Re: Indulging without food

[Guest guest]

Yes, relaxation was it. I did end up having a snack, but it was half a small apple, a babybel cheese and a cup of tea. It felt like a healthy enough snack, I ate in bed with the tv on, a small indulgence, so that satisfied me. Those are all good suggestions, but I have a 2 and 4 yr old, and often my husband travels, so not things I can easily do. I should get more into our video game system, and in truth, I need to buy a few more books each month I think. DawnTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sat, October 16, 2010 10:27:30 PMSubject: Re: Indulging without food

So, you are looking for relaxation, and simply not finding it in food anymore, right? If so, maybe it's time to develop new techniques? I search for them all the time, to be honest. There were times after I stated IE when I would just sit on the couch feeling like I am in complete vacuum. Now I let myself play video games, read blogs, do some creative writing.. it's not all so much about sensations, more like indulging a rabid desire to waste time, I guess

Have you considered massage? Swimming? Sauna? Guided meditation, on a CD perhaps? These were listed in some of the IE-related books.

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> Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how little food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or perhaps the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a piece of chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the kids are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I do or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I over ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want more to eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than usual, perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself do as a treat if it doesn't

involve food in some form. I had a bath last night, and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than indulgent. Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work it out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do at night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed. We just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to watch tv in bed, so perhaps that will work.

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> Hope all are doing well, Dawn

>

[Guest guest]

I know that I am gonna sound like a dork, but I play WOW shamelessly, although

in moderation. There is something incredibly satisfying in this whole fake sense

of achievement thing

I don't have children, so i can only imagine how tough it can be - handling all

the responsibilities. We should have a call for all moms to share the non-food

self-soothing techniques. I am personally itching to try Mandala coloring books.

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> > Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how little

> >food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and

> >having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or perhaps

> >the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a piece

of

> >chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the kids

> >are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

> >exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I

do

> >or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I over

> >ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want more

to

> >eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that

> >either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than usual,

> >perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself

do

> >as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last night,

> >and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than indulgent.

> >Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work

it

> >out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do at

> >night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed. We

> >just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to watch

tv

> >in bed, so perhaps that will work.

> >

> >

> > Hope all are doing well, Dawn

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I think that boredom is one of the main reasons that I overate. The other was to

numb the feelings so I wouldn't have to feel them (which didn't work either).

Now I am learning to use other methods to take care of the boredom factor.

Because quite frankly, overeating had more negatives attached to it than

positives. Now I tend to want to do something good for my body, go to the gym,

put on an exercise DVD (I really love belly dancing now even though I am

hopeless at it), connect on facebook, phone a friend & I am going to start

scrapbooking with those boxes full of pictures that I have stashed in the

closet. Now if only I could make HOUSEWORK more interesting everything would be

perfect. LOL.

mj

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> > Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how little

food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and

having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or perhaps

the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a piece of

chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the kids

are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I do

or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I over

ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want more to

eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that

either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than usual,

perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself do

as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last night,

and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than indulgent.

Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work it

out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do at

night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed. We

just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to watch tv

in bed, so perhaps that will work.

> >

> > Hope all are doing well, Dawn

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dawn,

Sounds like you were really listening to what your body needed when you had that

snack. I still like to watch tv sometimes when I eat but now at least I am

trying to focus more on my eating (every delicious bite) than I am on what's on

the tv.

I really use my local library. They have lots of exercise DVDs, too.

I really like yoga. I have lots of yoga & bellydance DVDs & I've taught my 3

year old grandson a lot of yoga moves. What kind of video game system do you

have? I have a wii & I just love exercising with that.

I think it's great to have little ones around to remind me of what it is like to

be a completely intuitive eater. Even when mine was a baby, he spit out the last

bite or refused the bottle when he was hungry & turned his head violently to the

side to let us know he was DONE. We are trying very hard to allow him to honour

his hunger & fullness & his food preferences (though the last one is hard for

me).

mj

mj

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> > Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how little

> >food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and

> >having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or perhaps

> >the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a piece

of

> >chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the kids

> >are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

> >exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I

do

> >or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I over

> >ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want more

to

> >eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that

> >either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than usual,

> >perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself

do

> >as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last night,

> >and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than indulgent.

> >Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work

it

> >out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do at

> >night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed. We

> >just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to watch

tv

> >in bed, so perhaps that will work.

> >

> >

> > Hope all are doing well, Dawn

> >

>

[Guest guest]

what is WOW?

> > >

> > > Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how

little

> > >food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and

> > >having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or

perhaps

> > >the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a

piece of

> > >chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the

kids

> > >are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

> > >exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I

do

> > >or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I

over

> > >ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want

more to

> > >eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that

> > >either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than

usual,

> > >perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself

do

> > >as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last

night,

> > >and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than

indulgent.

> > >Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work

it

> > >out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do

at

> > >night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed.

We

> > >just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to

watch tv

> > >in bed, so perhaps that will work.

> > >

> > >

> > > Hope all are doing well, Dawn

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

what is WOW?

> > >

> > > Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how

little

> > >food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and

> > >having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or

perhaps

> > >the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a

piece of

> > >chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the

kids

> > >are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

> > >exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I

do

> > >or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I

over

> > >ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want

more to

> > >eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that

> > >either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than

usual,

> > >perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself

do

> > >as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last

night,

> > >and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than

indulgent.

> > >Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work

it

> > >out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do

at

> > >night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed.

We

> > >just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to

watch tv

> > >in bed, so perhaps that will work.

> > >

> > >

> > > Hope all are doing well, Dawn

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

World of warcraft, sorry.

> > > >

> > > > Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how

little

> > > >food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself

and

> > > >having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or

perhaps

> > > >the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a

piece of

> > > >chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the

kids

> > > >are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

> > > >exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well,

I do

> > > >or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I

over

> > > >ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want

more to

> > > >eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo

that

> > > >either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than

usual,

> > > >perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let

myself do

> > > >as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last

night,

> > > >and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than

indulgent.

> > > >Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps

work it

> > > >out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often

do at

> > > >night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed.

We

> > > >just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to

watch tv

> > > >in bed, so perhaps that will work.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Hope all are doing well, Dawn

> > > >

> > >

> >

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