my doctor. Somehow, I managed to

> > survive the wait.

> >

> > When the day came for my visit, I took the day off of

> > work (I am a teacher), and just spent some time to

> > myself. I remember my sister calling, and I told her

> > I was afraid they wouldn't find anything.

> >

> > Hours later, I was in the doctor's office having a

> > transvaginal ultrasound when my doctor asked me in a

> > voice of concern if I was sure my dates were right. I

> > had no doubt because I had been planning this for

> > months, even years.

> >

> > Well, they couldn't find sac. They found a

> > pseudo-sac, but they also discovered that my ovary was

> > " full. " They began following my hcg level. When I

> > left, I thought they were telling me I wasn't

> > pregnant, so I called the nurse. She informed me that

> > they knew I was pregnant, but they were concerned

> > about an ectopic pregnancy.

> >

> > I refused to worry about it until the test results

> > came back the following Monday. Well, that weekend, I

> > began spotting with a brown discharge followed on that

> > Monday with heavy bleeding. I never had any severe

> > pain, just a great deal of gastrointestinal

> > discomfort. I went in daily for the next three days

> > to the doctor.

> >

> > On Monday, another hcg was performed and another

> > ultrasound. On Tuesday, after discovering the

> > pregnancy was not viable, the doctor performed a

> > biopsy on my uterus to double-check that there was no

> > sign of pregnancy actually in the uterus.

> >

> > When the results showed no sign of pregnancy in the

> > uterus, it was determined that the pregnancy was

> > ectopic. I was treated with an injection of

> > Methotrexate.

> >

> > Weeks later, I had another transvaginal ultrasound,

> > and the size of my right ovary had significantly

> > decreased leaving the doctor to believe the pregnancy

> > had occured there.

> >

> > I then developed what is called a " dysfunctional

> > uterus. " Basically I coninued to bleed from October

> > 23rd-January 3rd. My doctor put me on a strong dose

> > of birth control pills to try to control or stop the

> > bleeding. I bled through the first month of pills,

> > but thank goodness, the second month I stopped.

> >

> > I just finished the second month of pills, and I have

> > received permission to try to conceive in a month from

> > now. The days seem to be dragging on. I am anxious

> > to try again, but I am also frightened.

> >

> > That is why I joined this group. My body is getting

> > back to normal. My mind- well at times I think I am

> > doing well, but especially at night, I can't escape

> > what has happened.

> >

> > -I tried to keep this brief, I don't know how well I

> > did at that.

> >

> > Thank you for reading my story.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >