Re: Had the worst day, feeling depressed

May 6, 2005

Thanks for all the kind words and to the person who said that it was a

life-saving procedure for some people. YES that is true I'm sure but

what my point was is that I am 35-40 lbs overweight - not over 100

like the drs. say you need to be for consideration of Gastric Bypass.

I was sad because it made me FEEL like I was 100+ lbs overweight her

saying that to me. I've worked hard to lose 18 lbs and need to lose

more but not anywhere near 100+ or gastric bypass standards. That was

my point. For those that do have that much to lose, I'm sure it would

be a life-saving and life-changing surgery. If you read my original

post, I actually went to see a dr. before SBD about the procedure and

they told me " no way, you would need to gain at least 40 more pounds

before it would be a consideration " ....anyway - I was just having a

bad day and after my hard work at SBD, I felt like I was still looking

to outsiders like a hugely obese person in need of rescue.

May 6, 2005

I'm really sorry that someone went up to you and said that. I'm 163

and 5 ft tall and if someone said that to me I would be so upset.

Trust me you look just fine. You don't need surgery just diet like

all of us here. Prove to her that you can lose the weight and stick

with south beach. you'll show her! i can't believe how rude people

can be sometimes.

> Hey everyone, I haven't posted much lately only because I've been

> busy with work and home life. I'm in Phase II, week 9 and down 17-

> 18 lbs (depending on the day) so far. I have about 35-40 more to

> go. I weigh 164 right now. Here is what happened today. I was

> asked to go to lunch with one of our high-level execs. at work. -

> which was weird to begin with because I'm just a

clerical/assistant

> person - well, I went and the conversation turned almost

immediately

> to weight and then it was suggested that I should check into

getting

> gastric bypass surgery. I was shocked. Not that I don't feel

like

> I'm overweight but I know that gastric bypass is for people at

least

> 100 lbs overweight. I know this because at my largest, I went to

a

> Dr. to see if I could qualify for this surgery or at least the Lap-

> Band procedure and the dr. laughed at me and told me I'd have to

> gain another 40 lbs to qualify. Well, that wasn't an option for

me

> so I went on the SBD and have done, what I consider, amazingly

well

> for a former carb-o-holic - 18 lbs is nothing to sneeze at and I

> thought I was doing good until this person began to tell me how I

> should check into it (btw, she had the procedure done 5 years ago)

> and how she thought that I'd qualify for it. I felt like a huge

> blob and a disgusting mess after that lunch (I had salad and baked

> fish) and started crying when I went back to the office. I guess

> I'm still pretty large to outside people and if she felt compelled

> to counsel me on suggestions for my obesity, I guess that is how I

> appear to others. I am so sad...

May 6, 2005

I agree with the thought that she is jealous that you are losing by eating properly and she was apparently unable to do that... that or my first thought that she found a less than reputable doctor that agreed to do her surgery when she wasn't 100 pounds overweight and is suggesting you do the same. I have a little trouble believing you look remotely close to 100 pounds overweight. My friend is 4'11 and in the 180s and she does NOT look that overweight.

It seems like people will try to sabotage you one way or another. I have to say, I am totally surprised that someone who had struggled with her weight herself would be tempted to even approach that with you. That seems to be one step beyond caring.

May 6, 2005

I would feel sorry for the person that suggested this

too you.. She simply did not have the willpower to

change her eating habits and felt the need to resort

to surgery which carries with it the element of

risk...

I have known people that have had this surgery and

although they did lose a lot of weight.. I also

watched it slowly return... through the following

years..

One person I know almost lost her life when after she

lost the weight she went in to hospital to get the

excess skin removed..

Apparently she did not get the injections 3 times a

week that would have helped her not to have to undergo

a second surgery to remove skin.. She ended up getting

a serious infection and almost died..

Perhaps you boss was trying to be helpful to you in

her mind... But rest assured you are doing it the

right way..

I congratulate you on your weight loss... and the way

you are doing it...

You are way ahead of her since she will most likely

regain her weight over time while you continue to

travel down the scale..

You really do not have that much weight to go...

It does show people what you are made of...

I tend to call myself nowadays small but mighty!!!

And built for industrial strength..

Just hanging out at the beach and sunning

myself...http://www3.sympatico.ca/kdworkin/dishing.jpg

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May 7, 2005

I also know a man who died on

the operating table....I agree with you Chuck. KATHY

Chuck Kelsey wrote:

Well, I knew a woman that died from having it

done. It should be an absolute last resort in my opinion.

Chuck

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May 7, 2005

I use to work with the mrdd

population and I am sure the instructor taught the definition of obese

as anyone who is 30 pounds or more over weight. I believe they got

their info from a health book, but I am not sure. I also know a lady

who had the operation who to me just looked heavy.....she became thin

very fast, but said that it was horrible...she was constantly sick and

would not recommend anyone to get that operation, she could barely

eat. The thing is with the operation they can not change your brain

and if we do not change our way of thinking then the weight will

probably be put back on. My very dear friend who had the

operation....put it all back on, she did it when they went in and

stapled the stomach. She can not keep anything down except for

sweets. She is constantly spitting up (I don't know what) into a cup

from her stomach woes. SBD is DEFINITELY the way to go. Safe and

Healthy. KATHY

Chuck Kelsey wrote:

What's really sad is that this

woman wasn't obese. She was heavy, but certainly not obese. She left

quite a hole in the community when she died since she was one of the

school principals.

Chuck

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